ok im 14/f and lately like the past 2 or 3 months ive had like this nasty witeish/clear stuff coming out my vag. and like its not discharge or anything well it might be but it comes out like a lot like not just a little a lot my periods are still regular and stuff but it got really bad after i was fingered i havent been figured since this started happening cuz im afraid its gonna get all over the guy. im still a vrigin? does anyone no whats wrong? and should i tell my mom?
It sounds like discharge. As long as it's not thick or clumpy and has no odor, it's normal. And don't worry about guys thinking it's gross. They never do. When I guy is touching you and you're wet, it means you're excited and guys like that.
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Me and my ex still love eachother . We broke up a couple weeks ago because his ex came around and he thought his feeling were still there but turns out he wants me more than her . He's only with her because she will cry for a century ! I dont know what to do because he is the father of my kid . Me and my ex have alot a plans still . My ex is cheating on his new girlfriend with me and i think some other girls also. If they do break up should i go back out with him because his cheating on his girl will he cheat on me ? I really love this kid but i dont want to get hurt again . He said he loves me and he hasnt said it for a while and he said he feels warm and as if hes only suppose to love me . Please help !
Did you just say that he's cheating on his gf with you and some other girls also? Are you serious?
Why would you want to be with that? He's playing games. If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. He wouldn't not date you because his current gf would cry. He wouldn't even have to listen to it. He could just not answer his phone or reply to any type of technology she uses to get in contact with him.
How are you okay with him cheating on his gf with you, PLUS 'some other girls'. He's wanting to have his cake and eat it too, and then some. If he loved you, he would be with you and only you.
You shouldn't trust this guy. He's bad news. I understand that he's the father of your kid. That's even more of a reason why he should be solely with you.
Tell him that if he wants to be with you he must break up with his ex and every other girl he's seeing. If he does this and you want to be with him, go for it. But don't expect him not to cheat on you, considering the fact that he's cheating on his girlfriend with more than one person.
Darby
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I work for a call answering service. Pretty much, whenever you call a real estate office after hours, you're talking to an answering service. I spend up to 13 hours a day doing this.
My problem: rude people. First off, there are the realtors, many of whom have DIVA syndrome. Then there are the rude customers. Then there are the rude potential customers.
I spend half my day getting thanked profusely for doing my job so well, and the other half getting shouted at for... well, for no reason. Often as simple as asking for the person's phone number so that the person they are calling can reach them.
I love the high points, but I actually ended up in tears this morning dealing with a series of rude people.
First off, does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? I try not to let it get to me, but the fact that I know I don't deserve it makes it worse, not better!
Secondly, a somewhat rhetorical question. Why do people feel that they are so important that they can be rude to total strangers who are providing a service for them? Why is it socially acceptable to do so?
Thank you for your advice.
I answer phones at my job and often get the same thing. People call in about simple things; such as wanting to know which room someone is, and all of a sudden they're screaming at me: "What?! He's not in the hospital anymore? Well where the hell did he go then?! He was in the hospital this morning. He was released!? Wtf?" When I have absolutely nothing to do with people being released. Of course I don't even know who the patient is, what they're in the hospital for, the time of the release, or circumstances surrounding it.
You see, people get frustrated because they want to know where the person is. They thought the patient was at the hospital, and it turns out they're not. Now they have to try to call more people and find out where they are.
Same with your job. You probably have little to no control of what goes on at the place where you work, but since you're the person they get in contact with, you're the one that takes the shit from customers.
They're just angry and whoever they come in contact with is going to hear about it. Plus, as someone else mentioned, it's over the phone. They can cuss at you as much as they want and, what are you going to do about it? Nothing. You can't cuss back. They're never going to see you. There is virtually no consequence for their actions.
That is part of the job you have. Any time you answer phones for a company like that, you're going to get angry customers and polite customers. There is nothing you can do about it, except quit.
You have to separate yourself from the situation. Tell yourself, I am getting paid for this. This person isn't angry at me, they're angry at my company. There is nothing I can do to avoid this.
Once you realise that, I mean really realise it, you'll be able to find the humor in it.
I literally crack up laughing all the time and have to put people on hold. Not only can you not hurt them, but they can't hurt you either. You can put them on hold and laugh your ass off at how angry they are, then get back and say, "I'm sorry you're displeased, sir." There is a lot of comedy in a job like that.
Darby(:
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i recently had ACL reconstruction but the doctors that operated on me made a BIG mistake and now they have to reconstruct my knee muscles, my patella, and some bones.
im really scared for this surgery
any suggestions on how to calm down?
I don't know if this will calm you down, but I work in a hospital. I've worked in surgery, recovery, ICU, and everything in between. We have way more serious surgeries in their everyday. One right after another. You're going to be perfectly fine. (I wouldn't go to the same doctor, though) Ask around to make sure you're getting a doctor with a good reputation. We have people that get triple bypass surgeries and other serious things. I've worked there since December and never had anything go wrong with any of the outpatient surgeries since I've been working there. Plus, I'm assuming you're fairly young and healthy. You'll be fine.
Darby(:
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are u allowed to move out at 17 or do u have to have parents permission before you can go....?
cause mine probably wont give me permission
am i allowed to just leave?
No, you're not allowed to just go. Since you're in the custody of your parents, you can't leave until you're eighteen without their permission. The only option for you to move out is to get their approval, or get emancipated. And honestly, at this point, you might as well just wait until you're eighteen because the court process would probably take a while and leave a huge riff between you and your parents. Plus you have to be able to prove that you can 100% afford to take care of yourself. You have to have a place and pay for every single bill and food and everything else you need. You have to have a job that can do this, and I'm assuming you're still in high school. So even if you have part-time job somewhere, that will never be enough money to afford rent on a place, plus utilities, and food.
Darby(:
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To start, I hate porn. A couple weeks ago my computer was messed up so I asked my boyfriend if I could use his. I didn't know what I was going to find. After confronting him about it, he promised he'd stop if it meant me staying (we have been together 3yrs, lived together 1yr). I explained how my trust took a dip and that I'd be checking the computer periodically to see if he was being honest and he was ok with that. I haven't checked the computer like I said coz I'd like to think I can trust him, until today. I noticed the last place he had been was the recycle bin, everything deleted. I restored it and found tons of porn that he's looked at since our argument. I haven't talked to him about it yet. What should I do? Btw..I'm 27 and he is soon to be 35.
You're not going to like this answer; but you need to be more lenient. He's always at the house alone. (I'm assuming you work because you have a place together) People get horny and they want to masturbate.
He needs to listen to what you say, but just because your opinions vary, doesn't mean you should immediately dump him. You need to meet him halfway. Just because you don't like porn, doesn't mean he has to hate it too.
I agree that he shouldn't have lied to you about it or tried to cover it up by deleting it. Realistically, he shouldn't have to cover it up. It's completely normal to look at porn. Most guys do it, and even a lot of girls.
Watching porn is way different than actually having sex. You're taking it way too personally. Just because he looks at porn doesn't mean he's not attracted to you or doesn't want to have sex with you. He even said that he doesn't feel manly since losing his job and it's hard for him to have sex. That shows a lot of humility and honesty. It's probably hard for him to admit that.
You don't need to be monitoring his computer like a mother or 50 year old woman with too much time on her hands would.
Stop trying to control his urges. It's just going to make it harder for him to have sex with you.
Tell him that you don't have a problem with him looking at porn, but that it hurts your feelings that he's doing that every day and he won't even have sex with you.
And if you don't want to tell him that because you don't feel that, you're relationship is headed nowhere fast. If you are seriously wanting to move out because he looks at porn, you'll never last.
Tell him that you would like to try to spice up your sex life. Try to make him feel manly by complimenting him when you have sex. Surely he'll get back to the hang of things and realise that being a participant is much better than being an observer.
Darby
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months and two days. We have been doing sexual stuff but it was usually too hard to have sex in our homes with our parents around. I'm fourteen and he's sixteen. We aren't just dating to get in each others pants though, we actually love eachother. If we didn't why would we still be dating even through all of this? Anyways. My mom found out by reading it in a sort of journal we keep and pass on to each other each visit we have since we go to different schools. She freaked and told my stepdad and my dad and now we aren't allowed to see each other. His mom wouldn't mind, it's just my parents. It's really killing us and we can't ever be happy again untill we see each other. I really need help with this...any advice? Please and thank you. -shelby.
You need to talk to your parents. Tell them that you feel you're ready to have sex with your boyfriend. Tell them that you use protection and that you really care about him. If they won't budge on it, tell them that you guys will stay in the living room when he comes over or when you go to his house. If his parents will talk to your parents, that would be good too. You guys are young so you can't do whatever you want. But if his parents are telling your parents that you guys are using protection and telling them why they're okay with it, it might make them more comfortable with it. If they don't want you to have sex with him at all, tell them that you won't. They probably won't believe you, but just keep telling them that. You need to understand that you're probably not going to be able to be sexual with him at this point. Even if your parents do let you see him again, they're going to be keeping their eyes on you all the time. They probably won't even let you go to his house at all.
I'd say your best bet is having his parents talk to yours. And if you're parents still won't let you, there's nothing you're going to be able to do about it. As much as it sucks, you're fourteen and you can't do things that you want to do unless your parents are okay with it.
Hope this helps, Darby
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so prom is in like 5 days and i have a big problem..not only that i cant find a dress..but that i have
3 boys asking me to prom
and i need your advice on who i should take..
first guy who asked me was this boy named been im a 10th grader and he is a freshman well he asked me one day in class he said "hey can i take you to prom" and i said yeah
but i dought that it is still going to happen because we havent talked about it and i think he asked another girl by now
2nd guy he is a senior..and he didnt really aske me but his name is robby..and well my friends told him to take me and he was like okay i'll ask her and my friends told me and i got excited cause i kinda like him..well i do like him and i really dont want him to go to prom date less
the third guys name is brian we been friends since 8th grade and he has always kinda been in love with me..but i really dont like him like that..well anyways he was suppose to go with this other girl who is his now ex but they go in a fight and she said she didnt want to..well now he asked me and i said well idk but today...(today i heard robby was going to ask me too)
I wanna go with robby..but i want brian to go to..i dont wanna hurt anybody...and i really want to go alone but if robby asks me i know im going to say no and i really dont want brian to fell i lied to him..WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE..i dont want to depend on robby asking me but if i say yes to brian (who is calling me..bugging me to give him an answer)..and then robby asks me..Oh GOSH PLEASE HELP
You need to take a step back and sort your thoughts out. Stop worrying about what everyone else is going to think of who you choose. This is your date for prom and if it's important to you, you should go with who you really want to go with. You don't want to go with someone out of pity. The first guy doesn't seem like he's really an option since you didn't even mention him at the end and you two haven't talked about it.
So now it's down to Brian and Robby. Wait until tomorrow, and see if Robby asks you. He hasn't asked you yet. If he doesn't ask you tomorrow, go with Brian. You don't want Brian to find someone else to go with and have Robby decide to go with someone else, then you would be dateless. Tell Brian that you want to sleep on it, since he is bothering you about it now.
If Robby asks you and you really want to go with him over Brian, say yes. Brian will have to understand. If you choose to go with Robby, try to find one of your friends that doesn't have a date to go with Brian.
You're only in 10th grade so you still have two proms after this. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to make sure that everyone is happy and with a date. Tell Brian that he already had another date (before they broke up) and that you were wanting to go with Robby. I'm sure he will understand.
Only you know who you really want to go with. But it sounds to me like Robby is the choice, unless he doesn't ask you.
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4/f
so at my school there having this 8th grade farewell dance. and i want to go with this one kid that i kinda like. lets call him taylor. well he's like really cool and i love his personality and he's pretty good looking. lol. anyways i want to go with him but im scared that he wont ask me. should i just ask him? if i should how do i ask him. and im one of those people who HATE being rejected. like i take it so personally and if he says no it might ruin our friendship and i don't want that AT ALL.
so help.
please and thanks.
-cuttechick24
Well, you said it might ruin your friendship, so it's good that you're already friends with him. First, make sure he doesn't have a date. If he doesn't then hint around about it a little bit. Mention the dance in a conversation. If he doesn't catch the bait, just come out and ask him. Say, "Hey, I was thinking of going to the farewell dance. Neither of us have dates. We should go together?" That way if he does say no, it won't be that much of a rejection since you were so casual and not weird about it. It would be a lot worse if you were like, "Hey, I think you're really cool and I like you. I want to go to the farewell dance with you." Then if he said no, it would be awkward and a harder rejection. It's hard to reject someone when they're cool and collected about it, like it's just a friendly thing.
Hope this works,
Darby(:
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like i know this is a stupid question but what exactly discribes the word 'fanny' ? is it the butt, or the other private part down there? and is it the girl or boys part, ot both?? haha i know weird question but i wanna make like really sure
It is used to describe a male or female's butt.
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ok so my bf is 18 and im 16. is that actually ok or illigal? cause like im a minor and hes grown up haha. i dont have any problems with him or anything, it just came into my mind ..
It's illegal for you two to have sexual relations until you turn 18
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about chlamidia and can that girl give it to her partners? like she said she had sex with a guy, if he gave it to her, can she give it to her next partner?.
Yes, she can and will if she doesn't get treated.
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I find myself starting to cry often, and at embarrasing moments. I cry in math because its always been very hard and frustrating for me. I tear up when I take piano lessons when I can't understand things. Lately I've just been in those moods where nothing can go right and I cry when I should be fine. Why am i so over emotional? It's not related to my period, it's been like this any day of the month. It's embarrasing to cry over something so unimportant and I just want to stop!
It's most likely hormones. Even if you're not on or around your period, hormones still control your emotions. Especially when you're a teen, and I'm assuming you are. It sounds like you're being too hard on yourself. You need to loosen up and relax. Tell yourself now that you're not going to cry every time you get frustrated about something small. Tell yourself that crying is not going to make you better at math or piano. Give yourself some credit for trying to do these things. You'll get better at them with practice.
Darby(:
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okay im gonna make this as simple as i can. (i hope)
so theres this guy lets call him jake. me and him went out and broke up because he was pushing me to do things i didn't want to do. well he's been trying to get back with me. but i keep saying no. because honestly im not happy with him and im not gonna be with someone who im not happy with. well like i said he keeps trying to get with me. well the other night he calls me. and is like "i need a favor" im thinking something simple you know like borrow money something like that. but no. he says. "see my friend rodney needs a date to the dance" (were having a 8th grade dance at our school they call it the farewell dance.) okay but anyways i tell him no. because well first off. i dont know his friend. and i dont even know if im going. he keeps begging me and begging me. but still i tell him no. and i told him that if i was gonna go im gonna go with someone i at least know like this kid named...lets call him taylor. but thats a diff. situation that im gonna ask in another thingy. but anyways why is this guy jake gonna ask me to go with his friend when he's been trying to get with me for ohhh i dont know the past hmm THREE weeks. ugh i dont know. and im confused. im not gonna go with him or any of his friends. so i guess i just want to know why you think he did this??
i would say its a really stupid move!!!!!!
anyways please and thank you.
-cuttechick24
He must have moved on if he's trying to get you to go to a dance with his friend. He probably saw that you weren't going to get back with him and his friend was in a situation where he needed a date. So he might have just thought of you because you're single. OR he could just have wanted to see what you would say. He probably doesn't really want you to go with his friend. He's only, what, 14 years old? People at that age do random things all the time. Things that make absolutely no sense. Just tell him no and tell him not to ask you again. If he keeps asking, ignore him. He'll get the hint.
Darby(:
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Lame,Yes I know,
but what does it mean when people say
they are "talking"?
I dont rlly know what it means :(
Please Help Me :)
It means that they are getting closer and thinking about possibly bringing their friendship to the next level.
Darby(:
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k so this question probably goes out to a guy...
what is it that gets a guy hooked? or is there one thing that gets him hooked?....
It varies with every single guy. Every person has different taste. Most of the time: being yourself, being honest, being fun, being a good conversationalist, having common interests, not trying too hard, being a good friend, and being intelligent make for a good connection which makes guys like you.
Darby(:
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you are awesome
Thanks, you too.
Darby(:
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im gay and have a crush on my best friend melissa brother robert and he is straight but wishes that i was a girl because we have all the same exact qualities that we look for in eachother. Please Help
P.S. ive never been in love before so I really want this .
You can't make Robert be gay. If he's straight, he's straight. It's interesting to me that he said he wishes you were a girl. Like he would date you if you were a girl. That makes me think he might be a little bi-curious. You should keep being friends with him and hanging out. Don't try to pressure him into being gay though. This could just send him into a confusion where he doesn't really know what he wants. Give him his space and time to sort things out himself. If he decides that he is 100% straight and doesn't want to try this, don't go any further with it. Try to move on, even though you really want this. You'll have to get it with someone else.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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i need a cute cheap dress for a wedding. Maybe a website online? Thanks itd help
I've got a few sites gathered up that you can look at.
The first one is mostly in the $50 to $100 range:
http://www.gojane.com/shop-by-category-formals.html
The second one has dresses that are all under $50. If you look on the lefthand side of the screen, you'll see tabs for under $100, under $150, and so forth. They've got a cute little black dress on there:
http://www.simplydresses.com/dresses/promdresses-by-price/under-50
The last one has some pretty cute ones and they're fairly cheap:
http://www.lightinthebox.com/wholesale-Cocktail-Dresses_c2049
Surely you'll be able to find one on there that you like. They should work as long as you're just going to the wedding and not actually in it. Some are a bit too much, but you'll be able to pick those out :p
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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so im a 19 year old girl. i weigh about 110 lbs at the least. im not exactly sure cause i haven't weighed myself in a while. well, last year sometime early august, i made myself throw up after eating too much at a birthday party. i told myself i was going to lose weight no matter what it would take. so for two or three weeks, i exercised day-in-day out and either i wouldn't eat, or if i did it was something like oatmeal or cereal that i would later throwup. (calories began to scare me) i weighed 115 lbs then, and hiding this was easy at this point because my family was doing horrible moneywise. i had just graduated and i couldn't find a job so i would basically stay home all day alone. i'll admit i was a little depressed with all this including i'd some problems at school before graduating so i wouldn't get out much. so after those two or three weeks, i went out one night, and all people would do is compliment me and look at me in a good way. my mom and family noticed the difference but they just told me to stop losing weight. well i didn't, but i started eating a little bit more, sometimes without throwing up. then its been like this ever since. i'll go a couple weeks without doing it, (puking) and then a week where i will. i don't know how to end it and i really need advice. please help!
It sounds to me like you do have a mild eating disorder. You need to talk to someone you trust. A best friend, a boyfriend, a family member. Someone that you can talk to and get support from. You need to start a support system with that person. When you feel the urge to make yourself vomit, call them. If they care about you enough, they will talk to you through the urge. You need to understand that at 19, 110 lbs is low. Of course this fluctuates with height, but I'm assuming you're tall enough that this is a low weight because your family told you to stop losing weight. Puking is never a good way to lose weight. Not to mention the fact that it permanently messes up your stomach lining, esophagus and teeth. Try to get out of your house more. It sounds like you got caught in a depressing rut with friendship/boyfriend and family problems. This was a good time for you to try to gain control of something (your weight) because you felt like things were out of your hands. You most likely wanted just one thing to grasp onto that was all your own and that you had power over. The people that are closest to you will be able to tell you how they feel about it and help to boost your confidence.
If talking to someone close to you doesn't help and you're still making yourself vomit (at all) you will need to see a therapist for further treatment.
Inbox me if you have more questions, good luck!
Darby(:
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