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Q: has anyone ever heard anything of the job of being a X-ray Technician? someone just suggested it to me and i have no idea what it is. they said it pays good money too

X-ray techs pretty much take x-rays. They learn the techniques and all the different types of xrays that can be done. AND yes you make good money. google it!

Q: last summer i met this guy at camp, and he was really cool and really cute. He told me he liked me, and i started to like him. well, we live in different states, so we only talked on myspace. I stopped liking him pretty much the week after camp. well, eventually we stopped talking and i guess he deleted me from his friends. we haven't talked in over 3 months now. Well, last night, i got a friend request and a message from him. He is COMPLETELY different and i'm not sure if i want to go back to being friends. He has a girlfriend, so he's def. not trying to get me to like him again.. but idk what to do. Should i talk to him?

It doesnt hurt to be his friend. Just as long as you have your head in the right place. You know that you are only going to be his friend. AND he lives in a different state anyways so you really dont have anything to worry bout.

Q: how to i tone my thighs and butt nicely for the spring so i can look really good in shorts?

running and squats should tighten them muscles right up!!

Q: is there any way i can play the original sims with the sims 2 already installed on my computer?

im pretty sure you can. If you have enough space. the games are not linked so yea.

Q: 15/f

So....I'm sort of in an online relationship (same country). And It's going downhill...since the guy says that he loves another girl who lives in another COUNTRY (yeah...I know -_-). So yeah. What is your advice on an online relationship? I'm a bit confused. I love him, very very very very much. But this whole online thing is SUCH a turn off.....It really is. And the girl that he likes...ugh...I'm GREEN with jealousy. And it's crushing me. :(....How can I rephrase this into a "I need advice" thing...hmmm......should I continue, until we meet up? (hoping he'll dump that other girl??) What are the pros and cons in an online relationship? ???

=] Thanks.

PLEASE dont waste your time. It isnt worth it. If he think he loves her let him think that and when he sees that he will never have her he is gonna feel stupid that he even thought it in the first place.

Q: to drink vinegar as a way to burn fat, when is the best time of day to drink it?

Who told you some dumb shit like that?

Vinegar doesnt make you burn fat, running and a diet does try that.

Q:

me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time and we are sexually active. we recently have stop doing it. last month we did it and before he would ejaculate he would take it out and ejaculate on my stamach. i got brown\ pinkish discharge but it was mostly blood (kind of heavy)and i have no idea what it is. could i have the chance of being pregnent? ( i am very stress out also for the last month)i dont know if it was my period or not and i've never felt in symstoms ( vomiting etc)im freak out because i have white discharge but i haven't recieve my period this past february. i am very scared of getting pregnant. me and him already talk about this but he is not sure what to do. can you give me an info of what happens before pregnancy? is this natural for my menstruation or its just irregular?

brown discharge is dead cells.
BUT there is a possibility that it is indeed irregular. You should just take a pregnancy test. Buy the test take it out the box and throw the box away before you go home and take it. Then when you get your results, go throw the test away. thats if you dont want anyone to know.

Q: how does your best friend act when he really loves you?
how do guys act about that?
i dont wana lose our 7 year friendship.
i love him.
he loves me like a bff and gf?
im 13/f hes 13/m but were bffs maybe bf gf?
?im confused help me?

Well you are just gonna have to wait for him to make the first move. Your right about losing the friendship. But i reccomend that you ask him does he want to be with you. The longer you wairt, the longer you arent together.

Q:
when a guy says that your flamming down there or flamming down there. (idk how to spell it) what it that suppose to mean cuz this kid i know says that (were not like friends but were dont like hate eachother you know) says that to me and i kinda laugh it off but i have no freakin idea what it means so anyone tell me !!!! PLEASE. before tomarrow like... i wanna be able to say something back when he says it

flamming or burning is normally refering to an std. BUT you bnever know these days. She might be telling you that you stink.

Q: 13/f. srry its long. im a loud but quieter freak but im gothic. hes a louder blonde in the brains nerd. my bff or possible bf? ive always been good friends with him. because he always came over and we went everywhere because my mom and his mom were best friends and my brother and his brother were to. but since like summer hes been sayin best friend and like givin high fives and just treatn me like all his other friends but more like a best friend? but since my mom found out i liked him now he cant come over at all because she doesnt like the idea of two teenagers who like eachother up stairs alone. he acts different around me now. he kinda flirts but alot i guess? ive never had a bf. but he just acts like it. but ive never really been shy at all maybe even louder around the guy i like. and he gets quiet when hes talkin to someone he likes. and wed be talkin normal and then hed just look at me look away and blush. but he does like another girl one of my friends. so since me and him are like really good friends i try and get them together bc i love him like a friend but sometimes as a bf. we are really nice to each other we talk alot. im confused i just cant tell does he like me or not! plz help mee

You have been friends for a long time for the best thing for you is to stay friends unless you are sure. Best friends dont make the best lovers. If you end up on a bad note ya'll probably wouldnt be able to stand each other any more and you wouldnt want that.

Q: every so often i've been getting this hot spot on my side near my waist. it's been more frequent lately. it feel like im leaning on a stove or something, it'll just start burning and only in one spot about the size of a quarter. it only lasts for about 5 seconds but its really annoying and weird. i dont have a rash or anything, it just happens randomly. so does anyone know what this is???

This happenes to me. I belive you muuscules maybe stressed. Me?I think something is wrong with my ovary. I cnt say the same for you because i dont know if your sexually active or if this just started happening out of nowhere. Best bet is to have a doctor check it out.

Q: I need newspaper cuttings related to the environment for an environmental studies project.I think newspapers from december,2004 would be important because that is when the Tsunami happened.Should I go to the newspaper's office to look for them?If they do not have them,where else can I get them from?

Yes you should, But can you use papers of the internet? Some news papers have archives on the internet that you can search through.

Q: everytime me and my boyfriend go places, i always drive, and either ill pay for everything, or we'll split the cost, we've been going out for a while, and its always been like this, it's starting to really get on my nerves. what should i do? he's really senstive so i don't wanna be really harsh.

He is not that sensative. He is using you because he know he can. If he has a job he should be able to pay every once and a while. You should ask him "how come you never pay for me" in a nice way, and if that doesnt work, continue spliting the check.

Q: Ok my boyfriend is great but i am having trouble leting him in cause i scared and it is all new to me. He has to fight to hold my hand sometimes but my real thing is that he is used to kising his girlfriends and i really realy beyound a doupt want to kiss him like a make out kiss but i wont let him do it cause i dont know how and dont want to tell him. can u explane how to french?

You should tell him you dont, and ask him to teach you. Its nothing to be ashamed of, alot of people dont know. Its sites they can give you a lead on how but you truelt need to learn from someone you know.

Q: i am female 13, last night me a friend heard about a party. so sneaked out of the house and went to the party. well my friend did not like all the drinking and drugs so she left. i end up staying and guess i got a little to drunk and end up some guys had sex with me. i am not sure if they used protection how can i tell if i am pregnant

Wait seven days then take a pregnancy test. I guess i dont say this enough but it takes 7 days for a sperm to meet an egg during ovulation.

Q: ok so theres this guy thats been a friend of mine, but yesturday there were sparks, and stuff. we were hugging and kissing, but the thing is yesturday I was staying at a hotel by the beach, so I'm not sure if he just hasn't called me because he thinks I'm still there. But, I feel, i don't know, i guess kind of weird because once, this guy, not the same guy, another guy, came up to me and randomly kissed me, and so I thought he liked me, but he also requested me on myspace and stuff, but it turned out he was drunk, so I kind of felt stupid, so should I be worried if the guy is kind of quiet today?? I'm not asking because I'm desperate or anything, it's just because the drunk one left me nervous!!

xoxo

Dont chase after this guy. If he truely likes you, he will come back for more. But if he takes too long for you then confront him!

Q: I was having sex last month and he promised he would use a condom. I was in the bathroom putting my new outfit on from Victoria Secret: sparkly, short skirt with a lacy see through corsette. He wanted me to make it sexy, so i did. So i went in the room and he said he had put the condom on so we had sex. He entered me and it felt weird. Then he cummed. It felt so good. But then he pulled it out after we were done, it lasted two hours by the way! But, there was no condom! He lied and never put a condom on! He said it feels better without one on.I was supposed ot get my period last week. I havent gotten it at all. My breats are tender and i havent had much of an appitite. PLEASE HELP ME! I'm 18/F

1)Does it feel better without a condom on?
2)Am i pregnant?
3)What should i do?
4)SHould i stay with this guy?

HELP ME I NEED ALL THE ADIVCE POSSIBLE! I WANT ALOT OF ADVICE!

1 im told yes. But you should have made sure he had one on.
2 Big possibilty.3 You should buy and take a test. If you arent read for your parents to know, take the test and instructions out the box and throw away box before approaching house.
4 How long have you been with this guy? And you should also ask this guy how he feel about this situation.
Hes probably going to feel stupid because he should've used a condom.

Q: i have a lot of questions about the M&M ice cream that i just do not understand

1. how do they get the M&Ms all the way down into the midddle?

2. how do they inject the chocolate into the middle of the ice cream cone?

3. how do they get it into the perfect shape of a cone?

4. how come when you bite the bottom part off, the ice cream dosent melt through?

i tried google but it didnt work
thanx!!
love always
leona
and my bff Lorraine hoos w/ me now who also dosent understand this

They use machines for all this. A machine that makes the cone shape. A machine that pushes the M&Ms all they way down the middle. And on ANd on. Go to they M&Ms website.

Q: I was feeling really horny and so i called up my boyfriend to come over.(my parents were out for the night and im an only child) he came over and we talked and watched a movie but i could barely control myself. we made out on the couch and then he felt me up. He asked if we wanted to have sex and i couldnt resist. we went into my bedroom and he put his thing in and it hurt really bad, but when he cummed it felt soo good. we had sex for about an hour. after we were done i gave him a blow job because he asked for one. i had sex the day after my period and five days ago i was supposed to have it but i didnt. im SO scared because im only 13. i threw up all day today and i never want to eat. im SOO scared. please please please help me. i need it badly.

oh and we also did it up the butt. could i still get pregnant from that? we did it both way.

DAMN! people with these long ass answers!!!
It takes seven days after you have sex for a sperm to reach an egg, so there is a good chance that your pregnant.

What happened to the condom? Why wasnt their one in use!!!!????

AND no you cant get pregnant from anal sex. You need to get some one you know and trust to buy you a test, or you buy it yourself, secretly take it and if you are indeed pregnant, then you need to find out how your going to tell the folks.

Q: My friend was staying with me for the weekend and we were talking about how much it hurt to have sex with a guy, then we were looking at all of the other possibilities. just talking about it made me horny. Then she announced the option of being a lesbian. We looked at eachother in the eyes and she grabbed me and started shoving her toungue in my mouth. i went along with it knowing it would be wierd if i didnt. She ripped off my shirt and pulled off my pants. i liked it. then i did the same with her and pulled off her bra and underwear with my teeth. she was on top of me and we were humping. It felt sooo good. I am very much of a christian and i know gayness is bad. I could never be a lesbian. How can i stop? I'm addicted to my feiend now, she comes over every night!!!

HELP ME BEOCME STRAIGHT AGAIN!

I am going to make this short and sweet. You cant control who you like. This is something that cant really be helped No matter what every1 else tells you.

bio

Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.