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i really want to have sex i amm 11 and a girl (link)
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Eleven years of age is MUCH to young to be considering having sex. If a girl this age is sexually active it is because she is being abused. There are lots of surveys about this and the around most common age for a girl to begin a sexual relationship is between 16 and 17. Girls who started sex from 13 to 15 always say they regretted it, that it was really much too young. And really it is. But we cannot deny that it does happen, with boys of a similar age, although the percentage is small. Having THOUGHTS of a sexual nature at your age is NOT anything to get worried or stressed about however. Feeling that you WANT to have sex does not mean you are abnormal, freaky or weird, or that you are going to be so later in life. The feelings are tied up with your body developing and producing hormones and the urge can be very strong. I could say "Stop thinking about it" but it is unlikely to have any effect. The only practical solution is probably masturbating to relieve the tension when it feels strong. You're probably aware of it? And it isn't inappropriate for a girl of your age to do it by any means. Think of it as a safe and controlled way to deal with your feelings and thoughts. Some girls find popping a cushion or pillow between their legs (your thighs, at the top, so the pillow presses against you 'there') and squeezing rhythmically on it works well when they start and don't want to try anything more involved yet. What I must stress that you DO NOT even THINK about doing is using social networking, chatrooms etc or suggesting to people you meet in person that you wnat to have sex. It will attract guys who ARE seriously weird and freaky. And they are out there I'm afraid. You don't even want to be in contact with guys like this via messaging websites or services mate, I promise you! And keep this in mind for the next few years at least. There are girls who get into really bad scenes like this, and sometimes don't even think they are BEING abused. But they are. Sex is a natural and healthy, and enjoyable part of life. And it will be for you too when you find a loving and trustworthy boyfriend. It will be something you want to share together when you both feel ready, and quite right too. But not just yet sweetheart, eh? You're perfectly normal, no worries! The thoughts are just part of growing-up. But handle the feelings yourself and stay safe. X
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i want to have sex or be raped but i am only 11 and a girl!! (link)
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Hi there! Now don't get worried, you are not weird or freaky to have thoughts like this. You're at an age where your mind can get hold of some strong ideas and feelings of a sexual nature. And sexual imagery is all over the place in todays world. You really don't want to start having sex at eleven mate! And rape is a horrible crime committed by men who want to hurt and humiliate women. It's not about being in love, or even fancying the woman they abuse. You really don't want that do you? When the time's right you'll find a guy you love and trust and you'll want to have sex. But that's not for a long time yet. But I'll repeat that these thoughts are nothing to get worried about. You aren't the only girl your age to have them. You've shared yours on this site and it's good to get things off your chest. Don't use social media sites to share them with others will you sweetheart? Promise? There are people around who take advantage of feelings like this and you don't want to risk having anything to do with guys like this. Stay safe. Sex is for you and your special boyfriend when you're older. X
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hi.i used to go to the gym 4/7 and do two hour workouts and was really dedicated but with summer i travelled and missed a lot and then i started school and had a lot of things on my mind and i got lazy and i havent been to the gym since August :/ i feel awful,like the biggest loser and i am really embarassed to go back there and show my face to my trainor,but i want to go back there,i know its stupid but im scared,i feel embarassed,what should i do? please give me an advice..thank you. (link)
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I sincerely doubt your trainer is going to think you are a quitter and a loser. Unless you are a professsional sportsman or athelete then fitness regimes are something we have to undertake in our free time. And the older we get the less free time we tend to have. Other commitments and activities eat into it more and more. Tell your trainer that you don't seem to have had a minute to call your own lately. But you want to get back in top form because you've really noticed the difference since the training has stopped. He or she will know where you're coming from and know what you're saying. They won't condemn you and think you're a loser. You're being hard on yourself I think? Nobody can be in two places at once!
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24/f
I have come to realize that I more than likely have depression. There are days where I just feel like there's a dark cloud over me. I will sleep for 12 hours and still feel exhausted and just be super negative and sad. Sometimes I will cry for a long time before bed for no reason and feel really hopeless even if I've had a good day. There seems to be no way to tell when it's coming or how long it will last. It doesn't appear to be caused by anything in my life- I have an amazing boyfriend of two years and am going to school for something I love. I did have a bad childhood (abusive family) but don't feel that's relevant anymore.
My boyfriend and I live together, and my "episodes" are becoming increasingly hard for him to deal with. He is patient and kind, but gets upset because he blames himself when I'm not happy. Sometimes I feel I have no right to be in a relationship because I don't think I'll ever be able to have a normal life or kids or anything. Between his ADHD and my depression, I feel like we are unable to help each other and just keep upsetting each other. It makes me wonder if it would be better for him not to be with me, even though he's the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with.
I'm not interested in medication (had some pill abuse problems in the past) and haven't had luck with therapy. Is there another way that I can manage this and maybe even get better? (link)
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The abusive relationship, though distant could well be having a significant effect here. Recent thinking favours very much the 'frozen trauma' principle. That probably needs a bit of explaining. Normally after a traumatic experience we progress through a process of Shock-Denial-Anger-Grief-Acceptance. The stages may vary in duration and intensity, but we cannot skip a stage. We cannot progress straight from a shock (trauma) to acceptance, for example. Acceptance is the final, liberating stage. We become 'free' of the trauma. We have 'processed it' in the age-old human way. What if we fail to process it properly? Never reach acceptance? We become stuck (frozen) in one of the the interim phases. We never get over the anger, for example? We remain constantly in denial? Then it becomes a block. We find it difficult to handle things we feel we should be able to handle. We constantly go into 'threat response' mode (anxiety, nervous, frayed nerves). In the moments the alert/threat response mode 'switches-off' the change in mood feels like a crippling depression. It is debilitating, damaging. So may I ask YOU a question? Do you feel you have ever properly processed the abusive relationship? Have you reached acceptance? Or are you still grieving, still angry etc? Try to be totally honest with yourself here. Saying 'I have handled it and moved on' may be a defence mechanism. Are you REALLY at peace with these past events? If not, then you must work on 'thawing-out' this frozen trauma via counselling or therapy. Then you are on the way to being free of the damaging psychological effects. Hope this reply may help. X
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Can a dike get pregnant? (link)
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If by 'dike' you mean a woman who engages solely in sexual relationships or encounters with other women then clearly not. Whatever activity they enjoy together a woman does not produce sperm. Not ever. It's a physical impossibility. If a woman has unprotected sex with a man, and uses no form of contraception herself, then YES. Even if her sexual orientation is normally same-sex relationships. stating the obvious a bit, this is REALLY basic biology. No female of any species or classification can fertilise another female.
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Im worried my father is 57 abd he has been pooping blood for a while off and on he wont go to doc.last week my mom sad he passed alot of blood and can out white as a ghost please help (link)
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Haemorrhoids can cause quite a disturbing looking blood loss. They are uncomfortable and once you have had them once they can 'pop up' at any time during your life, but you would not call them life-threatening by any means. And they can be made to shrink back using suppositories when they flare up. It is also a very common complaint. Blood will not be mixed in with the poop with if it's haemorroids. It will tend to splash and spray the bowl when you poop, it is clearly 'seperate' from the poop. If this is the case he might try suppositories from a pharmacist for four or five days and see if it helps or stops it. See a doctor if it persists, there are other remedies but you need a doctor to prescribe or arrange them. If blood is clearly mixed in with the poop don't mess about, just see a doctor soon as possible. It isn't necessarily any sort of cancer, but you need to investigate it. Hope my reply helps.
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He's 27/m
We've been together for only 6 months.
A couple of months ago, we went to the bookstore and he told me that he has always wanted to read The Enders Game, since he has heard good things about the series. So, I bought him that book--he read it, and liked it. He then said that he wanted to read the second book afterward.
I went to the bookstore yesterday, and decided to buy him the rest of the series for his birthday. I also got him another book (as a joke) and then I also got him a sweater. My sister thinks it's enough but I wasn't sure if my gift would be good enough. She thought two books and the sweater is enough and that four was a bit excessive. I wanted to get him something else, but since I've only been with him for six months, I decided to wait until later to get him something nicer.
Is my birthday gift enough? Should I get him something else? (link)
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Sounds enough to me. The 'secret' of gift giving is getting something you know the other person will like, and especially if they haven't actually asked, but you've listened and noted it, thinking that it will be an ideal present. Or something you know they will find genuinely useful. This shows LOTS of thought. The quantity of gifts and/or their financial value are secondary compared to this thought and attention. And whatever you get it will be special, because it has come from YOU. Lots of presents can actually take the edge OFF too. Looks a bit like a scatter-gun (or shotgun) approach...firing a broad spread and hoping ONE hits the target! I do think think that this is TRULY the spirit of exchanging gifts with people we love. It makes us feel valued, listened to and considered. That we go into the stores thinking about the person and what you think will make them happy. Not the number of parcels you come home with and how much you've spent. I'm NOT the sentimental type on the whole really, but Christmas and birthday gifts stand or fall entirely on the spirit I think. X
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Hello Advicenators: Newbie here. Seeing what else is out there besides JA. I bought some plexiglass off a lady on Craigslist. At her house it looked good. I thought there was a protective coating on it and she advertised it as clear. I got home and noticed it is "frosted" plexiglass. I am just doing a invention with this for my dog. Is there a way to modify the frosted plexiglass to make it appear clear or clearer? Thanks, Dzadzy (link)
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It is possible to polish out significant scratchess and marring which have made plexiglass virtually opaque and restore it almost to its previous water-clear state. Using metal polish (brass and copper polish), or automotive chrome polish. If your frosting is etched into the surface you MIGHT be able to 'polish it clear'. I polished some headlight fairings on an old sportscar which had become almost 'sand-blasted' rough and opaque from high-speed motorway mileage once. They came up brilliantly clear, but it took just about a whole day to do it. It's an ACHINGLY slow process. If you have more than about a square metre of stuff to do you'll go crazy before you finish it I reckon!
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okay so I met this guy a few weeks ago and we talked ALL the time and we ended up messing around a bit but we didn't have sex, and weve done that about 3 times now and he tells me he likes me but whenever I message him about 50% of the time it takes him FOREVER to read them or open them, but like the last time we hungout he wanted me to take a picture with him to snapschat his mom so im soooooooooo confused!! I really like this guy and I just don't want to get hurt again,......
Thanks! (link)
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I would try to determine just how much he is into mobile communication devices. Is he always carrying and consulting his phone, forever tapping away either reading or sending messages? Does he have a reputation for being a little late to respond and reply to everyone? It would be a shame to think he is not keen on YOU when he may just not be as keen on the whole messaging/social networking scene as you and/or some people are. I am known to be a late responder myself so it causes no offence. Friends and relatives don't expect an instant response every time. Have a chat with him. A real chat, face to face. Does he actually know his often-late replies are causing you concern? Really, people did fall in love and commit to each other just fine before texts and social networking websites!
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I went to college, finished two semesters, took a semester off. I have been at home this entire time. I have started looking at colleges again. I didn't think I would go back. And lately, college just seems like a task to get away from home. I'm too interested in a number of things like music, art, video games, and writing. I'm not exactly sure what direction to steer my life in. Any advice? (link)
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Nobody can really tell you what to do. The best they could do is say what they did or did not do when given broadly similar options. Or what they think they would do. The only fixed and inevitable fact might be found in this statement. The true cost of anything we do is what we did not do instead. Think about that for a moment and you should see that we can apply it to any choices we ever make. So we need to project the probable future effects of the decision, taking special care to identify which aspects one will rule out if we choose it. Which could mutually co-exist? Which are mutually exclusive? Which choice has the highest probability of putting us where we want to be in the future? Which is likely to fail? The spontaneous 'gut reaction' cannot really be relied upon when all the evidence suggests it is likely to disappoint and fail. Ambitions and dreams are decidedly not the same thing. We have to prioritise. What are you willing to effectively 'give up' in order to pursue some alternative course?
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I am single,and am a christian. However,I this guy makes me soooo happy,and comfortable,he totally gets me and we can have the most random discussions with each other,he says he likes me,he told me and also my friends,I wud definetly date him but he's 15!!,and am 18 ppl wud talk,my family wud judge,and u know iht wud be ockward, but I like him so much,he makes me happy,and we have innocent fun together.. What should I do?? (link)
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As long as he does not LOOK very obviously much younger than you then random strangers/the public at large would scarcely notice or look at you, much less say anything uncomfortable. Your family and friends will know the score...you like each other and enjoy each others company. So you spend time together. Those who are neither family or friends, let them think what they want. If you can both handle it and are happy with it, do it. I do appreciate that this sort of self-confidence DOES develop with age, when pressure from your social 'peer group' perhaps matters less and less? Do you think you'd feel self-conscious walking down the street together? Do you think HE would? To be pragmatic, you'll never know unless you try. So why not try?
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I am thirteen and this guy told my friends he liked me. He is going to ask me out on monday at school and i don't know what to wear. I am a brunette and i am five feet. I want to be flirty, but not desperate. I know i sound stupid, but i need help. Also, do you know any cute ways to do your hair? My hair is super thick and only medium length! Thx. (link)
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I know what you mean. You want to make a great visual impression. You might want to make sure your hair is neat and glossy. So conditioner and lots of brushing. Radically changing your hairstyle can really change your look, and the whole 'shape' of your face so don't do anything too radically different. He likes the girl he's seen, you don't want to put him off! Lifting hair, away from your face often gives a slightly 'older' look. If it's thicker I'd be tempted to let it drape and frame your face though. That does tend to look more 'cute' and girlish. Tightly pinned and raised can look a bit severe. Don't know if you use any eye make-up usually. If you have big, darkish cloured eyes use a bit to attract attention to them. Big eyes are DEFINITELY cute-sexy! See what you mean about flirty but not desperate. That really means something that makes you look attractive, and not just going for stuff that shows as much flesh as possible, eh? I bet you have a good idea of what you 'look best' in? Not easiest, or most casual maybe. But 'best'. Of course, if you like the shape of your neck and upper arms a low-ish neckline and narrow-ish shoulder straps (or none) will look great. If you're rather proud of your flat and trim tummy then you don't want to go for anything that bags and 'balloons' at the waist. Something that fits closely round your middle will show it to advantage. If you've got long and/or nice shaped legs you can carry-off a shorter hem. Shoes greatly alter the shape of your legs AND your stance. Dead flat shoes are strangely harder to 'work' than something with a bit of a heel (which is more flattering). If you've got a full length mirror stand side-on to it and look over your shoulder. Stand completely flat-footed first, then pitch up onto your toes and push you heels sort of down (you'll feel your calf muscles tension and tighten). Almost guarantee you'll find the second look gives you a 'classic' leg shape and naturally pulls your shoulders back...and you make a proper catwalk shape! Choose colours that suit, think co-ordination, avoid 'clashes' and give a thought to accessories. Pretty necklace with a low neckline? If you wear a baggy tee-shirt no-body will see it, but with a low and shaped neckline it looks great. Hope you've got a few ideas? The key really is to dress in a style that suits YOU, one which draws focus and attention to your 'best bits' and definitely does NOT highlight the bits you're less happy with. Follow this rule and you'll look pretty, sexy and dare I say, a little flirty...but never 'desperate'. Good luck. Hope you knock him dead! X
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Hello, porn is wrecking my life. I am 24 and revert to it every few weeks or months for up to an hour - way too much. It makes me really depressed and I feel unstable mentally because of it. I don't want to pursue a relationship till I feel a bit more stable as I don't want to screw up anyone else's life. I guess the obvious answer is STOP DOING IT but it is like a drug that seems impossible to break! :(
What should I do? (link)
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I think you are feeling down about yourself because you feel you are in the grip of some compulsive/addictive behaviour pattern you cannot control? It is not the fact that it is porn I think, any sort of compulsive behaviour pattern will tend to make us feel 'out of control'. There's nothing in your post to tell me whether you are male or female, but the next bit applies either way. Watching an hour or so of porn every few weeks (or especially months) really CANNOT be descibed as an out of control addiction, my friend! And the fact that you do this DOES NOT make you a screwed-up, unstable weirdo who does not deserve a real-life relationship. You will not mess up your partners life with your "dangerous porn addiction". Because you don't really have one. The vast majority of your time is spent NOT watching porn. An hour or so of your life every few months or weeks does not constitute obsession. Possibly once you are focussed on a real-life relationship you will not even watch porn at all. But people in relationships may also occasionally (and you are only an occasional viewer) watch porn. Individually, or as a couple even. Try not to build-up this harmless occasional entertainment into something it really isn't. Using your criteria, there an an AWFUL lot of out-of-control porn addicts out there!!! You're fine.
ps. I like comparative examples. Consider a guy who said he gets together with work colleagues every couple of weeks or months and they go out for the night and he enjoys a few beers. Would you say he was an alcoholic and this addiction was ruining his life? I think not. No reasonable-thinking person would even suggest it.
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I'm 16 and last month in September I was started fingering myself and I missed my period then and this month if been doing the same thing. I'm scared because I went inside the how where the cherry is at and I kept going then stop and then I had wet stuff in it and it was warm on my finger and some warm stuff came out. So my question is should I worry bout missing my period cause I never had sex and that was my first time fingering myself? (link)
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I assume you are worrying about the missed period because a missed period indicates pregnancy? I can assure you beyond any doubt that however many times you finger yourself it will NOT make you pregnant. It makes no difference if you put your fingers, or even some sort of sex-toy like a vibrator, or anything properly 'inside' yourself either. You still cannot become pregnant. It's possible for a girl to 'pop her cherry' by masturbating. But in terms of becoming pregnant this is not significant of anything. It isn't 'losing your virginity' in any meaningful sense either. Losing your virginity actually means having full sex with a guy. I know some girls get a bit upset about this, thinking they have 'lost their virginity' if they accidentally lose their cherry while masturbating. Hope we're clear about this? If you haven't had a boyfriend inside you, you have not lost your virginity and you CANNOT be pregnant. OK? Fingering/masturbating is not something that can disrupt your menstrual cycle (having your period) either. I gather you've missed one period, in September? If you don't see anything this month or if there is something unusual about it in any way, it would be a good idea to seek the assistance of your doctor. But the cause will not have been fingering/masturbating so don't worry about that. And he or she won't be telling you you're pregnant either. It doesn't actually sound like you've popped your cherry either to me since it does cause a little blood loss and any warm or wet stuff would clearly show blood in it, which you don't mention. Hope you feel a little better? X
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Is it a bad idea if I invite another female into my bed to spice up our sex like since I can't perform like I used to before my illness! I love to please my husband but it's hard to at this point! Would my marriage brake if I do. Need help please! We have been together for 15yrs and married for 10yrs. I'm a 36 year old abd my husband just turned 40 years old. (link)
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I would urge you to talk and discuss the whole issue of your being unable to satisfy him sexually before you attempt to realise the option of recruiting another woman. Is he actually unhappy about the situation as it stands? Or do you just think he is? Are there options of sexual satisfaction for him which you could explore which you are happy about and you find less demanding on yourself? Is it a temporary or long-term condition which limits your performance/enjoyment of sex? In practice, although it seems a reasonably logical and rational thing to do, even if there is full consent and agreement beforehand, the scenario you are considering rarely has a happy ending for anyone involved in the long-term. At best it usually only delays an alternative solution, or breakdown of the relationship where no other solution is workable or acceptable. So it would be best to make sure you have fully explored all and any 'other solutions' first. For lots of reasons asscoiated with emotional entailments, relationship dynamics and self-esteem it's a dangerous card to play. So probably best that it's the LAST one you play. Only when you've exhausted all other options.
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I'm 15 and I reccently began to masterbate. I started by fingering myself but it really gave me no pleasure. I stopped for a long period after that and then looked up techniques but I'm not sure if I've ever orgasmed or cummed. What I did tonight, I will never forget that feeling. It was my first time masterbating in about 6 months and I went and had a warm shower and sat on the floor while the water stream was directed at my genitals. I grabbed an electric toothbrush and used it as a vibrator since I cannot obviously buy sex toys. Anyways, I warmed up and loosened my body with my fingers. Then, I used the electric toothbrush and placed it in different spots around my vaginal region. Never inside my vagina though because that could cause infection right? But I kept moving it around and finally found a spot I assumed to be my clitoris (above my vagina), and pushed the toothbrush harder against it and the feeling is hard to describe but I'll try. When I found 'the spot', I found that my whole body was tending up and my mouth dropped wide open. It was hard to breathe and I felt like I was gasping for air. Then, something warm came out of my vagina I think and when i took away the toothbrush , my vagina was tingling for about 30 min. Is that cum or like an orgasm? And what does either feel like? Also, is that a good feeling to have or a bad one? I found it very pleasurable but I couldn't breathe which scared me.. Please help! (link)
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Sounds very much like you enjoyed a full orgasm to me. All your descriptions sound spot on. Your technique and the region you stimulated yourself also sound right on the money too. There is no real necessity to actually penetrate yourself. The most sensitive spot which is most likely to lead to an orgasm (your clitoris) is mostly outside, at the top...as you identified. And the rapid, quite high frequency vibrations of the head of an electric toothbrush share a great similarity with that of a sex-toy (a vibrator). It's obviously working for you, so no worrys...carry on. You might note that although commercially bought vibrators tend to be shaped like a male penis, that does not mean they are specifically meant to be inserted into yourself. Many women get much better results using them 'outside' in just the area you describe. Vaginal contractions during your climax are quite likely to make you extra wet and maybe 'ooze' a bit as you describe. Again, no problem. Tingling is all down to blood flow, nothing to worry about. You probably notice your 'bits' feel a little bit more 'plump' and darken in colour a bit during arousal and climax? That's the same extra blood-flow thing too. Mouth dropping open, a bit breathless and gasping? Again, all quite natural. It's your body trying to take in more oxygen to fuel those muscular actions that are part of the build-up of tension and subsequent release. Your orgasm, in a word. Nothing to be worried about. You won't black-out! The tension of anticipation makes yo breathless, the muscular spasms make you pant. On the emotional side, your climax will produce strong pleasurable feelings, it's all about neurotransmitters, think of them as 'brain fluids' if you like. Some have the power to make us feel incredibly excited, very pleasant, satisfied and so on. And your brain gets flooded with some of these 'feel good' fluids during your orgasm. The levels settle, this is DEFINITELY nothing to worry about...this is why it feels so good!! I guess you've noticed a lot of women getting a bit vexed about difficulty reaching a good orgasm, maybe in the posts here, or in womens magazines? OK, any woman can live WITHOUT one...but it feels good when it works eh? And you know what all the fuss is about now? Stop worrying. It's life-affirming, extremely pleasurable and satisfying, has NO negative aspects and it's just for YOU. Enjoy!! XX
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I'm the owner of Sin City Escorts Las Vegas. You can view our girls at http://www.escortslasvegasnv.com.
I've been wondering how many people that are not in the adult industry view this as a bad thing. Some of my girls have complained before about not always wanting to work as an escort because of some of the clients. Girls are always free do go as they please so it isn't anything like that. I would like to know how people view Las Vegas escorts and the adult industry? (link)
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Genuine or not, that question is similar to poking a hornets nest with a stick I reckon. Perosnal view? Well it has every claim to being the worlds oldest profession, and while there are punters wililing to pay there will be working girls, whatever the collective public opinion of the age tends towards. And that has varied greatly too over the years. I believe where it involves human trafficking and exploitation of either illegal, or vulnerable immigrants it is ethically and morally wrong on all levels. Street-prostitution so often goes hand in hand with drugs. The people who run the girls will target vulnerable women and get them hooked on drugs (supplied free of charge) then withdraw the free supply and leaving them with a costly habit which they can only hope to pay for by working as prostitutes for them. Sorry, I think this is vile. I do not think THE GIRLS are vile, they are victims. And thus the argument that prostitution is a 'victimles crime' falls apart. The adult industry pivots (for me) entirely on a comment you make yourself. Namely, whether the girls are free to come and go as they please and choose the services they offer....or not. The whole 'escort' thing, particularly the higher paid end usually fits this brief. Whether the girls work from home, via incalls or outcalls or at a 'parlour'. Any women I have known and spoken to who work as escorts will confirm another of your comments. Some clients are nice guys and 'OK' to entertain. Some are assholes. But the environment tends to put the woman in control. And punters are generally NOT aggressive and violent characters. More likely to be the complete opposite in fact. This last bit seems to apply right through the spectrum, as street-prostitutes are in theory INCREDIBLY vulnerable. Yet prostitutes are not frequently roughed-up (or murdered, which would be relatively simple given their working environment and conditions) by punters. They're actually more likely to get beaten by their pimps. So overal I tend to think that although in all cases the ACT is the same (sexual services in return for money) there are divisions between what I (and the public at large) find accpetable and to what degree. And the line is almost certainly defined by the difference between a free, self-determined act and that of exploitation. Is a highly paid escort not exploting the punter for income as much as HE is exploiting HER for sexual gratification? Possibly a mix of both. And the relationship can exist where both parties are 'happy with the deal' as it were. Mutually beneficial. The woman CAN leave the industry, and the punter COULD decide not to visit her.
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I'm know I'm asking a aquestion when while I'm asking for advice but its diferent over a computer than in person. I'm terrified to ask my parents and most people anything. I don't understand why. (link)
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Possibly it is because by asking questions you feel you are betraying the fact that you do not know something? Actually, we learn a great deal by asking questions. And a great deal by observation. It's known as 'empricism' and it pretty much accounts for everything we know other than the 'built in' (intrinsic, or intuitive) knowledge which all humans posess. Life skills, vocational skills and even basics like reading and speaking are by and large NOT intrinsic. Think about a baby born to a German woman and taken immediately for adoption to a an English couple, living in England. Would the child grow up speaking and writing in German? Would he/she have any idea that its mother was German? Of course, the answers are NO. So ask, about anything and everything that takes your fancy. You'll find people are usually very keen to pass on their skills and knowledge to others who show an interest. Notice that you're male? OK, it can be a bit harder for guys. We're kind of EXPECTED to know stuff, aren't we? Us guys never read the instructions, never admit we just don't know the answer, eh? I'd have a good go at overcoming this stereotype if I were you. You'll be a broader, wiser and more approachable guy if you do. Watch, learn and ask questions. Questions of others, and questions about yourself. Why, how, where, when. Why's this a good idea, why's that a bad one. If there's a better way, show it to me. Or even 'How the hell do I handle this at all?' !!
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My name is JeanieBeanie and I am 14. In the past I have shaved my vagina three or four times, and I'm not sure if I'm supposed to at this age or not. Am I old enough to continue shaving my vagina, or should I wait until a certain age?
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Can't do you any actual harm shaving at 14. Hair will keep growing if you keep shaving it away of course. Unshaven it will not keep growing indefinitely, getting longer and longer. It reaches a point, then stops. If you like the look and feel of being bare then do it. There may be some who feel shaving your vagina denotes some sort of idea that the girl is sexually prolific and it is not appropriate behaviour at 14? The idea that why would you worry unless you're displaying it to guys? I'm sure you see what I mean? That's nonsense really if you think about it. You're doing it for YOU, because you like the feel and look. There's no proper link between shaving your vagina and your actual sexual behaviour and values. So go for it...if you decide you don't like it it will grow back. X
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I am 22 years old and am dating this guy I know through a friend.I had known him since 2009 and met a couple of times. I Had heard a lot about him from my best friend. the sad part is he left for europe to pursue higher studies. we are currently in a long distance relationship and will mostly be for the next one year.He keeps telling me that he really likes me and when we are on the phone we talk real dirty. He told me that distance doesnt matter even though we started a relationship like this. He seems quite honest about his feelings and talks about having kids in the future. my track record in relationships haven't been exactly great.I sometimes feel if its stupid to start a relationship like this or should I just go with the flow.I really like the guy and I think it does have potential to turn into something solid in the near future.I don't want to keep bringing up the distance issue as I don't want him to feel m not in for a relationship. he seems confident and talks about being together in the future all the time. Does this sound stupid?
Read more: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=645287#ixzz3FueLLAGDm 22 years old and am dating this guy I know through a friend.I had known him since 2009 and met a couple of times. I Had heard a lot about him from my best friend. the sad part is he left for europe to pursue higher studies. we are currently in a long distance relationship and will mostly be for the next one year.He keeps telling me that he really likes me and when we are on the phone we talk real dirty. He told me that distance doesnt matter even though we started a relationship like this. He seems quite honest about his feelings and talks about having kids in the future. my track record in relationships haven't been exactly great.I sometimes feel if its stupid to start a relationship like this or should I just go with the flow.I really like the guy and I think it does have potential to turn into something solid in the near future.I don't want to keep bringing up the distance issue as I don't want him to feel m not in for a relationship. he seems confident and talks about being together in the future all the time. Does this sound stupid? (link)
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There's nothing stupid at all in inititiating a relationship here. At present he has stated his intent. You should accept that this is how he feels. Feelings can change over time. There is no gurantee that being physically together would ensure his (or yours) don't change. The distance does not make it inevitable or highly likely that your mutual feelings will change. Stay in touch. Chat sexy too, it's very erotic. Keep talking about the future but try to have as much fun and store up plenty of good experiences and thus, memories when you chat. Use the chats well. Try not to think of your happiness as something which is only IN the future is what I am saying here I guess. Or that's where it will always stay. Start living it now to the best of your ability and assume the best outcome. That's a good way to face many more issues than just long-distance relationships actually. So hold on to that last bit!! Your previous relationship track record does not matter one bit. We are not defined by our past. Your future is yours to make or spoil as you choose, a blank sheet waiting for you to write on it. Indeed...just 'go with the flow'. Best wishes and hope he's 'the one'. XX
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