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older guys
I met this guy at my friends party and I thought he was cute, so one of my friends introduced us. Later I found out that he is 18 and im only 15. The problem is that I think Im starting to like him. What should I do?
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There is nothing really wrong with going out with an older guy, as long as you are prepared for the implications of it. The main implication (the one that will most concern your parents), is sex. He's been able to have sex for two years and most probably has had sex in that time. The very fact of this means that if he were to go out with you, he would want you to have sex with him. You could be lucky enough to find one of the few guys that would patiently wait for you until you are old enough and happy enough to want to do this as well but you need to be prepared for the possibility he might not want to wait and may put pressure on you to do it. Therefore, the first thing you need to work out is whether or not you would be able to be with someone like that.
Another problem will be the fact that he can drive. Combine with a third problem that your parents don't know him, you've got a massive problem. The parents thing can be overcome if you were to invite him round for dinner and introduce him to your parents. You would need to be upfront and honest with them about the age gap or they will be less inclined to let you even go out of the house when they find out. If he can make a good impression on them, you've ruled out the problem with the fact he can drive too. They need to be reassured that a guy with a car isn't some mad rapist who is going to drive you to a forest and have his wicked way with you so if you decide to go out with him, please bear this in mind!
All of this, however, is academic unless you ask him out. Have a think about it and decide how much you like him and how badly you would like to date him. If you think that it's worth a try, ask him out. BUT, make it clear that he will need to meet your parents before you can go out. Better yet, tell your Mum about him before you ask him out. That way, you won't ask him before you risk finding out whether or not you can go.
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gaaahh =] that is the EXACT same problem i have..
Just talk to your parents and let them trust yall. It could work
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That is technically illegal, which is a very big deal.
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my friend had the exact same problem except she was 16 and he was 19. they started talking for about a week and half after the party and made sure they really liked each other. now their going out..and even though she dont get to see him in school, they are still close as ever. so my advice to you is if you really like him than you should tell him and see what happens. i know its illegal but you should follow your feelings.
hope i helped..if you have anything else..just ask. ♥
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