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Messed Up With Bestest Friend....
Ok, this is a pretty long story so if you are not after long stories dont bother reading on..
First thing is first.. i am 14/m (gonna b 15 in a month or 2)
Basically my best friend is a girl..and i have known her since we were little..then in primary schoool she left and went to another school, since then we did not talk...but in high school we met up again and ended up in same class..we became extremly close over the years....Just about as close os best friends can become...cut a long story short...i ended up faling for her..i told her..at first she did not feel the same but then she told me she did but things were complicated then a few weeks later she told me she feels more comfortable as friends. So i respected her decision and left it as that...
Meanwhile i have this other friend...basically she a is really horny girl putting it nicely i guess...and i have a sort of weak spot for girls like that and on valentines day just gone me and this girl went out and she ended up giving me head in the cinemas...
I told me best friend and she didnt take it well...she totally lost her respect for me and wont even look at me..i gave it a week or so and then spoke 2 her..she has told me i have changed BIG TIME and most of it coming down to interaction with this other friend and how i have no self control because i let the cinema incident happen.
So i have kind of sort of patched things up with her, i have asked my best friend for a clean slate..i dont want 2 lose her for anything in this world..
She agreed but i know things will never be the same...
Is there anything that i can say or do to help make things work...i care about her more than anything and if i thought what i did on valentines day was going to mess things up like it has i never would have done it...
Would appreciate any help anyone would give..
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it looks like you screwed up, big time. when you say you have a 'weak spot' for girls like that, you're really pretty much saying that you like sluts. as bogus as it sounds, that seems to be the case. BUT ,at the same time- if you're best friend specifically told you she felt more comfortable being friends with you, then what gives her the right to get mad at you if you are with another girl, no matter how bad the situation. id say just give it some time, becuase by all means, i really dont think you need to apologize to her for any reason. i think its all on her- she's obviously jealous- maybe not of what you DID with the girl, but that you were WITH her. just let it calm down, and if she really cares about you a much as you care about her, and she values your friendship as much as you do, then she'll find it in her heart to forgive you. until then- keep your pants on, and tell your 'little friend' to keep her mouth closed. spitfire9631@yahoo.com
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hey well you need to sit her down and talk to her about it. tell her that people change along with the relationships people have. let her know that you still want to be friends with her yet you might want to be friendly with other girls like that horny girl. cait ♥
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Here's the thing. As you were growing up with this girl, she saw you as her friend. Someone who was trustworthy, kind, decent and most of all innocent in some respects.
Suddenly, she has had this image shattered and you've fallen from this pedestal and that's going to be hard for her to deal with. You're no longer 'Mr Perfect'and are instead like a lot of the other guys out there. I can understand why she is upset, as for anyone to do something like this in an open cinema is shocking but for her 14 year old best friend...it's going to be a major shock to her system.
The only thing you can do is to sit her down and try to talk to her properly about it and tell her your concerns. You also need to let her know that you still have feelings for her but that, as they aren't reciprocated, there's no reason for you not to move on and do whatever you want with whoever you want (although it's better if you phrase that in a friendlier way). By admitting you still have feelings for her, it also gives her an opportunity to tell you if she feels the same.
Above all, you need to remember that unfortunately, people do change as they get older and it's not always possible to continue the same relationships with people that we had as children. She may be upset that you changed but there's nothing you can do about that because you're simply becoming the person you are meant to be. If she cares about you at all, she can't ask more of you than to be yourself.
Good luck. I really hope this works out for you.
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