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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

advice

14 year old female, big boned. height=5'9 weight=180

i've recently changed my eating. here are two days worth of eating examples;;


1. no breakfast( i woke up too late)
lunch-2 peices of wheat bread, 1tbsp of mayo & 2 tbsp of honey. and lettuce. ( no lunch meat )( total=345 calories)
yogurt, light n fit. (35)
2 nature valley bars (190)
dinner-banana
nature valley bars
chives & sour cream baked potato frm wendys
snacks-apples

about 900 caloires

2.
breakfast-apples
lunch-apples
diet cherry vanilla dr. pepper
nature valley bars
yogurt
dinner-bagel with cream cheese
baked poatoe with chip dip
snacks;a bite of chocolate

about 800 calories

am i eating too less? its hard to eat heatly & eat alot. $ is a huge issue

i exercise so thats not a problem

i'm trying to lose weight, but ami eating to little? and what is cheap and easy to eat that i could add bc i don't think thats enough food

any help/tips greatly appreciated

hey everyone is different and needs a differnt amount of calroies a day. most people consume 300 calories a day. well at least that what people need. people with bad hearts need to consume 200 calories a day. cait ♥

EDITS: OMG I FEEL SO STUPID. I MEANT 2000 AND 3000. IM SORRRY =/.

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14/f. My boyfriend just turned 17. I am a virgin, he isn't. He's had sex with 2 people. We have been together for probably about 4 months. He respects me and I know he loves me and always wants to spend time with me. I know that he wants to have sex but tries his best to repect what I want. I sort of want to have sex, I know he loves me and cares about me. But there is another guy who I talked to before I knew him and he was in love with me. For some reason I stopped talking to him. And I'm just confused about what I want. Please give me advice, and when you have sex, do you immediately start to bleed your first time? and how much? I will rate.

hey your way to young. theres noneed to jump into things. waitt a few years. cait ♥

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ok i have a boyfriend and me and him have been going out for about 2 months now. Latly he has been havin problems with his family. this morning he told me he got i na big fight and he has to decide on him moving with his grandparents or his little brother and father moving out. And i didn't really know what to say to him. Also i really don't want him to move out because we have been going out for 2 months but have been best freinds for 3 1/2 years and i don't want to lose him. what should i tell him to comfort him. and how can i deal with him leaving?


please help i am really sad and don't have much time till he leaves

hey well let him knwo your there for him no matter waht. stay in contact with him emials aim phone anything. just dont lose contact. also long distance relationships can work no matter what people say. cait ♥

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ok.soo i had sex kinda not for long at all or nothing.first time,no condom.besides noo period what would be first signs of b/n pregant just in case.

hey you would want to take a pregnancy test. if ti was recently take the day after pill. cait ♥

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Does Neutrogena MicroMist Tanning Sunless Spray actually work? Or does it turn you orange? Please only answer if youve tried it, dont say " my mom says they all turn you orange"

-I'll rate. thankss guys =]

hey well it works differnet for everyone. but for 9 out of 10 people it turns you orange. to go tanning is better. but what i use to look tan is jergens natural glow. cait ♥

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Ok.. I was extremely sleepy today during 2nd period & I took two 200mg caffeine pills. Well.. I dont know all the effects they have.. but was that just too much because afterwords I had hardly any appetite and I felt dizzy like I was going to pass out. I mean... I took them on an empty stomach & I didnt eat anything the rest of the day except for a Rice Krispy Treat. But I got this horrible, horrible headache. I've gone before without eating, but it never had an effect like that. How much is 400mg of caffeine equal to anyway & what are the cons of taking caffeine pills?

hey well two is alot for you. since you took it on an empty stomach you should be getting effects like that. its not good to take to much caffeine cause its not good for you. be more careful nexttime. it should wear off. cait ♥

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I picked up a free copy of AOL from Office Depot, one of those free for 90 day things. I installed it about two weeks ago, but uninstalled it after half an hour because I did not like it. According to every website and all my friends, you cannot remove AOL completely from your computer unless you reformat, and my dad has the Windows XP disk, so I do not want to tell him about my idiocy with AOL.


Two friends told me that if I did a System Restore, AOL would be gone. I've found System Restore on my computer, but I can't figure out how to work it.


Any tips or past experiences would be excellent.

hey from past experience i could nto uninstall it. i got professional help. cait ♥

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i have a problem. i dated this guy for like ever a while back and me and his sister had been bestfriends then some rumor got started and me and her didnt hang out anymore. well then he cheated on me and i broke up with him. well now me and his sister are bestests again. and i kinda relized how much i really still like him so what do you think i should do and how do i tell his sister without her laughing in my face? im kinda worried. like he has a girlfriend but shes just a whore by what his sister has told me and what ive seen of her, so idk. i just REALLY still have feelings for him. kinda dorky i know. but please help if you can.

hey dont feel dorky. also i would tell the sister. maybe the sister could tell the brother fi you didnt want to. let the sister know that it was all a rumor and that it wasnt real and have her tell him that. or jsut tell him yourself. cait ♥

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okay i know this might sound retarted but i dont know how to grind dance nothing im going to a big party and my crush is going to be there and i know hes gonna try to dance with me but i cant i have no rythm nothing like i suck at everything i dont have an ass to shake so i dont know what to do please help should i just not go?

hey you dont need an ass to grind. watch some musiv videos on http://www.aol.com or match mtv or bet. cait ♥

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Ok, this is a pretty long story so if you are not after long stories dont bother reading on..

First thing is first.. i am 14/m (gonna b 15 in a month or 2)

Basically my best friend is a girl..and i have known her since we were little..then in primary schoool she left and went to another school, since then we did not talk...but in high school we met up again and ended up in same class..we became extremly close over the years....Just about as close os best friends can become...cut a long story short...i ended up faling for her..i told her..at first she did not feel the same but then she told me she did but things were complicated then a few weeks later she told me she feels more comfortable as friends. So i respected her decision and left it as that...

Meanwhile i have this other friend...basically she a is really horny girl putting it nicely i guess...and i have a sort of weak spot for girls like that and on valentines day just gone me and this girl went out and she ended up giving me head in the cinemas...

I told me best friend and she didnt take it well...she totally lost her respect for me and wont even look at me..i gave it a week or so and then spoke 2 her..she has told me i have changed BIG TIME and most of it coming down to interaction with this other friend and how i have no self control because i let the cinema incident happen.

So i have kind of sort of patched things up with her, i have asked my best friend for a clean slate..i dont want 2 lose her for anything in this world..

She agreed but i know things will never be the same...

Is there anything that i can say or do to help make things work...i care about her more than anything and if i thought what i did on valentines day was going to mess things up like it has i never would have done it...

Would appreciate any help anyone would give..

hey well you need to sit her down and talk to her about it. tell her that people change along with the relationships people have. let her know that you still want to be friends with her yet you might want to be friendly with other girls like that horny girl. cait ♥

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I think that somebody is signing on IM using my screen name. two people have said i said things that i know i never said. they have said i used swear words and have been very rude to them. which i know ive never done. i unlinked all of my sns and deleted my buddy lists so this person could not antaganize any of my friends. i have also signed on another sn that no one know about and kind of been monitoring weather someone signs on using my sn or not. i want to be safe and make sure this person wont do anything more. any ideas?

also -- i had a dream the other night about someone hacking my screen name, does this mean something?

hey your dream doesnt mean anything. but try to remeber who you gave your passowrd to and ask them. also i know you have tried but i have recently just changed my password and it works. try my aim edit options and change passowrd. cait ♥

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i just want to know what this might be...(sorry if this is long) at night or in the dark generally i see things moving like shadows... no one else can see them. i hear them talking... i hear people talking all the time. even if im alone. i talk to myself alot. when i try to sleep at night i hear it and i feel it crawl on my skin. the only way to make the noise go away is to listen to music really loud. its getting hard to be in the dark because the shadows that move scare me alot. wouldnt it scare you if you could see things move and stuff that you know cant really be there. so im getting less and less sleep and its effecting my ability to concentrate on my school work so im falling behind. i just stopped taking my ritlan. ive been getting horrible head aches where sometimes my vision will blur and then re focus. i have a twitch. but only when i get cold ill twitch to the left. always the left. and its just one big jerk of a twitch. ive been crying alot. i never used to cry about anything now im crying everyday. im way stressed out because of all of this. so im not sleeping, seeing, hearing and feeling things that arnt there and did i mention hearing things call my name? yeah i hear things call my name all the time. so what might this be? im really worried... it was like this when i was 7 or 8 but it went away... now its coming back... im not going to a psychologist. so thats out of the question and i talked to my mom about it and she just said that its probably nothing and to pray about it. which i am doing. but i just want some information on what it might be? so any help?

hey omg thats scary. talk to your school conseller about it. i know you said you didnt want to see a doctor about it but i think it might be the best option. also maybe gets some books on this type of illness at the library. cait ♥

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k so i've had a major crush on this guy brian but his best friend davis has a crush on me and now its ruining everything... its like a competition because i'm pretty sure my crush likes me too, i wish davis didn't like me and wouldn't care about me and brian.. haha so basically i don't even know what to ask besides how do i fix the problem?

this is a really hard question i know but seriously ANY advice is worth hearing


*i'm a 15 yr old girl if that matters

hey um tell davis that you wnt to just be friends. nothing more nothing less. aslo maybe talk to brian about your relationship with him. make sure he wants to go further then friends before you make a move or anything. cait ♥

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I need to know if anybody is really good at biology? I am struggelling nad could use some help.

hey you might want to get a tutor. those always help. or have a parent or guardian help you. cait ♥

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Ok, well i basically have two questions.
The first is about my heart. Sometimes when im standing and i twist my body back and fourth, i hear my heart grinding.. anybody know what thats about?

And secondly, sometimes i dream while i'm awake. No, not day dreaming. It's like an actual dream that i'm not controlling playing it my mind. Sometimes it's like watching a movie. Does anyone know what that's about?

Thanks..!

hey get them bth looked at by a doctor. with the first one you may be having some sort of heart troublee. with he 2nd one you mayb be seeing the future or just bored with your life. cait ♥

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Okay.. so I'm not exactly sure where to start..So I'll just tell a little from the past and mostly from this year.. 7th grade I started to become moody, easily irritated, and less social. Mind you, I'm very shy, So I've never been too social my whole life. Maybe going a few places here and there, But I just didn't want to go anywhere anymore. I started cutting, I stopped eating because I became self-conscious over my weight, Then at the end of the year I started cutting even more, and I always thought about death. 8th grade I became even more less social, but I stopped cutting during the middle of the year. I lost my friends a few times because of rumors, & lies. So I became even more upset. Then I started not to care, and nothing really bothered me anymore. My grades did go up a bit, and I wasn't cutting, I had stopped taking so much pills, I even tried to become closer with my family. Now, I've become more upset than ever. I pretend I'm happy when I'm really not, and I can't even sleep anymore. I probably get about 3 hours of sleep a week. I'm still self-conscious about my weight so I haven't been eating, my hairs been falling out, and I don't even come out of my room anymore. I've tried asking my mom to take me to the doctor, or to a therapist, but she just won't do it. I sit in my room for hours at a time, Just sitting there staring at the wall and thinking about what it'd be like if I wasn't here. Because of a silly rumor, I'm farther away from the best friend I've had since 4th grade, So now I don't even talk. I constantly think somebody's mad at me even when I haven't even done anything. My dad is continuously downrating me, I've been exhausted, mentally and physically and my grades are dropping from a 3.0 to a .5. I don't know what to do, I've asked to get help but my mom just won't let me, and I have no other way of getting it. I'm suffering from withdrawal from the pills and it's driving me crazy. I'm tempted to go back to use them, and I've even considered overdosing on them. It just feels like nobody cares how I'm feeling. They always try and help everyone else but they just leave me hanging. I've always helped and been there for my friends. It just feels like I'm trapped in something that I'll never be able to get out of. I just don't know what to do.Everyday I get these panic attacks and I just break down crying and screaming, sometimes I even abuse myself. I want to stop but I can't, It just doesn't go away.

-Sorry for this being so long.

hey you need to go get help yourself. trying talking with a school conceler. or a relative close to you. you need to get your life back on track. try making new friends or take up a new hobby liike painting. anything just to take your mind off things. cait ♥

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haha so yeah tomorrow i'm making out with this guy that likes me, and i like him, and i'm really excited BUT I've never made out with anyone, let alone kiss him, and i'm soo nervous and anxious and stuff. like.. what if just freeze andi don't know what to do (that happened to my friend) and... ahh! anyone help? cause i'm really nervous :( lol and how do i start it?
any help is great
thank youuuuu

hey well let him start it. then just go with the flow. dont just go for the tounge action adn stick your tngue downhis throat. cait ♥

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All i know is that i was watching fat camp on mtv and there was this REALLY REALLY cute guy on it, I Think his name was either matt leiber or something, or petey he made those two kids kiss. Any idea on where i can get some info on the show/or petey/matt?? Dont say MTV cuz they dont have anything

hey you could try searching for him on my space. also maybe http://www.mtv2.com or http://www.mtvfatcamp.com another thigng you could do is http://www.google.com or http://www.askjeeves.com
cait ♥

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i have an essay/ report to doo on dieting and im doing crash dieting in a few paragraphs.
what are some foos that people usually mostly focus on when crash dieting?

thanks

hey a few different types of cheese are usuallu popular. also for further research go to http://www.google.com or http://www.askjeeves.com
cait ♥

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Ok, I was recently in a relationship, and I was dumped. So now i have my eye on this cute guy who i like and he likes me. But because im not dating someone i feel like im like gay, but i no im not cause i love this boy. and I DO NOT desire girls!!!eww. im just confused, and need good advice. Its kinda the past thats bugging me, and i know i cant change it. I kissed a girl, because she forced me, i never wanted to but i did:-(! and thats bugging me now, it was about 3 years ago! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

hey like you said you cant erase the past. so dont try. you know your nto a lesbian. she forced you adn you didnt want to. also because your single doesnt make you a lesbian. alot of girls that are teens are single. cait ♥

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