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i really want to have sex i amm 11 and a girl
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Eleven years of age is MUCH to young to be considering having sex. If a girl this age is sexually active it is because she is being abused. There are lots of surveys about this and the around most common age for a girl to begin a sexual relationship is between 16 and 17. Girls who started sex from 13 to 15 always say they regretted it, that it was really much too young. And really it is. But we cannot deny that it does happen, with boys of a similar age, although the percentage is small. Having THOUGHTS of a sexual nature at your age is NOT anything to get worried or stressed about however. Feeling that you WANT to have sex does not mean you are abnormal, freaky or weird, or that you are going to be so later in life. The feelings are tied up with your body developing and producing hormones and the urge can be very strong. I could say "Stop thinking about it" but it is unlikely to have any effect. The only practical solution is probably masturbating to relieve the tension when it feels strong. You're probably aware of it? And it isn't inappropriate for a girl of your age to do it by any means. Think of it as a safe and controlled way to deal with your feelings and thoughts. Some girls find popping a cushion or pillow between their legs (your thighs, at the top, so the pillow presses against you 'there') and squeezing rhythmically on it works well when they start and don't want to try anything more involved yet. What I must stress that you DO NOT even THINK about doing is using social networking, chatrooms etc or suggesting to people you meet in person that you wnat to have sex. It will attract guys who ARE seriously weird and freaky. And they are out there I'm afraid. You don't even want to be in contact with guys like this via messaging websites or services mate, I promise you! And keep this in mind for the next few years at least. There are girls who get into really bad scenes like this, and sometimes don't even think they are BEING abused. But they are. Sex is a natural and healthy, and enjoyable part of life. And it will be for you too when you find a loving and trustworthy boyfriend. It will be something you want to share together when you both feel ready, and quite right too. But not just yet sweetheart, eh? You're perfectly normal, no worries! The thoughts are just part of growing-up. But handle the feelings yourself and stay safe. X
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