How do i make a guy jealous, and or to want me more?
I know this sounds ridiculous, i get it. it's much more complicated and isn't necessary to explain. My guy friend keeps playing mind games with me, and i would like to return the favor so i need to know how to make him more interested, and jealous. He used to like me, but he stopped because nothing happened, (i never knew he liked me) and i want him to like me again because i like him. but he's starting to like another girl and i dont want that.
17/f
Hey,
I think the best thing would just be to not be openly jealous about the other girl. Or any girl for that matter-never bitch in front of him.
Also don't talk too much or he'll think you're easy.
To make him want you he has to feel like he needs you. So if you text or talk face to face, always cut off abit early, so he wants more.
Whatever you do don't make it look like you really want him, else he'll think you can't be independant and this is a turn off.
Good luck :)
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I have a weird looking bubble on one of my toes, its kinda squishy and its huge! Should I pop it? what is in it causing it to be so squishy? Any advice will be appreciated :)
I have had this before.
If you pop it then it'll minimise discomforte.
I think its because your feet have rubbed when a sock/shoe has been wet.
Basically its a water blister. When you pop it residue water with drain out. Sounds gross but yeh get it over and done with :)
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Hello, I read all your pain (and good advice) and I agree. I am a coward, scum and will hurt people who love me and I don't want to. But I can't live any more, I have tried to slice my wrists and it hurts and I was stopped by my partner, now he hides the pills, none of my knives are sharp enough and I don't have a car. I have tried to learn how to tie a noose but none of my beams are strong enough. I know the universe is telling me not to do it, as the only thing left is to throw myself on the train tracks, yes it is a guaranteed way to die, quickly, I don't know about painlessly, but I can't affect another soul with my pain- it's bad enough my son will suffer, briefly, but my partner will quickly erase my memory. He really hates me, but won't let me leave. I am studying Psychology as I am fascinated by what makes people 'tick'. And this man I can't figure out, or leave. I have stopped suicide before because I love my son so much, he is my life and light in a dark sky, but he deserves a better life than a crazy, psychotic mother and a screaming father. I used to be happy and find joy in all things once upon a time and I know if I could leave and still be with my son, I could have a chance for happiness. But if I leave I will never see him again as his Dad is determined to have him and hurt me (I don't even think he is thinking of what is best for my son). My family and friends are sick of the drama and have told me to sort my life out, I can't keep going, coming back only to leave again. I honestly don't think they would help anymore as I have only been back 4 days and they begged me not to return, that nothing would change, that I should get my son and get out...but I had to come back for my son, or he was going to VIC, I live in QLD, and I knew I would never see him again. I had a job, and friends and was starting to really do well in my studies and the black dog of my relationship got in the way- and I gave up everything to be with my son. Unfortunately that means being with a man that resents and hates me, and that has eaten away at my soul. He is turning my 3 year old against me, my son says things like, "stop talking to Daddy, Mummy, he doesn't love you", or " Go home, Mummy you don't live here and we don't want you". I stayed at home to raise him and educate him and love him and give him every thing, but now he like every one else, doesn't want me around. So I have decided to die. I can't just run away, being away from my son, having him growing thinking I didn't love him, would be more painful than my daily life- I couldn't bear it, it's better this way. I won't bother his or his Dad's life any more and my friends and family won't have to deal with my drama. I will make sure no-one finds my body, so as not to cause undue truama- HAVE EVEN THOUGHT OF FRAMING PARTNER, BUT THEN MY SON WILL HAVE NO ONE.- I am so fucked up, so psychologically stressed, exhausted and in pain. So what is the least painful way to die, no mess or stress for anyone? I have heard good things about poison, does anyone know about this? I don't know how much help you can be, because I have decided I am doing it this week, while he is out with my son. I believe in reincarnation and I know I will come straight back to learn all these crappy life lessons again, this time I will not let love guide me- it is all a bunch of bullshit lies-love is not every thing or important, it's just another system of control.
Let me just say this.
You can't seriously expect people to answer this question?
You've obviously poured your heart out but I can tell you now that you're not considering it too seriously else you wouldn't have gone to the trouble of writing all of the above out, you'd have done it straight away.
Have you tried to get in touch with people like the samaritions about your obvious low mood? Visit a doctor not the gates of heaven first.
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I want to know how to get over my suzlicidal thoughts? I wish all my problems would go away. And I'm 13
Hey,
The thing is you're a teenager. Teenagers are all very vulnerable in terms of emotions and hormones flying round and things. The main thing to remeber: this period of feeling really down wont last to long.
You need to be confident. To me confidence=happiness and so less depressive thoughts. Find something your good at, concerntrate on a career goal, go out wiht friends.
Find what makes you happy and do them all the time.
Also just think about this. There are many other people out there in a worse situation than you. Without knowing anything about you, for a start you have access to the intenet else you wouldn't be on this site. So surf the internet and visit teen websites. Theres help out there!!
Finally, if ever you think life is just unbearable tehn smile in the mirror. For at least 30 seconds. Smiling increases happy hormones-seretonin and makes you feel better already. Exercising helps to.
Don't worry, these depressive thought mostly end themselves with the teenage years. Stick it out :)
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So, I'm 16, going on 17 this year. I'm a Junior. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I have failed with many. But this, I've never felt this horrible. I recently got rid of some personal problems and started to feel motivated and powerful, after being depressed for a while. So I started talking to this girl I like, who recently broke up with someone. She clearly knew that I really liked her, even the teachers could tell. So yesterday me and a good friend of mine took her out to eat. I skipped for the first time, and was the only one skipping. We all spoke about random things and personal stuff. It was a good day. Then today she tells me she likes HIM. She asked if it was weird, I said no. Then she told him right in front of me. I had to hold everything in until class was over. My friend is kinda stuck, he keeps saying sorry to me and I just tell him to take advantage of the opportunity. I've never felt like this before. I probably came off as selfish, desperate, close-minded, cocky, and weird. Now just seeing her is going to be torture. What should I do? Has this happened to anyone?
Hey,
Yeh this kind of happened to me with an ex who had me convinced he wanted to go out with me again and then dropped the bombshell that he's interested in another girl.
And yeh,it makes you feel crushed.
Okay, so the best thing to do is to think about it this way. You're in an advantagous position right now. You have new found confidence.
With a situation like this you can either let go (like I did) or cling on. Let me tell you, its so much more attractive to let go of this girl, show a confident front, show her your almost too good for her anyways and move on. If you see her, don't make it awkward. Talk to her, but only as friends. This will make you look mature to potential other dates.
The thing is, crushes come and go, so its best to try to move on from this one, because otherwise you'll build a fantasy image of what this girl is like and torment yourself as you can't be with her.
Respect your friends desision, put on a confident, you dont bother me front and the girl of your dreams will come to you. Good luck :)
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I really like this guy. He is nice to me most of the time, but sometimes he's mean to me and makes fun of me. I want to move on from him, but I can't. I want to love someone who treats me great and doesn't be mean to me.
How do I move on?
P.S. I know it's not technically "moving on" because we never dated, but just take my word for it.
P.P.S. I also really like this other guy.
Hey,
Firstly I agree with the below answer-don't move on to another relationship untill you've got over this guy first.
On the bright side-you have already done half the work by realising you can do better, and wanting to move on.
What I did was I wrote a list of all his bad attributes-this shouldn't be hard for you if as you say he makes fun of you.
Then, whenever you miss him, read the list and remind yourself why you deserve so much better.
By doing this, you're not teaching yourself to hate him, you're teaching yourself to quit being in love with him and stop thinkig about him all the time.
Obviously, as you've not been out with this guy he sounds like a crush. And the best thing is that crushes come and go-so it should be easy to get this guy off your mind. It seems you were lucky that you guy never did go out if thats how he chooses to treat a girl:)
Good luck :)
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Hey im 16 and a female ive been talking to this guy and i cheated on my bf for him eventually my bf broke up with me but the guy i am talking to always calls me and texts me during the day and he calls me babe when we dont go out but he threatned me
In all honesty...
(and don't take offense but this is what I think)
If you had any respect you'd walk away, or politley stay friends but nothing more. By getting with this guy you could be portraying yourself as being a little vulnerable.
Although the previous relationship is now over-the chances are if you get with this guy it'd be a rebound relationship. He's on the rebound becaue you don't want to come to terms with loosing you're ex. It's nice he calls you and things, but make sure you don't look easy to get. Also if he threatens you why would you want to go out with him? It's a heat of the moment thing to runs off with thi guy, but later in life, and this has happend to me, you'll regret doing so-because you'll never know what else you could've had.If you're in doubt its safer not to do things.
Obviously I don't know the guy in question so my advice is given with no empathy as such, but good luck anyway :)
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What is the best way to move on from someone who your incredibly still in love with?
Hi
So I appreciate you must be going through a hard time-and moving on is also an incredibly hard thing to do.
Firstly well done for recognising that what you need to do is move on for whatever reason-you're already half way there.
Everybody has there good points and there bad points. Make a list of whoever this person is, of their bad points-it couldbe anything- you don't like what they said to someone, you don't like how they acted in a situation. The aim isn't to make you hate the person, but to make you realsie you can do better. And of course you can-they made yu feel like this and go to the trouble of seeking out advice on here did they not?
Also, once you love someone, if it is love you'll always love them. So it comes to be a problem in recognsing the difference between loving someone and still being in love with someone.
In the title of the question you say you love them, but in the description below you say you're in love with them. Whichever it is, in order to move on these intense feelings have to go. And they will eventually. Like this.
Join a club, take up a new hobby, go out with friends,excell at a talent whatever that is. Take you're mind off this person! In doing so, the new things in you're life will seem alot more thrilling and exciting, and you'll soon be bored of fantasising about this person, get exausted and want to move on.
Remember, this person can't be all that great if they made you do this, so I say whilst its hard to stop thinking about them totally, stop yourself every time you do, cos they may not be worth it. Good luck :)
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Hi, I am one of those people that is super shy until you get to know me. Then thats when you start calling me weird and crazy. But I am reallllllly tierd of being shy! So I would love for someone to give me a list of a few different things to do in school this next month to help me. There is also this guy I wanna meet but he is super popular! And I totally messed up when he talked to me once! It was horrible!!!! If I make this list myself, itll be too easy. thanks! :D
Hi,
So I'm overcomeing shyness too. Shyness means being axious in social situations. Basically, you're scared of not being liked. So my solution? Well what I do is come up with a list of 'comebacks' to say should anyone comment. These arn't bitchy, but they're like 'ah well can't please everyone'. By doing this, you can say what you like in class, and if anyone says anything they'll be put back in their place, because girl you have a right to stand up for yourself. People will respect you for this and you'll become more confident as well.
Also, join a club say at school or outside of school. And why not say a hi to another quiet girl in your grade? They could be just like you and will be glad of your companionship.
About the boy thing. You're trying too much all at once. Improve your self esteem and shyness first. This is because when I was at the height of my shyness I got into a relationship as a guy asked me out, but because being shy kinda makes you insecure, the guy will soon notice you're depending on him, and he wants a confident girl not a needy one.
So yeh, combat the shyness first. Smiling really works to as mentioned in a previous answer, but try it at teacher first if you're shy.
Over 50% of American adults have been shy, so I would worry about it. I'm in the same boat as you so good luck :)
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I liked this guy and he liked me too, he told me, but he has a girlfriend and they are really close. He told me he just wants to be friends, but he rarely ever talks to me. Then I tried to move on and this other guy i started talking to said he liked me and i also liked him, but he also has a gf and acts like he doesnt want anything to do with me. Can anyone help me understand why this keeps happening?
Perhaps go somewhere else for advice, because you'll find noone on here knows anything about you and so it's unfair to critise them for this when they were just trying to give free advice which took a while to construct.
Apologies if you don't like what you read but if you can't accept soemone else's opinion then may I suggest this site is not for you. Why ask for advice in the first place, and waste caring peoples time to throw it in their faces.
I don't think this site is for you.
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Okay well there is this guy in one of my classes. and there is this other really weird creepy dude that follows me wherever i sit at lunch and its really creepy but onoe of my teacher today pukked the creepy kid and me out of class so she couold tell him to stop and the other guy comes out of the room and was like " Dude you need to stop following her, I mean i know she is really pretty but still" Soo i just want to know... Was that his way of flirting with me? Oh and btw he has always been nice to me since he got back from alternative school.
It could be all guys are different.
Girls tend to have an intinct for these things, if you think it it is likely to be true.
But hey the good news is by his friend or whomever saying that it allows im to assess what he wants from you. If you like him ask him out, if you don't then tell a teacher. You've got nothing to loose-he must regard you as higher than him anyway to e following him around so go for it :)
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okay well there is this guy i like that i donot really know too well but we talk sometimes and i really like him. I was sitting at lunch talking to one of my friends and a couple of my oother firends caught him staring at me while i was talking, then he smiled and walked away. And by that time i was pretty much freaking out. then in my school these 2 rooms are connected so its all one big room and he got sent ouot of his class and had to go sit in the chairs there and he smiled at me. Then another time I was practicing my instrument out in the hall way and he came out of his class and was like "nice playing sexy" and i was so happy but hes a well known flirter aroound school but it seemed differnt than ther other girls because when he flirts with them he doesnt smile and stare like he does with me. So do you think he likes me, and if so, then how do i talk to him since i have noo classes with him and i dont really knoow him well?
It does sound as if you like each other. But relationships always work best when you guys are friends first. You could either give him your number, or get friendly with his friends/a mutual friends and met up that way. Its always nice to see each other out of school/college too because he can see what your like alone.
Be careful though-if he constantly calls you 'sexy' then he could be taking you for a ride, because guys are usually alot more subtle than this when its a girl they really like.
Try and get a bit of background-eg what his interests are before you commit yourself fully. Good luck :)
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I really like this guy but he doesn't like me back he asked out my best friend and then my sister. What should I do
You could do either two things: Go out with him but not for commitment or moving on and finding a better guy :)
Obviously I don't know said guy in question but he sounds like a player and isn't ready for commitment like a relationship brings at the moment. I say move on even though it's hard as you will truly find the right person in time-someone who wont play around :)
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I sucked on my boyfriend's peinis and then cum came in my mouth can I get pregnant???
No you can't :) But you can get STI's if you're not careful so wear protection :)
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So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over two months and we haven't kissed. I know he wants to kiss me, because he has said so before. I'm just nervous because what if I do something wrong? He will be my first kiss and it will probably be after school, in front of all our friends. Oh and so you know I'm in seventh grade so I'm not that young. Also, please nothing about " You're too young, you don't know what love is " because last time I checked you don't have to be a certain age to love someone. Thanks c:
Hey!
The first thing I'd suggest is not to do it in front of anyone else-omg embarrasing. Go some where nice and private and then just a quick peck-nothing spectacular if you're nervous.
Also, don't overthink it, and don't make a point of saying 'I'm going to kiss you now' because that kills the moment.
It should be a ncie suprise-so that you don't have to phisically go somewhere private just to kiss him but do it whilst you happen to be alone.
It should be a special moment for both of you and don't feel pressurised into to doing so because thats what everyone else does. You'll know when the right moment in time is and so will he.
Good luck :) p.s don't be nervous because if her really loves you then tbh he wont mind if your first kiss doesn't work out like the movies
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Hi this is destiny so anyway, a guy named drake asked me out today.i told him that i would think about it.drake is a nice guy.he's the class clown.one time, he said this: So if I went off to war and they let me get captured, I would immediatley annoy the enemy." It was soooo FUNNY!everybody was laughing their heads off! Anyway, should i go out with drake, become his girlfriend, get his email if he has any? Please answer i need to tell him by monday!
From Destiny
P.S. we are both 11 years old, im almost 12.
If you like him go for it.
Perosnally I think 11 is far to young and it's hard to know what love is at that age as boys mature at around age 13.
Good luck anyways :)
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I moved to the us about one year ago, and this seems to be one of the worst things that could've happened. Where I came from we valued our tasks and get them done quickly, but I seem to be loosing myself. What's even worse is that my social and family life is crumbling at the same time. I have no friends to talk to, my father hates my mere existence after leaving me for 7 years because I'm not like his eldest daughter, and I'm not a troble maker, my mom has no clue of whats going on in my life, and argues with me a lot because she thinks I'm not supportive (some days I try really hard to please her, but nothing works anymore), I lost the guy I care about because I know my parents don't want me with a boyfriend, and I had to watch him suffer and almost cry because I rejected him. But, the good news is he's fine now and moving on, but thats also the bad news. Everyone just seem to hate me now because I defended this girl, the girl and the people are friends again but I'm not ok with them anymore and the list of problems go on. All I need advice on though is how to put aside all else and get my grades back on track
Sounds like you're having a hard time :/
But some of the most successful people in the world all had hard childhoods- Rhianna and Vanessa Hudgens for example.
My advice would be to think of the future. Think of what jobs you don't want to do and find a career suitable for you. Whatever you are good at and interested in.
Then consider this: you'll only get there with decent grades. Most people do better at school when they know what occupation they want at the end, as they've something to work towards.
Just think how great you'll feel when you achieve your career goal, and these people who are nasty now wont be as succesful because they wasted there time at school by having too complicated social lives.
Persistance and determination really do pay off, so if ever you feel down imagine yourself not being able to achieve your desired career goal-it'll spur you on. And success is a very attractive and powerful thing to have, so all these people will want to be a part of that, whether you let them will be your choice.
Good luck :)
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I have a beautiful one, almost two year old, orange, neutered male tabby who was born to my cat, and henceforth has spent his whole life as my family cat. Unfortunately he has one problem, he likes to go outside.
Recently we took him to the vet to get his shots done and the vet told us to keep him inside. We followed her advice, now he cries at the door to go out frequently and he's used to getting whatever he wants - like the king. I decided to read an article. This article discussed how allowing a cat to go outside can quarter the cat's life.
My cat is my baby and I want to have him for years and years. Seeing him cry every night breaks my heart but I don't want to let him outside, I just want him to be happy being inside.
Any ideas for getting him used to this whole transitioning? I know that this will require work on my part and I'm willing to do that.
This must be hard-for both of you.
The trick is that young cats and kittens love exercise and stimulation more so than slower older cats.
I would firstly suggest buying lots of toys from your local pet store to keep him entertained. Play with him as much as you are able during the day, and he'll get tired at night time and won't want to go outside but will want to sleep.
Also keeping a clean litter tray inside at all times means he'll use that rather than find the need to go outside to the toilet.
Once cats have been outside they know the adventures they can get up to so wish to continue. Hoewever over time because your cat is so young to can train him to forget about outside.
Perhaps also invest in a scratching pole to entertain him. Tabby cats don't climb trees, so your lucky in the respect that he won't be going completely mad climbing funiture if he's bored.
Good luck :)
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The other day I got my first period, but i'm to scared to tell my step mum? We're kind of close but I don't like really talking to her about that stuff. I sent her a message on her mobile not that long ago saying that I got my period, but she just ignored it :( Someone please tell me what to do because i'm really scared to tell her, seeings she's my 'step' mum.
It's always hard to tell your mum/step mum thigns like this because it's so intimate and you've never really spoken about intimate things before.
Just go up to her when she's alone in a room and theres little chance of anyone disturbing you.
Remember she had to tell her mum once, and she'd probably feel quite relieved you told her, as it shows alot of trust. It's always going to be hard, but it's best to tell her verbally. The problem is if you write her a note/send her a text she may not know how to react, and may find it hard to bring it up into conversation once again. This way you're getting straight to the point and she'll be able to give you feedback right away.
Good luck and seriously it's no big deal :)
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Is it common to happen when the gf/bf having troubles with their relationship and bf/gf tells and vent it out with the friend who secretly likes her/him and eventually one of them falls for the friend who was there for person when the gf/bf were having trouble with their relationship? Or is it just one of those movie cliché moments?
Sorry if it is confusing.
Every relationship is different. Sure this is a move cliche and this sadly does happen in real life, but most relationships don't end up like this.
I guess things like this only occur because the friend gets too close and the person they help wants to be with them in a relationship because at the time they seem like the better option- as if the relationship will be better because the friend knows alot of advice. Though these kind of relationships rareley work out.
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