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19/M
I have been trying to get a boyfriend for a while, and it id just not working. I will start to talk to a guy, then something will happen and I am tired of it. I have a few friends, but none of them have any boyfriend potential. And one of my ex's is down from college, and me and him were texting one night and started to send pictures. Well, I loved being physical with him, and we are both single. I was half kidding and asked if he wanted to hook up, and along the way we decided that as long as we were both single, we would be friends with benefits whenever the opporitunity arose. I miss being physical, and I cannot wait to hook up with him. But what I am wondering is if what I am doing is wrong. I do care for this friend, but we both have agreed that we will NOT get into a relationship, we are only going to fool around (from kissing to having anal intercourse). I do not want to date him, he really is not what I look for in a guy. But I remember when we dated before he was great with all of the physical stuff, and I just want to have a good time and he seems like a logical choice to have a good time with. I just don't know if I should be doing this. Any advice? (link)
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Dude, you guys talked it out and have an understanding. So no need to overthink this. Just enjoy being together until he returns to school. There is nothing wrong with a FWB relationship as long as you are responsible with it (that is, ensuring that no STD's will enter the picture).
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My boyfriend and i have always had sex very often for about 2 years now. He is always able to get hard right away and can go for a very long time. However, lately he hasnt been able to get an erection as easily and we are only able to go 2 or 3 rounds instead of 5 or 6 like before. The last couple times we had sex he wasnt even able to stay hard enough to finish having sex. We have increased the amount of sex from twice a week to maybe three days in a row, but there have been no changes in diet, stress or anything. He is still able to feel horny and aroused, however his penis wont get hard. Any ideas as to what is causing this? Could our increased amount of sex have anything to do with it? (link)
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First, if you guys are still having frequent sex, he doesn't have erectile dysfunction. However, there could be a mismatch in sex drives here where you are hornier than he is and he just can't keep up anymore. This is more common than you think.
Now you also mentioned that he was able to go for a "very long time." That could be sign that he is masturbating too much (like everyday), which leads to a condition where he needs more sustained intense stimulation to stay hard. One thing you could do is ask him to watch you masturbate while he does it to himself and see if he has to make more effort to keep himself up. If so, he may be wiggling the weasel more than he should when he is away from you.
Or he had one instance where he couldn't get it up, hated to disappoint you and now is obsessing on it by doubting himself.
Or he could be getting bored with you or the sex you have has become too routine. Don't overthink this point. Sometimes couples go through ups and downs where this happens and then something rekindles the old drives again.
If the instances of what you call erectile dysfunction were more profound, I would think he might want to get checked for diabetes or cardiovascular disease.
But for now, I would just say slow down, be happy if he can do it once a night, bolster his ego and try not to argue with him for now and see if that helps.
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I want to stop masterburting and i don't know what to do. Please help me. (link)
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Keep doing it. It isn't evil. It is a normal bodily function. Stop allowing religion/prudes fill your head with guilt tripping fairy tales.
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I personally.. dont want to go to University.. I know ''you wont get a good job'' , but I dont want to waste my time anymore in my heart I dont want to go... I want to go and start work right away.. I want to start working and I know its not the best thing but I want to work instead of studying.. is that normal? (link)
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I understand your feelings. Not everyone is cut out for college. Tuition is also just too expensive these days to waste money on it if you aren't really committed to your studies.
The problem is that the lack of a university education will vastly limit your opportunities. You didn't mention what you intend to do as a career. You can't just float through life, dude, on a wing and a prayer. You need a plan. So yes, pass on going to college for now (you can always go later if you change your mind), but try to use your employment in a directional way so that you aren't just tramping around whatever minimum wage position that becomes available but leads nowhere.
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Why is virginity valued by some people/ cultures? (link)
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Because it comes from a time when women were treated as little more than glorified chattel. It also doesn't help that women merchandise their sexuality anyway in exchange for whatever favors they hope to get out of it.
As a result of virginity being made something so special and one's lack of access to a girl also playing into it, virginity has become fetishized by guys who would love nothing more than to dominate and control women.
Virginity, in the grand scheme of things, is meaningless. Sex is a normal bodily desire just as the need to go to the bathroom is. People really need to relax about it and just enjoy sex for what it is.
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13/f and I have a bestfriend.She really likes this guy,but she doesn't know if he has a girlfriend already.She's also said that she's not ready to ask him yet either.So she asked me to ask him,but I have no idea how to ask him. (link)
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This is actually none of your business. Tell your friend that she has to learn how to handle things herself and not ask her friends to bail her out when she doesn't have the courage to take the bull by the horns.
What she is afraid of is rejection. If the guy rebuffs her at least she will find out what guys have to put up with since we are usually the ones who are charged with making the first move. So her just going for it will be a god growing experience for her.
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I'm 19 and i met this guy a year ago. from the very start i was'nt attracted to him but he forced things out. i gave in because I'd just broken up and wanted to show that 'thing' that i was doing well. I have never loved him and always wish if got a nice guy,i would slip out.I hate him yet he loves me dearly. what should i do? (link)
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Look, your life is your own. Nobody can live it for you. So you had better make it precious because you only get one shot at it. If you are unhappy in the relationship, break up with him and find somebody you think would be a better fit.
Don't let your life be sabotaged by guilt trips or hustles laid on you by others. They can't live your life. Rather, they are more interested in what you can do for them. Decide what you want and then go for it and it isn't necessary to feel guilty about it.
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ok im gonna make this really short. i am a 13 year old girl and sometimes, when my mom is screaming at me and grabbing my face and pulling my hair and all that fun s*it, my mom will scream at me "i will wreck you". other times, she will say it jokingly. is it ok for her to say that in a joking situation or in a yelling situation or none at all? please answer. kisses! (link)
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How old is your mom? Ten? At the very least what she is doing is childish and at worst it could fall into the realm of child abuse. She needs to grow up and maybe even get therapy.
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im a young male, how do i masterbate?
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Use a small amount of lube so that you don't get sore and just caress, prod and stroke your cock while thinking of something hot.
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back in freshman year (i'm a senior now) i started to like this guy. we can call him J. anyway J found out that i liked him through someone else and he told my friend to tell me that he only thought of me as a friend. So she goes up to me and is like "i heard that J only likes you as a friend" i assumed that she overheard it somewhere so i shrugged it off. a few days ago i got curious and I asked her how did she find out and she told me that J told her himself. i ask her why didn't she tell me this before and she was like "you didn't ask" i know this is like a small issue but i'm slightly bothered that she didn't tell me he told her himself. and she didn't even think to tell me for two years and i had to ask her for it in order for her to tell me. am i wrong for feeling kind of hurt? (link)
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The question you have to ask yourself is, would you risk your friendship with your friend over something that wasn't that big a deal in the cosmic scheme of things? Your friend may not have wanted to tell you bad news and therefore had no malice in keeping the information from you.
Also, why are you putting all of your eggs in one basket with that guy? Meanwhile, there are probably at least half a dozen guys on your campus who probably think you're perfection itself and you ignored them. Tunnel vision is never good.
So relax, just take each day as it comes and enjoy life as much as you can with what you know at the moment.
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If you are going to be mean with all do respect dont answer.
im 16 years old and im from egypt, im not obese at all, im slightly overweight.. but ive been wanting to get on the biggest loser ever since i saw the show.. and i would do anything to be on that show, is there any possible way i can enter the biggest loser seeing how im from egypt and im not very obese ? =/ or is there no chance and i should drop it.. it means alot to me as stupid as it may sound , i realllllly wanna get in :(, thanks for your help. (link)
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You shouldn't be so obsessed with tv shows. And yeah, you're probably not overweight enough for them. The media tends to like extremes when it comes to reality shows (it is the old carney freak show mentality).
So instead, just focus on being the best person you can and get as fit as time and circumstances will allow. The simpler you make life the better it will be.
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17/f
Me and my boyfriend will be celebrating our 10 month anniversary on the 6th of this month. He always takes me out and this time, he told me its my turn to surprise him! what can i do, or where can i take him that will be romantic, and will actually interest him? Help please!! (link)
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Let me say this about attaching "month" to 'anniversary," which is supposed to be something that happens once a year: it just puts unnecessary stress on the relationship. Your love shouldn't be some kind of contest of material or theatrical production. Simplify things, just be glad he loves you, keep things mellow and live in the moment.
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Ok, so I'm 13... I weigh 125 lbs... and I'm 5'3... I think I'm overweight.... my thighs are 31 inches around at the biggest part..... I have a very low self confidence because of my weight... so, what I want to know is.. by the time I'm 16 do you think I would look skinnier because I would grow into myself?? And is it possible that if I grow into myself.. would I lose inches off of my thighs?? I have really big hips and thighs.... I hate it!!! I just dont want to look like this my whole life... also... I have hair all over my stomache!! It is the Darkest around my bellyWbutton though... I have askd my mom if I could bleAch it but she says no all the time,and tells me to just shave it... but every time I shaVe it.. there is little black dots from where I couldn't get down far enough to shave the hair that is starting to grow back in undernEath.. any ideas on tht too?? Oh, and please dont try to comfort me and say stuff like "god made you for who you Are and just accept it" thanks!! (link)
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First, 5'3" and 125 pounds is a nice combination. Women are built by evolution to retain a certain amount of fat and it is also what gives you the stuff guys REALLY like (butt, boobs and hips).
If you really want to taper your body more, join a swim club. Swimming exercises every part of your body, it makes you physically stronger and more aerobically fit and it will lower your body fat. However, keep in mind that you will gain some muscle, which is heavier than fat, so don't obsess so much over the numbers on the scale. I had a girlfriend at one time who was a competitive swimmer. She was around 5'5" and 140 pounds and had an absolutely smoking body. So it isn't the number attached to the weight, but how you carry it.
If you can't afford to join a swim club, eat a low fat diet, run a mile or two a day (which tends to thin the legs out, but running is also hard on your knees and back) and keep your caloric intake under 2000 and you should be fine.
As for the hair, get either electrolysis or have it waxed. Bleaching it isn't really good for your skin.
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im 19 and i plan on going to college for hotel management and that sort of thing.
what kind of par time jobe could i get while im studying in this field?
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You could get a front desk job while going to school. Hotel management by itself is fine, but to get a comprehensive picture of what you deal with in terms of customer demands, property maintenance issues, etc, you should definitely apply at hotels. Keep in mind, though, that the cheaper the motel or hotel rates, the dumber and more sleazy the clientele becomes.
Btw, it would help if you learn Japanese or Chinese plus Spanish. It might also help if you live overseas for a couple of years after college just to broaden your cultural horizons. Believe me, this helps in the hotel business A LOT.
I worked in the hospitality industry for a couple of years. It's definitely not easy and there tends to be a lot of turnover of GM's. I wouldn't call it the most stable way to make a living. If you would be so disposed, you might think about the healthcare field instead, especially nursing, since there is a shortage right now. Much more stable, fewer day to day headaches and it pays very well with full benefits.
Whatever you decide, good luck.
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18/f.
I would like to be able to shave all my pubic hair, as I just feel more comortable with my body that way and prefer the look/feel of it.
However, whenever I try it leaves stubble, a shaving rash and becomes incredibly itchy and a little painful. I know that others shave their pubic hair and don't have these problems, so there must be a way round it.
As much as waxing sounds like it would leave a better effect, it's just too painful, and I don't have the money to pay to get it done (I can't make myself do it, because I do one strip and then chicken out due to the pain.)
So what can I do to get a good result with shaving, and avoid shaving rash? I would really appreciate any tips. (link)
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Take a warm shower to help soften up the skin. Do not use regular soap there before you shave because soap dries the skin out. Then lather some pre-shave cream on your pubic region and use a brand new razor (if you're using disposable ones) to start shaving., Shave with the grain of the hair.
Also, keep this in mind, too, if you're feeling a little self conscious about the bumps you've been getting: guys don't care about that. So don't stress over the bumps as far as the aesthetics of it go. The only issue really is more for you if you get ingrown hairs or some other form of irritation.
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Hi im 15f and I have been on a small trip but im outside a lot so I have to drink a lot of fluids so I havent been able to pee as much as I should and like I just feel uncomfortable it feels sore and sometimes itchy I found a bump on the clit top part last week and it seems it comes and goes. Please what should I do I dont want to confront my parents yet if its not serious but like I thought about what if it burns while I pee and then the next time it felt wierd (link)
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First, if you've been exercising a lot or in a really hot environment, your body will consume that water without needing to pee any of it out. For example, I've done farmwork on warm days and because of the intensity of the labor I could drink several quarts of water during the day and only have to urinate once because I sweat the rest out.
What concerns me is that you aren't feeling right and so that means you really need to go to the doctor. It's probably nothing and your symptoms could be entirely psychological, but we can't really diagnose you over the net. The bump near your clit may just be due to irritation and it's unlikely to be anything significant, I believe. But again, your doctor can tell your for sure.
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So- theres a friend of mine who Ive known for three years, Im 18, hes 20, we met in high school and when we talk its all day, every day. Everyone we meet thinks we're perfect for each other, and hes asked me out a few times over the course of our friendship, but I wasnt ready for that and I didnt want to lead him on, so I made sure to keep it honest and simple. So three years later he starts dating an acquaintance of mine, and about a month into it I realize; Im graduating and Im ready for that kind of relationship. So I tell him how I feel. While he told me he wasnt breaking up with her, (who I might add, screwed him after 3 weeks. hes 1 of 4 guys. Shes 18.) if they ever were to break up thered be no one else out there for him, (and a maybe in the future we could be together but- line) and continued to talk about how weve never been "just friends" for the next two hours before we had to go to bed. The next day we fought over the fact that I wont play #2 when he obviously likes me, and I dont deserve to be a back-up plan. The fight ended with a resolution of we're just friends, and shes my gf. I purposefully ignore him the next day, and the next morning, he tells the gf. Great. So after a week or so of barely talking- gf goes on vacation for a month. I text him like usual (although I am always making the first move) and things are normal, with him dropping some hints and using the 'best friend' thing a lot. But he never stalls the conversations- we actually have GREAT conversation. I stop about two days before she comes back. Gf comes back from vaca, I try to text him about day two after shes back- barely any reply. I finally just get mad, because he calls himself my 'best friend' but ignores me, and havent really talked to him since.
I know these two and I highly doubt theyre compatible. Weve gone through stages of not talking after I had written him off and hes come back twice before. So my question is- any ideas what the future may hold? (link)
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Do you really like this guy enough to have a relationship with him or are you jealous that another girl has taken your friend's time from you? That is what I think is really going on here. The moment you don't have to compete with him is the moment when you will love interest.
I think he seems you trying to manipulate and monopolize him for your own purposes and rightly resents it.
Look, you are too young anyway to be tied down with someone. Go to college, date lots of different people, live overseas after graduation and then if it is meant to be you guys can hook up again once you are actually mature adults who know better what they actually want.
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what way should i seduce or move my body to impress my boyfriend while having good sex?
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The less thinking you do during sex the better. Just move as you feel at the moment and focus on the sensations your feeling without worrying about the mechanics of it, which will take care of themselves.
The sexiest thing you can actually do is vocalize what you want and how much you're enjoying it. A guy is looking more for enthusiasm than any gymnastics.
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I hate my best friend, i'm not going to go into detail, it just all sums up into her being a bitch. Anyway, this is what happens when i get mad at her:
I'm nice, explain how i feel about the situation, ask why this happened. she doesn't text back for a few days, then pretends like nothing happened, i, just wanting to move on, pretend to. things go back to normal, another week goes by, she does something wrong again, and the situation repeats.
Because of this, I have a lot of anger towards her. I'm mad at her again, and i know in a few days she will text me.
Should I A. just never respond or B. bitch her out?
I am not being friends with her anymore (link)
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Look, the coin of the realm to women is attention. So if you have nothing to do with her from here on in then she will get the message. Until then, you are just enabling her.
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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with? (link)
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What it means is that the guy is using the girl for his own purposes and doesn't really love her. So she needs to hit the eject button on him and find someone else who will be more appreciative.
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