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umm. well hey, my name is jimmy, and i can give good advice sometimes. lol. ok ok ok.. the truth is i love my girlfried shelby, im 16, im hecka tall. and well. ask away

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I am married woman having an affair with a married man. The guy happens to be a client at a company where I work. We always flirted with each other when he came to the office. I knew he was married from inception and vice versa. One day he came to the office and gave me his phone number and asked me to call him, when I did, he told me straight up what it was that he wanted. I thought he was rather bold, but admired the fact that he was so honest. The affair has been going on for one year now. Here is how my story goes. I have been married for approximately nine years, I was nothing but the perfect wife to my husband. I never even dreamed of cheating on him. I cooked, clean, and did everything to make him happy, but he was the type of husband who does not know how to give a woman what she wants. My husband was never affectionate, we only had sex when he wanted it, he doesn't like kissing and he doesn't like to be touched. I on the other hand am the total opposite. He never complimented me on anything, he only knew of negative criticism. We argued on a daily basis because everything I did or said was never good enough. So we would argue. What made me start the affair was when I decided enough was enough. I was tired of being the good wife, living to make everyone else but myself happy, and I think curiosity played a small factor as well. I decided to take the married guys proposition and I must agree that that was the best love making I ever experienced in my life. Our body chemistry was great. We complimented each other. He would constantly compliment me and he was just plain nice. He would take me out to lunch, something my husband has never done in 9 years of being married to him. He would always be there to listen to me when I was down or needed a shoulder to cry on and he just always made me feel special. He told me from the beginning that he had no intentions of leaving his wife and children and that they came first, I had no problem with this. I feel that if he was to leave his wife that our relationship would not be the same as it is now, I think I like it the way it is. Because I knew he was married I would always build up this wall in my mind only allowing myself to go so far with him because I didn't want to allow myself to fall in love with him, but I did. I sometimes felt guilty that I was cheating on my husband and decided to end the affair, I talked it over with my lover and although he didn't want me to quit the affair he decided to give me my space. But I would become miserable when I couldn't hear from him for a few days. I have fallen for him, but I have no intention of leaving my husband. I love them both, but I love my lover more. My lover and I eventually became distant for about a month and now had lunch together yesterday and he is telling me that he needs me, and that he belongs to me. His wife is now pregnant and I sometimes I wonder if he needs me only because he is not getting any from his wife. He told me that he has never cheated on his wife before, but there was just something about me from the day he met me that he knew he just had to persue. I like being with this guy, but I don't want to be used for my body. I asked him if he loves me and he said yes. He never talks about his wife when we are together. We always have great sex, but I know our relationship cannot go anywhere and I don't want to be a cheater forever, but my husband will not step up to the plate. I've already suggested counselling, he won't go. I go to bed in sexy lingerie, he falls asleep. I touch him, he pushes me away, what am I to do... Any suggestions...

well. first off, im just going to say that im only 16 years old. maybe you wont read anything after that. but sometimes, i like to think that it is a bit easier to see from the eyes of someone who doesnt have all of the complications and biased opinions based on their experience with mairrage and their spouce. i can tell you pretty cut and dry. its wrong. but i know you already knew that. no suprise. but what gets me is.. why do you marry someone who complains, whines. insults, and does not like to be a bit phisical? that just sticks out to me. anyways. - just think- will your husband ever change? if so, how long? will your lover change? when it all boils down, would he pick mairrage over you? and most importantly, what do you want? we both know you certaily cannot keep cheating. i like ice cream. i also like a good steak. but i cannot enjoy ice cream with steaksauce, and i cannot enjoy steak with sprinkles on top.. get the metaphore?. overall. its just a plain decision you have to make, if your husband does not please you, and will not change, then you either have to learn to live like that, or leave. i hope i helped ya.

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I tried to download AVG virus protection but when it goes to detect internet connection it says it can't.
Can someone tell me why or how i can make it download?
Thanks.

this may actually be in fact, due to a frirewall setting, blocking it. you may be able to change it by using the startup menu, pull up the controp panel, security and firewalls, and if your computer saavy at all, then you may see the problem therewithin.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months and two days. We have been doing sexual stuff but it was usually too hard to have sex in our homes with our parents around. I'm fourteen and he's sixteen. We aren't just dating to get in each others pants though, we actually love eachother. If we didn't why would we still be dating even through all of this? Anyways. My mom found out by reading it in a sort of journal we keep and pass on to each other each visit we have since we go to different schools. She freaked and told my stepdad and my dad and now we aren't allowed to see each other. His mom wouldn't mind, it's just my parents. It's really killing us and we can't ever be happy again untill we see each other. I really need help with this...any advice? Please and thank you. -shelby.

hmm... well. its a hard one.... but maybe.. we could just love eachother no matter what, and get through this no matter what anyone says baby.
sorry - thought this might help.
- ily- ..

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my boyfriend is 21 years old .. and we never had sex .. but i always blow job him and when i do it , it takes him like 2-3 minutes and then he comes ... so is it normal to come that fast ??? and is there a chance that it'll effect our sex in the future ???


18/f

well.. he may only last a few minutes in bed.. or if hes unexperienced, then he may just need experience to increase "stamina". a trick that i have found is when having sex, to take your mind off of it. count something thats laying around.. do math in your head... this works because most of your orgasms will be more mental, rather than phisical. well. good luck

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about chlamidia and can that girl give it to her partners? like she said she had sex with a guy, if he gave it to her, can she give it to her next partner?.

yes. even if a disease does not affect a woman, you can still see the woman as a carrier. and if not treated, will lead to chlamidia with her partners.

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ok im 14/f and lately like the past 2 or 3 months ive had like this nasty witeish/clear stuff coming out my vag. and like its not discharge or anything well it might be but it comes out like a lot like not just a little a lot my periods are still regular and stuff but it got really bad after i was fingered i havent been figured since this started happening cuz im afraid its gonna get all over the guy. im still a vrigin? does anyone no whats wrong? and should i tell my mom?

hey, dont worry. its only natural to be a bit wet.. unless your getting sexually excited.. like... fingering? then it means its ok to be really wet. lol ha. it meant that your very excited, so your body prepares for sex, meaning that it will produce more "whitish/clearish" stuff, so that sex will be easier. if your truely that concerned, you could tell your mom, or doctor. well. i hope i helped.


p.s. dont worry about it being gross for a guy, haha believe me, hell love you for it.

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