First off, I'm not surprised that the rubber band thing failed. I'll explain below.
I believe that the second step to recovery (After admitting you have a problem, which you did), is to know exactly what is causing the problem. See, your body makes a substance a lot like heroin when it feels physical pain. You cut, it gets released in high doses. These high doses are addicting, and you begin to crave them. The rubber band fails because it is still asking for doses, and the only way to stop an addiction is to just stop.
That also explains anorexia, as hunger is a type of pain. That's the physical addiction, and you can get over that in 2 days. Same with the cutting. The mental one is what can take months to complete.
Now, what do you do? First thing I'd do, since you cannot tell your parents, is stop. Easier said than done. What you do is stop for 1 day, and only believe it is a one day thing. Hide any sharp object from yourself, and use alternatives. Such as if you feel anger, punch a pillow. If you feel sad, take a bath. If you want to see blood, draw on yourself with a red pen. The first day is always the hardest.
Then, after one day, reward yourself in a method such as buying a shirt you've wanted. Then, go online and find a support group for cutting. There is one at www.teenhelp.org, but that is mainly for problems. You can find sites specifically dedicated to supporting cutters through an internet search. DO NOT CUT ON DAY 2!
On day 3, I'd suggest you find someone you know and can trust, preferably an adult. This should not be someone who would tell your parents, and make them promise it before you talk to them. Let them know what is going on, and ask for their advise on what to do.
Reward yourself as I said before, even if it sounds stupid, for the first 5 days. Then, go every other day for 10 days. Every 3rd for 15, and you've made a month. Keep in contact with support. I'll be here to support you at all times, I can be contacted at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com

I apologise for not being truely able to help with anorexia, but I think that if you go to your parents and say "I feel thin. I want to put on some weight. Please, just make sure I eat a full meal at every meal", it should work. If you eat alone, you have to make sure of it.
The nervousness of eating in front of people is a fear. I don't know the name, but you fear eating in front of others. And the only way to overcome a fear is to accept it and face it. Accept that you have this fear, and force yourself to eat in front of others, even if it's the last thing you do. If you feel like turning back, think "This is for my own good".

Hope this helps!
-Steven

If you know you love him, then you should do all you possibly can to get him back. Love is not just a feeling, it is a drive that pushes you through meeting him, talking to him, asking him out, etc.
Though, if I may suggest, you should probably not read the speech to him, it would be a little awkward. Maybe if you sent it through E-Mail, it would be a whole lot different.
I think that his parents were the reason he split up with you, yes, but they did not ruin your chances. You can still do it, it just may have to be secret.
-Steven

1st base- French Kissing
2nd base- Man feeling woman's brest
3rd base- Man fingering a woman
Home Plate- Sex

Being a guy, I'd say they are just another fad... I tried picturing it, it is not that great. It'll last a few months, then go out. I'd advise against it, but do what you feel is best.
-Steven

Take one of his interests, and get him something there. Being a guy, I know how he is. He does have stuff he wants, just doesn't think them to be important. Get him a CD from his favorite band, or a box of baseball cards (If he likes them...), or even a shirt. Something that you may think he does not need, but he wants internally.
-Steven

To give good advice, I usually try to imagine myself in that situation. I think "What would I do?" and think of the consequences. Then, I speak to that person as if I was that person.
I would include a personal experiance if you have one, yes. Usually, you'd want to give a personal experiance its own paragraph to ease confusion. They do help a lot, as the other person sees what you've gone through.
Quick Example... One person once asked me about a possibility of DID. He asked symtoms of it, and how you know you have it. I probably was best suited to answer, as I definately am. So, I gave him my experiances.
See, like that! Did it without even knowing it...
In an answer, I also try to answer every question they ask, even if it is "Is this normal?" Feel obligated to do that. And make sure you answer what they are asking. Such as if they ask for an alternative self harm to cutting, you give them one. Say something like "I do not advise continuing, but...", for if they came for something, they should have it.
That's what I do, generally. I got a lot of people coming back to me asking me for further advice when I was at TH and doing that, so I guess it works.
Hope this works!
-Steven

Delivery is not so much as the process in getting to it. With delivery, you need to engage her into a conversation, and try to bend it closer and closer to your relationship with her as just friends. Eventually, when you hit the spot, you just ask "Do you want to be more than just friends?". That should be the best way. I would not advise writing poetry though, as some times it is seen as a bit, well, soft, for lack of a better word. Especially if it is just a one way love.
Your parents are easy. Just talk to one of them, and say thast you really like this girl and want to get together with her. Tell them who she is, and they normally accept.
I'd suggest finding a common interest you have with her, and go out there. Like if you both like hiking, go there. But if not, I'd suggest going bowling. It's a much nicer, less intimate atmosphere than dinner.
If she says no, then she says no. It'd be best to just move on, be it whether you need to force yourself to like someone else or try to find reasons to hate her. I suggest the first method.
-Steven

Go to the toolbar at the top and click on "View". It'ss have an option that says "Fonts". You are probably on a higher font size that on another computer. Just click on a smaller one, and it should appear smaller.
Hopefully, this is it. If not, I'm sorry.
-Steven

It really depends. If this is the first time you've heard it, and it's disappeared, you probably were still half asleep. Those voices were from your brain in its relaxed state, and you know how dreams go. There are charecters in them.
Yet, it may not be that at all. You may be becoming a schizophrenic. The only way to tell for sure is by going to a psychologist. But, there are sites that show some of the other symptoms of it. If you want to look into it a bit more, go to http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/schizoph.cfm I found it, and it helped me in finding out what was wrong with me. (FYI, it was not that.)
Well, I hope this helps. You can always reply to this or send an E-Mail to sbloemeke2@yahoo.com
-Steven

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Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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