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I had no idea what kind of category to put this under but here goes my question...
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I watch porn videos at night to get me horny but I see a lot of girls and I think they're hot. 13/f by the way, and whenever i see like a pretty girl or something ill be like "whoa theyre hot" in my head. but then during the day when i see a lot of guys im like "omg hes so hot." or "whoa hes gorgeous" am i bi? am i lesbian? am i straight? is this normal?
Right now, I think it's very normal to find other girls physically attractive or be intrigued by the opposite sex. On the other hand, if you are actually interested in having a relationship & sexual interaction with the same sex (& with the opposite sex), it's possible you are bi. Your sexuality is still questionable at this age, so there's no way I can say for certain.
Okay while making out with my boyfriend it was getting intense and he was moving his hands around so i grabbed it and put it on one my by breasts. and he squeezed it and what not.
but then later i tried to give him the hint to actually put it up my shirt. i even took his hand and put it halfway up. but then he just rubbed around my back and took his hands back down.
it just confuses me cuz he's fine with putting his hands in my pants and everything but he doesnt seem to want to go up my shirt. maybe hes nervous. i don't know.any suggestions or comments? thanks.
Chances are: he just wasn't comfortable or felt like he'd be crossing the line. I know it might be awkward, but perhaps you could discuss it with him. Start off by discussing the things you guys both like & casually bring up your situation & let him know your boundaries. Tell him the things you are comfortable with if he decides to go for them. The next time you make out & he doesn't take the opportunity to go up your shirt, look at it as a positive thing. The way I see it is: When a guy rubs your back & tries to make you feel good, he probably cares about you more than someone who goes straight for your boobs & in your pants. I think he just has more respect for you or just isn't the type to go up shirts all the time. But that's just my assumption. Communication is important in a relationship, so don't be afraid to talk about these things & find out what he likes. :)
well im going on vacation in 164 days.
and i weigh like 123 now.
i really wanna weigh like 100, or around there.
i just wanna know if thats possible in like that many days?
and what can i do to get there?
like would running help?
and if so like should i run like sprints because i heard thats better than running like 1 mile just like sprint a few yards then like jog then sprint and so on.
and like would running help me lose like the fat on my arms too?
thanks in advanced.
164 days would give you about 5 & a half months, meaning you'd have to lose about 4 lbs a month. So yes, it's definitely possible, but is it a healthy weight for your height? If you want to lose weight, the obvious solutions are to change your intake of food. Cut out sodas & sugary foods & replace them with more veggies & protein. Be sure to get atleast 8 glasses of water a day - this will help clean out your system of any chemicals. Instead of having 3 meals a day, have 4-6 small meals to keep your metabolism going. Start off by exercising 3 times a week; for atleast 30 minutes. When you're comfortable with that, increase it to about 4-5 times a week for atleast an hour. Stick to any kind of cardio like running, jogging, jump roping, dance, or any sport that gets your heart rate up. If you want to lose fat targeted in your arms, get a set of weights: 5lbs each for lights & 10 lbs for heavy weights. If you're a more athletic & strong girl, start off at 10 lbs for light weights & 15 lbs for heavy weights. Since I cannot demonstrate some arm exercises, try searching for some on google. Not only is your health & excerise important, but many fail to realize that so is the amount of sleep you get. Aim for about 7-8 hours of sleep a night. The important thing is to be consistant. If you think you're the type who will slack off with your exercise habits, see if a friend wants to join you & support you along the way. Make it a routine & you'll see results in no time. :)
How can you tell if someone your dating is just in the relationship to get sex?
Well an obvious way is to not put yourself out there so easily. Take things slow & don't be so eager to take the "next steps" in the relationship. If he's not getting what he wants right away, he'll move on in no time. But a guy who is truly interested in you & the relationship will wait a long time before getting "anything." Also, if you're in any kind of relationship & you can't trust the guy.. then you shouldn't be in that relationship to begin with. Get to know someone enough to know they aren't the type before you commit to them. I've noticed firsthand that if you date a good friend, the likeliness of that relationship actually working is a lot higher. :)
How can you tell if your boyfriend is in love with you? Like what are the signs that he is?
If he's IN love with you, he's bound to tell you when he feels like the moment is right. Most guys are horrible about showing or sharing emotions. So there's really no signs you can go off. He could act like he just strongly likes you, but who knows how he really feels. If you want to know for sure, avoid asking him. By asking him yourself, he might feel a little pressured or a little uneasy. Just wait for him to come out & say it on his own.
Okay so I'm 15 years old, 5'4", 110 lbs. Normal weight, right? Yeah. My mother keeps giving me a hard time about my eating habits just because I tend to eat one meal and maybe one or two snacks per day. It's not like I want to lose weight, I just don't feel like eating most of the time and I don't get hungry very often. Yet she bugs me about eating all the time. Why should I eat when I'm honestly not hungry and don't feel like eating? That's gluttony, which is a sin and very unhealthy for you. I'm sorry, but I just don't do that or eat when I'm bored. I think it's gross to do that. How can I get her to understand that I'm not anorexic or anything, just not that hungry?
I can first off by saying that I am exactly like you. Typically, one meal & a snack does it for me for the day. & I have also been given a hard time about it in the past. Although you are only eating when you're hungry, your body is probably not getting enough nutrients that it needs. I'd suggest eat atleast 2-3 small meals & 3 snacks throughout the day. No one says they have to be a ridiculous amount of food. If you spread out your snacks & meals evenly throughout your day, you have a better chance at saving your metabolism. At first when I started eating a lot less (such as yourself), I never got hungry & lost some weight. But overtime, your body is going to feel like it doesn't know when you're going to eat next if there's a longer time inbetween meals. As a result, hungry or not, your body is going to start storing just about everything you eat to live off until you eat again. In the end, you're metabolism is going to become really slow & you're going to end up gaining everything you eat - even if it's hardly anything. I know you're not hungry, but eating about 4-6 times (snacks or small meals) will keep your body burning calories & never feeling like it's in starvation mode. Since breakfast is important, I'd suggest eating a decent amount first thing in the morning. In a about an hour or two, have a snack like some fruit or granola bar. & have lunch/and or dinner & a snack every couple of hours anytime in between those meals. Even if it's not a lot, eat something to keep your body feel like it's starving, although it may not feel like it to you. And for those lacking nutrients, take vitamins every morning and/or just make sure you're eating something really healthy throughout the day. Hope this helps. :)
does anyone know any tips to make the area under my eyes brighter? wen i wake up, its really dark and i look gross =[
or any eyeshadows i can wear to make my eyes pop?
(i have brown eyes.)
Use a lighter concealer under your eyes. Or avoid bringing any attention to your lower lashes by applying eyeliner & mascara only to the top lashes. & I think that should do it.
So while i'm making out with my boyfriend.. just laying on him or stradling him.. what are some signs that let me know he is horny? other than him getting an erection. because i can't always tell when he's getting one or not. all answers appreciated!
Deep breathing, more passionate & harder kissing, & he'll become more agressive. The signs are pretty obvious when you see them.
i used to be extremely social at home..always calling people..always wanting to talk to my friends on aim..but lately i just feel like sleeping or listening to music in my room and when i get on aim theres only a couple people i ever even want to talk to and when im on the phone im usually wanting to get off (besides with one guy) i dont even call people often anymore because i never feel like it..could this be a sign of anything?
Well, we all go through stages where we need some alone time & don't really feel like going out. Sometimes going out & doing the same stuff gets old. But if this has extended for more than a few weeks, then it could be a sign of depression.
i really want a tattoo for my 15th birthday! i want a small heart, maybe like an inch in size (just outlined). i want it on the front of my hip, just below the jean line (if your wearing ultra low-rise jeans). but im afraid what my friends will think of me. i dont want to sound snobby but i am popular in my school and go with the whole "classic girly girl from hollister/abercrombie". i dont want this tattoo if it makes me look trashy, especially at my age. what do you think? thank you for your opinion! =)
In todays society, tattoos are becoming more acceptable to get. In my opinion, I only think it's trashy if there are a lot of them & they cannot be hidden. Since this tattoo is in a place where people can't see it, I don't find it trashy at all. It's your decision & you shouldn't care what other people think. But if you have any doubts about whether or not you want this on you for the rest of your life, don't get it until you're absolutely sure. :)
what are the best ways to become closer to guy friends? and what are some things guys look for in a girl to just hang out with?
Most guys like girl friends who are outgoing, confident & share the same interests. I wouldn't necessarily say they like tomboys or non-feminine girls, but if you want to be seen as just a friend, guys like girls who are more like their guy friends & will be down for the same things as them. If you're too much of a flirt, they might see you differently. It all depends on the guy so it's better to ask one yourself.
If people say making out is not something that should be done in public, where is a good place to do it?
I'm still young, and I don't think my mother would like it if I went up to my bedroom with my boyfriend and just closed the door. =/
help?
Most people don't like PDA, so you're better off anywhere where there's not a lot of people. If your home isn't an option, then try low key public places such as movie theaters or maybe a park when there aren't people there. Kinda cliche, but those are just a couple places.
Did anybody watch prison break tonight? Who was the girl that asked for beer? I tried searching her, but I couldnt find it! She looked so familiar...!!!!
Try imdb.com (internet movie database). From there you can search movies and shows to view a listing of the cast & other information regarding a movie/show.
14/f.
My boyfriend is 16/m.
Ok; my boyfriend and I have talked it over, and we are ready to have sex. I don't want to go into too many details, because that's not what this question is asking. I was wondering what pre-cautions we could take to not get me pregnate.[sp?] Like, if he gets off, should we change the condom? It's both our first time and I am very nervous. He dosen't seem to be, but I was just wondering.
p.s. Birth control isn't an option.
If birth control isn't an option, then sex shouldn't be either. Unless.. you have been medically proven to not be able to take it, there should be no reason you cannot get on it. If you can't have your parents take you to the doctor, then have your boyfriend or a friend take you to the local clinic to get put on birth control. Or even take a bus. Would you rather make some kind of effort to get on birth control or would you rather spend the next 18 years of your life taking care of a kid & NOT being able to have the education to spell the word "pregnant?" My advice to you: don't have sex until you are more mature & educated. You say you're ready to have sex & maybe you think you are. But if you can't protect yourself, then you are not ready.
Where can I get some plain, black pants? Nothing fancy, and not Dickies. Just plain black pants that are like jeans, but not. Anyone have any idea where I could get some? I'd appriciate it a lot. =) Thanks!
Hot Topic, Kohls, Target, Wet Seal, Forever 21.
well okay.. when me and my boyfriend are making out in different positions it really gets me horny. especially stradling. and it seems to get him horny too cuz i mean he breathes really loud and i can just tell. but he doesnt get an erection. should he be?
i know all guys are different but i just dont understand how its making me go crazy and he doesnt even get hard. is there something i could do to increase the chances of him getting an erection? besides a handjob, were not there yet. thanks so much.
I actually read in Cosmo that giving a massage before making out can help arrouse him. Give a him a quick, 5 minute massage beginning with shoulders, down his back, down his leg & up his inner thigh near his region. Repeat this a few times & when you get down to his leg the 3rd time, he'll expect you to be making your way up his inner thigh again. But this time, don't. It'll be a tease, but it'll drive him crazy. You can try kissing around his neck & ears. (I'm not sure if there's any guy out there who doesn't get turned on by that.) Also, try kissing his M-region (his stomach & down his pelvis/hip bone area.) Basically, just gently touch or kiss all areas around HIS area & I can guarantee you'll like the end results.
Well i've like a guy for about a year, and just recently i've found out hes a jerk. So i really need some tips or something to get over him.
Thanks!!!
If he's a jerk, you obviously won't want to be around him. So your solution should be easy: just avoid him as much as you can & do other things that make you happy.
No matter where I am I going... I am always late!!
I'm late for the bus in the morning and afternoon, late for volleyball practices/games, late for parties, and some other things in my life.
What are ways that I can make sure i'm EARLY, not late!
I want to reach a goal that says I'm always 15 minutes early for everywhere I go.
what are some solutions??
Well what are the reasons you're late? Is it because you're not ready in time, traffic, or you just take your time? I think the obvious answer would be to leave MUCH earlier. Wake up & get ready 20-25 minutes earlier & don't let anything distract or interrupt you from leaving on that time. It's really not that hard, I promise.
im 16 and my bf is 19. we want a baby so badly. but thats only what we want. my mom would kill me and him. but what if it happens soon.
Honey, why do you want a baby at your age? Sure they're adorable, but that's no reason to just have one. You have to realize there are plenty of responsibilities that come along with having a baby. At your age these days, it's tough & too expensive to take care of one. I know you don't want to hear this, but it's true: you're only 16. How are you going to financially & physically take care of it when you're at work and/or school? I think you would be making a huge mistake by having one at this point in your life. If you're really serious with your boyfriend & want to make that kind of decision, I'm sure you can both agree to wait till you have finished school & you are financially stable to take care of yourself & the baby. If, right now, he plans to be around for the child for 18 years, then I'm sure he can wait a couple-few years before having one. If he can't wait that long, then he's obviously not going to be in the child's life for very long (& you do NOT want to end up in that kind of situation.) So think about this before you do anything. Protect yourself in the meantime & give it some time before you make such a big decision. Later on when you have matured, you'll realize what a huge mistake this would have been. & I can guarantee you will be glad you waited. I agree with the person who responded below me: instead of a baby, try getting something minor like a puppy together & see how that goes. :)
Soo I bought the tan from the bottle (Jergen's Body Tanning Lotion or something like that -- it's not spray on...) and it says I'll have results after one (1) week. So I have 3 questions:
*After a week, should I STOP using it
*If I continue using it, will I keep getting darker, or will it just stop
&*How long before it fades away?
You don't have to answer all three... ANY help/advice would be appreciated!!
1.) No, you can keep using it if you want to maintain that color. You might not have to use it as often though.
2.) Yes, you will probably keep getting darker & darker, but I think there'll be a point where it'll start looking fake. So I wouldn't use it too much or as often.
3.) After you get to the color/shade you'd like to be, it'll probably fade after a couple-few showers.