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Q: well, over the years i've sturrgled through school, not with friends, not with grades, not with teachers, but i get so nervous over everything. It's so stupid! I get so nervous over everything....like i'll be nervous to go to class tomorrow cuz i'll think i'll get in trouble or i think the teacher is gonna hate me!! I hate it, i've always had this thing ever since 1st grade only my mom knows about it. It's rele dump and i feel like an as*! I jus started 7th grade and i feel so stupid! i feel like a mental house, what should i do, :(

yur not an a**! U could jus be paranoid about sumthing. Talk to sumone about it, and see if they can help u. And always look on the bright side of things. Be confident in making friends. If u dont believe in yur self, how can u expect others to? If u keep thinking people are gonna hate u, it'll jus make u feel worse. Think about why people LIkE u instead. I hope this helps u make more friends and be happy. :)

Q: okay... ther's this guy at school that i really like. he is cute and funny and smart and stuff. he is also a really good friend of mine though. i dont know if he likes me. (i am not like really hot or anything but i dont think he is shallow) last time i liked a guy i wrote him a poem on valentines day and got laughed at for monthes. p.s. i dont like him anymore. i really want this guy to ask me out... but how????? help me!!!!!!

jus start talkin to him, have a really good conversation wit him. Then bring it up about how u kinda like him. See wat he says. If he likes u too, ask him does he wanna go out! It's best if yur friends wit him first becuz then he can see how u really are, not jus the how u act wen yur around him. Let me know if it works out! :)

Q: My best friend (katie) has a new friend (lauren) that i hate!!! and lauren hates me so much she calls me a B* and a lot of other things. i tell katie but she doesnt believe me cuz lauren has her under this dang spell or something! my other friend (brea) hates lauren too and they hate eachother. and me and brea are trying to show katie how awful lauren is by pasting her some mean things and ... but katie is too like obsessed with lauren to even care. shes always like "lauren is jus in a bad mood or w/e" and me and brea know how she really is but katie wont believe us! what should we do!? -Erin & Brea-

jus keep convincing her that lauren is a bad friend. And if she still doesnt listen, jus leave her and let her learn the hard way. Jus wait for sumthin to happen, and she'll say that u guys are better friends then lauren.

Q: My best friend and I have known each other for a few years. Since we started high school, however, she has become really needy. She will "like" a guy but she won't do anything about it..then she'll blame them for not asking her out. It becomes the focus of her life and she gets really depressed if the guy doesn't 'pay her enough attention'. I've tried telling her that guys aren't the only thing in life and that her friends love her, etc..but she wont believe it and just uses it to show how 'unloved' and 'unlistened to' she is. What do I do? I don't want to end the friendship, but I'm tired of feeling used.

sit her down and have a talk wit her. Tell her its NoT the guys fault, becuz they dont always make the first move. If she doesnt do anything, how will they even know she likes them? And yes, continue telling her that there are much better things in life then boys...like yur friends. U'll eventually lose interest in a boy, but friends are forever. And tell her nicely that u wish she'd stop moping around feeling sorry for herself, and actually get up and go do sumthin about it! Hope i helped ya!

Q: When I first met the guy I like right now he would always tell me to call him and stuff and we'd always talk no matter where or what we were doing.Well now that school started we hardly talk but I still like hime very much.Well last Sat.when I was at his house we made out and he was holding me and stuff and when I said I was cold he would pull me closer you know he was very sweet! Well it's tues and I haven't talked to him since Sun.I like him alot and He makes me happy.But I hate calling him other then when he tells me too{{ i feel like im bugging him}} So..Should I call him?Im 13 female.

call him, definately! He probably feels that he shudnt always have to tell u wen to call, so it'll be nice for u to call and say hey sumtimes. Let him know how much u care for him. Call him. :)

Q: Well there is this guy in my dance class ( I swear he's not gay) and I like him a lot and all my dance friends say he likes me and I like him too, and I've told my best friend about him and she said make a move but i don't know if it's right for a girl to make a move on a guy( I don't really think I'll be good at it), plus i think he has a girlfriend and another girl likes him in class(she's my friend too) what should i do...

first of all, i dont think u shud mess wit him since he does have a girl. U wudnt want sumone doin that to u. BUT, once he's single, go ahead! Sum guys are shy too, and if he likes u, he cud be waitin for u to make the first move, cuz he's not sure if u like him or not. If u find sumbody, u shud go after them. But first, u need to talk to yur friend. Find out how she wud feel if u went out wit him. But be a friend. If she still likes him, u shudnt try to get wit him cuz it'll make u seem like yur not a good friend. I know its hard to give up a guy, but friendship is way more important then that. :)

Q: Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/

tell sumbody! (besides yur mom.) I dont want u to get hurt, and who knows wat this guy is tryin to do. U dont really have to quit yur jod IF he stops, but if he doesnt, i think u shud. U and yur mom can go talk to his wife about it, maybe she cud go talk to him or sumthin. Jus make sure sumbody else knows. Or, u cud confront him about it. If yur there wit sumone, he'll probably lie and say nuthin's up. U'll have a better chance if u go by yurself. BUT, that cud be very danegerous, so talk to his wife. She seems like the one who cud ReAlLy do sumthin about this. Hope i helped!

Q: I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ]

i wuz exactly in yur position once. The thing is...jus be yurself! Get to know him more so that you'll feel comftable bein around him. And jus look at him as a friend, NoT as yur crush. That way, you'll probably feel more relaxed around him. Hope i helped!

Q: I'm a student that needs the time to figure school work out... and take my time on stuff... but between HorseBack Ridin, School Work, My Babysitting Jobs, and an Athletic Trainer after school.. well I just don't know how to balance it.. any advice?

" Ask Lia "

i think u jus make up a schedule. Works for me!

Q: Ok well....I like this guy lets say mike* and his friends name is steven. Well i like mike* and steven is always saying that hes better then mike*and that i shouldnt like him bcuz hes a player. BUt wut im realli confused about is y is steven sayin that? does he like me? bcuz i kno mike* isnt a player. Help! i rate!

i think he DoEs like u. Otherwise, he wudnt be poppin so much s***. But if u really like mike*, dont listen to steven*. Of course he'll say sumthin like that if he LiKeS u! :)

Q: does age matter cause im 13 almost 14 n i like a 17 year old n a 18 year old n my friend is bout ready to get me n the 18 year old out..plz help me

age doesnt matter at all! As long as yur in luv, thats all that's important! :)

Q: ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

Honestly, i dont think u shud meet him. As u know, its extremely dangerous. BUT, if u want, u can get a big group of yur friends to go wit u so u'll be safe. Good luck!

Q: Ok well last year all my dreams had come true. The guy I had feel for since I layed eyes on him 3 years ago, had finally liked me (though, we were going out or anything). I was pretty, popular... and I liked it. I wasnt conceited... I tried to act like I didnt know what people thought about me... but really I did. I heard ppl talk... I'm not stupid. Some goths said they didnt like me, some punks said I was too preppy. But I was me... and I liked it! I had my bff by my side always! The guys would usually fall for me... but it wasnt worth it, i had my eye on that one boy (from before). And now I notice that my bff was kind of my follower. I didnt mean to do it. I mean everyone knew we were bff's and we always hung out with the same people... but she didnt get as much attention from boy as me I guess. THEN something terrible happened... My middle school split up into different high schools... I didnt want this to happen at all... I loved my life, and now it was all changing!!! ANYWAYS i went to high school... and now that a year there has passed me and my bff are still friends... we have a lot of the same friends... but things are different. She's the one getting all the guys. Shes more popular because of sports and church and all. And I feel as if I'm the one following her. I hate it! Before it was perfect! my life was great! I felt so comfortable being myself! But now I feel different... I dont want to make a wrong move, I dont know what to say! I need some major help! not like 'be yourslef and everything will be great...'blah blah blah... Ive tried that... nothing changed. I just wanna be popular again! HELP ME. My friend just took my life

let her have the spotlight for a change! It seems like she's been living in yur shadow the whole time, so now she needs a chance to shine. I know it suks, but rite now she's living the life u once lived, and vice versa. give it time. If yur still a good person, u'll be popular again. But dont pressure her about it. leave her alone and let her be happy. I'm sorry, it may sound mean, but i think thats the right thing to do. Hope i helped!

Q: when your someone tells somebody you like them does that mean they are flattered?

yea, it probably does

Q: I like this new kid at school a lot its taken forever to have new people come and hes really hott! We have a lot of fun together and he is my neighbors best freind... so i talk to him wenever i talk to my neighbor n stuff... and hes soo funny and nice, but i dont think he really likes me "that way" like when we're around eachother hes soo funnny and sweet... but i think that he likes one of my other friends and i think she sorta likes him and that makes really mad as happy as i should be for the two of them it makes me mad especially considering im the one that intorduced them... if i would have known they were gonna swoon i would have never done it! But what do u think i should do about him should just continue talking to him or should i like tell him or what? please help!

i think u shud tell him u like him. It's the best way of finding out, although boys ArE mysterious. If u really really like him, dont take no for an answer. Work yur way into his heart, but first be friends wit him. Continue talking to him, even if he doesnt like u. Cuz he mite change his mind one day.

Q: ok..there;s this guy *dan* and he liked me a long time ago and then i started to like him but all he did was break ^ we me n hurt me really bad..recenlty we started tlkin..n we fell inlove..blah blah..well all my friends are yellin at me cuz they think he;ll just hurt me again..i dont tho..i could b wrong but oh well..then there's this guy *james* he asked me out and stuff and i guess i really like him..but like i still luv * dan* and now *james* is all pissd at me and sayin shit ..all i want is to be *james* friend..cuz i luv *dan* but he won;'t..hes bein all possesive & shit..and all my frinds r tellin me to 4get * dan* n giv *james* a try..cuz hes like perfect & hell treat me better--which maybe true..but i need to go out w *dan* its jus sumin i hav to do..even tho i ikno ill prolli get hurt,,idk help =(..i feel bad *james* really likes me..shuld i giv him a chance? or trust *dan* after he hurt me 3 times? sorry so long

u shudnt really listen to wat they want u to do. Do wat makes YoU happy. If u like *dan*, go out wit him! Everyone deserves a second chance. However, if he still treats u bad then thats not rite, so u shud leave him. Tell him u wanna go bak out wit him, but he needs to treat u rite, or else it cant work. Tell *james* yur not really ready to go out wit sumone else yet, and that its nothin personal. Hope i helped! :)

Q: Ok there is a guy a like aand he thinks I'm cute and he and his friend asked if my friend and I wanted to go swimming and we said yes. But should I change my mind? I'm scared because what I fall or trip or something.

Sincerely,
CameronLover1

Dont worry! If u have confidence, nuthin should go wrong. If anything embarrassing shud happen, then laugh about it. It'll show him that u have a good sense of humor! Just be yurself, be happy, and be confident. A little embarrassment shudnt stop u frum having a good time!(AnD getting yur crush!) Oh yea, wear a really cute bathing suite!

Q: ok, well i like this guy, and he says he likes me...but im not so sure. and i want to ask him whats going on and everything, but i dont want it to sound like im bitching at him. i just want to figure this out. so whats a good way of asking something like that without it sound like im being mean and bitching at him?

have a talk wit him, and tell him yur not so sure he feels the same way u do about u guys being together. Ask him nicely does he ReAlLy like. It wont sound bitchy at all. And tell him its ok if he doesnt like u, and that u just want him to be honest. Hope i helped! (:>

Q: All of my friends at school are always asking me who I like. I tell them I like no one, but there is this one guy thats really tall and charming, but never really smiles. He asked me to come to his 'party' but I don't know if I should. I don't know him too well to go to his house. So someone please help me!

get one of his friends, or yur friends, to go wit u. This way, u wont feel so alone. And if u dont feel rite being there, then leave. Hope i helped!

Q: my two best friends never met eachother until i introduced them .. know they r leavin me out .. nd i told them how i felt nd noe they r doing it behind my back.. give advice plz

tell them thats mad wrong for them to do that. They wudnt have even known eachother if it wasnt for u! Tell them u KnOw they've been hangin out behind yur bak, and they shudnt be doin that. Nuthins worse then friends who lie to eachother! And if they dont listen to u, they're NoT true friends. U dont need them! Hope my advice rocked!

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