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Q: ok heres my question....

I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR THREE MONTHS NOW! HES A GOOD GUY AND ALOT OF FUN! HES VERY POPULAR AND HAS ALOT OF "EXPERIENCE." WHEN I MET HIM ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WAS HOW BAD HE WANTED TO SLEEP WITH ME AND HOW BAD HE WANTED TO HAVE A LIFE WITH ME! I FELT THAT SAME WAY BUT THE ONLY DIFFRENCE IS THAT IM STILL A VRIGIN AND HE DOESNT KNOW IT YET! AND TO MAKE THE STORY MORE INTERESTING IVE BEEN HAVING FAMILY PROBLEMS AND GOT KICKED OUT OF MY HOUSE AND NOW STAYING WITH HIM! WE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED AND WHEN HES IN THE MOOD I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE I TELL HIM THAT IM NOT IN THE MOOD OR I FEEL SICK BUT THATS NOT IT AT ALL, SO HE JUST ROLLS OVER AND GOES TO SLEEP!I FEEL LIKE SUCH A HORRIBLE PERSON! IVE LIED TO HIM SO MUCH ALREADY AND THE PERSON THAT I MET HIM WITH AND HE WANTS A LIFE WITH IS THE ONE THATS NOT A VIRGIN! IM SO SCARED TO TELL HIM BUT IF I DONT HES GONNA THINK THAT I DONT LIKE HIM AND I DO I REALLY DO! WAT SHOULD I DO? IF HE FINDS OUT I LIED TO HIM AGAIN HE MIGHT THROW ME OUT INTO THE STREET! pls help! and my tonight cause hes gonna try again and i dont wanna lie to him anymore!

OK. Tell him the truth!!!! I recon he will respect ur honesty when you tell him, if he's good enough for you then he will understand, then he will know why you haven't wanted to sleep with him! I think it might be a relief for him to know the reason why you haven't wanted to sleep with him, because of you not him, then he can be more gentle with you and you can have fun together.

Q: okk so this guy i like asked me out yesterday :-D yea exciting! soo anyways..today at school i felt like i was shy around him..i dont know why cuz im usually soo loud! i want to act like i usually do around him..cuz we were really good friends so he knows how i am...and i also want to be a good gf by talking to him and acting like a gf!
welllll any advice for anyy of this stuff!
thanks.!

Pretend you don't go out with him when your together! You will feel more relaxed until it sinks in how to be a gf to him
good luck

Q: What are some REALLY good tips on flirting? Like I want to start to make my boyfriend really interested in me. Like I already know he likes me but i want him to show he likes me. So I need tips on flirting and stuff like that. Thanks in advance! =)

Getting on your hands and knees when picking things up should drive him CRAZY. Making lots of eye contact and loving yourself, if ur confident with the way you are he will find u all the more attractive.

Q: ok well this guy stares at me alot(ALOT),showsoff infront of me..and doesnt talk to girls other thenme...talked to me once but never did again...but still stares...does he like me?

I think he does! You should talk to him, flirt, if he is cute then you go girlfriend!

Q: what are sum programs to download any type of music?

www.mp3shits.com works a treat

Q: hi my name is jess im 13. well i constantly have these feelings that i wamt to die and i have no purpose for life. i play as many sports as u could think okso thats not really helping. i get really stressed easily and i cut myself once over a boy. I really need the best ways to handle it im getting really stressed and i cant enjoy myself. if theres any way i can handle it without having to talk to someone because i would sound stupid. please help
jess

Sport is an excellent thing to do when you are feeling like this. You need to fight it!
Why dont you write down how you are feeling, a diary is the most understanding thing in the world and it is theraputic. You need to take care of your physical health, did hurting yourself help? i suspect not, it gets you nowhere believe me.
You should really consider telling someone? You may believe you sound stupid but letting this go on can just make you feel worse, there are lots of people who would take you serious, there is nothing stupid about your situation and infact epression is more common than the common cold.
I'm fighting it and so can you!
All My Love
Anniie

Q: so for the past month or so i just havent been feeling right. im always tired, but i can never sleep. i dont ever feel like doing anything, and i end up eating cuz im so bored. im always sad, and people get angry cuz i dont smile much anymore... so then i have to pretend to be happy. ive also thought about cutting. should i see a doctor about this?

You definately need to talk to someone about this. A councellor or doctor? There are all kinds of medication for depression that work.
Another thing i strongly suggest is exercise, it lets off endorphins that make you feel happy and satisfied with your life. You need to be strong and fight it.
Writing down how you feel can help, its mega theraputic and has helped me through hard times.
I also suggest you have some "you time" a nice bath, manicure? peddicure? You need to feel good about yourself physically before you can mentally.
You will definately get better, you need to believe that!

Q: i think i might have a phobia of some sort...
before i have to give a speech or even read out loud i freak out. i have something like a panic attack. i cant breathe right, my mouth is dry, my voice shakes, i start trembling etc...
are there any medications i can take for this?

Herbal Tea always helps to calm you down. There are lots of other herbal remedies too, its worth lucking up actually, there are all kinds of things to help.

Q: My boyfriend has had dreams about us having sex lately. of course I'm not ready for that. I have to get on the pill first but I don't know if I really want to do it. He wants me to come over to his house. Yeah his room can be locked and well, it's kinda isolated from his house...and he's usually alone. We've been going out for almost a year. I'm just...afraid. He wants to make out with me in my underwear. What should I tell him or do?

He seems like a very important person to you, if you are as important to him he wont mind waiting until you are ready. Just take things a step at a time, sex isn't the be all and end all.
Boys have dreams about having sex all the time, it doesn't mean you have to fulfill his dream, plus the fact the longer you both wait the better it will be.
You need to be comfortable with him in you underwear before you move on. If you feel comfortable with making out with him in your underwear there is no harm in that, maybe in your room where if he wants to move on and you don't you feel more comfortable with saying no.
You have no obligation to do anything you do not want to, there are many others including myself in a similar position and saying no is nothing to be ashamed of!
Girl Power xxx

Q: For Christmas my bf got me this necklace. I can't say I am dissapointed, don't get me wrong, I am so happy he got me something! And it is beautiful. The only thing is that it is a little formal. It has dimaonds all over the chain and stuff (I don't think they are real though). But my question is, should I wear it everytime I see him? It is a little formal to wear with a normal outfit like jeans and a tanktop. I wore it to a New Years party and he noticed that I was wearing it cause he said, "oh you are wearing it!" and was playing with it. Should I wear it to school? It just seems a little formal. Do you think he would care if I didn't? I sorta wish he would have gotten me something a little casual.
14/f

He got it for your use, not his! Wear it when you want to, and when it is appropriate for your outfit. If he has a problem with that then tell him thats its for special occasions.

Q: okay i gots a boyfriend I got 4 days ago. We kissed on new years eve and that was my first kiss ever but i felt nothing. No spark or anything. I find myself wishing hed break up with me sometimes. I dont know why though its like I stopped liking him. There is just no chemistry. Please tell me what I should do
Ill rate high
thanks

I think that you should break up with him. I've not long had my first kiss and it wasn't all that good, i stayed with him for a month and when i told him i wasnt happy, he actually agreed! It might not be as bad as you think it may be. You can do way better anyway, i can tell.
Good Luck Hun

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 month,tomorrow.We have been planning on going to the movies, but neither one of us thought about it being our anniversary. I just now remembered.So, I'm just wondering if I should get him anything for it? or what?
any help would be appreciated!
I rate 5's!

If i was you i would offer to buy popcorn! It may be a big deal to you after one month but i doubt he will be expecting anything and if he is then make light of it by buying him food when you get there... good luck

Q: is blonde really the hottest hair on girls? like brunette can't be equally hot or hotter?

and is it really attractive when girls bleach their hair?

Blonde isn't particularly hot in my opinion! infact blonde hair on girls automatically gives guys the impression they are "bimbos" and will jump in to bed with them when they want.
Its very unattractive when girls bleach their hair, infact it gives a "chav" effect which is unattractive to guys! I'm a red head and i am proud, i have no problems with getting guys and many thing red heads and brunettes are sophistocated aswell as hot!
So dont worry m8!