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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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Do you think our government sacrifice human life with indifference when it comes to war? Why or Why not?

I think that becasue of war we have lost many lives. If you think baout it the government is thinking about the people but in the end they are jus killing them. If you fight for your country you are saving the lives of your people but you also killing the lives of another country. Each life we try to save we end up sacrificing another in its place.

ive been fingered before many times [only by one guy]
and he ALWAYS wanted to finger me ofcourse i liked it but how does he get any pleasure out of that?
Basically what im asking is, why do guys like fingering girls so much and how can that get them horny?
Just by the feeling?

Actually that is a good question. It has the same feelings as you would if you were to have sex. This feeling makes them horny. basicly it makes them feel good becasue it is like having sex but without hvaing to worry about getting someone pregnant.

welll i was just wondering if like, the day before you wear a skirt, you could make your legs look better. i don't mean lose 5 pounds or gain a lot of muscle or anything like that, but just make them look better, like a little more toned. i have pretty muscular thighs, so are there any stretches you can do to elongenate(sp?) them so they look a little less bulky? or anything like that to tone up your calves.

thankss

The best thing for that is to get a little tan. If you don't want o go outside in the sun or go to the tanning bed then a pray tan or cream can help. If you legs are a darker shade than before it should fade the bulk out so they look just right. Adding color gives your legs a different look without having to lose weigh or gain muscle.

13/f..
ive never hooked up, and im kinda afraid i might mess up (if thats possible) or make a fool of myself.
any tips or ideas that will make me relax or make it seem not a big deal?

help is appreciated.

If you think of it as a date then you will get really nervous. The best thing is to tell yourself i am just going out with a friend. If you tell yourself it is no big deal then it won't be. If you don't feel confortable about the situation then go to place where you don't have to worry about it. Like resturants or movies. The best idea would be to double date or go in a crowd just until you are confortable enough to where you won't get so nervous then when you finally go out alone then it won't even be a big deal when you start making out. This way it is completely natural and you will be your best.

how can i lose 5-10 inches off my waist in about a month with out pills? i have a membership to a gym and iv been trying to stick to my diet.

First off pills do absolutely nothing. Trust me. Some pilss work but they only cause you to gain it all back when you start to eat. A gym is a good idea but if you have a bicycle that is even better. If you ride a bike for about 20 minutes a day or more if you can then you should see results really fast.

Walking only builds the muscles in the legs. When you ride a bike you are telling the fat cells in the stomach or whatever area to come to the muscle part you are excerising. They the part that wants muscles turns those fat cells into muscles cells. Basicly if you ride a bike or even the bikes they have in the gym would be most effective. Also it helps to drink water and eat no chocolate or at least only a little at a time.

For the last two days, I've been having problems with my internet. I use a wireless connection to my downstairs computer, and my mbps is usually about 11 mbps. Anyway, the last two days, Limewire has told me it's connected (Don't say it's from that, I already ran every scan program I have and picked up nothing). My Skype says it's connected as well. So basically, everything works and is connected, even Counter Strike.

However, my web browsers are going VERY slow, enough for me to think I'm not connected to the internet, when I am. What happens is it takes nearly a minute to go page to page at times, and sometimes it times out entirely. The only time that it's at it's normal speed is when I repair it, and I have about 15 seconds of normalcy and then it starts lagging again.

So basically, I'm at a loss for what the problem is.

If anyone could help in the least, that would be excellent. It would not be helpful for you to say "lol idk much about computors bUtt u shuld take it to best buy and get it fixed hope i helped!".

If you have any questions, just state them and I'll inbox you.

The reason this is happening is you have so many viruses in your system that the scanner can 't pick them all up. The best thing is to wipe the entire computer clean then start from scratch. My computer did exactly what you described so I wiped it clean and it showed I ha dover 1000 viruses that were not picked up. I know you probably wo't want to re-download what you have but it is the only way to get the computer to properly work the way it is suppose to.

Ok well I got into a fight with this girl Taylor and ened up callin her a crappy friend. I started the fight by saying "why do you always ignore me" (bad thing 2 say because she got mad)Then she showed this letter to Bianca and got bianca to turn againest me. And i said sorry 2 taylor but she said i am a drama queen. We are bff and now she just ends it. So when Bianca and Taylor had a sleepover they ganged up on me and bianca was my bff and she was like "Ali i have a right 2 know why ur mad at me even though we arent goin to be friends" But i didn't tell them. And now im not friends with them. Theres a lot more but u would get really confused. Well what should i do bec there my bff and one minute im mad but then suddenley forgive them and they are going to take it anymore.

First you need to figuare why you feel so angry. When someone feels mad inside they tend to take in out on the people around them. After you figuare out why you are so unhappy you will beable to piece things back together with your friends. If they see that you are really trying they will be understanding. A true friend helps you when you are down and if they don't see you are giving an effort to fix things then they are not truly your friends and you should find people who really care.

Why is it that younger guys are so much more immature than older ones? I seem to find myself with crushes (even one that lasted for two years! >.

You should know that some guys that are nicer and more mature are looking for somone like marriage wise is why they are so mature. You wouldnt have to really worry about them pressuring for sex but if you get to a certain point in the relationship they will want more than the standrd boyfriend/girlfriend thing. There are some guys who are younger that are just as mature just not the popular jocks. Most kind guys are hard to see if you like the real hott guys. But there is nothing wrong with liking someone older and wanting that. My advice is that you should just keep searching and remind yourself it is ok to like somone older.

13 and female
Hey, I am just wondering,

Have you heard of scolioses? and back brace?

well i have a back brace and i might take it off in 6-8 months if you have a friend or anything that has it. Can you please share me what its like to them? I'm just wondering how other people feel about this.

Well thanks.

I can say that it is very uncomfortable especially when you can feel it. For some people it makes them very concious about what people think but others they really dont care. Some people dont like having it but they would rather have it to help with the disease than to have the disease for the rest of their life.

does anyone know how many pictures they are now allowing you to have on myspace? i know they changed it awhile ago from 12 to 14, but i saw this one girl that had more than 14. so does anyone know the exact amount you can have? thanks

Usually you can set the limit on how many pictures you want on your myspace like you do with you top friends.

15/f

I was decorating the Christmas tree last year when suddenly it fell over. All of my ornaments (from generations and generations.. and the ones I had been collecting since I was born) were suddenly broken.

Just now I was decorating the tree this year thinking I have so much good in my life but I am not happy and I should try harder (I am constantly trying to improve my life.) But then I dropped an ornament and it reminded me of last year.

I work so hard for everything, but I know how easily it all falls apart and how disappointed I am. Should I see the omen of the falling ornament and stop trying to avoid disappointment? Or do I keep trying to improve my life and self?

I fear disappointment and know it will happen eventually, no matter how hard I try. Maybe I should just give up.

Any words of advice would make a huge difference in my decision.

Thanks so much

I know that each person expects disappointment in their lives and wants to avoid it but you really can't. And never give up because the disappointment gets worse if you do. Continue to try to make yourself happy and maybe if you tried to help someone else improve their life then that process will help you know how to start to improve yours. There are bumps in the road that make you feel like it is not worth the heartache to find complete happiness but the truth is if you don't search for it you just feel completely lost and depressed. If you continue to set your mind on what you want you will get it no matter what. Just have faith in yourself and you will find what your looking for.

I'm moving in a week and we're getting new cell phones/plans. What is the best phone I can gete for under $250? Any deals you've seen with certain providers? I mostly call & text but pics & videos wouldn't hurt. Durability is always a plus. I want a really good phone so any opinions are appreciated. I'm sixteen & a female.

i have cingular and it is absolutely great. I have unlimted text messaging becasue i text alot to. The first bill was like around 200 or so. Then it lowersonce you pay the first bill. Everyone in my fmaily got a phone and it has good reception everywhere you go.

13/f

When a guy asks me out, how can I say 'No'?

Can I have an example of what to say?

Just say you are fladdered that he asked you out but you just want to stay friends. Or he isnt really yu type of guy and he will find the right person it just isnt you.

on oct 28th my period came normally, heavy with lots of cramps, lol, and i had no pregnancy symptoms. on nov 16th i bled abnormally and extremely light for 2 days and spotted for the next 2 days...this has never happened to me before. (i had an abortion at 17, if that helps any). im only sexually active with one man for the past year and a half, and ive only been using condoms for protection everytime. nov 28th past and yet no period has come. i started to experience pregnancy symptoms on the 24th of nov, but no period came...i had a urine and blood test at the hospital on dec 6. urine was negative and no word on the blood, hopefully good news today.can i have your opinion, cause doctors only seem to help if your testing positive right then and there, thank you

Sometimes if you worry about things it will cause more stress in which you won't start. Sometimes when you worry about things you get nausea and feel liek your pregnant when really it is just nerves.

my name is Rachel strickland and iam 17 years old and iam a speciaed student and i want to have sex with my boyfriend who's in regulared and is 18 could jesse get into trouble with the police for have sex with someone who has a disability like add attention defficence disorder while they are still in school?

Neither of you can get in trouble. The only way you would get in trouble is if you are more than 3 years apart other than that you do what you want.

Hi. I want to ask you something.
When you are looking after a convenience store, I walk in and start lookin at porn adult megazines. What would you say to me?

Well technically I couldn't say anything to you. People are free to do what they want. Don't misinterepret what I saying, I mean there are boundries but when it comes to stores and such you are free to look at whatever you want as long as your not stelaing it. I think the salespeople are more interested in getting sales they wouldn't cause a scene.

Okay here a very long story but I need help
There is a boy I used to like and then it spilled out and he later started liking me which then spilled out too and then this girl just came along and also liked him too then he liked her and now they are together but now I like this other guy who is real sweet and holds doors open for you and everything! But I seem to be getting jealous of the girl and she can be nice but she knew I liked him but just went for him so I really don't know what to do.

Your not jealous of her exactly. It sounds more like you are jealous of what she has and you want it to. This other guy if you like him then you should go for him. If you continue to wait thinking eventually the couple will break up chances are they may not. The best thing is to move on becasue if you don't you will only be making yourself miserable. The exact thing happened to me and I hung onto him and nothing ever happened even after the couple broke up. We remained friends so the best thing is if you find something else go with it because it is not always going to be there.

I'm 13/f and I've been crushing on this really cool guy and he's been with two girls not to long ago and trust me he's real nice and my friend and I made a deal that she would tell him tomorrow how I feel. And I have a feeling we would be sitting next to each other too since he dosn't have a girlfriend. I'm scared if he's gonna like me or not. And if my friends tell me to go sit by him I'm really shy so I usually say no what can I do to stop with being to shy before tomrrow?

The best thing is to just relax. Maybe talk to him beforehand and get the flow going. If find something in common to talk to him about then there won't be any problems. If you talk to him before you sit by him you won't feel the tension. Also if you have that conversation before hand he will for sure sit by you to finish it but if he doesn't you have something to talk to him about.

I mean I really want to try it but I don't know how and I don't think there is a way to practice... can someone pleasssseeee help me

When kissing someone you just go with the flow. Follow what they do and you will be a great kisser. All you do is relax becasue if you are tense all kinds of things could go wrong. You should makeout with someone you have chemistry with or at least know that way it is even more fun. Also the best way to practice is to find a guy.

If I get broadband, will it run on my phoneline or does it run via satellite or soemthing else? I'm asking this because I don't have a phone socket in my bedroom, and thus to be connected to the internet (I'm on dialup) I have to use a cord that stretches from downstairs where the phone is connected to upstairs. Quite annoying. I've already signed up for broadband, and they're connecting it in a few days. However to get a phone socket in my room I have to pay 300 bucks and I don't have this kind of money! So can someone explain to me how broadband works? I'm hoping it won't mean I'll have tog et a phone socket.

Thanks.

I have broadband and it doesn't affect my phoneline. If you sign on with it you don't need to have a phoneline for it.

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