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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion.

"I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."

"I believe in colors. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner.I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."

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My ex. boyfriend is getting married in 3 weeks...what do I do? I still have feelings for him but i do not know how to tell him. And i think this is a really bad time to tell him how i feel. But if i dont tell him, i know ill regret it for the rest of my life. And to top it off, he invited to the wedding because he considers me a great friend.What do i do?

you should definetly let him know that you feel this way. you said he thinks your a great friend so im sure he'll listen to what you have to say. you just have to look at the rest of your life if you don't tell him. "if there's just one peice of advice i can give you, its this - when there's something you really want, fight for it, don't give up no matter how hopeless it seems. and when you've lost hope, ask yourself if ten years from now, you're going to wish you gave it just one more shot. because the best things in life, they don't come free."
- grey's anatomy

also, think of what would happen if you do tell him? the worst thing i can think of is loosing the friendship but i honestly doubt thats going to happen because he considers you a great friend and usually if somebody has a great friend they don't just let them go because of a situation like this.

good luck [:

my house is usually pretty cool, which isnt good for my parakeet. he shivers a lot whenever hes out of his cage. i keep the top of his cage covered with a towel to keep him warm, but what else can i do to keep him warm?

thanks

i have 3 parakeets and this used to happen to mine. some things you can do are move his cage next to the heater or the warmest place in the house, because as you probably already know, they're tropical birds and love the heat. you can also use a heavier towel to cover his cage. i used to use a light/normal towel and they were still shivering so i got a heavy one and they were fine.

good luck :]

i am tired of my name!!!!
What are some good nicknames
i am Bailey hunter
13yrs old
girl
love my cell
favorite color : pink
if you need andymore info just ask

THANX A BUNCH♥

it's kind of hard for any of us to give you a nickname with that information about you. the only ones i can really think of is maybe Bails, or pinky ..but then again i wouldn't know if you would like them. if you really want a nickname i would go to your family or friends because they know you way more about you than we do. my friends gave me a billion nicknames [;

hope i helped [:

Okay, so I usually straighten my hair and it comes out really good and straight... but how do I make it like really smooth and silky?
What are some of the best products for that?
Thanks for any help

:D

there's this shampoo, conditioner, and heat protector/leave it conditioner called aussie. what you do is wash your hair with the aussie shampoo, then use the conditioner after, then when you get out of the shower dry your hair with a towel and spray some the heat protector on your wet/damp hair (it's supose to protect your hair from blowdrying and straightening to you don't ruin it with all of the heat) then when you blow dry your hair straighten it and it should be really soft [:

good luck! [:

ok i no this might sound stupid to some people but its really serious to me!!! and i have no idea what to do. ok so my best frined is a guy and forever we have been close. so just the other day he told people that hes liked me for three years. those people told me so i am obviously shocked! because ive always only thought of him as a friend. He doesnt know that i know. i love him as friend and absolutely nothing more. Hes been trying to get me to guess who he likes, and he also keeps trying to tell me... i can only change the subject for so long! PLEASE help i dont want to lose his friendship and i dont want things to change betweeen us not even a little.

please please dont tell me just to tell him that i like him as a friend and nothing more... cause i could have thought of myself

thanks for answering

(16 F)

i would say the best thing to do to not hurt his feelings is to tell him that people have been telling you who he likes and to let him know that you love him as a friend. there's really not that much you can do unless you wanna hurt his feelings. or since he's a good friend you can tell him of a different guy you may like then he might just try and get over you and he will think that you never knew that he liked you.

hope this helpss.
good luck [:

alright, well me and my two friends.. 1 & 2, we all like the same guy. sucks, i know.

well out of the three of us, me and 1 have more of a chance because he just seems alot more interested in the two of us then he does 2.

now i really like this guy, and 1's the kind of girl which all she has to do is like, stand there and she can get 304934 guys, no problemo. me, on the otherhand, not that lucky.

well what i'm saying is is that i really like this guy, and people tell me i should "fight" for him ; flirt with him & make moves. me and her have already talked about this and both decided whatever happens, happens and we'll be happy for eachother, whomever he chooses.

but i still want it to be me, haha.

so any tips on how to flirt a little better?
i know a few of the "basics", i guess you'd say,
but what's some things you've found has worked for you?
what's some things i shouldn't do that might annoy him and make him dislike me?

HELP.

main thing is be yourself [: i know everyone says that but it really does get guys to like you especially if you're confident. so you said your 1 friend just stands there and she can get 304934 guys, that means shes obviously pretty. but if all 3 of you like him then he must be a pretty good guy and nice guys like that will look for something other than looks in a . i know looks matter a lot but they're not the only thing. it also seems from reading this that you have a nice personality.... example, "me and her have already talked about this and both decided whatever happens, happens and we'll be happy for eachother, whomever he chooses." thats being a really good friend and i'm sure sooner or later he will find out that you treat your friends really good. ok now getting to the point (sorry i took so long) to flirt better, laugh at his jokes, smile when you talk to him, look happy to be around him, and act cute around him. something that's worked for me was always smiling and talking (but not too much that gets annoying) also i used to play around with the ends of my hair all the time last year and the guy i liked thought it was cute. and the things NOT to do are following him around, acting like a stalker, always trying to talk to him/be around him 24/7 and staring at his body every single minute of every single day.

good luck! [:

i have long, straight, brownish blonde hair. i wear it down straight everyday. what are some other ways i can style it besides just wearing it down? please help me i need new ideas! thanks a ton.

here some ideas that might interest you:

-half in a ponytail, have down
-side ponytail
-reg. ponytail
-half pulled back to the side
-messy bun
-2 buns
-french braid(s)
-normal braid(s)
-bobby pins to hold back some hair
-scrunch (if you don't have naturally wavy hair you can braid it the night before then wake up and put moose in it.)
-pigtails
-curl it
-crimp it

hope i helped.
(if you didn't understand anything i said just leave me a message in my inbox [: )

13/f
lately me and my crush(kyle) have only been talking on the phone and like flirting at church and i really want him to ask me out or i want our friendship to have more in it but im just confused about what i really want and what he really wants, but the thing is, he is my best friends ex and they hate eachother now and my sister and her boyfriend which is kyle's best friend, they think that he doesnt like me anymore, and thats kyle's fault because the other day my sister asked him if he still likes me and he said no but he really does and he wont tell them the truth and i really want him to because they keep teasing me about liking him because hes 17 and im almost 14 and im getting sick of it because i know the truth and they dont and i tried to talk to him about telling them the truth and he wont do it. ive wanted to tell them the truth but i know they wont believe me and its really frustrating and i really want him to tell them the truth but i just dont know what to do about him. and i dont know if i can do anything.

well first off how do you know if hes lying? or maybe he does like you but he won't ask you out because he thinks you'll say no because he knows you're his ex-girlfriends best friend. i think you should just be patient and don't worry about it and if he really loves you he'll come to you, if not then he's not worth it. trust me, i've been through something like this and all of my worrying was definetly not worth the guy at all, so i just waited and said to myself "i'm going to let a guy come to me." and surprisingly it worked. you did all you can do. it's his turn. and if he really wants you in his life then he'll find a way to put you there. and if he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve you anyway.

hope this helps
good luck [:

Well, I've not long been out of a bad relationship, and I'm not sure whether I'm ready for another one. BUT, I've become really good friends with another boy, and I found out over the weekend that he fancies me. I really, really like him, but I think I'm just afraid to get into another relationship. What should I do? BTW, I'm 16/f.

it's always hard to get into another relationship when you're previous one was bad because you're afraid of the same thing happening to your next relationship. however, i do think that you should give this guy a shot. if he likes you and you like him that's really good. i mean yeah i know its really hard but if you never give him a shot you never would know what would have happened and you would be wondering your whole life what would have happened if you gave him a chance.

no matter what you may think right now its true that all guys aren't the same and this guy just might be one of the good ones.

good luck! [:

okay well i have this guy friend and weve been hanging out with our group of friends and i mean we just started to hang out so i think it might be to soon to tell, but i think i like him. So, how do i tell if he likes me or how do i tell if i really like him?

if he likes you:
-he smiles at you alot
-he talks to you the most out of everyone
-he laughs at funny things you say
-he stares at you
-he tries hard to start a conversation with you
-he plays with your hair
-he tries to get close to you
-he looks you in the eyes

if you like him:
-you're always thinking about him
-you can be yourself around him
-you can talk to him about anything
-he makes you smile
-he makes you laugh
-he makes you a happy person
-he makes your life easier and NOT harder

hope i helped.

15/f. at my school there is this group of people that most people call "goth", "emo", or "punk". but i hate labels and most people are afraid of them and don't talk to most of them. i guess you can call me "preppy" or a "girlie-girl" but again i hate labels and i wear and dress how i want to. okay so to get back on topic this is a guy at my school who is bi so a lot of peple to talk to him. especially the guys, they make fun of him and are like afraid to sit near him or talk to him.

well this kid is in my chorus class and like the second day of class we started talking and i realized that he is REALLY NICE. so we always sit next to each other in chorus and talk all the time. i would consider us friends, but not like best friends or anything because we only talk in school and chorus is my only class with him. people, and a lot of my friends, think that it is weird that i talk to him and that i'm friends with him. i think that people are just so rude and it really disgusts me the things they say about him.

then last chorus class we had like 10 min. before the end of class so my teacher just let us talk and he moved away from the class and sat by himself and asked me to sit with him. so i did and we just talked the whole time, but i felt like everyone was just watching us. them my one friend came up to me and asked "are you two like best friends?" and i just said "well we're friends, but we only really talk in school". and then she said "well it looks like you are best friends".

so basically it just really bothers me how people act towards him and a lot of people think it is weird that i talk/am friends with him. what can i do to make people realize he is nice? and also people think it is weird that we are friends because he is "punk" and dresses in black/band shirts, black skinny jeans, black converses, wear eyeliner and had color his hair. and i wear like regular jeans, shirts from hollister/delias, ballet flats and i don't wear heavy eyeliner. but them sometimes i wear skinny jeans and my vans. but basically i'm kinda girly.

also people make fun of him because sometimes he wears like pink headbands to school, or clips, or striped/hearts ballet flats. then on halloween he was a girl and wore a mini skirt, leggings, a regular shirt, and stuffed a bra. i thought that it was cute and funny but other people didnt. then for the winter formal he told me that he is going to wear a dress and i loved it and we had this fun little arguement about whose dress was going to be better. that is why i love this guy and am his friend because he is just so easy to talk to.

wow i'm so sorry this was so long. but i just need advice on what to do about my friends thinking it is weird that i am friends with him and the people who make fun of him.

thank you so much to whoever answers!

i think it's great that you're friends with him.
ok so first thing is, if your other friends have a problem with you both being friends, then sorry but they shouldn't even be your friends
because friends don't tell friends who to be friends with.
(i'm not saying anything bad about your friends, im definetly not judging your friends, im just saying they should let you choose who to be friends with)
but i can understand that you don't wanna loose all your friends for one friend. it's reality.
you should just tell your friends that hes really a nice guy and people should give him a chance.
like maybe invite him over with some of your friends and they'll find out how nice he really is and spread the word.
what's there to loose?
good luck! [:

Dose anybody know a websites hadse like hair stuff like hair things and hair ties plus hair clips..

http://www.ebuni.com/

http://www.argusdesigns.com/

http://mp.hairboutique.com/category.asp?CtgID=116&SortBy=Rating&REFID={206C36F6-DCF5-4D9E-B5A0-087B12AE47FF}&gclid=COKV4_3Z74gCFQZoSgodEh4OtQ

^haha i know it's long but it's good.
good luck finding things :]

Okay so I really didn't know where to put this question so...
I am so sick of guys!
Like, I love them but I'm sick of not even being able to go into 7-11 for a bottle of water without getting told some derogatory remark!
Like...I'm at my school walking to lunch and a guy (who I don't know) walks past me and says "Ooh".
Sure, I like attention but it's always just because guys want some.
Random guys have asked how much a certain amount of money would get them and stuff but...Don't get me wrong...it feels good knowing that I'm attractive to guys but...how do I get it to stop a bit? Or at least handle it better.
Thanks ahead of time.
XOXO

you need to tell them to stop if you don't like it.
(if you haven't done that already)
if you have already then its ual harassment believe it or not.
and that is illegal.
but then you said "how do I get it to stop a bit?"
in that case talk to them about it.
like tell them your not a + they're not gonna get any so if thats what they want they should just stop saying "Ooh" and stuff.

hah. or you can just get a boyfriend and he'll beat them up for you ;]

good luck :]

Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

you asked for my honest opinion,
and that is your way too skinny.
i highly doubt it's your fault though.
so the people saying things like "get help you have an eating disorder!" need to stop.
because i doubt you have one or you would have mentioned it.
some people are just like that and that's the way they are.
however, i really suggest you go to a doctor.
because if you wait and don't go right away it could be too late.
another honest opinion is i would really hate to see you die from something like this.
doctors will really help you fix things like this though.
and they will let you know FOR SURE if you're too skinny
+ if you are they'll help you gain weight the healthy way. (not through fatty foods)
i hope everything works out for you
+ give me feedback on what happens after you go to the doctor. (if you do)

I'm writing this because I seriously need help.I like this boy,but he dosen't seem to notice me.At one point,I think he wanted to go out with me.(Long story). But,now I can't even get him to look at me! What should I do to get him to notice me?

ok first thing, smile :]
if he still doesn't notice, try starting a conversation.
some ideas for a conversation are what the homework was for a class
(that one always works ;])
complements
(which are always good!)
also, it wouldn't hurt to flirt! (haha i rhymed! ;])
but make sure you DON'T over do it,
you don't want to look desperate.
but once you get a conversation going and acting nice aroumd him, he will surely notice you. :]

Everyone in my grade is going out. Its kind of new this year since were is 7th grade. All the girls and boys are crushing or going out. No one like,likes me. I feel really bad. It's not like i want a boyfriend but i want someone to like me. I don't know why, i just want someone to like me. What should I do?

ok i can relate to this one.
i had the same problem in 7th grade.
thing to do is don't let it bother you.
i know many people have said this but it works.
if guys seeing you not being desperate, they'll come to you.
it worked for me i was always trying to get a guy in 7th grade.
now im in 9th grade and many guys have come to me.
just be patient. :]

okay im 16 5-4 and i weigh 150. i dont look really fat tho you kno what im saying? but anyways i have some fat on my stomach i want to get rid of and im caplable of getin ready of if i just stick with my diet the problem is i always stop my diet for stupid reasons. i guess you can call me a very bad dieter. do you guys have any ideas to keep my focus on my diet more?

i rate fives.

-okay you're going to think this is really stupid and funny but it works, especially if you really want to lose weight then forget about the diet. print out a picture of a really overweight person. then the next time you want to eat badly or forget about your diet look at the picture. i know it sounds stupid but it really works! because you don't want to be as big as that person, ya know? (not trying to be mean to the person in the picture, by the way)

-i've also heard from doctors that if you eat a bowl of cereal for breakfast and lunch and then eat a regular dinner it helps you lose weight. (but don't forget to eat enough breakfast and lunch because if you don't you'll over-eat at dinner because you'll be so hungry!)

hope this helps & good luck!

My hair's kinda thick and so my friends always tell me that I look like a mad woman. But I seriously don't think so. I'm just not one of those girls who have flat, neat and thin hair at the top of their heads. I have thick , straight hair which is a little puffed up(due to the thickness) at the top. Maybe its cos of the puffiness that's why my friends tell me I look like a mad woman.

And also, I guess they say that I look mad because I have a rather big, squarish head. So my head probably makes me look messier since it's bigger. Ugh. I hate my face shape so. Darn. How I wish I can have other people's sharp and small face shape.

But I honestly don't think I look mad! Also , a lot of my friends told me stuff that I seriously seriously don't agree with. I feel that I look ok. But you know, if 3 of your friends tell you the same thing, then... idk...maybe I should really do something about it? But I'm really happy and comfortable with the way I look. So how? Should I listen to them and try to do something? Or should I just stick with my own style? (p.s don't tell me not to care about other people's opinion because when 3 or more people tell you the same thing, you'd start to suspect your own taste)

well first off i think you're LUCKY to have thick hair.
many people that do hair always talk about how they love thick hair cause you can do alot with it.
like if you have thin hair you're kinda limited, ya know?
and about your friends, if they're really good friends you can take their opinion to consideration
but really, do what you like the most.
what matters most is being comfortable in your own skin.
you obviously seem pretty comfortable because you said you look ok.
hope i helped (=

P.S. if you have thick hair when you're young, theirs a relly good chance that you won't go bald or have barely any hair when you're older. (;

13/F
Im like really loud. I don't know if its like in the annoying way, but I'm like always hyper. Even thought I don't eat things with a lot of sugar. Like I'm really friendy & I love talking to new people. I acuallly just love talking period. So yeah anyways. I don't know if I'm annoying or something. So do you guys think its annoying to meet someone new thats really loud & stuff? if you do how can i change?

noo way it's not annoying.
i'm always hyper and outgoing tooo.
many people love outgoing hyper people.
and even if some don't, who cares? it's their loss.
don't change for anyone.
there's a reason why you're you.

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okay so hers my story me and my sister are going swimming and i have my peroid and i was wonderin is'nt water supposed to stop the menastraul flow????

the pressure of the water is suppose to stop it.
but a bad idea would be to go swimming without a tampon.
don't use a pad either.
but you'll be perfectly fine with a tampon. (=

hope this helps

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