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I'm a girl, almost 13 and I need some opinions on this. So, I have a crush @ school. He drops lots of hints, bombs as I like to call them. Just today he did all of these things!
His shoulder brushes up against mine A LOT (I don't mind because I like it and I do it right back to him. I guess that's our way of flirting.) He's warm, by the way.
He wants to hug me all the time.
He tries to make me jealous (and it works) by hugging other girls then peeks at me to check if I saw, (I always do)
He raises his voice when he says something funny to his friends and then looks at me to see if I laughed. (I always do)
He goes out of his way to talk to me (I gladly talk to him)
He stares at me in class, but when I catch him, he looks away immediately.
Other kids in my school are always asking me if we are a couple, like every day. I just say I don't know because I really don't know.
Are these all signs of him liking me back? (WOW! I feel so stupid, I mean duh, right? But I still want to hear your opinions.
Thank you everyone who answers!
hahah thats soo cute :)
i'm almost positive he has a thing for you :) if he didnt, why would he try so hard?
just keep flirting back and ask him to hang out one day? if he wants go see a movie or go out to dinner. maybe even just come home and chill one day and play video games or anything that will interest you both. guys love it when girls make the first move. it lets them know that you're not scared and that you're confident.
most importantly, just be yourself :)
good luck!!
so, i had a boyfriend of a year. we broke up in december 09. i went out with someone else immediately and when we broke up, he was interested in someone else.
basically, we began to be on separate teams. we hated each other. we started rumors, and his new girlfriend absolutely hated me. we would say shit out loud in the hallways at school. it was bad and literally a war. some adults got involved.
in july, it was his birthday. i said happy birthday and he told me off.
in august, we hung out with a group. he seemed fine & we talked okay. he hugged me hello & goodbye. i havent talked to him since, because he goes to a boarding school now.
then on oct 30, mischief night, we all hung out in the same group again when he came back to our town from his school. we didnt even acknowledge each other's existence, but that could be because he was with his own friend.
it's november now, and i feel like we still havent gotten closure. i think about him every day and i still love him because of who he was to me. i'm tired of comparing other guys to him. could it be that i need closure? should i try to talk to him? i have a 50/50 chance of him replying like a normal person, or just telling me off again. im so scared because i dont want to know he doesnt care about me anymore if that's true.
should i talk to him? its been months since we have, about 8 months. i feel as if the timing might be wrong, or maybe its just right. i dont know. advice? what do you think i should do?
i believe that everybody deserves a second chance. its been 8 months.. life changes, people change. i know this because i experienced it. maybe he has changed. you probably have changed too. the only thing you need to realize is that it is a risk... are you willing to take the risk though? here's a quote-
“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
you can take the risk and have the fear of being rejected.. or you can not take the risk but then risk losing him. its your call.
my personal opinion (if i were you) i would talk to him again. just talk. dont get too caught up and start flirting immediately. just causal talk. see how it goes. if it seems cold and negative, then its probably not meant to be. but if things change and you guys hit it off pretty well.. it might be fate. hang out and go on dates. just have fun. dont be so serious :) life is about having fun and taking risks. dont forget that. you're only young once!!
inbox me if you need more help
Is this abuse. I have been wanting to go back to school (college) since my husband and I started dating. He told me I dont need to go to school I need to work. Friday, I called the college and talked to someone about signing up for online school, one class at a time and work. Well when we all went to town he said where to I said walmart and I need to go by the college and he gave me a look and said for i said to pick up papers to sign up for school and he keep asking me why. I said because I want to. Well after walmart and he did his errons he went home and didnt even start to head towards the college. Hes constantly yelling at my 3 year old. ( his step son) My father says im being abused emotionally. I love him even though there is constant conflict mostly because he wont look or keep a job.I think im scared to leave.
well he is pretty much controlling you... i would call it abuse. abuse comes in many different ways. physical and emotional. he is basically telling you that you cant go to school and that you have to work and he's yelling at your son..
my opinon is that you are scared to leave. but look at it this way, wouldn't you rather be happy knowing that he's not controlling you and that you are in control of your own life??
i'm a HUGE feminist. i believe women have rights and we shouldn't be treated like this. we aren't a computer. if guys want to control us, they might as well buy a robot, put a wig on it and name it... we are not robots. we are women with rights and we don't deserve this.
stand up for yourself. yes it will be hard. but if i were you, i would be fed up with this and i would shove it all in his face and say "you know what? you aren't the boss of me. you can't control me and i'm not giving up on my life just because you say so. who says i have to listen to you? i'm leaving." have the courage and stand up for yourself and for your son. he doesn't deserve this either. what did he do wrong? he's just being his normal 3 year old self.. yet he has to put up with your husbands abuse everyday?? thats not fair for him..
do it for yourself and for your son. neither of you deserve to be unhappy. you are the only person in charge of your life. no matter how far you go down the wrong road, you can always turn back around :)
good luck. inbox me if you need more help!
I'm a 23 year old male. I don’t know whether what I feel now is real or just me trying to make it real. I have this void inside me, where deep down I honestly don’t feel anything for anyone. I can say that I love my dad, my sisters, but when I look inside to see that love I find nothing.
I had a pretty crappy childhood, although I remember good times, me and my sisters were also abused. My father had a mental breakdown when I was 10 or so, and for years did nothing but lie on his bed and cry. My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me two days ago. I feel hurt, but not as much as I should. I’ve shed three tears, but that’s all. The only emotion I can distinctly feel is rage and anger.
I find myself not wanting to socialise with people (the reason why my girlfriend broke up with me). In a perfect world I would stay in a small apartment by myself, and never have to talk to anyone again. I find myself going through the motions with people, laugh when I’m supposed to, and say the right thing at the right time. I just feel numb. So much of my time is spent thinking about this, whether something’s wrong with me.
I look to the future, and I don’t see anything. I have no desire to do anything with my life, no drive. I don’t see any point in continuing to live when I don’t see anything to live for; it’s a view that is emotion-free, based wholly on what I feel is logical. I know that killing myself is selfish, as it will hurt those around me. I don’t want to hurt those who love me, but once again I can’t help but feel that that’s just me trying to project a feeling, rather than it being genuine. I’m not considering it as an option, as I know the damage it would do those around me, but I feel no sadness when I think about it, it seems to me to be a cold, rational decision. I don’t know whether this is just depression or is just the way I am. I guess my question is whether or not this is normal for some people? (sorry for the wall of text)
"To be or not to be; that is the question. whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer" i'm 18 and studying hamlet-shakespeare right now and we are learning about the mind and how it psychologically works. my teacher said that there's a part in our mind that is called the Id (pronounced as 1 word, not I.D). the id is the unconscious part of our brain. it contains secret desires, wishes, and fears.
you have a secret desire but you just dont know it yet. yeah i do believe you are depressed because when my ex and i used to date, he was really depressed and he broke up with me for no reason at all and he just completely went into a hole and stayed there. he was and still is very unsocial and cold towards people. i dont know why but i still cant stop caring about him. sometimes i try to comfort him and make him feel better and let him know i'm there for him but just his actions and words make him seem so unbearable. so yes, i have experienced people who are depressed/suicidal and by reading your question, it does seem like you are depressed.
like i already said, you are meant for something on this planet. everybody is here for a reason. whether if they are the next big actor or singer or scientist or firefighter. everyone has a purpose in life. please dont think you have nothing special in your life and that its not worth living.. you do have something worth living for, you just havent found it yet.
i know this may sound really cheesy and maybe its a bad idea since you are a 23 year old male.. but i recommend watching the movie Eat Pray Love. (or read the book if you want). I saw it with my mom and that movie has totally inspired me to become a whole new person. the movie is about this woman who divorces her husband and then lives in India and Italy for like 2 years and has a complete different outlook on life. its very simliar to your situation. she was unhappy with her life and then realized what she wanted in life was to get away from her life.
maybe thats what you need.. have you ever thought about that? just get away from life. go somewhere completely different and just explore. you might come up with a list of reasons why you cant do something like that like financial issues or other reasons. but you should consider it.
also, try talking to a professional counselor. therapist or something. i'm not saying you need help, i'm just saying it would be helpful for you if you wanted to get more professional advice on what to do. instead of taking some from a teenager haha.
and one last thing. i really recommend this. i tried it once and it helps me a lot. make a huge list of everything you have always wanted to do. it could be anything from skydiving to seeing africa to swimming with dolphins to eating chocolate to baking a cake or whatever. it could be anything. just make a huge long list of everything you've always wanted to do and set goals for yourself. set goals to accomplish one of those things on the list at least once a week or something.
and one more thing.. have you ever seen The Buried Life on MTV? i watch it and it inspires me to be like the guys on that show. its basically about a group of guys that make a list of things they want to do before they die and each episode is them trying to cross it off their list. some of their episodes were- Playing basketball with obama, compete in a krumping contest, scream at the top of your lungs, make a toast at a strangers wedding, get a lock of Robert Pattinsons hair, go streaking in public and get away with it.
i wish you well and inbox me if you need any more help :) i'm always here.
Ok so Im dating this guy he likes to drink in gamble and he can be sweet but i dont no if i can trust him. also my dad dont like him.I been hanging with my guy friend and he is amazing n im starting to really like him he dont drink or do anything he dont even smoke and i can be my self around him and the good thing is my dad really likes him.my dads opinion is really important to me btw..but my boyfriend is texting my bestfriend and flirting with her he swears he's not but it is flirting and we barly talk which is messed up so i broke up with him and he is flipping out cause he said my find is just jealous and i dont thnk so cause we been friends for 8 years and i only no my bf for 6 months so my question is should i forgive my boyfriend and quit hanging with the guy im starting to really like or should i stay broke up with my guy and stay out of the drama in givee his new guy a chance??
ok i'm sorry but first of all, learn proper english grammar. its know. not no. and its- he doesn't drink. not- he don't drink.
sorry but it really gets on my nerves when people don't learn proper grammar. ha ha sorry again, don't take it personally I do it with my friends a lot.
anyways, i think you should forget about your ex boyfriend. he isn't good for you. if he drinks and gambles and flirts with other girls (especially your close friend) then he's not a good guy to be hanging out with. I say go for that other guy :) you seem to really like him and it seems like you want to risk it but aren't sure. i say- take the chance! life is all about taking risks. without taking risks, we aren't really living life to our fullest potential. test him out and explore the different types of guys there are.
who knows, he could be the one!
PS: parents opinons really do matter. i learned that the hard way.
Welll junior prom is coming up soon and im going with my boyfriend but the problem is were the SAME height and i dont wannt to be taller than him at prom :( but i HAVE to wear heals what do i do?! (i look really gay in ballet flats)
simple- make your boyfriend wear heels too :)
that way you'll both be the same height!
alright i know this is asked so many times, but this is a little bit of a different situation. For christmas my boyfriend and I are going to florida with my family. so i need some ideas for his christmas present, but we're going to be there for our 1 year anniversary as well, which is the 30th. i'm trying to think of things we could do in florida, or maybe something i could get him for florida...or just ideas in general. He is 21 years old and lives in a house with 2 other guys...they all play football for our college. they're all really into working out..of course, but he really doesn't have a favorite football team or anything like that....he's said he wants an xbox, but one of his roommates has one that he always uses, so i don't really want to get that....any ideas?
hmm well 1 year is a big deal :) and its christmas too. so make him something memorable. this year i'm making my boyfriend a blanket. go to a fabric store and buy some fabric (fleece on 1 side and then fuzzy type fabric on the other=SOOO COMFY) and you cut little slits on the edges of both (make sure they match) and tie the 2 together. i would get 2.5 yards or 3 yards. trust me its really nice and cozy and you both can snuggle up in it and relax.
a few more ideas are
-pillow
-personalized coffee mug or picture frame or necklace
-scarf
-CD
-make him a slideshow/poster of pictures of you 2
-get him something he's been talking about or looks forward to (like a concert, movie, autograph of a celebrity etc.)
-try getting a shout out on the radio or tv about him. like call a popular radio station and ask if you can make a shout out and then have your bf listen at to it.
-write him a poem or song and sing it to him (even if you arent good at singing, he will still love it)
-make him get all dressed up and blindfold him and take him out somewhere romantic for a surprise like a lake and have a picnic or a fancy restaurant or a boat ride or a festival.
-i did this last year to my ex. wake up earlier than him and "kidnap" him and take him out to breakfast in his pajamas and take lots of embarrassing pics and videos lol :)
just be creative. keep your eyes open. look at anything that might give you ideas like tv commericals or shows, malls, magazines, everyday life.
also my advice to you is get/make him something memorable.. not just an xbox. 10 years from now you'll want him to remember where he got it from. so make it unique :)
I don't think I can stand going to school tomorrow because our school does a HUGE thing for grandparents day and my grandparents all just resently died. It's very sensitive to me. Is there a way I cancer sick overnight?? Or within lie 3 hours!?? So I don't have to stand it.
:'( i'm so sorry!!
but you're not the only one. i'm sure there are at least a few other kids in your school with passed away grandparents. i know its hard but just hold your head high. the school thing isnt to embarass you or grandparents.. its to appreciate them. yes it is sad for you, but be proud knowing that your grandparents were amazing and be proud that you're their grandchild.
if you really dont want to go to school tomorrow, ask your parents and talk to them about it. i'm sure they will understand. its only 1 day. how hard can it be to catch up on a few notes or quizzes? just talk to your parents and tell them that you really dont want to be reminded of your loss and that you would feel much better if you were at home that day.
and no, you shouldn't wish for cancer.. one of my best friends got cancer this summer and we used to be really good friends and now i barely get to see him.. so you shouldn't wish for cancer. it is a horrible thing :(
hello im 19 and last night during the middle of the night i woke up with terrible like knee pain. its hard to describe. i was sleeping on my side and my knees were bent a little. i went to straighten my legs out and it hurt sooo bad! the only thing i can compare it to is if you lay on your arm in the middle of the night and you wake up and its hard to move cuz the circulation was cut off.. it was like that but 10 times worse! it has never happened before and it kind of scared me. i dont have any leg or knee problems. does anybody know what this could have been from or if you can cut circulation off in your legs by laying on your side? i always sleep like this and like i said it has never happened before. thanks for your help!
yeah it could be a cramp, or just some bones or muscles that were in an uncomfortable place. its like twisting your neck and leaving it like that for a few minutes. after a while it starts to hurt because its not a natural position. your knee could have been twisted while you were sleeping and it could have been awkward and uncomfortable. or it could just be the bones. its like extending your elbow and you hear that crack.
honestly, i wouldn't worry about it. if it hurts again, try taking advil or ibuprofen. if it happens frequently, go to the doctor and get it checked out.
This week i was informed that i have been selected to go to France and study frence with a honors program. It is an opertunity of a life time. The problem is that my brother is getting married at the time i would be in France. So should i go to my brothers wedding and miss out or go to France and miss hiw wedding?
this is just my opinon, but i would go to your brothers wedding. try switching the situation around. what if you were going to get married and your brother might go to france? wouldn't you want him to come to the wedding? instead of france? i bet it would mean the world to him :) you have the opportunity to go to france for the rest of your life.. but how many times is your brother going to get married?? not that many i'm assuming. what if you do go to france and then you come back and everybody is talking about how amazing the wedding was? wouldn't you feel left out and bad that you missed it?
good luck! :)
This is a long story so ill keep it shor as posible.I am a father of a 13 year old daughter who I haven't seen since she was 3years old .not by my choice but by my ex my daughters mother .she always manages to get a restraining order on me because she's afraid that I would take off with my daughter and never come back .witch I would never do .but she's dong it to me so to speaak and there is nothing I can do.I don't have $20.000 up front to retain a lawer .I even work 2 jobs and stil don't have that kind of money .but you see I don't even know my daughter I was deprived of her for 10 years . Do think about her all the tme but that doesn't bring her to me .someone told me about fathers for equal rights .what a joke .so what do I do .anything????
i wish i could be more of a help.. but i'm not really experienced when it comes to lawyers and getting custody etc.
my only advice is to really talk to your daughters mom. set aside a time (more than 20 minutes) and actually talk it through. it seems to me like she made the decision on her own and didnt consider your thoughts. ask her if you 2 can talk about it and resolve it. tell her you need to say something and want to work it out. ask her what happened? and why did she decide to make the decision? (i know you told us the reason but ask her, just in case she changes her mind) basically, just have a long talk with her about it and vent to her about your feelings. every father/mother deserves to spend time with their children. even if it is partial custody. it's better than nothing...
if that still doesnt work, i dont really know what to say. i'm not sure if you are allowed to do this, but try going to a law firm and asking for help. yes it does cost money, but perhaps if you ask someone who works there for a loan or pay back in installments. maybe ask if you can get an assistant to help rather than a professional lawyer. by assistant i mean, a law grad student or someone who is practicing law but not yet a professional. if this still doesnt work, try going to your bank or any bank and asking for a loan of money. tell them its for a worthy cause, to get custody of your child whom you havent seen for 10 years. maybe they will be nice enough to loan you the money. try selling things you have that dont have much important? like a gold watch or something? i'm not really sure but its worth a shot..
good luck :)
19/f. i know this will sound stupid, but hear me out: so there's this guy in my class, that i like. We tease each other. Like one day i turned around and said those sunglasses look like something my mother would wear. then when i got up and left he was still smiling. The next time the class met I came in late and he told me Your Late. and i turned around and said umm thanks mom. it was funny and he thought i was calling him stupid but later on facebook chat i told him i think he's pretty smart. lol so i mean idk i mean he does talk to me outside of class. like on other days. and on Wednesday in class he looked up and smiled at me and i looked at him and smiled and he looked down. haha so i am not sure if he likes me. i mean does he?
most likely :)
but then again he could just be a really nice guy. test him out and ask him to hang out one day. get coffee. or go to a restaurant. or movie. just a casual date and hang out and have fun. if he seems to be having a lot of fun and smiles a lot and you 2 are enjoying it, then he's probably interested. try telling him a story and see if he's engaged in it. if he seems to back off and let you talk and say "thats cool" at the end.. then he's probably not very interested in what you have to say. but if he's engaged in the convo and asks questions and seems interested, then he's most likely intrigued by you.
good luck :)
how can you tell if a guy likes you by body language?
if he is leaning away from you or takes a few steps back, that means he's uncomfortable being that close to you. if he leans in to talk to you (like whispering in ear) that means he's drawn to you. if his arms are crossed or hands on hips, that means he's tense and probably impatient. if his hands are just at his sides then that means he's relaxed around you. if he stares at you a long time then he probably cant stop looking at you or thinking about you (or you have something stuck in your teeth). if he avoids eye contact, he's shy or probably is disinterested. if his weight is shifted to the side/leaning on 1 leg, then i guess that could mean that he's impatient. if his weight on his legs is centered (standing straight up) it means that he's relaxed again and comfortable.
19/f. Hey so I've posted a few questions regarding my health like my weight and being tired all the time. So every night i take remeron before bed like my psychiatrist suggested. well even after a night of sleep i still feel tired. She prescribed me remeron for weight gain. But even before the remeron i was tired a lot, but now i am even more tired and i can barely stay awake in class. so what should i do? also right now i have huge headache. i am going to the doctor's on Thursday. I talked to him and he said it's probably the medicine. but i forgot to mention to him that even before i was sleepy all the time. What should i do?
it could just be your diet/lifestyle..
do you drink 8 glasses of water per day? thats the recommended amount. carry around a waterbottle with you and fill it up frequently and make sure you drink enough water/stay hydrated. you can tell if youre dehydrated if your pee is yellow. if it is clear (maybe a tint of yellow), then that means you're healthy.
also, are you eating enough vitamins and minerals? take Vitamin C 2 times a day. I take Emergen-C (you just pour it in with water and it dissolves and tastes like orange juice) or you can take AirBourne (chewable vitamin c tablet). those really help your immune system and make you stay healthy. protein is also good for you, drink up some protein shakes or even just eat steak or something. stay away from junk food (but some is okay for you) just not too much. eat lots of fruit :) if you're in the mood for a snack, instead of eating popcorn, try a bowl of raspberries or oranges.
EXERCISE!!! i cant stress that enough. you probably are thinking that you can barely stay awake in class, so how are you supposed to go work out? well truth is, if you work out (even if its just light exercise like jogging) it gets the blood flowing and boosts your energy. if you're not into sports or going to the gym to work out, try aerobic exercises or even yoga helps too. jump roping, swimming, running are probably the best type because they work a lot of muscles.
as for sleep, try getting the right amount. you're 19 so about 8-9 hours is plenty for you. on the weekends, try not to sleep in too long. keep your daily routine. if you feel yourself getting sleepy, take a nap. 20 minutes only though. too little wont have any effect on you. too much will make you feel even more tired. theories say 20 minutes is perfect amount for a nap and helps you get reenergized.
try having a healthier lifestyle and if this still doesnt work, talk to your doctor again. it could be mononucleosis. i had it once and basically its the enlargement of your spleen. it tends to make people very tired and lazy. so ask your docotor if you have it or not. they can tell by just taking a blood sample i think.
good luck :)
Why is it that I have such a hard time making friends? I try to be friends with people but it never works or they lose interest. is it because my personality is so boring? I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I'd love to get advice from someone who knows how to help. I just don't get why I have such a hard time...
dont lie. i know that sounds so cliche but a lot of people feel like if they lie about their lives, they can be more interesting and make friends.
honestly, just be yourself and people will come to you. dont worry about it :)
just do the things you love and next thing you know you'll meet someone who likes the same stuff you do and you'll be friends:)
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months. i love him uncoditionally and i never want to lose him,but rumors are going arounf that hes cheating on me. He keeps denying them and i want to believe him, but i have really bad trust issues and im scared to trust him because what if he is cheating, then im gonna feel like crap. but i dont want him to leave because he feels ill never trust him. what do i do????? im 14 and so is he.
well you have to trust your heart for 1 thing...
in situations like this- it is best to trust your instincts.
if you really think he might be lying, trust your instinct and end it. but if you honestly feel like the rumors aren't true, then give him a chance
its really what you feel is best..
good luck :)
how do you deal with parents who ever seem to listen to you
story of my life..
you just have to talk to them one day and sit them down and say you have something serious to talk to them about. if possible, have an actual serious topic.. like you have issues with bullys, or you need advice on something serious like relationships or friendships.
if you do have a topic in mind to talk about, you have to be completely serious about it. no joking around. after you're discussion on that topic, let them know how good it feels that you can talk to them about anything. say something like- "thanks for being here for me. i love that i can talk to you about anything. thanks for listening to me"
if you compliment them on those kinds of things, they will realize how important it is to you.
however, if you dont have a topic in mind, then talk to them seriously and let them know it bothers you that they dont listen. just talk to them from your heart. tell them whats bothering you and that you wish they could listen to what you have to say.
DONT FORGET- celebrate success. if they finally listen to you, you have to celebrate. in other words, tell them how much it means to you that they listen to you and smile and hug them and tell them you love them :)
So ive been dating this guy for the past 3 months we work together,so i see him on the weekends when we both work.I commute to college, he lives on campus both of us go to different schools, hsi is 20 minutes away.Well I finally asked him what we were because i was confused and i didnt see him this past weekend,so i texted him it and he says well i would say were just getting with each other i dont want to mess it up with me being in school but ill let you know if things change i said oh so do you want me to get with other guys? and he said right now i wouldnt like it but i wont hod it against you if you do i said i feel the same way and he said alright glad were on the same page. The messed up part kinda bothers me like so your away at school if we were together you wouldve cheated on me so were just gonna have a open relationship..? i asked me friends both guys and girls my guy friends said hes committed to me but dosent want to do all the boyfriend stuff and i said yeah if he dosent like me getting with other people then why wouldnt we just go out? and my friend said i know, hes being selfish like he could get with other girls but i cant ya know..? and he said that hes in control it seems cause hes the one away at school my girl friends said its not really bad because this eventually ends up being a relationship usually ... but truth is its bothering me now and i get attached to guys really easily i dont want to get hurt, Im always in these situations i never end up having a relationship i get screwed over all the time, but i really like him. And he acts like he lives so far away he lives 20 minutes away..i only see him once a week or every two weeks when he comes home plus the weekends when we work together. I mean he acts like my boyfriend, he comes over my house and talks to my parents he seems like he cares about me and he gets jealous when other gus talk to me you know? And when we work on the weekends i ask him what hes doing and he says (whatever hes doing) but i dont feel like it do you want to hang out? its not all the time but its quite a few times like im the second choice and im convenient..But it sucks cause i really like him so im thinking maybe he will make up his mind and ask me to be his girlfriend but i dont know how long that will take if ever, and the longer it is the more i get hurt....but winter vacation is a month and its in a few weeks so maybe something will happen cause he will be home? Should i confront him? i dont want it to seem like im giving him an ultimatium either pick me or get wit other girls you know? what should i do? what would you do? sorry if i was rambaling i didnt want to leave anything out lol thank you!
in my personal opinion, i would give him an ultimatum. you just said that you didnt want to get hurt because it seems like you're always getting hurt by guys.. well if you're stuck in this so-called "relationship" id guarantee you that you're gonna end up being hurt.
its best to just clarify things with him. ask him "what are we?" or "what do i call you? my boyfriend? my friend?"
to me it just seems way easier to talk about things and either choose- relationship or no relationship. if its in between, (to me) it just seems really messy and confusing and chances are someone will get hurt. it just seems easier if you give him an ultimatum.
i also feel like he might not be right for you. now dont mistake me. i'm not telling you to break up with him or anything.. i'm just giving you my opinion, which is i dont think he's right for you. if he is questioning your relationship right now and saying "you can get with other guys but i wont feel good about it" then that pretty much means that he's not looking for something serious (which you made it seem like you are looking for something a little more serious, considering you've gotten hurt in the past and dont want to get hurt anymore)
i'm not sure what to think about this "selfish" issue (whether he is selfish or not) but to me it just seems like he into you but not that serious about it.. you need to decide what you want. do you want a serious relationship with an actual boyfriend? or do you want a not-so-serious relationship and just have a good guy to hook up with and act like a boyfriend?
your call.
ok, i have two dogs, one is a puppy & she is 6 months old. i have another that is 3 years old. they still haven't played together yet.. can a dog trainer help me? i really hate to spend the money on one, if they aren't going to do much, or what they do is something that i could have simply done. especially since its like 100 dollars per 1 hour session :/ my vet told me to wait a few months, because the puppy is very small (3 pounds) and the other dog is 14 pounds. but everyone who has more then two dogs, is saying just to let them play. but i don't think my older one is very well socialized, and sometimes she looks like she wants to play with the little one, but then growls and jumps up on the couch like she is scared of her. what should i do. :(
try buying a toy or 2 and playing fetch with them? in my neighborhood we dont have many dogs, so my dog is often lonely. but the people across the street just moved in and they have a dog and they come over and play fetch with our 2 dogs and they get along fine :)
hey, ok so i have like two problems. well i like this guy a lot and he's a FLIRT and he said a few days ago he liked my friend. But he asked me to kiss him numerous times? It just didn't really make sense to me. I don't know what to do. My second problem is I used to be like best friends with this girl and we're not anymore but we are friends still. it just sucks because she's the one i always went to my problems for. And we like NEVER hang out anymore. It sucks a lot. Any advice for me? ahaha(:
my advice to you is to stay away from this boy. if this is what he's acting like right now.. who knows how girl crazy he will be if he's in a relationship. i wouldnt trust him too much because it sounds like he doesnt really know what he wants (considering he's flirting with a bunch of girls) most times when guys flirt a lot, its because they feel good about themselves if a girl likes it, so it boosts their self esteem and they do it more to make themselves feel better and better. its like buying a pair of shoes and everyone tells you they look great, and you just want to keep buying more and more because you know they look good on you.
as for your girl friend, its too bad things didnt work out between you guys. but its not too late! its never too late to make up :) just talk with her and hang out with her. ask her if she wants to sleepover and bond together. have makeovers, watch movies, go shopping. just hang out and then ask her what happened between you guys? ask her why does she think you guys started to fade? then let her know how much she means to you and that you dont want the friendship to fade.
chances are that she probably doesnt know that you guys are distancing. she could be very clueless. so its your duty to let her know how you're feeling and remind her that you're there for her no matter what.
if for any reason, she takes it offensive or gets angry.. its not youre fault whatsoever. all you did was try to fix things between you 2. if she does get mad, let her cool off. dont try to yell back or make your point. it will most likely end in a fight and you could lose the friendship completely. my rule is- allow a 24 hour cool off if you have a fight. then talk to her after 24 hours passes. if she still is angry, she's not worth it then. you can find another friend who will TREAT you with RESPECT :)
i wish you well:)