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This is about me being confused
I am single,and am a christian. However,I this guy makes me soooo happy,and comfortable,he totally gets me and we can have the most random discussions with each other,he says he likes me,he told me and also my friends,I wud definetly date him but he's 15!!,and am 18 ppl wud talk,my family wud judge,and u know iht wud be ockward, but I like him so much,he makes me happy,and we have innocent fun together.. What should I do??
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Your an adult now, and he is just a teenager. everybody has the right to be happy, but maybe you should just wait until he is of age to be with you. you don't want to be considered a petifile.
Hope this helps and you don't think I'm just being a jerk.
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As long as he does not LOOK very obviously much younger than you then random strangers/the public at large would scarcely notice or look at you, much less say anything uncomfortable. Your family and friends will know the score...you like each other and enjoy each others company. So you spend time together. Those who are neither family or friends, let them think what they want. If you can both handle it and are happy with it, do it. I do appreciate that this sort of self-confidence DOES develop with age, when pressure from your social 'peer group' perhaps matters less and less? Do you think you'd feel self-conscious walking down the street together? Do you think HE would? To be pragmatic, you'll never know unless you try. So why not try?
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The only problem I see with the age difference is a legal one. At 18 you are an adult and he is a minor. Depending on the las in your state dating him good get you in to a host of legal problems. Some states do allow for an age diffence of a few years between a minor and a legal adult to date. Some states allow up to a 4 yera age difference. If yours does and you turn 19 while he is still 15 you face criminal charges just for dating.
When it comes to sex he is probably by law not old enough to consent to sex. So even if you date him if someone felt you were having a sexual relationship with him; you could go to jail.
The age difference here is a legal mine field that is better not to cross. Have him as a friend but not as a boyfriend or any type of relationship. Meet at his house or your house where your parents or his are around to chaparone. You can talk and befrriends but entering any type of relationship could be trouble for you.
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Age only looks odd to some people when we're in school and separated by different grade levels. Now if the two of you were at the park or at the mall, in general people who saw you together know nothing about you and by appearance would have no idea of a difference in age with you being older.
You mention age difference but I am not quite sure if there is a faith difference. Your parents raised you Christian. so if he isn't I can see issues with the family if you date him for that one reason alone. But this is Your life and you at 18 are an adult. You must make decisions for yourself. Since he is just 15, he may be making lots of big decisions and changes in his life between now and when he turns 18. Even for yourself, there is a lot of big life decisions, changes, growth and self defining decisions yet to come. Our brains are finally mature at 25 to 30 and by 28, 29,30, we are disregarding what any friends or family or society said we are as a person and discovering who we , defining ourselves. Enjoy what you have for now because with the major character growth ahead for both of you, it is possible you may very easily end up on different paths that take you in totally opposite directions where you never see each other again. Then again, the changes may be similar and you end up still being together much later in life. Just enjoy what you have now if you know you can ignore those who are ignorant.
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My opinion is that if you like him you should give it a try. Your parents and people might talk but make them understand that you are mature enough to make your own decisions. If you like him don't let superstitions destroy your happiness.
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