so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
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So I'm on my school's newspaper staff, but it's hard to think of what students might be interested in. The thing about my school is... well, the people just lack enthusiasm. Kinda sucks, really. Anyway, I'm just looking for ideas, wondering what YOU would want to see in a high school newspaper. What kind of headline would grab your attention? I'm not necessarily looking for the story of the year, but what would you hear about that would make you say, "Oh they're running a strory/column/etc on that? Awesome, can't wait" or SOMETHING. Something you like, something that bugs you, something you'd wanna know more about (I wouldn't mind some degree of controversy, either), be it about school or teenage life or... anything. Just don't say politics, because we've been running stories on that already. We can't have gossip or advice columns either.
Other than story ideas, advice on how to get people more interested in the newspaper would be EXTREMELY helpful too. (link)
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LOVE this question, because i'm the editor-in-chief for my school paper and sometimes have this problem. though i can't straight off give you exact ideas, i can offer advice on how to get some. focus groups are good, usually informal. it might be a little weird at first, but if you just approach the different "cliques" at your school and ask what they want to hear people talking about, you can get a lot of insight; this includes ALL students, btw, not just "popular" kids or whatever. also, it may seem your school is unenthusiastic, but they ARE your audience and usually are very opinionated on certain subjects, even if they are disinterested in the pep rallies or politics, or things you may usually cover. and ask your staff, you know. chances are they aren't all the same people with the same opinions, and their ideas can draw a whole knew group to read the paper. bottom line, i (and the other columnists here)can only tell you MY interests (or theirs, whatever the case may be), but if you ask others at your school you will probably get feedback, and therefore more student-interest-oriented stories, and therefore more student interest. you may get anything from horror movies to football to fashion to politics. go with it. express your opinions in your paper, cover what's going on in your school (people LOVE to see their name in print) and ask around. good luck. hope i helped. :) tell me how your next issue goes. (sorry so long)
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So, there's this guy that I've liked for about a year or so and mostly everyone in my grade (9th) knows because of my blabber-mouthed ex-friends...
I really want to go to the dance with someone, so I would very much like to ask him.
Problem is, he's ALWAYS around his friends (the preps) and he's extremely shy. I don't think he's going out with anyone right now, however, but I don't know how to ask him without it seeming overly obvious because, as I said before, he's ALWAYS around his friends.
We're friends on myspace, but we don't usually talk a lot inside or outside of school - would it be alright to send him a message, asking him if he wants to go to the dance with me?
I'm confused and sort of sad since I asked one of my guy friends out about a week ago and he lied to me saying that he didn't have time for a girlfriend (he ended up going out with one of his other friends after I asked him...).
Sorry that this is so long, but I'm really confused right now and most of my friends already have dates to the dance.
Thanks! (link)
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have that kind of friend. if you know him well enough, start messaging him on myspace about something you know he's interested in. it'll make it easier to talk him at school. like...whoever answered before me, it is better to ask in person, but if you are having an actual conversation and not just saying "hey its me, let's go to the dance" it may be a little less weird. otherwise, i know rejection is scary, but if you really do like him, and he's decent at all, just ask, before you don't have a chance anymore. anyway, hope that helped. :)
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13/f
i want a costume that uses these striped socks/knee-highs (can be any color other than black too)
http://media.photobucket.com/image/black%20striped%20socks/dianastormo/ICONS/bwsocksies.jpg?o=6
also,i dont want to get my costume anywehre,i want to put it together. any ideas on what outfit [HALLOWEENISH] would look good with any striped socks/knee highs like those? (link)
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witch (duh, lol), but you could probably put "punk" at the beginning of any costume and make it work. Party city has cute "punk winged" costumes (graveyard fairy, etc.) that would go perfectly. also, rag-doll costumes (with red and white ones). highlighter colored ones could go pretty good with a hippie-type costume. you could be creative. i recommend party city though. it may spark some creativity. good luck. :)
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does proactive work well? tell me about it? (link)
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honestly, it seems like it only works with like mild skin (not that much acne), or you have to use it with something else. (ex. i use it and take nature's cure, too). you can try it but it may not be worth the money for you.
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Well i will start off by saying i am never this shy around girls, but I have a huge crush on this girl at my campus library, she is always there studying. (very cute) I met her last year while studying for finals. I will start from the beginning real quick. she knows i think she is cute because my friend went up to her and told her. A couple of days later we talked for about 1/2 hour after she called me over in the library. Well she told me to facebook her and i did, along with my 2 friends that secretly did it as well, and she deleted us all when she found out. I see her around now, and we have made eye contact several times, at the same time her friends look at me and smile as i walk pass. I dont know if i should say something or i should just let it go. Because after all they could be laughing at me, thinking i was a creeper or something. what do you all think i should do. i am open to anything. Also ways to start the convo would be great too... thanks a lot (link)
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sounds like she's interested but it's very possibly because she thinks you're interested. from my perspective, i like the other person (you) to start the convo, so she may be questioning if she should make some contact as much as you are. however, if she thinks your being pushy (which could be indicated by her deleting you) don't ask her out right away. try to be friends with her. she goes to your school, ask her what teachers she has...you probably have things in common. once you've talked to her for a while, then ask her to do something...i still wouldn't be so all-out date-like, i'd say ask her to a movie or football game. but if you move slow, your more likely to be friends and talk to her more, and more likely to get her to see the real you (and not just your friends) and genuinely like you back. my advice. hope that helps.
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In 8th grade i got my first period....in reading class we got to lay where ever we wanted to i layed down on the ground.My period was always so light that i barely notice.When The bell ring i got up and felt something wet and sticky on my but.....i felt it and i had blood on my fingers.....i was so terrified i had to tell my teacher(female) and she let me use her bathroom and gave me some shorts.....luckily no one noticed.....now im going into high school and my period can sometimes be heavy.I got my schedule and found out that all my classes are far away from each other and we only got 3 mins to get there. It takes me five min to go to the bathroom with my monthly.I usually go to the bathroom every other classroom....but i feel like the teachers and my classmates think i ditch class or something.....Im thinking of wearing a tampon from morning to lunch...from lunch to after school? Do u guys have any plans for me?Srry this is kinda long (link)
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first, your teahcers can't be so strict that they will reprimand you for being late to go to the restroom, nor can they keep you from going during class. they litterally CAN"T. they can get in a lot of trouble if they do. but i would say to know when you are going to get it and you can try tampons if you want, but just wear a pad on the day you'll get it. (always carry pads or tampons, btw!) you can also see how close your classes are to the restroom and so you can drop off your stuff and tell your teacher you're going to go real quick (kind of like "i'm not REALLY late"). you can also get pads that are for heavier periods but aren't muh bigger, like always nighttime ones. anyway hope that helps. i'm sure you'll be fine.
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well, teenagers are bound to have issues. whether its with suicide, drugs, alcohol, or family. and my friends have a lot of problems. as well as me.
my friends give me great advice on my issues, but the probelm with me? i SUCK at giving good advice. earlier, one of my friends was about to kill himself because he was about to be shipped off to boot camp. i tried to tell him it was gonna be fine, but of course i dont know that!!
i am really bad at making people feel better, i just make them feel worse. and then i feel worse. how am i supposed to make them feel better? i want to be a good friend, but everything i try is just useless, cliches on how to focus on the positives. we're teenagers. no one focuses on the positives until they reach midlife.
what do i do?? (link)
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just be honest about the situation. try to learn more about it. ask people who DO know a lot about it. and let them know you're always there and ways they can alk to you if they nedd you. that's the bottom line. you don't have to lie or be little miss optimism to help someone. you just have to be a friend.
as for your friend that was about to kill himself, you have to know when something is just out of your hands. I couldn't counsel someone about that and i love giving advice. you need to know when to tell someone to protect them, or to tell them to just get help.
but other than that, just go with your heart. like i said, you don't need to be a genius, you just need to be a friend.
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I'm going to college in NY and I'm from PA. Whenever I go to NY and even on campus, my service isn't as great as when I'm in PA. Other people had Verizon at orientation, but they had a different model phone and their service worked fine. I have an LG Chocolate vx8550. If I keep having problems with service when I'm at college, is there anything they can do? Also, will I be charged with roaming? Thanks! (link)
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it's ttrue about dialing *282, it is supposed to update your service. it doesn't always work though. despite this, verizon is nation-wide so it should work everywhere. there have been a lot of problems associated with the chocolate phone. they break easily and often don't work as well as other phones is my experiance as well as what i've heard. i would talk to the verizon store. but if they are not cooperative, i would just get a new one in new york and switch networks. the phone will most likely work better and be cheaper! if you have to stay on verizon because you have a family plan or something, i would choose a more reliable model like a razor or a model known to work well. anyway, hope that helps. good luck at college.
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im going to ninth grade next year and im knida happy but i cant get over the horrer stories i heared of high school and i want to know is it really bad????thanxs (link)
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high school horror stories typically come from people who (a) need a good story to tell, (b) get on a lot of peoples nerves (you would know if you did) or (c) were just seriously at the wrong place at the wrong time (rare). other than those few people, high school can really have a good impact on a lot of people. it is NOT so bad. as long as you can get to your classes on time buy mid year (which you will be able to do eventually, trust me), don't get on bad sides of the adults in control (teahcers, princapals), make an effort to meet some new people in your classes and stcik with good friends (who are going through the same kinds of thoguhts, more than likely) high school will be great. don't let the movies and "horror stories" get you down. make the best of it. :)
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i'm going up to boston next weekend and i really wanna see a red sox game. i found this website http://mlb.mlb.com/schedule/index.jsp?c_id=bos but like, i don't know where to buy tickets and when. also, is this schedule correct? and how much do tickets cost? this is my first time so i'm kinda clueless, thank youu. (link)
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here is the link to the official site schedule:
http://boston.redsox.mlb.com/schedule/index.jsp?c_id=bos
and if you get an account here:
http://www.ticketmaster.com/mlb?tm_link=tm_sports_header_r2
you can get tickets to any major league base game really. hope i helped. :)
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im going on airplane for the first time ever.are there certain restrictions of what you can bring and what ou cant. not only for your carry on but your luggage too. i tryed to google it but didnt find much help (link)
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basically, don't bring anything that security can see as a threat. this includes basically anything sharp; knives, razor baldes, they will more than likely bust you if they find a nail file. (lol. i know it sounds funny but no joke.) you also shouldn't be able to carry on any liquids that are more than 8 ounces though some airports are more lenient if you bought the liquid at the airport. but this also includes shampoo, hair gel, etc. I would just pack travel size stuff like that in your luggage. but other than stuff that can be considered a threat to the general public, they really aren't as harsh as it would seem. just as long as you are bringing the typical stuff everyone takes on vacation (and you remember to remove all metal at detectors) you should be just fine.
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At the beginning of this past year, I really got into drawing. I don't know why, but it started with random doodles and ended with some pretty good realistic and some cartoons. My dad said I have a talent, but I didn't think so. Eventually, I just ran out of inspiration and started drawing crappy again :[ I'm confused, how did I go from talent to no talent so quickly? And now I want to start drawing again, but it's so bad it's discouraging. It's like some part of me WANTS to draw, but the rest of me doesn't... how can I make myself love drawing again? I just don't know... (link)
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i think you just lost your muse, or what sanwookong called a "genius moment". you just got uninspired but it sounds like drawing is really something you love. you just need something new to inspire you. so go out and find that! :) you can get art books that can show you everything from drawing amazing realistically to different kinds of cartoons. there are just so many styles out there. or take a class. find cartoonists or artists that inspire you and try to use thier style. or make cartoons of real life situations. i don't know if anyone can tell you where specifically to find your muse, just start looking. it seems if you have thiss kind of will to do it, it shouldn't be hard to find. well...good luck with the artistic endevours. hope i helped a bit! :D
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ok i need help
i really dont know what to do
ok so my best friend b decided to talk to the guy i likes friend n. she wanted to see if she could find out anything and set up stuff to hang out. so i could hang with the guy i like. well things went really wrong. for me that is. because the girl and my best friend talked for about 2 hours and the girl was already asking her to hang and spend the night and stuff. which is ok i mean cuz my best friend would bring me too. then today the girl invited my best friend to go hang with her and the guy i like and a couple other friends. my friend didnt end up going, she couldnt. it just hurts cuz i wanted to be the one invited places. and i dont want to tell my best friend not to go hang out with this girl. but i dont know what to do. by the way, they girl is going out with the guy i likes brother and i have like the guy for 3 years. please help. i dont know what to tell my friend. i dont know what to do and i just want it all to go away. please help. (link)
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ouch. i could see how it would hurt that you wanted to be that girl. but can i tell you that the way to get to this guy isn't going through your best friend making friends with his best friend and his friends, which will eventually lead to him. if you've known the guy for three years, why not just become friends with him? that's the real way to build a reltionship. YOU need to talk to HIM, don't involve everyone else in the world. i'm sure your friend means well, but it's your relationship. you just have to take charge. as for your friend, let her hang out with this guys best friend. she has that right. and maybe you can go with them places sometimes. but that's her relationship. don't dive into these things too fast or get heartbroken over things too soon. it happens to too many girls and detroys theis spirits. just, make friends and don't take things too personally. you can get over this conflict, and you'll get over others. just talk to your friend and let everyone live thier own lives, including you. well, good luck.
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Okay Me and my bff are reallllyyy close we go everywhere together almost always think the same things and like finish each others sentences and have sooo much alike.Before we would talk the wholee day since like 12 all the way to 12 am like n total we would talk 4-6 hrs but know like we dont tak that much we talk like 20 minutes the whole day.And im always the one that has to call her for we can talk and if she calls me she calls me until like 4pm and she keeps saying shes busy and we only talk 20 minutes ten she ends up saying always i have to go..umm take bath idont know like if making it up soo are we fading away or does she want time off help!! (link)
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take this from someboday who has had a bff for 10 years. during school we spent everyday, monday thru saturday (sometimes sunday), 7:50 a.m. (when her mom took us to school) to usually around 8:30 p.m. (when one of our parents picked us up from work or classes or clubs), together, talking, laughing, and bugging eachother. not that we didn't love eachother, but when you spand 9 months like that for 10 years, you start to be more like sisters, sisters laugh AND fight AND don't ALWAYS wish to be around eachother.
moral of the story: don't take it personally if your best friend doesn't want to talk for hours and hours or makes some excuses to stop talking. she probably does just want some time to breathe and don't force her to keep talking or become too clingy. she probably just wants some time to think of herself or maybe she really IS busy and it might be kind of to muster uo the energy to do everything. take this time to do things on your own or get to know your other friends a little better. i'm sure if you were such good friends and so much alike, your friendship just won't fade away. just give your friend some space. it'll be okay, just don't worry so much. give her rookm to breather. hope that helps.
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In school im really shy and now that im starting high school i want to make some new friends but the problem is that i hate going up to people and talking to them, i feel awkward and out of place. It's like "hi" and then this long awkward silence, i get all intimidated and i don't know what to say or talk about. Can someone give me some starters on how to approach people and what to say. (link)
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i can totally realate to you here because i was painfully shy until the 8th grade and when i started high shcool i fewlt like it would start all over agian. it didn't and it only took a couple of tips...from here actually.
first of all, though it might be scarier to talk to the people who know you're shy than brand new people, you wouldn't believe how many people going with you to high school are worried about the same thing. if you sit next to someone you've known since you were 8, talk to them. nothing huge, you don't automatically have to dive into opinions and lifelong friendship, but you could just be like "hey, remember me? what's your schedule" etc.
secondly, utalize your close group of friends. there are more than likely kids that are more terrified than you, people move from other states and countries and they know less people than you. you and your friends can make friends with them.
third, don't be afraid of awkwardness with new
people. maybe you shouldn't start off with "hi." i mean, if you have algebra together, and you are totally thrown off by your teacher's expectations, you probably aren't the only one. look over to the kid next you (the oone with the same confused look) and talk to them about that! some other good ways to meet people are to join clubs oor sports, ones that you are interested in. then you already have things to talk about.
just remember, you aren't alone in the whole, new school, new poeple, new friends experience. everyone there is. just, be yourself and don't brush off people and they'll like you. but you should probably actually talk. don't worry. very few poeple look back on high school and say "i had no friends" that is much more common in middle school.you'll be fine. just be ourself!
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Coincidently, there's going to be a lot of relatives coming over this summer but most of them are coming like 3 days before my birthday and staying during it. I'm REALLY not a birthday kind of person and I'll just eat a slice of cake, that it. No parties, gifts, etc.
But as much as I tell people this frequently, I know that they'll try to pull off something. I just hate birthdays. Why would I celebrate getting older?
Is there ANYTHING I can do? (link)
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i think the only real way tp get your family to understand you really don't want to make your birthday a big deal is by explaining to them why. particularly your parents becuase in my experiance, if you don't make a big deal of your birthday and your parents don't mention anythihg, well you guys are the ones it matters most to so other relatives or friends may think twice before making a big deal.
but i gotta say, if you really don't have a reason, enjoy it! i mean, i an understand not wanting to be the center of attention, but what harm could come out of a few hugs and some gifts? plus, i'm assuming you're still young if you still live where you can't control who comes over, so celebrate the years when you ARE young. i am probably just overly motivated right now becuase today is my birthday, but just try to enjoy it. no matter what happens, it's your day.
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What are good, low calorie foods? (link)
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there are a ton of healthy choices at like any stores now. first of all the obvious would be searching recipes for fruit and veggetable snacks and stuff like that. but you can get pretty much any fav food in a 100 calorie pack now. also, there are meals from wieghtwatchers, healthy choice, stuff like that that are really great (in my opinion) and you can't even tell that they're "low cal." they also have those brands in cookies and candy and stuff for sweet lovers. he he. also, pretty much anything vegan (no animal products like meat or dairy) will cut out a lot of calories. but there are a lot of great foods that are low cal and healthy. good luck with the search for them. lol. (p.s. sorry if i went on, but everything in my house is 100 calorie or wieght watchers. again good luck :) )
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My friend (15/F) is definitely over weight. I know that nobody's perfect, and stuff. But she's at the point where it's a potential health risk! It could possibly be my fault for not helping her earlier, but I can't exactly change that now.
Her parents don't exactly help, though. Her dad makes unhealthy, meaty, casseroles almost every night. So, she isn't used to eating healthy foods. And I guess she's too oblivious to notice what she's eating.
Her parents also pressure her a lot. For example, there isn't a waking moment when her dad isn't nagging about some sort of walking. To be blunt, both of her parents are always reminding her of her obesity.
She has a short attention span, and gets annoyed by anything repetitive in the least bit. So, repeating exercises makes her walk away.
She recently bought a Jane Fonda exercise tape, which she used when she was younger to lose weight (which worked). She is convinced that only that exercise tape will work. After a month, she still hasn't received the tape (yes, I'm sure that she did order it).
My question is: how do I help her lose weight without being too pushy? Or should I just wait for the tape? But what if it takes months before she gets the tape?
Also: she will do almost anything I say, as long as it's not too harsh. So, obedience isn't an issue. She's just really impatient and ADD.
SORRY for the massive question! I tried to make it easier to read! Thank you for any answers! (link)
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ir's so awesome that you want to help your friend and you can do that without being harsh. first of all...i'm sure a tape COULD POSSIBLY help, but in my experience if your in your room with a t.v. and an excersise tape is sitting next to you, it's a lot easier to turn to mtv and forget about excersise especailly if you're not really into it. maybe the way you could really help her is through a "buddy" thing. we could all stand to be a little healthier right? tell her you want to start eatin healthier and you guys could do it together! you could choose better options for food at school or both bring a helthy lunch. this should help even if she continues eating the not-so-great dinners (though i would mention moderation with those). you could also work out together. there are excersises that you guys could do that are not repetitive. you could play sports like basketball, soccer, not formal stuff but it will help. you can also take excersise classes. stuff like dance class or martial arts can b so much fun and good for you. maybe it'll be something you two enjoy and continue with. if she is in SERIOUS danger health-wise or the parental comments get to her, she should talk to a professional. but it sounds like just your friendship can help if you stick together. :) sorry for the massive answer! good luck.
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what are some really good sites to get free sheet music of popular songs from?
THANKS! (link)
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you can google sheet music and a ton of sites will pop up but there are sheetmusicplus.com and freesheetmusic.net which my friend has ordered from. also there's always amazon and for digital downloads and stuff (not real sheet music) there's musicnotes.com. hope that helps.
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16/f I'm a writer it's what I do it's who I am. I've been so sick of reading the cliche teen books out there and I want another opinion. Recently there has been this idea in my head for a story after I threw away this novel that I bought and realized it was just like every other girl-meets-boys-falls-in-love-and-defies-all-odds/saves the world. I would like to ask anyone who would help me out: What is something that you've been rolling your eyes about and wish would change in the current teen stories that you see on about 20 bookshelves at Borders. I want to break the mold and if I have to ask every teenager out there what they want, I will.
Thanks,
Quincy (link)
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first of all i admire that you're a writer that's awesome, so am i. but i just wish some young adult authors would mix it up a bit. every other book on the shelves at Borders is about either an outcast or a prep school/ boarding school student, with the same typical "cliques" and the end being a guy and a girl realizing how perfect they are for eachother. i mean, seriously those aren't the only poeple in the world to model characters after and that isn't the only basis of a story. and if it is, there could be twists and turns to make things a bit more intersting. i mean, don't get me wrong, that's a great story! but when you read it a dozen times it gets old. why don't you ask around and find out what's up with peoples' lives, what is going on ohter than falling in love and what people can relate to. don't write anything that you aren't inspired to, but maybe you'll find a muse! I just want to read something different, real, and interesting. good luck with the novel.
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