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Age: 24
Member Since: May 3, 2006
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Last Update: September 8, 2006
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Just wondering... because I'm a little bit worried.
I've been masturbating for years now and never had this happen. I'm a girl and about an hour after my orgasm, I'm experiencing some bleeding similar to my period. I just finished my period a couple days ago and I'm wondering if it's from that or if it's something entirely different.
Thoughts? :( (link)
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It's your period.
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I met this guy at my friends party and I thought he was cute, so one of my friends introduced us. Later I found out that he is 18 and im only 15. The problem is that I think Im starting to like him. What should I do? (link)
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That is technically illegal, which is a very big deal.
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I asked a question about a month ago about my situation with an ex-boyfriend who I became pregnant for, and then lost the baby. (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=421121)
Not long after, he called and apologized for everything, and gave me his side of the story. I finally showed him ultrasound pictures and he saw how depressed I had become, and after hearing it from soo many people he believes me. He says he would have been there for us, which I believe, and we are now friends. He's helping me deal with my loss.
But the last time we talked, he asked about getting a second chance. I don't want him to think I'm this easy to get back, but at the same time we've been through so much, and I think he's learned his lesson. I still care about him, not only because he's the father of my child, but I care about him as a person.
I told him if I did give him a second chance, it would be a long time from now because I'm not ready right now after what I went through. Do you think he deserves a second chance? I need an outsider's opinion on this. Thanks! (link)
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I don't think he deserves one at all, but maybe after a long time has passed and you both have had some time to let the wild emotions (from the pregnacy) cool down, then you can really look at him from a fresh point of view. Has he really changed? How is he proving that to you? How is he treating you differently, and with more respect?
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I accidently stabbed myself on my left hand, and I think i got a vein. It's extremely painful, and is now a lump and looking a bit blueish. Is this serious, or just one of those things? What can I do to reduce the swelling?
Thanks. (link)
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Sounds infected. You could get get blood poisening, go see a doctor.
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ok..well what HandyAndy27 said made me think..so timothy graduated last year from highschool and dosen't attend college, he has a job, his own apartment and car seem's he's got his life pretty mucg together...well think i started thinking about what andy said...i mean timothy wants me to move in right when i am 18 i won't even have money or anything to support myself but Timothy said he'll take care of that, that he'll take care of everything and that i don't need to worry. i mean thats great but i dont want his whole life to be centerd on me...i mean we love each ohter and i don't want that to happen to us you know? Timothy wants to be toegther as soon as possible, i mean he once said he would be mad at me if i went to college becasue that would make it longer till we could be toegther..but what kind of life will i have? Timothy works at some store like delivering things..is that the kind of life i'm going to have to live? i'm worried about my life too i mean how much will things chance if i move in with him? what kind of life will i have?
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What kind of life will you have? A bad one, where you are being controlled and supported (I doubt you'll even get that) by a man who seems to see you as a possesion more then an actual person with desires of her own. He doesn't even want the best for you (College). You will have very little money and the rose colored life picture he is painted will not happen. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh honey, but please don't do it. Just continue to date if you want too, if it's real love then you can move in together at a more intelligent age.
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yea ok.... im 16 and i cant find a good bra that like fits me and stuff.... like i want a push up but i need it in a 34D or 38D and all that i can find one in is C's and then they are too small... does anyone know where i could find a good one?? (link)
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If your breast are that large, why do you need a push up? Go to Victoria Secret and tell the sales lady that you need help with your fitting. They will be glad to help you.
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I'll try to make this short and simple. I dated this guy (adam) over a year ago, it didnt work out. The other night I went bowling with some friends and he was there with his best friend (kyle). it was awkawrd, and kyle and I never really talked even when I dated adam, but he wanted to help me talk to adam so we could atleast be freinds. I got home that night and I talked to kyle online. We found out we have ALOT in common, and we already know alot about eachother , and eacothers relationships. So we talked ALL night till 4 am, and found out we had a connecton. so Kyle asked adam how he would feel if he (kyle) and I would date,, Adam got furious and said he wouldnt talk to kyle nemore. So we are torn between, dating and hiding it from him and seeing if it works out and then tel him. or not dating because kyle could lose his best friend hes had forever.. So i dunt know what We should do.. ne suggestions? (link)
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Unless you are already married, friends always come first. End of story. Please learn that while you are young. There is nothing worse that you (or Kyle, in this situation) could be then a disloyal person.
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i like this guy and we're friends, but i dont know if he likes me. i dont really want to tell him how i feel because im still a little confused about it. so does playing hard to get work? that way i pretend he doesnt mean anything to me and maybe i can see if he misses me, or notices that we dont see eachother. what else can i do??? (link)
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No, don't. Just ask him out. If you are too shy to do that then make is obvious that you like him by talking to him and hanging out with him. Games are for children, you are more mature than that.
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I think I might have to be put on birthcontrol because my piriod is always so irregular. I was wondering if I just had to go to the doctor or the gyno? Thanks. =) (link)
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That is total BS (some of the other answers)...yes you do need to go to the GYN. Your regular doctor can refer someone for you. It may turn out that something might be more appropriate for you then the Pills. You really need an examination before you get on the pills and a regular doctor isn't as in depth and experienced about the subject as a GYN. Planned parenthood is only as a last result, it is alway best to see a doctor that can focus on you as a patient (not one in a million low-income girls)and know your medical history for years to come.
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me and my boyfriend 1 year anniversary will be coming up in a couple weeks. were very close and i already know what hes making me dinner and getting me a really expensive ring. but problem is, i have no idea what to get him. any ideas? i rate 5's. (link)
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I love the scrapbook idea, but if you are like me then you know you won't actually do anything that crafty. Lots of guys are into the whole Best Buy technology thing, why not see if there is a cool new game (or system, depending on your budget), DVDs, CD, Ipod or IPod accessories, computer stuff, ect. Ask his friends for advice. Or make him dinner the next day. Or buy him some new clothes. Summer is coming up, how about theme park tickets?
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This great guy & I have been dating for a few months now. He's popular and he's been with a few girls from our school. He has told me that 2 of his exes have mentioned me in a negative way. I've started to notice a few girls giving my dirty looks around school, which has never happened before. He says these girls are jealous but I'm getting upset by it. I'm starting to question if this potential relationship is worth it, even though he really makes me happy. Should I just forget about the girls or forget him? (link)
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These girls aren't friends of yours, right? Then why in the world would you let them affect your decision? If you two like each other and your real friends don't have a problem with it, then go for it. Don't let people who have nothing to do with it get involved.
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My natural hair color is dark dark brown. So I bleached it to get some bright color.. And it faded so I dyed my hair black. And my hair keeps fading to this yucky gold-brown-blonde color... How can I make black stay in my hair? I wash my hair almost every day since..my hair gets really greasy and gross.. so in less than 2 weeks my hair is no longer black. What products can i use? Hair dye and shampoo that won't strip the color. This light color doesn't suit me. My skin is light tan and my eyebrows are..like black. (link)
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You need to get it professionally done if you are serious about wanting that color and not having it fade. Your stylist will recomend a no fade shampoo based on your hair type, I personally like Deva.
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I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.
Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".
She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.
What do I do? (link)
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Wow, this poor girl. She sounds like she is doing her absolute best to assimilate into our culture (which is radically different from the Chinese)and learn the language. That takes time, and she need someone to help her out and show her, in a kind and understanding way. It is so hard and scary, and on top of that she has regular school work to learn, and friends problems to deal with. You need to help her and not get so selfishly annoyed. I can't even imagine why you can't understand what this girl is going through, I really can't.
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Hey, I was just wondering, I walked 2 miles today, at a normal pace, could i have lost a pound from doing that? (link)
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You need to cut 3500 calories to loose a pound. There is no way that exercising for one day will do that, unless you loose water weight from dehydration (but that is a terrible idea). You need the water in your body, you want to get rid of the fat. You must excerise consistantly everyday and cut calories to do that.
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Hi, I'm doing this project for school. We need to find an apartment and a job--saying that we're 18 and unexperienced. We are to see if we can "make it" on mininum wage based on our needs and such. Anyway, my question is--How much does a one bedroom complex cost? I looked up this place..that charges $425..but is that per week or per month? I can't call them because the number is a 1-877 number and they're closed right now. Soo please help anyway that you can. Thankyou. :) (link)
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I'll save you the trouble. No, you can't make it on minimun wage. You're best bet is to get as many roommates as possible to defray the cost. And check out your states welfare system.
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** this is going to be long but i really need to get my thoughts and feelings out and i really need advice!!!!!!!!!! **
okay.. so i really wanna be a model..
1 problem.. i'm 5'2" -- now i'm only 14.. my dad is a little taller than 6 foot and my mom is about 5'3".. now i don't know who i'll take after because i'm still short at 14.. but yet i already passed my mom is shoe sizes [she's an 8 and i'm a 10] and my fingers are way longer than hers.. so keep that in mind..
now.. i've heard so many different things about modeling such as.. commercial models [like one's for magazines and ads] don't have a required height and only runway and fashion models have to be 5'7" MINIMUM..
now i'm not DROP DEAD GORGEOUS.. but i'm not ugly, i have good skin, i have nice teeth, and i'm toning and sliming my body wonderfully
my questions are.. i want to do modeling for ads and magazines and like catalogs and stuff [kinda like what the girls on 8th & ocean do, minus the runway stuff].. are there height requirements or do i not even have a chance?.. i know MILLIONS of girls want to get into modeling.. but if you think about it, even more than MILLIONS of models are needed if you think about all the different products and catalogs out there that need the models.. and i don't even want the fame or popularity.. i just want to model and be able to make money but yet i don't want to have to have so much competition, since i'm so short and all, that i'm a reject who barely gets any work.. so i'm not sure if i don't have any chance at all..
[i'm planning on getting an agent or making a portfolio and joining an agency company around august, but that's if i feel like i have a chance]
thank you in advance! i'll rate high! this is VERY, VERY, VERY important to me!!!!! (link)
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To be perfectly honest yeah, they are looking for tall TALL women, but you shouldn't let anything get in the way of your dream. That is more like for high fashion. Try it out, you have nothing to loose. You could always do comercial work of course, or model clothing for catalogs. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do anything, you have to keep at it.
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15/f, so there is this guy friends that i like and i am pretty sure that he is interested in me, we talk all of the time and other stuff as well. the problem is that i'll put my head on his shoulder, and i have several times, and he will lean into it as well, but he won't ever initiate anything, like arm around the shoulder or holding hands. i am going to a movie and later next week a play, and also a ballgame with him and friends. is there anything that i can do then or now that lets him know that i am interested, and i want him to take some more initiative that wont be too awkward? (link)
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Well, if he is your age then I bet he is scared to death, but it does sound like the likes you. You take the initiative, hold his hand or give him a quick peck. Or....tell him that you like him and ask if he want to go on a date with you. Don't be afraid, it sounds like he'll say yes.
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ok well this guy named peter is really stupid like everyday he either comes up to me and like makes a joke about me or squirts water at me or just plan looks at me from far away and even in class i sit in the back adn he sits in front and he totally just comes around from the back and goes the long way and while hes doing that he like either hits me or like stairs at me and like yeah so does he like me or is he someone i should stay away from and o yeah also he somehow got my number and now he calls me so yeah first does he like me and second wut should i say to him to get him to stop calling me and wut should i say for him to stop making fun of me so yeah answer those for me and i rate 5s soo helpp mee!!!=0 (link)
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Yes, he likes you. Please don't be mean to him, just tell him that you aren't interested....or just don't answer his phones calls.
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Hi all I am 28 years old and I have a daughter who is going to be 9 this year and she has been asking me how babies get into the tummy and what pads are for and I am having truble getting the right way to say it...As I dont remember my mom talking to me about it...But I wont to be the one to tell her so she will be able to talk to me about anything....I was not comfertable talking to my mom and I wont my daughter to be able to talk to me.......if anyone could help me please do.thanks (link)
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If she is nine years old then I am will to bet that she has heard quite a bit of "playground talk" and is coming to you for the real facts. You need to tell her, and don't baby the facts for her. It's hard to believe, but a lot of girls are getting their periods around 9 or 10 these days, she needs to know exactly what to expect for herself. If you are uncomfortable then have the conversation while you are doing something else (like driving or shopping) to take the pressure off. Really, this is very important and you don't want her to go off with wrong ideas, even sex shouldn't be a taboo topic at this age. If you don't tell her everything she needs to know then she'll get warped information from her friends, and I think that is what leads to very young children becoming sexually active- not understanding the implications AND not being able to openly talk the their parents about sex and ask questions.
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Okay well as a young child i was raped multiple times by the same person. and out of the blue i get flashbacks and they keep on coming back to me. Like even when im watching TV lying down on my bed i picture him coming into my room and i freak out. Its been like a decade ago and it still scares me...if this is happening now, whats gonna happen when i want to do stuff with a guy? how do i get rid of it? i dont want to go to a therpist or anything cuz they just freak me out even more! (link)
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I'm sorry honey, that is just awful. You really do need therapy though, otherwise that psychological impact that this has had on you will only get worse and worse. I can't stress how important this is, just try a few appointments and see how it goes.
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