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Q: I really would love to lose weight. I'm 13/f, I'm 5'9 and I weigh 150 pounds, which is not too okay. I want to be around 130, and I'm really willing to do it, but I need some help. I'm eating Special K every morning, fruits for lunch, and regular dinners. If I have to, I'm willing to replace white bread with whole wheat more often. I have volleyball practice everyday, but there's so many people on the team that I'm only getting physical activity half the time. But starting next week, I'll have intense basketball practice every Friday night, and games on Saturdays and Sundays.
I have some problem areas. I want to have a flat stomach, and I have fat on my stomach that I seriously want to get rid of. My love handles annoy me a lot, and I want to have thinner legs. I've been told I have great legs, but I just want them to be a litle thinner I have big calves. I'm currently a C 36 and I have no problem in being smaller, because I want to have a great body. What can I do to achieve this?

some problems:
-I usually have a lot of homework, so most of the time it's hard to go to the gym with my mom.
-I have lunch really early at school, so the rest of the day I'm starving, so when I get home, I'm always stuffing my face.

I have a treadmill, so I'm thinking maybe I'd go on it every night while I watch TV. I also want to know what's best for losing that stomach fat I mentioned earlier. What happens is when I do ab workouts, it just sort of makes the fat under my chest stick out more, which I also want to get rid of.

Sorry everything's so scattered out, but please help me in any way, I really want to lose this weight.

Everything that you want to do is great. Keep up a positive attitude and have faith in yourself. You don't need to go to the gym if you're going to be doing treadmill and basketball. Doing too much exericise can actually be bad for you; do it in moderation. You can't change the 36C; it's just the way you are. You're not always going to be super-thin; by your descriptions make me assume you're larger framed. You probably do have great legs. There's two basic types of legs; thin and athletic. You probably have athletic. Do the ab workouts in moderation too; maybe every other day or so. Hope I helped!

Q: i have a dell laptop and its kinda new.. my hard drive on the laptop is not working properly and it has no space on it at all, i think theyre may be a virus on it. but i was wondering if i bought a compatible hard disc drive would that be able to fix the problem? would it then be like new?

I have no idea. You should go see someone at Best Buy or Circuit City. They'll look at it and tell you what's wrong. Hope I helped a little.

Q: what yoga dvd would you recommend?

http://yoga.lovetoknow.com/Yoga_DVDs
http://www.amazon.com/Power-Vinyasa-Yoga-DVDs-Best/lm/R26TOPQJ6O4E0U

Hope those help.

Q: i'm in dier need of a story idea, anything would be good. i have MEGA writers block. please, can anyone help me?

Try nine.frenchboys.net and seventhsanctum.com for loads of ideas from everything from names to storylines to drug names.

Q: I have thin hair, and I absoutely hate it. My hair always like splits itself and I don't have thick hair around my hairline so it looks weird. I just really want thicker hair. I got these intense braids in Florida in 4th grade, and they totally killed my hair, leaving it thin since then. I already eat healthy and exercise, but is there anything I can use like special shampoos to help my hair be thicker. I hate having thin hair, it really annoys and saddens me because it's so thin. I just want to have normal hair. :( Help please!

Shampoo and condition your hair with Sunsilk, the hair-thickening kind, I think it's purple. Or try these more expensive hair care products from Sephora:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P130906&categoryId=B70
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P156203&categoryId=B70

Hope I helped.

Q: what are some cute eyeshadow ideas for asian eyes.. any websites or pictures?

http://goldsea.com/Poll/Eye/eye_0826.html

I would do a light gold, or a subtle grey.
Try this one too:
http://beauty.about.com/od/makeuptrickstips/qt/eyeshadows.htm

Q: Hey! You already answered my question about friends and private schools but just to clarify you think i should try a smaller, private high school? I really think it might be best because I would be going and making friends with a new start. Just a couple hours ago one of my friends tried to betray me and it hurt. And im fed up with it! Just DONE! So you think trying again would work and i would make more, better friends? Thanks a bunch! :D

Yeah. A new school with new people will be easier and a whole new start for your social experience. I know you'll make new and better friends. Good luck!

Q: i straighten and blowdry my hair everyday, so what are some things to do so i can keep my hair nice and healthy? and which one is worse: blowdrying hair straight or straightening hair?

You should deep condition it every 1-2 months, and straightening hair is worse since it applies the heat more directly and presses against it.

Q: ive heard a few things about castor oil and im here to see if they are true: does castor oil help eyelashes and hair grow and keep them healthy? any personal experiences?

I don't know, but this site does:

http://www.oohoi.com/natural%20remedy/everyday_food/benefits-of-castor-oil.htm

Q: Ok i really need help. I've been having a lot of friendship problems as of the last year i guess. End of last year, and beg. of this year. I go to a super big high school and just can't find the right type of people to be friends with/ I've been making more friends and stuff, but I don't really feel like I have one of those super close together til the end group of friends. I had to leave my old group of friends because i couldn't take the drama and now im making better friends. But im still having some problems with the old friends and makign new ones. I just feel like there arent friends there for me. Not like what i want or anything. I dont know im bery confused but anyway my question is my parents know about my friendship issues and asked if i would like going to a smaller, private school. they think maybe a smaller school is best. Im pretty outgoing and very nice and fun, and smart too but i dont always act like it haha :D. I know there are still cliques in private schools but would it be better to try over and make friends? Okay im gonna list my question:
-Being in high school would i be able to make new friends and fit in?
-Would it be really hard to adjust?
-What happens if i want to go back to my old school because no one wants to be friends with me?
-Could this happen?
-Should I try going to a private school thats smaller?
-How do I know if people are who they seem because i seem to be bad at this.
-Are the friends I really want and are looking for going to be there? because i feel like i've tried looking for them all over and can't find them at my school.

I know I have a lot of questions and sorry about that. I have learned a lot from these friendships tho and think i could make lots of friends if i got to start again with a clean slate. But i dont know if the friends i really want are there or what! I really want these friends SO badly! But considering its high school i dont know if i would be able to just join there school and make friends and fit in or not. Please help me! If you have ANY thoughts or opinions or anything PLEASE tell me! I want as much advice as i can get and will rate ALL of you who help me! Thank you so so so much in advance!!! :D

People are always going to want to be your friend, esp. if you're going to be new. New people are the spice of life, another person to impress and befriend. I personally like small private schools, since they are like regular ones socially, but don't have the people who are stupid, act stupid, and are mean. They generally have nice, clever people, despite what is depicted in books and TV shows. High school can be the best times for anybody, as long as you're willing to just do it. Don't be afraid to say hi, or ask someone to the movies or to go shopping. Give everybody a chance; just because you don't have a good first impression of someone, doesn't mean that they're mean or rude. Just get along with everybody, relax, and have confidence. Good Luck!!

Q: 15/f - i would like to get a new cute tote to carry around but not for school, for like shopping and stuff. i would like one thats really cute and is leather not like the ones from hollister or abercrombie.. also i want to know the name of the store and i dont want online websites thank you~

Try lulusfashionlounge.com. That has a lot, a lot of bags, purses and stuff. You have to order it, but I'm sure that's not a problem. : )
Also try places like Target and stuff, which are kinda lower quality but are cheap. And I think H&M has some really pretty accessories, and is great for clothes too. Hope I helped. : )

Q: Do u think wear this bracelet silly?
Do u think wear this bracelet silly? if not, which kind of clothing is suitable?
see the bracelet here http://www.polyvore.com/fashion_diamond_bracelet_with_hi-intensity/thing?context_id=2716252&context_type=lookbook&id=1794274

The bracelet looks quite silly. But if you like it, then you can wear it with like... um, I am not sure what it would GO with it... maybe like a tank top and jeans.

Q: What are some good fruits for diets.
I heard bannanas and grapes are with sugar
ishouldnt eat those rite..
what are stuff i should eat?
13/f

All fruits are good for you. There is no "bad" fruits. They're a heck of a lot better for you than fatty snacks, even the sugar ones, which you should/can still eat. The person below me is right; grapefruit does have a natural fat-burner, but don't make that you're primary consumption. Also have berries (esp. blueberries) for the antioxidants, which are SO good for you, it's not even funny.

Q: im a freshman in highschool and last year in eighth grade i got really close to these two guys rob and dan. theyre both really good friends and last year my feelings for them would be a roller coaster. i would like rob and then i would like dan, vice versa. well, this year rob never talks to me let alone even looks at me and it truely hurts. i feel like i did something wrong. lately ive been paying a lot of attention to dan, maybe thats why? i just dont understand whats going on and why he seems like hes acting so strange. plus he hooked up with one of my good friends for the first time. and i dont even like rob anymore, or atleast i dont think so. any comments/advice would be great :]

Rob's afraid that you are crushing on Dan, because he probably likes you. The fact that you're paying a lot of attention to Dan is what makes him feel that way. If you want to be friends with both of them, don't hook up with either of them. The fact that Rob hooked up with one of your friends is unrelated, just an act of "I don't care if you don't like me, I like (enter name here.) It's not real affection, sadly.
Good Luck

(Warning: None of this is proven or absolutely true, because, contrary to popular belief, I am not a psychic.)

Q: Well i went to a football game, and then like i was really cold so this kid that i like gave me his hoodie, but then he was with these two girls, and he just like walked away from them and i gave him a mean look, and he gave me a hug and told me not to be mad at him. I meant to say he walked away from those girls, and came over to me and smiled at me, but i gave him a dirty look..., he also texts me a lot to, and if i dont answer right away, hes like are you there, i hope your not mad at me, or i hope i wasnt being mean or something, because if i was im really really really sorry. and then when he says he can only text for 5 more minutes, we end up talking for an hour, and before he would have to stop texting me when he had to eat, but now when we talk and im like whats up, and hes like i gtg eat in a little while, and then he starts talking to me, and then in the middle of the conversation im like so when do you have to eat, and he always says i already did, but he never did that before. also, if i say oh haha im stupid or something, he always says no your not, and we always get in this joking argument about whos stupider, and stuff. whenever i see him at school he usually smiles, and then he blushes, and a lot of the time he gives me a hug, so does he like me?.

Yes.

Why a 2? That is the truth, plain and simple, he likes you. You've already explained it all, I'm just answering your question: Does he like you. YES.

Q: hey i need any answer quick
well on my computer we have Itunes and Limewire,
my bro isnt here for this year and he knows alot about this stuff,since hese not here i dnt know anything to do,Neways it says in Itunes that i have to start over again like i have to delete all my songs and start over, im just scared if i delete them all and dont know how to put them back again so does anyone know exactly what i should do?,Another thing is how do i transfer the songs in limewire to the songs to itunes?
thanks for the help

Question #1: Well, I have no idea. You can call your brother to see, or maybe someone else can answer it for you. Sorry. : (
But...
Question #2: When you download songs while on LimeWire, right-click and go down to "Change File Location" and put it in "Documents" (i.e not "Shared"). Make sure you do this WHILE the song/video is downloading, not after or it won't work. When it's all downloaded, go onto iTunes, and click on "File". Then click "Import". Go to "Documents" and the file should be there if you did it correctly. Then after you import it, it will be in your "Music" section.

Hope I helped with the 2nd question.

Q: Ok my Toshiba Windows Xp is getting really slow and so I want to defrag my computer does anyone know any sites that give free defrag software and works really good if you can I appreciate it.

http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=free+sites+for+defragmenting+your+computer&fr=yfp-t-471&toggle=1&cop=mss&ei=UTF-8

Try some of those.

Q: I'm looking for a homecoming dress, but i don't want to get it at the mall or a big store. (i don't want to have the same dress as anyone else) does anyone know any small stores in the lexington, ky area? i don't want to get it online, because i'm afraid it might not fit, etc.

http://local.yahoo.com/results?fr=dd-local-more&stx=dress+stores&csz=Lexington%2C+KY

I think some of those stores might work, I don't personally know since I don't live in Kentucky. Another option is to find or design a dress yourself, and hire someone to sew it for you, which is cool, since then it will fit perfectly and look exactly as you want it to. Good luck!

Q: I want either a pet rat or a pet mouse.
These are the things I'd like to know:

-What do you recommend, 1 or 2 (rats or mice)
-Which is easier to take care of
-Which is more friendly
-Pros & cons for both.

Thanks :)

Well, rats are more intelligent and are rather like guinea pigs, and mice and warm and friendly but do not live very long. Here's a site that has the pros and cons of both:
http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/pets/rats.html

Hope I helped.

Q: hey i am 15/f and my friend robert and i are really close and we are such good friends. we both know we like eachother as more than friends, and we have hooked up before. but the thing is, when we hang out we usually dont end up kissing or anything cause we have such a friend and joking around relationship that it seems weird and we always just have a great time doing other stuff. what are some fun ways i can let him know i want him to kiss me, or even funny ways or things i could do to kiss him. or even ways to change the conversation casually to a more intesne one about like us or romantic based.

thanks! : ]

If you've hooked up before, and it didn't work, why would it work this time? Did you guys get into a fight? Did you just break it off? But if you both KNOW you like each other as more than friends, why aren't you guys going out now? This seems all very mysterious to me. If you think it's worth it, go for it.

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Happy 2008! My name is Dana for those of you who don't know, and I obviously love to give advice, because if I didn't, I wouldn't be here. I will pick at anyone who doesn't bother to capitalize their "I"'s or the beginnings of sentences. Proper grammar and spelling is very important to me. bcuz it Just loooks soooo sloppie when u type lyke this. So a word to the wise, and for the majority of you that it doesn't apply to, think about it, and watch yourself. Second of all, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever write something that is not true. So therefore I am always right. So stand down and accept it. (Note: that also means that my "opinions" are actual facts. At least the ones I bother to write.)

Never ask me anything about how fat you are or love life. Cliched, I know, but I am heartless when it comes to the truth. If you don't know what to do with your cheating boyfriend that you still love, go ask someone else since I could not care less. Seriously.

Have a nice day!
Love,
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Favorite artist so far: Bob Marley
Favorite movie ever: "Breakfast at Tiffany's"
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Favorite song: "No Woman, No Cry"

WARNING:
My answers will be based on a preppy lifestyle. I am the clean, preppy sort, like the person who looks clean and classy and doesn't really notice anyone who isn't, regardless that some weirdos think that preppy people hate them. Also, if you wonder about the corrections on the answers I give, no worries; they're just simple corrections to those who don't know where to put a period, or that they have to capitalize the beginnings of sentences. Please don't be offended.