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ok im seriously hoping its just me.. but it seems like i have soo much hair/fuzz on my face and neck lately! and i hate it! im a gurl by the way.. i dont want to shave it because i mean yeah what girl would thats just weird.. and i dont wanna cut myself and stuff anyway haha. but umm i dont know maybe its because since i started tanning my skin is darker than my [blonde] hair especially on my arms and stomach and stuff, not really my head. but its like it shines in the light since the hairs are so light. haha what can i do? i use the little razor thingy thats for eyebrows and nose hairs and such but it seems like its back in like two days...

you know, i have that too, and no one notices it. (and anyways, LOADS of people have it so its not really uncommon)

i dont know where you live and what your weather is like, but it might be because it was cold (winter and all) and you grew fuzz to keep your face warm. it most likely will disapear at around summer time when it gets hot because your face wont need to keep warm anymmore. and even if it doesnt, its nothing to worry about, very few people notice it and even if they do they wont think anything about it.

and i almost forgot: dont try to shave it or remove it (unless you are going to do so pernamently with laser hair removal) or it will grow darker!!

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Hi all, this is yg. I consider this a question, I am also kind of looking for opinions. I am asking here instead of the mod forum because I'd like answers from those who are mods, and those who may not be yet. There is no right or wrong answer, so please, honest opinions only.

In the last month and a half this question, or a version of this question has come up and it bothers me. 'How can I hide that I have been on advicenators?' I assume it was meant from parents.

I would like to know if others have this problem.

Do you have to hide that you use the site?
If so why?

What do you think would make it acceptable to your parents?

Would you be embarrassed for your parents to see the site?

If so is it because of questions asked?
Questions you've asked? Or just the questions in general?

Answers given?
YOUR answers given, or just everyones answers?

Has anyone, besides myself, (who talked to both my kids about it), Talked to their parents about BECOMING an advicenator?

I think it is a great way to initiate conversation
about topics you may be embarrassed to discuss with a parent about yourself. I wonder if anyone has done that?

I think I have plagued you with enough questions for now. Thank you! :)yg

Do I have to hide that I use this site?
Yes. My parents believe that the internet is a waste of time, and I could be using my time on advicenators studying or reading. They know (at least my mom knows) that I have an account, but they really do not like this site for a reason they only know. My mom enjoys scorning this site... unfortunately.

Yes I am embaressed by some of the questions I have asked. If one of my parents were to read through them, they would be a bit appalled, and maybe even hurt that I hadn't come to them for advice. Some of my questions were just plain embarassing.

Yes and it is also because of the answers I gave. I give a significant amount of advice about sex and puberty. I dont think my parents will enjoy knowing about some of the subjects discussed on this website. (topics such as sex are very carefully avoided in my family.. I actually had to go on websites such as these to learn what a period is and other such things.)

I actually enjoyed a good chuckle at the thought of what my mom's face would look like if I offered her to become an advicenator. But it is also a very scary thought because my mom would find out about the things I know... she knows my account name. I also highly doubt if she can answer any of the health questions.

But I feel like I must add that it is part of my culture to "help yourself". My mom believes that the people on this website (both askers and answerers) are stupid and uneducated and a bunch of time wasters.


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I have combination skin (oily t-zone, normal cheek area)...every day I cleanse, tone, and moisturize. Sometimes I use a scrub..
I was wondering, how many times per week is it recommended to use face scrub? I don't have sensitive skin..

i would use a facial scrub once every two day right before you go to bed. (that way your skin can breath make-up free at night)

also wash your face with a facial soap every morning, especially on the t-zone area. Then moisturize twice a day.

the moisturizing will help with oily skin. the reason your skin is oily is because it is trying to moisturize itself by producing oils. the lotion will help do it for your skin, so that it wont have to release these oils. i recomend aveeno, it doesnt leave your skin looking greasy.

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I would like to get some sort of animal as a pet. The only thing is that my dad is allergic to furry animals, and my family is very busy, so we couldn't give the pet 24/7 care that often. so, what kind of pet should I get?

-bird
-fish
-walking stick
-lizard
-iguana
-snake
-frog
-turtle
-hedgehog (if they are legal in your state)

hope i gave a few ideas.

if you need any information on any of them let me know!!


*a walking stick is an insect which looks like a stick. they are EXREMELY easy to care for and dont smell. they are fascinating creatures to watch, but they are only for people who are not creeped out by insects. heres a picture of one:

http://www.nicksspiders.com/insects/stickhand.jpg

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13/f

I have a problem w/ my anus, its all red and itchy and it stings! what should a do about this, I DEFINETLY DON'T wanna go to my mom, its sooooooo embarassing!!! And a week ago, I asked her nervously what to do about it, and she said she'll take a look at it, that sounded embarassing. She called me to that bathroom, and I ran scared into my room, and said I was busy doing homework. I couldn't go out into the hall until she went to the grocery store. So what do you people think I should do[other than suggesting to go back to my mother!]

Thx

KP

try putting some moisturizing lotion around it. if you have neosporin use that.

if it doesnt go away/get better within two days, go see a doctor about it. most likely they will take a culture, and i am pretty sure they will not look back there, but will just give you a wipe so you can wipe yourself in the bathroom.

as for your mom tell her upfront you are uncomfortable with her seeing your back their (lol). she should understand.

hope i helped!

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im a girl. and for quite a while my voice has been cracky/croaky does this mean im hitting puberty and if so how long will it last till i get my peirod?

lol honey this has nothing to do with puberty. you have probably caught a cold. but if it doesnt go away go see the doctor.

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What should you do to make sure cuts (like a huge one amlost across the forehead) heal quickly without getting infected and doesn't leave a scar?

Oxygen or no oxygen? (bandage or no bandage)

ok i dont know what you mean by a "huge" cut (it could mean that its deep, or that its just a slight scrape)

if its not deep and doesnt take that much space (its just a long narrow line) then i would let it breath, so no bandage. remember to wash it out with antibacterial soap and water. I would put some neosporine on it, or if your up to it some iodine (it will leave a dark brown stain on your forehead and wont wash off for as much as two days). i personally use iodine for my cuts and scrapes, but only in places where you cant see it.

If its a deep cut then i would put a bandage on it, and wash it out with hydrogen peroxide. if its bleeding continuously and/or you feel like you need stitches, i would go to the emergency room. where they can stitch you up and maybe give you some antibiotics.

hope i helped!

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Im not from USA im from ENGLAND...Ok i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but how do i know im ABSALUTLY sure i want to? and can you give me other advise on how i could turn my boyfreind on and he can get the hint?

do you love him?
do you TRULLY want to have sex with him?
do you think sex before marriage is ok?
are you comfortable talking about sex with him?
does he want to have sex with you?
do you know how to use protection?
do you have a plan set up if you get pregnant?


if you answered yes to ALL of these questions you are ready to have sex.

to turn him on: while making out put your hand on his crotch

nibble his ear

suck on his finger tips

moan a little when you kiss him

also when making out grab his hand and put it on your boob (he'll know what to do next ;)



ya basicly things like that. hope i helped!

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i cant think of where a plant comes from? lmfao

a field? what is it called, im looking for a specific word and i cant find it!

DONT SAY GOOGLE

a meadow?

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okay so you know how..
2= second
3= third
4 = fourth
5= fifth
6= sixth.

i need to say 4.5 or 4 and a half, but in that tense.

the sentence is.. The ____________ (4.5) planet he went to.


how would i say that?
hope you undertstand what i am saying.

The four point fifth planet he went to


hope i helped!!

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Are pixie sticks good physically to your body?

It tastes so good but I wonder of it's bad because I feel like it's kinda the same as eating a bowl of just sugar.

Thanks and when you answer can you tell me if you're a professional or not so I can know for sure?

pixie sticks are not healthy. yes it is like eating from a bowl of sugar, except its flavored.

you cant really eat anything with it to make it healthier, your still eating that one stick of sugar whether or not you "diluted" it with something else.

although you can cut the amount of pixie sticks you eat in half or something, that would be much healthier. OR you can even switch to plain sugar-it has no artificial colors or flavorings (which are super duper bad for you: they can even effect your mental system, like cause you to overreact, be very irratable, etc)

i am not a professional, but i hope i helped anyway!

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I've heard rumors that it's not healthy to wear a bra to bed, and i havent been for a while. Which is healthier, wearing a bra to bed or not? and why?

it is not healthy to wear a bra to bed. it blocks off circulation to your breasts, causing lumps and tenderness.

if you feel that you absolutely have to, wear a comfortable sports bra, or camis.

hope i helped

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I really want a tattoo like Gisele Bundchen's, like with the star on her hand. its soo cute! but would the tattoo people or my parents let me? because im only 13..

i think you are a little young to get a tatoo. like others stated on here, your tastes will change. imagine having your tattoo when your 25, and it looks rather stretched out (you, and your skin will grow) and lopsided, and your 25 year old asks you what it is, and why you got it, and your just gonna answer "i got it at 13, and i got the idea from Gisele" (who most likely will be completely forgotten by then).


i would wait at least 4 to 6 years before getting a tattoo. your tastes WILL change, its part of growing up.

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I'm 17 years old an a virgin, so I never worried about pubic hair before. I shaved the sides and trimmed the rest so it was neat and clean. After all, I was the only one seeing it.

I thought about shaving the whole thing for a long time (my sister does it and I know the smooth look is popular) and today I just shaved it all off. Here's two questions.

1.) I soaked in hot bathwater for awhile to soften the hair before I shaved. I lathered it up and shaved it in all directions...twice! It feels smooth but it sort of looks stubbly in some places. It's not horrible...but does anyone know what I mean or what I could do about it?
2.) No offense to those that shave it all, but it just looks...stupid on me...like a 10 year old girl. What are, in your opinion, other more attractive styles of doing it...like the strip.

Thanks for any advice I can get! I'll rate. :)

to help with the stubble: use shaving cream AND conditioner mixed together. use your finger to stretch your skin in order to get a closer shave.

as for looking like prepubescent girl, i agree with that. we should celebrate what nature gave us. yet in some cases, (hygeinic, sexual, comfort), we have to shave. it would be a little embarassing if you didnt grow pubic hair, and a little embarrasing if you did but its its kind of a dignity thing.

i think leaving a design of hair at the top shows that you DO have pubic hair, yet you keep it under control. i personally leave a strip, a small triangle, sometimes a circle... whatever i feel like.

hope i helped!

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Is there any way to watch a movie online for free without downloading anything?? If so please send me a link.. :}

www.peekvid.com


some things take a while to load tho

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Am I skinny yet?

http://i12.tinypic.com/4dvpqtz.jpg

You are emaciated. Please, please, please go see a doctor. I am really scared for you. This question was unfairly deleted, (dont ask how I came across it), but I really hope that you will read this and heed my advice. Best wishes and good luck!

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why does putting your hair up help your hair grow faster? is this even true???

No, its not true. It doesn't make your hair GROW, it just STRETCHES it, making it thinner and more likely to break.

~Maria, 16

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Ok as you get older is it possible for your face to get longer and then for your nose to appear smaller? but it is actually the smaller but same size? Or would your nose just grow bigger along with your face?

Weird question i know but please try and answear it.

Your nose and ears never stop growing because they are made up of cartilage. Learned that in biology =)

~Maria, 16

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im 12 years old and i didnt get my period yet im worried but u know all my family got it at 13 but im still worried and i cant stop getting scareed
help

hun i got it at two days before my 16th birthday. you have nothing to worry about.

honestly, you should just enjoy not having your period. i was just like you, but now that i got it i wish i hadnt. it sucks. trust me. you have to visit the bathroom every 4 hours, constantly worry about whether you're leaking or not, AND you have to deal with cramps and sore boobs.

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Hey what I want to know is how I can make my boyfriend horney. No I am not being a tease because he told me he loves when I do it but I don't know how I did. I don't want to ask him because I kind of want to suprise him. Also I can't really dress in "sexy clothing" and I don't talk dirty. But can someone give me some information on places where I can touch or kiss or something that will turn him on.

Thanks sooo much!

when making out:
"accidently" brush your hand against his crotch
run your hand up and down his chest
or place it really high up on his thigh
moan (if your comfortable with that)
kiss him on the neck
play footsie, but slide your leg up to his knee once in a while
nibble his ear


if you guys are watching a scary movie/running (lol)or something, say something like "my heart is beating so fast, feel" then put his hand on your heart, and then slide it onto your boob. then kiss him. (ha thats both cute, sensual, and sexy)

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