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Q: my son is 9 and we live in quite a rough area, hes always enjoyed playing outside with his friends until some of the older boys started jumping out on him and grabbing hold of him as they knew how upset he`d get, i had a word with these boys and they appologised and said they didnt realise they were getting to him as they did. however they still did it for the buzz of it and he`s terrified to go outside the door now, he doesnt play football or anything he loved doing and i really feel for him as i can see hes down about it, what do you think i should do?

Well personally i think that you should talk to your son, tell him there is nothing to be afraid of. Talk to these boys, tell these boys AGAIN, that he is just a child, trying to play in a simple manner, and that he has done nothing to them. Boys like this deserve some punishment, if they continue to bother your or your son, tell the police, or someone you might know that can help. I really hope this helps you, and im sorry for your son.

Q: i have a problem with my weight. people in my school make fun of me. what should i do?

Maybe you shouldnt worry about what people think, just be yourself, and do what you want to. I've learned from people that you shouldnt care what people think, say, or do, because all they're really trying to say is that they dont have a life, and they only care about themselves. Others might think its funny to put others down, but in the end it all comes back, and they see what they did was wrong. "What goes around comes around"
Hope this helps.
Crystal

Q: is it posible to date two friends at a time?people said it is bad can i believe this?

It is not actually bad to do it, but the people you are dating will feel bad about giving you a chance to be in their life. Just think, if you were in their place, and you were one of the two people who were being dated by that guy or girl, then how would you feel? Would you feel like you should be the only one? If thats how you would feel, think about how the other person would feel. It doesnt feel to good huh?
I hope this helps you decide what to do.
Crystal

Q: my boyfriend is not exactly cheatin on me but he likes 2 girls.He always tells HER that he likes HER more than me.And he always tells me that he likes me more.Iknow that is messed up.But,i don't want to be mad at him becuz the last time I was mad at him he was pissed off the whole day and he (Kinda)cried.Even if I do get mad at him I know that there is a chance that he might dump me and go with HER.And I don't want that to happen.What do i do??

I've also been in a situation like this before. The only thing you can do, is talk to him alone, and find out what he really wants to do. If he says he wants to be with you, but he also likes her, get rid of him. Because now that she knows he likes her, she is going to try everything in her power to take him from you. Just do what makes you feel good. Breakin up with him however might not make you feel to good, b/c you might not want to. But once you do it, you will see that there is a lot of other guys out there who care a lot more then he ever did. I hope this helps.
Crystal

Q: i am so confused how do my parents just get me one? signed

If you want a pet, you have to make sure that your parents know that you have complete responsibility. Make sure they know that you will take good care of it. There are a lot of things you must do in order to keep a pet in control. I've had plenty of pets, if you need advice on how to take care of them, just ask.

Crystal -hope this helps-

Q: Alright, I am a lesbian, and I am currently dating a girl. Everything is great and wonderful between us. We are starting to become a bit more sexualy active...like just playing around and stuff. Well, she can get me to, um..feel good, but I can't get her. She said I "did fine" but you know that basicly translates into "it was alright, but it could have been alot better" When we talked about it..she said maybe practicing on myself would help...But I tried, and I can't even get myself to, um..feel good! Any advice, or even a website I could go to, that may help??

Well im bisexual, and i understand where you are coming from. Have you done this before? If you havent actually been sexually active with her before, then that may be why. She probably has done this before, and so its not hard for her to make you 'feel good'. Im not sure if there is a website you can look at, but if i were you, i would just have fun, and TRY, this might work, if you just HAVE FUN...
I hope this helps.

Q: Hey yall,

First of all I want to thank all the people who helped me with my last question.I loved the advice.Thank you!

Ok my next question is about me and my bestfriend.
My bestfriend means alot to me, I mean i've know her for 4 years but.Recently she moved away from my neighborhoo,and not in walking distance.So when she moved I started hanging out with my new next door friend.We now hang out all the time like me and my bestfried use to do before she moved.My bestfriend is now taking it as though i'm tryna replace her. But i'm not.I mean she said that she don't like the fact that i'm slowly replacing her and I need to choose who do I want to be friends with more.Who should I choose? My bestfriend or my close friend.Both of them mean alot to me. I'm confused!

Love Apple

Well Apple, sometimes the hardest thing you can do is choose between your best friend, and your close friend. I've been in this situation many times. I think you should choose the one that you think will be there for you until the end. If you still want to be best friends with your best friend, then be it, but if i were you, i would choose the person that will always be there no matter what. Your best friend might have other friends since she has moved away, and she might make you think the same thing, that she is replacing you. Think about what you wanna do, what makes YOU happy, not her. I hope this helps, email me if you need more advice.

Crystal

Q: One of my best friends is bi. Then one day i told her that I liked her liked her and she went crazy. She now knows that I am bi also I dont know if she has a g/f but............ I thought that we could just experiment with each other but I haven't ask her that if she would wanna do that. What should I do? help plz
-Me

Well since how i know who you are, ya know, i mean this isnt hard to tell who you are when im in the same situation, i dont have a g/f but i do have a b/f and i like other ppl, im tryin to live with other ppl's advice as well. SO if you think you like her like that again, and you think she doesnt like you or something, try talk to her and see if she might know someone else, or see if you know anyone else who will expierement with you, like is about changing, nothing ever stays the same. Help your best freind out a little, it will all come back to you in the end.
Hope this helps~

Q: I've always been curious about this. If anyone had ever talked to a ghost, or almost died, and came back to tell about it, I'd like to hear your story. I never have done either, and I wonder what it is like, and if this is for real.

I dont think there is suck a thing, unless someone is physically connnected to the dead, but i dont even think this is possible. If you feel like your connected somehow and you think its a problem, try talk to someone who might understand you! - hope this helps

Q: what is giving a boy a head?

Giving a boy head is sucking his dick, which isnt too good, b/c things could happen, like you could get diseases or something, depending on the guy and what he has done. But if i were you, stay away from people who ask of you to do this, its not right for you to go through with it!
hope this helps. if you need more, let me know!
Crystal

Q: I'm hungry. What should I eat?

You should eat what you feel comfortable eating, but you should at least eat 3 meals a day, with a few snacks put in. You need to be healty and have food in your body to be able to do the things you would normally do, or to keep motivated. Well i hope this helps you- if you need more advice, just ask me!
Crystal

Q: whatz giveing head?

Well since how im a girl, and i know a lot of guys who ask me if i do it, i should be able to help you. Giving head is like giving oral sex to a guy, which means sucking his dick. If you do not feel comfortable when i guy ask you to do this to him, walk away. Or if you dont know how to do it, but you think you want to because of the guy asking you is cute or whatever, talk to someone who understands you in the situation.
Hope this helps

Q:
I have social anxiety disorder but I want to ask Orlando out...what do I do?

Social Anxiety Disorder is something that I JUST CAN'T GET OVER just like that...and it's hard. Please help. Sometimes I fall really hard for him...and I just want a chance with him.

From,
My heart skips a beat

Well hon, sometimes the only thing you can do, is pick yourself up when you fall (not being funny).. if you want a chance with him, let him know it by your emotions around him, by the way you act, if he cant see that YOU do fall for him all the time- maybe you should just let him go, there is a right guy for every person to know, to love. So if he isnt the one, but you think he is, maybe he isnt.. you gotta trust the YOU in yourself before you can believe in love! hope this helps... if you need more advice just ask!
-Crystal

Q: my boyfriend ignores me about almost everything even tho we get along i email him whenever we have a problem he is not a bad guy but a new guy wants to go out with me and we actually did go out once i would not say im gonna cheat but i just cant seem to decide when i am with my boyfriend i am happy when well for the most part anyhow and when i went out with the new guy i was happy also what should i do i feel right with both of them the second and newest guy is a bit slow but that dont bother me the first one is a bit over bearing at times wants to control me that is his basic only flaw except he hardly ever wants to listen to me

Hon, if he doesnt listen to you, leave him. Every person needs someone in their life to listen to them. If You think you love the new guy, or you think you like him more then the other, be with him. You have to like the 'YOU' in you before you can the 'other' in other people. I hope this helps you- if you need more advice email me. Im here for you!

Q: I have a boyfriend that i love alot but he hits me.But he say he sorry and he won't do it again but he keeps doing it. He said if I leave him then he will kill me.I'm so scared that he's telling the truth .He's already put me in the hospital 2 times I don't know what to do.So I need help ASAP if anyone can help me please.My life is on the line!

Love Apple

This sounds like a serious problem, i dont think you can really love someone who does this to you, i've heard of people in the same situation, all you can really do is call someone. Call the Police, or someone who can help you get away from this person. Stay with a friend, if you dont want to leave him for good because you think you love him, wait until he is not home, and stay with someone he doesnt know for a while until you figure out what you think is best. If you're worried he might harm you in any other way (killing you) then you should immediatly contact the police. I hope this helps you!

Q: how do i get a girl to like me

Well since im a girl, there are some things that girls like from a guy. Sometimes girls like guys because of their looks, personality, or something else about them. The only 'real' way to get a girl to like you, is just be you around that girl, or get some of your friends to be friends with her and see if she likes you. Maybe you can start a conversation with her, make her laugh, help her out when she needs it. Girls like guys who are nice, and not always mean when they are around their friends, but mostly a girl likes a guy who likes her for who she is. I hope this helps, email me if you need more advice!

Q: what does "sex symbol" mean when somebody says u're such an sex symbol?

Well usually when someone says that you're a sex symbol, that usually means that you are showing yourself too much, either by flirting with too many people, the clothing you wear, the way you wear your make-up, or the way your body is set. Usually guys dont mind you being a "sex symbol" because it's eaiser for them to get you into bed. I hope this helps.

bio

Hey! I'm Crystal, as you know. I am here to give advice to those who need it the most. I've given much advice in my time and I plan to keep doing it. Don't be afraid to ask me any personal questions or even random questions, I can help with anything, because believe it or not, I've been in some of the same situations that most people have been in. I love giving advice, its my life, Not only am I good at it, but I understand where people are coming from. So, Don't take anything to seriously and ask away, Thanks! :)