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Q: My friend told me tht she caught her sister cutting....Can ne1 tell me wht tht is? I asked her wht it wuz and she looked @ me like I wuz crazii...Wht is it?! I need 2 no!!

It is like someone that gets a knife or sharp object and cuts themself with it... and they do it in places that u normally wouldnt see wiith clpthes on... like their hip or shoulder or something./... hope it helped!

Q: hey im 13/f, and i really want to get a second hole in my ear. My dad told me he would convince mi mom i could after mi bat mitzvah, but he didnt. mi mom said it would be mutilating my body(even tho i already hav 1st holes). what should i do? i mean, im a "teenager" and i feel i have the right to get my ears pierced(again). please help! what should i do? signed,
::need.help::

ok... im 13 and i couldnt get my second holes till i was 12... and its not mutialating your body really because if u got ur first holes wuts wwrong with second ones... u should have a face to face talk about it with ur mom and your dad and explain all of the good things about it and try not to argue too much beleive me... but yea tell them that u r only going to get seconds not 5 more because they do look really cute! best of wishes and lots of luck!!!! ;)

Q: i just got a blender. what are some good recipes...you know like smoothies or something. thanx!

orange julius is really good and good for you!
here is waht you need....
6 oz. frozen orange juice (the ones in a can are the best)
1 1/2 cup of milk
1 cup water
1/4 cup sugar
1 teaspoon of vanilla extract
8-9 ice cubes or more
and if u want to you can add your favorite fruit... like strawberrys tasted really good when i made it like 5 or 6 strawberries depending on how much u want...
but you place then all in the blender the order i gaves you is best and blend until the ice cubes are crushed
hope it turns out good!
:)

Q: ok do u think its bad like if u go with ur best guy friend 2 tha movies like kuz hes datin a a grl and she alwayz brings a friend so wuld it be wrong if he invited me and went i mean she knos were bffz and all but i jsut think she might get mad but im not 4 sure like if it wuld look bad or wutnot...??

yeah its totally fine... but i would make sure to ask the girl first so she doesnt get all pissed so yea dont walk too close to each other kind of make it obvious that u guys are just friends... idk, but good luck! :)

Q: Ok i have Black heads... they are like HUGE pores... does anyone know how to get rid of black heads.. the thing i did was pop them... but there is to many! any suggestons..

i rate..

there is a lot of different face washes u could use... like theres commercials for blackhead clearing scrubs... make sure to wash your face with that every night and/or morning! hope it helped! ;)

Q: I wanna start wearing eyeliner, and in your opinion, should I wear liquid or pencil? Thanks

i think that pencil is way easier to put on because liquid sometimes gets into ur eye and kind of comes off easier... plus liquid is usually more expensive... hope u like ur new look! if any one has a question about anything at all ask me!!!
thx guys, ~Beccah~

Q: when u slightly cut ur wrist does it bleed bad... just a small tiny slit...
thanks-
~worried~

yes! please dont!!!!

Q: im really confused. I like the girly look, but i also like the punk-rock look. I listen to both kinds of music. i dont know what i should dress like this year. what do you think?

Try and mix both... like pink and black go together and its girly and punk try on things that look good on u and youll eventually find a good style just for you! hope i helped! :)

Q: Hi, I'm a 15/F. I guess you could say I have like average self esteem. Some days I think I look SO adorable. But other days I hate everything about myself. For example: I bought a shirt and when I tried it on I loved it , then I tried it on at home and I thought it made me look horrible. Does anyone know why this happens to me & what I could do to fix it ? Thanks in advance.

you might just be having mood swings... make sure you really like something before you buy it cuz it happens all the time... it looks get at the store but when u get home it looks horrible... this is normal and it should probably stop pretty soon... just relax and trust yourself! hope i helped! :)

Q: my best friend went out with this guy that i liked and i found out that this guy doesnt even really like her and he likes me...he broke up with my best friend and then asked me out...i dont noe wut to do cuz my friend said shes not mad but i noe she is wut should i do?

Well you should talk to your friend about it and really make sure its ok with her (like talk to her face to face) and only go out with him if u really do like him. good luck!

Q: what are some good deoderents that dont leave white marks on ur clothes ANND work well to stop sweating???
thanks, Manda

find an anti perspirant deodarant that is clear and it will definitely not give u white marks!

Q: Well...I met this girl name Jenni and we started talking and then my brother was single so I started to get them to talk since she's one of m oldest friends and I thought they'd hit it off... suprisingly they did...well a few months later...after they started going out...Jenni told me that she cheated on my brother...with one of her friends Roxie's brother Chad...and I know them too...Jenni swore up and down that they only made out...and I trust her...but I also promised I wouldn't tell my brother...well one night my sister was saying how my brother and Jenni made a pact that they could do whatever whenever with whoever and I was like Wut the heck...so me and my sister confronted my brother and told him about her cheating on my brother...the pact was made after she cheated on him...turned out my sister heard wrong...and they never made a pact...like that...should I have told my brother...or should I have not told my brother to keep Jenni's trust with me?

You should have told him because he needs to know... cheating is pretty wrong... its mean and always hurts omeones feelings and if she decides she doesnt want to forgive you then she isnt a very good friend... hope u guys make up and i helped! :)

Q: Okay I'm 14 and there is this guy Patrick (16) he has a crush on me which would be fine because i can survive that but he is also in a wheel chair and thinks that he some big-shot and all the girls at church are disgusted with him (as am I) because you can't get through a meeting with out him raising his eye brows and mouthing something. I have told I have no intrested in him and when I did he just stared at me for months with a look of hatrid almost. He is a very spoiled kid and gets his way no matter what. I don't normaly say things about people that have disabilitys but I am so tempted to stop to my meetings because of him. I don't like him, I've told him, Ignored him, Been completing nice (Bad Idea to be nice made him think I liked him) I have even had my friends to tell him. He just doesn't get it. Don't tell me to tell the adults because they think its so sweet! PLEASE.
Only the Young Women can see what he really is; A spoiled brat. so any advice on how to stop him would very helpful.

Signed,
Disability Patrick

Ypu could maybe give him a weird look next time he looks at you and tell him i dont want a b/f and i dont date older guys sry i hope we can still be friends and i dont like it when u like stare at me.... hope it helps u could mix up the words or sumthin i really wish u lots of luck!!
luv, beccah

Q: Hello, over the summer a few of my freckles got REALLY dark on my face, and I don't like the way it looks. I heard that lemon juice works... is it true? How much would I put on? And how often?

I have freckles and i hate them! i dont know if the lemon juice works but always make sure u have sunscreen on ur freckles when its sunny cuz if it gets tan then they will get darker so yea put lots of sunscreen! hope it helps! ~Beccah~

Q: i just started my new school and im the only 8th grade new student!!! everyone has already went there and i really wanna be happy! Does anyone have any suggestions? Does anyone go to that school and is in 8th grade?

hey im in 8th grade! umm i would suggest to try and be friendly and kind of be outgoing... make ppl notice you but dont be too crazy... and if u need any more help im me at luvinmydancin for aim if u want.

Q: I'm 21 years old, but I already have an almost constant back pain. Can anyone tell me a daily exercise I could do to make my back stronger and less likely to get strained when I pick up a piece of paper?

I am 13 and my back also kills me... you might wanna see a doctor depending on how bad it is... they might help but doing situps without going all the way up to ur knees (its bad for your back only go like half way up) it might help... experiment with different things! hope you feel better! ~Beccah~

Q: im really confused.im a catholic and bieleve in everything it teaches.iv been baptised and confermed too.but i also beilieve in abortion.i think women should have the right to choose if they want.is this a sin? does this mean im goin to hell? pleaz answer.

No, you can beleive whatever you want. It isnt really a sin and you will definitely not go to hell because i believe in abortion too. what if a 12 year old got raped? would they want the baby? not really... it should only be legal for certain reasons not just because you dont want a baby... so yea hope it helped!