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Q: Alright first off when i was looking for emo hairstyles i saw this thing on the internet. it said theres a day called Emo Kid Beatdown Day and it happens on June 6th. FIRST OF ALL is there truly a messed up day like that?!? i tried searching on the net for more information but all i got were stupid forums talking about how kids were beating up emo kids on June 6th. this all sickens me because 1. im Emo myself and 2. WHY!?!? i read this one forum where a kid talks about how he beat up an Emo at school and not a teacher did a damn thing. all the teachers did was laugh at the Emo kids who got beaten up and they laughed even more and harder when they found out it was so called Emo Beatdown Day. that just disgusted me even more...so there truly a day like that? i'm in highschool now and its pretty messed up there and im a bit worried that i might get beaten but i'm also angered on how some people can be toward others who are just different from everyone else. your information based on this will be quite helpful to me cause i need REAL answers...

Sorry to say it, but people are jerks.

There's no such thing as Emo Kid Beatdown Day. I think it's something people made up to scare emo people away from school on that day.

And even if it does exist, none of the teachers or administrators at your school would actually let that happen -- it's illegal for them to just watch a fight and laugh. Trust me, at the first sign of something like that, everyone would be on their toes, making sure all the students were safe. =]

Q: I just recently (2 weeks ago?) lost my virginity,
and now I've been noticing my..er.. smell.. more. (16/f btw) is that normal?

Also, when my boyfriend and I have sex, sometimes he doesnt actually go inside me? Is that something that he'll just figure out how to do on his own or should I help out?

I think it's normal -- that's the way it happened with me. I think it sort of kick-started those hormones and whatnot. If you have a problem with it though, you can try Summer's Eve feminine wash and wipes and whatnot. Whatever you do though, don't douche!

As far as your second question... I'd suggest helping out. If he hasn't realized this yet (which just means he's as inexperienced as you are), then he might not realize it any time soon. I had this problem with an ex... and I er, took the bull by the horns, so to speak. If you guide it in there yourself, he probably won't feel like an idiot AND you'll actually be having sex, haha. =]

Q: ok my hair is kinda wavy and a little thick but more pooffy than anything is there anyting i can do to de-poof it?
and are there any hairstyles i can do without straightening my hair that will look ok and show my natural wave? My hair is a lil longer than my Shoulders.
i straighten my hair almost everyday cuz i dont have anything else to do with it plz help.

My hair's just like yours, and I got tired of straightening it too. Buy a can of mousse (Garnier Fructis has some great stuff for curls), apply some to wet hair, and let it dry naturally. It'll accentuate the curl, and the product in your hair helps reduce poof. =]

Q: seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.

what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak?

I think you should take a break. Don't get me wrong -- I don't think you should give up in any sense of the word. But I've learned a few things over time:

1] If you keep having failed relationships, there's a common denominator -- yourself. You should work on making sure you are whole WITHOUT a man, and being happy with yourself before you try to add someone else into the mix.
2] Good things happen to those who wait. There's someone out there for you, but if you look, you're not going to find him. Ever hear about the people that find love when they weren't even looking for it? That's the kind of love that lasts forever.

Take a break from guys and relax for awhile. Try to focus on other things -- school, family, church, whatever. You will find other guys, and there will be other heartbreaks, but if you just let it come to you naturally, it won't be so hard.

Q: i need to make sure i become a transfer student and not waste any time in a community college.
how do i make it clear to them that, thats what i want?also what is the placement test like? i know its math and english but what level and how do i prepare for it? anything you think i should know about?>thanks

As long as you tell them to start with that you will want to transfer eventually, they'll get the point -- community colleges are really good about that, because half the people that go, have the intention of establishing a GPA and then transferring.

As far as the placement test goes, it'll be basic math and basic English. Geometry and basic algebra for the math portion, plus things like common sense addition -- nothing "higher level." As far as English, it'll be pretty much like your state standardized tests... sentence structure, punctuation, reading comprehension. I don't know if there's a writing portion. I don't know if they'd have information on the placement tests on the college's website, but you should look around for it; you might even find practice tests.

Q: for school i need to find a song that mentions drugs or alcohol and then analyze it. i'm fine with the analyzing part, its just that i'm having trouble finding a song that mentions drugs or alcohol in it.

i asked my parents and they only gave me old songs. i'm looking for a more recent song that i know.

thanks!

Gym Class Heroes - The Queen and I
(About alcohol. That song is on their MySpace, and you can Google the lyrics to it.)

Lil' Wyte - My Smokin' Song
(About marijuana. You'll have to look for it online; it's not on his MySpace any more.)

Q: how long in distance/ and TIME!!!! please is ...Toronto, Ontario....to London, Ontario??? please tell me if you know its very important, mostly in time distance !!!

According to Mapquest it's about 119 miles and 2 hours, 12 minutes. Click this link for a map:

http://www.mapquest.com/directions/main.adp?go=1&do=nw&rmm=1&un=m&cl=EN&ct=NA&rsres=1&1ffi=&1l=&1g=&1pl=&1v=&1n=&2ffi=&2l=&2g=&2pl=&2v=&2n=&1pn=&1a=&1c=Toronto&1s=ON&1z=&2pn=&2a=&2c=London&2s=ON&2z=&r=f

Q: are there any straighteners men.. there's GHD for men (ultra slim) but are there any other brands/ultra slim men's straighteners out there?
if so...which ones?

I don't know about any specific ones for men, but my boyfriend uses my straightener, which is a 2" Conair one. He's never complained, and his hair is in really good shape. =]

Q: can masturbation make breast bigger?

No.

Q: In about a week and a half, I will be running a 5K (about 3.1 miles) with some of my friends. We're not in it to win it, but I want to be at least a little bit prepared. I've been running a few miles every day for the past couple of weeks. I'm 15/f, 120 pounds and 5'3"ish, so I'm not looking to lose weight. Is there anything special I should eat, or any stretches or anything? I am already drinking a ton of water. Any advice from people who run would be awesome. Thank you!

I've run a 5K before, and I think you're doing a great job already. You're already running a good distance daily, and you're drinking plenty of water. The only thing I suggest as far as food goes is to get plenty of protein and carbohydrates for energy (advice taken straight from the mouth of my coach). As far as stretches go, just make sure to do lots of leg stretches (I'm sure you know how, if you've already been running). Also, try to get a little ab workout in too, because from my experience, if you've been working out your abs, you're less likely to get cramps in your sides from running. =]

Q: 20/f. To make a long story short, I'm dating a new guy, my ex's friend, and my ex found out. (I know, "ex's friend??") My ex still has feelings for me, so he flipped out. During the 2 hours I spent calming him down and saving my boyfriend from getting the crap beaten out of him, I realized I still like my ex. He was still flipping out about his friend/my guy, so I admitted it to him.
The relationship with the ex ended because neither of us were prepared for the intensity of the emotions that came with it. He backed out, but still kept me close to him. He used to upset me a lot, but always made up for it.
I've been with the new guy for almost a month, though we've been acting like a couple for longer. He's sweet and romantic, but he does a lot of things that REALLY annoy me. Not to mention, he's not nearly as good in bed as my ex was. I actually found myself thinking about my ex afterwards once.
Now I have 3 hearts and a huge predicament in my hands. I know honesty is the best policy, but if I tell my current guy I still have feelings for my ex, I'm afraid I'll lose him, since I backed out of a relationship with him once already.
What do I do? How do I handle this?

You're not going to like what I have to say... but I hope you really consider it.

I think you need to distance yourself a little from both of these guys -- and from guys in general. Your ex still cares about you and you care about him, and because of that, you're finding yourself comparing these two men, when in actuality that's never a good thing to do because everyone is different -- for good reason.

I think that if you're having this much trouble deciding what you want to do with your OWN heart, then you shouldn't string their hearts along with it, you know what I mean? If you continue your relationship/lack of relationship with either of these guys, you're only going to hurt both of them, and yourself.

I suggest telling both of them that you need some time alone to figure yourself out, before you try adding another person to your life. If they both truly care about you like it seems they do, then they'll understand and give you your space -- and if they don't, then you don't need to be with either of them anyway.

Q: I think i have a problem and its not soemthing i think i can fix fast. I feel like im too serious. I dont laugh enough or soemthing but then otehr times i laugh TOO MUCH not like bipolar or soemthing just like. .. i think i push people away because they dont feel comfortable around me?? I dont know what to do. well i hope im making sense to someone becasue i know i dont sound too strightforward. basically, i just take things WAYYY too personally and get mad fast. like i cant joke almost

If this is something that REALLY bothers you and the people around you, maybe you should see a psychiatrist. Even if there's not something wrong with you mentally, a psychiatrist can help you to find ways to 'get over it' when you take things too personally, and can help you to be more comfortable with yourself so that you won't have the problem as much.

EDIT: Thanks for the one rating, glad to know that you value my opinion -- especially someone who's seen a psychiatrist for similar reasons and gotten a lot of help from them.

Q: i have a dance next week and my dress is kind of backless. the problem is, i have a little bit of acne on my upper back. that really won't look too good with my dress. how can i treat it quick? i mean, i shower every day and wash my back but it's not doing much. i have retin a micro for my face, should i try that? i solutions fast

Go ahead and try it -- it can't hurt. And if that fails, dab a little coverup on each pimple, and hopefully they won't be so noticeable. =]

Q: My boyfriend of 7 months is really close to his mom. Yesterday he ended up telling her what we've done physically. [up to finger/handjob]. His mom was cool with it...but I am not. I'm absolutely shocked that he would tell her this. I'm glad they have a good relationship but telling her personal things like that is just too much. I'm gonna feel like a slut the next time I see her. He argues that they are close (his mom told him it was wrong today).. in my family, we're don't ask, don't tell. My parents just tell me to wait & be careful but don't ask for details because they know it's between 2 people only. I tried putting it behind me but it came up before & I'm pissed at him again. Any help? Am I wrong for being angry?

Actually, I think I'll be the first one to tell you that you ARE a little wrong.

Did you tell him beforehand that you never wanted him to talk about your relationship with his parents? If you didn't, then he probably thought it was okay and I see why -- he's got a great relationship with his mother, and it's built on TRUST.

I understand that you feel kind of embarrassed that he told his mom, but I don't think you should be upset with your boyfriend. Still, I think you should talk to him. Maturely. Ask him to just listen and not interrupt until you're finished talking, and then calmly (as in not yelling) tell him why you're upset. Make sure to tell him that you understand why he told his mother, but ask him to please refrain from telling her any more details about your sexual relationship in the future, unless he discusses it with you first.

Q: k so here i am right now. like sitting on the computer looking through advicenators since im bored. and like i hear breath next to my ear. and im like alrightt. and i blow i off an but then i keep hearing it. and so i looked in the direction where it was coming from and the breathing noise stops. and it kept doing that. and like so i just opened my bedroom door because its kinda creapy you know. so yeah it just keep doing that. so here i am right now like.. listening to something breathing in my ear and yeah. idk what the hell it is. or even if its breathing but something is making this weird noise in my ear. :o
ideas?

I think you're going insane, haha.

Seriously though, it could be your breathing -- maybe you got a little freaked out and didn't even realize that it was your OWN breathing you were listening to? And then when you keep turning around you involuntarily hold your breath.

(Or maybe you should call 911 because... well, I'm not a stalker, but I love the way you did your hair today. And by the way, you're out of milk.)

Q: i love aerobics!! but i need an at home DVD to do. What are some good ones?

Well, I don't know if this is really considered aerobics, but I love Tae-Bo! It gets you moving, works out your whole body and it's fun too. =]

Q: are there any websites that tell what the starting pay is for places like handel's, ritter's, etc? if anyone works at any of these places and knows, please let me know. i'd also like to know which pays the best out of:
handel's, steak n' shake, target, marsh, ritter's, starbucks
and which one you guys think would be the best place for meeting people during work.
any other suggestions would be great too! thanks

Well, Target's wages start off at about $8 an hour, which is pretty good for a summer job. And Starbucks pays really well too, but you have to be 18 to work there (because of the equipment used to make drinks, it's considered a liability), so if you're not 18 don't even try.

I think that if you're old enough to work there, Starbucks is a great place to meet people, because there are 'regulars,' you know?

I don't know about those other places, but I hope I helped!

Q: So there are these Swedish guys at my school visiting for a week, and I really want to attract them. They're very good looking... so does anybody know what Swedish guys look for in a girl? I know the relationship wouldn't work because well, - we live in different countries! But still, it'd be cool if I could have the chance to get to know them. So over-all, like on average... do they like a certain race of girls? Like Latina, American, Italian... I'd really like to know. Thanks y'all.

Well, a guy is a guy is a guy -- I don't think that their nationality will weigh much on what they find attractive in a female. Just like American guys like different things, I think these guys will too. I just suggest being yourself and talking to them, and hopefully they'll be interested in you. =]

Q: my boyfriend and i had anal sex and i kind of pooped a little....it was on the condom and he was like "you pooped". i was so embarrased but does that happen often.

The best way to prevent that is to go poop first -- I know that doesn't make sense. But your anus (um, butthole) is only there to transport poop from your intestines to the toilet, and if you poop before, there's nothing there.

You could also try buying an enema, it's like a douche for your butt. I doubt you'll find it in a drugstore though... you might have to go to a sex shop or something like that if you're old enough to get in.

Q: my bf says that i have a great body. everyone else does too. but to me i think that i need to tone up. what is the quickest and best way to million dollar abs. without paying out the butt for it. thanks

Quick, easy, and cheap: crunches! Trust me, crunches are the best way to tone up your abs.

Every day, do the following routine (it's my routine, and it's fantastic).

1] Do 50 regular crunches, with your hands behind your head.
2] Do 50 crunches bringing your right elbow to your left knee, and 50 more bringing your left elbow to your right knee (if you alternate left-right, it makes it seem a lot faster and easier, but it's still the same workout).
3] "Bicycle" for 10 minutes (or 3 songs on the radio). Bicycling is just laying on your back and moving your legs in a motion likeyou're riding a bike.

Even if it starts to hurt, don't stop. Don't give up -- you'll start to see results in about 3 weeks. =]

bio

Hey there. I'm Holly, and I'm 19. I've been through a lot in my life -- literally, if you can name it, I've probably dealt with it or know someone who has. Unfortunately, it sucks, but fortunately, it puts me in a great position to help people that need advice. Feel free to ask me anything about anything. =]