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seperation
My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months and two days. We have been doing sexual stuff but it was usually too hard to have sex in our homes with our parents around. I'm fourteen and he's sixteen. We aren't just dating to get in each others pants though, we actually love eachother. If we didn't why would we still be dating even through all of this? Anyways. My mom found out by reading it in a sort of journal we keep and pass on to each other each visit we have since we go to different schools. She freaked and told my stepdad and my dad and now we aren't allowed to see each other. His mom wouldn't mind, it's just my parents. It's really killing us and we can't ever be happy again untill we see each other. I really need help with this...any advice? Please and thank you. -shelby.
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hmm... well. its a hard one.... but maybe.. we could just love eachother no matter what, and get through this no matter what anyone says baby.
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You need to talk to your parents. Tell them that you feel you're ready to have sex with your boyfriend. Tell them that you use protection and that you really care about him. If they won't budge on it, tell them that you guys will stay in the living room when he comes over or when you go to his house. If his parents will talk to your parents, that would be good too. You guys are young so you can't do whatever you want. But if his parents are telling your parents that you guys are using protection and telling them why they're okay with it, it might make them more comfortable with it. If they don't want you to have sex with him at all, tell them that you won't. They probably won't believe you, but just keep telling them that. You need to understand that you're probably not going to be able to be sexual with him at this point. Even if your parents do let you see him again, they're going to be keeping their eyes on you all the time. They probably won't even let you go to his house at all.
I'd say your best bet is having his parents talk to yours. And if you're parents still won't let you, there's nothing you're going to be able to do about it. As much as it sucks, you're fourteen and you can't do things that you want to do unless your parents are okay with it.
Hope this helps, Darby
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