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bi friend...need help
15/f. at my school there is this group of people that most people call "goth", "emo", or "punk". but i hate labels and most people are afraid of them and don't talk to most of them. i guess you can call me "preppy" or a "girlie-girl" but again i hate labels and i wear and dress how i want to. okay so to get back on topic this is a guy at my school who is bi so a lot of peple to talk to him. especially the guys, they make fun of him and are like afraid to sit near him or talk to him.
well this kid is in my chorus class and like the second day of class we started talking and i realized that he is REALLY NICE. so we always sit next to each other in chorus and talk all the time. i would consider us friends, but not like best friends or anything because we only talk in school and chorus is my only class with him. people, and a lot of my friends, think that it is weird that i talk to him and that i'm friends with him. i think that people are just so rude and it really disgusts me the things they say about him.
then last chorus class we had like 10 min. before the end of class so my teacher just let us talk and he moved away from the class and sat by himself and asked me to sit with him. so i did and we just talked the whole time, but i felt like everyone was just watching us. them my one friend came up to me and asked "are you two like best friends?" and i just said "well we're friends, but we only really talk in school". and then she said "well it looks like you are best friends".
so basically it just really bothers me how people act towards him and a lot of people think it is weird that i talk/am friends with him. what can i do to make people realize he is nice? and also people think it is weird that we are friends because he is "punk" and dresses in black/band shirts, black skinny jeans, black converses, wear eyeliner and had color his hair. and i wear like regular jeans, shirts from hollister/delias, ballet flats and i don't wear heavy eyeliner. but them sometimes i wear skinny jeans and my vans. but basically i'm kinda girly.
also people make fun of him because sometimes he wears like pink headbands to school, or clips, or striped/hearts ballet flats. then on halloween he was a girl and wore a mini skirt, leggings, a regular shirt, and stuffed a bra. i thought that it was cute and funny but other people didnt. then for the winter formal he told me that he is going to wear a dress and i loved it and we had this fun little arguement about whose dress was going to be better. that is why i love this guy and am his friend because he is just so easy to talk to.
wow i'm so sorry this was so long. but i just need advice on what to do about my friends thinking it is weird that i am friends with him and the people who make fun of him.
thank you so much to whoever answers!
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i think you should invite your friends and him to your house an let them get to know him better then maybe they will realize he is a pretty kool kid
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i think it's great that you're friends with him.
ok so first thing is, if your other friends have a problem with you both being friends, then sorry but they shouldn't even be your friends
because friends don't tell friends who to be friends with.
(i'm not saying anything bad about your friends, im definetly not judging your friends, im just saying they should let you choose who to be friends with)
but i can understand that you don't wanna loose all your friends for one friend. it's reality.
you should just tell your friends that hes really a nice guy and people should give him a chance.
like maybe invite him over with some of your friends and they'll find out how nice he really is and spread the word.
what's there to loose?
good luck! [:
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I want to give you major props for being friends with who you want to and not letting other people define all of the relationships you have at your school. You can't change what people think about this guy, it's their issue. you think he's cool and he seems really cool so you shouldn't worry about it. If your friends are really your friends they shouldn't diss you and your friendship with this guy. they should be happy that you have someone besides them to talk to. They're probly just intimidated by his lifestyle and what he looks like and stuff like that. if they talked to him every once in a while, then they'd probly see the same things about him that you do. encourage them to give him a chance. don't push them to though, just let them do it on their own and in their own time. continue to be happy with the friendship you have with this guy and don't let anyone pressure you to stop talking to him.be happy
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