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My fiance has had premarital sex, and i haven't. so i dont want to do anything sexual with him, until he has had tests and stuff. but we have kissed, and yesterday someone was telling me that it is possible to get aids from someone by just kissing them, is that true?
HIV (the virus that leads to AIDs) is transferred through blood, semen, vaginal fluid, and breast milk. There may be slight amounts in it in spit, but not nearly enough to ever get you infected.
The only STD that I know of that can be transmitted through kissing is mono, so unless you think he has that, I wouldn't worry
im 14 ~today was my bday ~valentines day ~all i could think about was my bff since 4th grade~hes a guy ~ive been staring to really like him and he likes me we both no we like eachother ~my family doesnt really care about me tht much and dont say o yes they do ~bc they dont they told me ~i hate them ~they fogot it was my bday till like noon and ive only been talkin about it for days ~his family is just like mine ~were both deppressed when were apart~my bff he was the first person to tell me happy bday and even sing it ~which was left on a message on my cell at 9:00am the time i was born years ago ~i called him back ~it was so sweet ~someone cares about me atleast ~one person in my life ~i really love him and he really loves me but every1 who dates ends up hating eachother i no we wouldnt hate eachother but ~hes the only person in my life tht cares about me ~should we date ~i dont wana lose the only person who cares and loves me ~and yes im gothic depressed but can u blame me!!! ~my parents dont care his parents dont care any of my cousins dont care no1 else cares about me!!!!!!!! exept him i love him i dont ever want to loose him ~and if we ever do date he cant come over as much ~we cant go anywhere alone anymore ~what do i do ~i hate my life ~but i love him with all my heart ~i got only the present from him today ~i dont really care about the present i just wanted to be with him 2day thats all i wanted for my bday ~i cry myself to sleep every night im cryin my eyes out right now and hes the ONLY person to ever see me cry exept my mom since i was like 5 ~what should i do i dont wana loose the only person in my life we both love eachother as bff and as bf gf ~and no im not going to see anyone for all my problems ~hes the only person i can talk to ~i hav tried to kill myself befor~before i met him~hes means the world to me i mean the world to him~we only have eachother ~we might runaway together ~NOBODY WILL CARE EVRY1 NOS NO1 WILL ~im not sein a pyscyatrist ~what do i do ~OMG SUM1 PLZ HELP ME
you sound, right now, like you're really overwhelmed by stuff, trying to hold on to what you've got. You may need to see a psychitrist on this - or maybe only a therapist... it's not so bad, trust me. We all go through crap that leves us lost and scared just some of us at different times than others. Be brave! I know you can get through this!
I can see why you wouldn't want to see a psychiatrist - I was there, minus the trying to kill myself thing. But sometimes when you put all those walls around yourself, instead of protecting yourself you shield yourself from thins that could help you. I bet this guy of yours isn't the only one who cares about you though it may be difficult to see this right now. Pschiatrists are an interesting bunch because they get really obsessed with which meds they're gonna give you. My advice is to just find someone anonymous that you can talk to - a guidance councillor? A therapist? lol I make my therapist laugh all of the time now, now that I'm getting better. I know putting yourself out there is scary but sometimes it's the best you can do when the world goes crazy and you need a way to simply stand up.
I wish you luck. Keep trying to reach out cuz it must be tough, relying completely on one person. Remember life is way too persistant not to get you through all the crap. You sound lost right now but also really strong and ready to fight. Keep going. This is only one part of your life and though it won't beeasy, I know you have the strength and courge to do this.
I just heard the saying "drop acid not bombs". I know it is an anti-war saying, but what does drop acid mean?
dropping acid = taking a drug, acid. It basically alters your brain, makes you crazy.
Not the best wr saying, very 70s, though.
f/16. I've never been in a real relationship before, and I've only been on maybe 3 or 4 dates. But that's not the problem. I don't want this to come out sounding conceited, but I do think I'm a fun person, pretty, and smart. I don't have problems with guys liking me. I've been asked out five times this year. But the problem is, I always say no! Even when they're cute guys. I don't know why. I'm outgoing and a "people - person", and I want to have a boyfriend, but for whatever reason I have a problem starting relationships. Am I too picky? I keep telling myself that I'm holding out for the "right guy", but am I being too idealistic? Anyhow, anyone who has had this same problem ... your advice is appreciated! :)
Well I can't say for sure, but not going out with people isn't necessarily a bad thing when you don't like the guy (if you liked the guy and turned hm down there's probably nother story... hmm). My mom never actually was in a relationship until university!
My school is doing something tomorrow with pirates, and we are supposed to dress up like pirates. The thing is- i dont have an eye patch , i dont have a hat, and i dont know what to wear for a pirate!!!!
Please help me!!! If possible, please give me multiple ideas of what i could do, just in case i dont have something in one of your suggestions. I will rate your answers! Thanks!
throw on your dad's collared shirt, a bandana, and leave our hair down. Wear black pants and boots.
If you want to be super cretive, draw a mustache or skull/crossbones tatoo with washable marker or facepaint.
hope this helps!
i always have my hair in a ponytail or down or half up what can i do i have realxed hair not dead straight not wavy pleaz help
It depends what you want.
Using a curling iron and a strightener can give you that professionl look, if you like looking more groomed- just rub on some protective spray and use (There's this company called aldo's or something that my sister uses).
However, if you want something that gives off more of the grunge look or even just a natural rumpled look, try shaking out your hair after a shower - instant curls! For huge crazy curls, take a shower before bed, comb, and put your hair into two buns before bed. After all this, you can add some curl serum (like garnier fructus. Once again my sister takes credit for this one) to make the curls sleeker. The best part about this is that it makes your hair interesting with virtually no effort, and if you are unhappy with results, you can just put hair into a half pony-tail or half bun (I love half buns!) so that all that shows is the curls on the bottom. On the half bun - you can go really drmatic with this one and make the bun huge, clip it up with a clip or tie a ribbon for the more adventurous, or you could go small with tendrils hangingdown from the sides and framing your face. Be creative!
Lastly, there are tons of products you can try that can make your hair do practically anything, if you shop around, though don't ever put on too much because that makes hair weird and sticky. My advice: don't be afraid to try something new, experiment, and have fun!
Hey. I'm trying to loose some pounds for my birthday party that's coming up. It's a pool party and now that gym's over and everything I'm afraid I haven't been very active. I've been going on the tredmill for a half hour each day since yesterday. Lol. But anyways, I want to loose about 10 pounds which would be great. I'm 14/f if it helps. Anyways, I'm also trying to eat healthy but the meals I've been eating really have no flavor. Such as, a bagel with no butter, or plain pasta, or salad. So if anyone can come up with some tasty healthy meals that would help me loose weight or at least that are healthy I would be so greatful. As many ideas as possible would be wonderful too. So just meals that will help with weight loss but are really tasty too! Thank you so much in advance!
Ok first of all, focus more on being healthy than loosing weight, and honestly, loosing ten pounds is a LOT of weight and unless you actually have a weight problem (which it doesn't sound like you do)I wouldn't suggest just loosing it like that. Think: do what makes you feel good - like if you're eating healthy and excersizing right you'll know in other ways besisdes the scale
ok now the fun part. FOOD!
If you really did want to loose weight carbs aren't so good.... only the really whole grain stuff. Think whole wheat pasta with tomato sauce, pumpernickel bread with crem cheese, YUM! Instead of plain crackers get the stone round kind because the stuff is coarser and takes more to digest, meaning you get more energy for longer and less hungry. (I personally like mine with cheese). You can also get rice that is made of coarser, browner grains. This makes wayy more of a difference than eating stuff without that tiny bit of butter.
For salads, you can try mixed greens to make it more interesting, or just buy lots of different kinds of lettuce and mix it together. A really low fat sauce is vinegar and olive oil (yeah I'm Italien) or you can go with the pre-mixed kind. Try getting kinds that are more liquidy than the extra chunky/creamy stuff.
Mostly otherwise just stick to the basic. Don't eat fast foods, don't eat junk food. And eat lot's of veggies and don't eat too much red meat or potatoes.
Most importantly, eat as much as you need to be full. Snack when you're hungry. Honestly the whole portion control thing is complete baloney.
how do you kinda flirt with a 13 year old boy without freaking him out or anything? lol also im not that outgoing with that stuff unless im just fooling around and i dont really care. hes in some of my classes, like social studies, lunch (but i dont sit by him.. -shudder- that would be weird lol) , math, and.... gym. i dont want it to be too obvious too that i like him, cause that would be soo embarassing! uhm and ect. and if you havent noticed yet im a girl haha
and guys what do (did) you find attractive in a girl when you are (were) age 12-13?
thanks :]
haha especially since tomorrow is valentines day!
be friendly, start talking and make him laugh. Then you can start teasing him/poke him or smthg
Hi. I hope I put this question in the right category. :-) Anywho, I am veryyyy shy around guys. Idk why, I'm not shy around girls or guys I'm good friends with. But I'm really shy around guys I don't know well and I don't want to be. My best friends are always flirting with guys and always being asked out and I think I'm just as pretty as them, but guys never ask me out because unlike my friends, I'm really shy and nervous around guys. How can I be more confident and outgoing around guys without being so weirdly nervous and quiet? It's not fun being the only one without a boyfriend, or even lots of guy friends, for that matter. :-/ :-/ :-/
if you're desperate, just concentrate really hard and pretend the guy is a girl. I went through a preiod of unisex schooling and this always used to work for me.