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thanks a lot. just say may what should i do from now on . is there any problem if i suddenly stop mansturbation for the rest of my life ? (link)
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I wouldn't say stop completely, as masturbation is a healthy thing, especially for men. It can help a males heart as males are more likely to have heart attack than a woman. as well as it is also a healthy form of self exploration. Such as finding what you really enjoy and what not. Though there is no horrible problem in complete cessation of masturbation. I think I've covered this before, but maybe set a schedule for times you would do it. If you hold off from it maybe doing it once a week, not only will it feel much better when you climax, but then you can also not have to worry about it interfering with your everyday life.
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my friend is 14 and pregant wat the hell am i supossed to do? (link)
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At age 14 and pregnant, there is nothing much you can do. You can help her and support her (I don't mean to give her money and buy everything she needs for her child) I mean, be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. She is very young and probably very scared. But I'm afraid I believe that if she thought she was old enough to have intercourse, then she should be old enough to accept the consequences.
If you worry about her future, talk to her. There are agencies out there who will help her put her baby up for adoption. Also, there's the "baby on doorstep" procedure. Where after she gives birth and feels she cannot care for her child, she can leave the baby at a local hospital. If she hasn't gotten any specific religious influences, perhaps she could consider adoption. If she plans on keeping the baby, perhaps she can get public assistance. (Just have her go to her local public aid office)
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In my own decision, I have decided to throw up after meals. I havn't started yet but i plan to soon. I will only do it for a month and only when i coem home from school and after dinner. I feel very un satisfied w/ myself. I weigh 101 lbs and i'm 13, and 5' 3'' tall. I feel fat and ugly. I really want to perge after meals and if you could please help by telling me wuts the easiest way to do it, quick and fast...w/ out getting to sick. Please help me, and please don't tell me to stop bc/ won't. (link)
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Sadly, when it comes to vomiting, you will get to sick regardless. Whether you want to or not. There is no real easy way to make your self vomit. For everyone it is different. Some people can make themselves do it with ease, and on command, as some have to force themselves. But before you decide to kill yourself with bulimia, please do read what I have to say. I know it's long, but it is best that you know what you are getting yourself into.
Consequences of Bulimia
What is the future for a young woman who suffers from Bulimia?
As her weight drops below healthy levels she may experience a cessation of menstruation. Her metabolism will also become very confused, and slow down considerably, therefore setting her up for weight problems in the future. The constant abuses can begin to cause significant damage to the digestive system, and affect other parts of the body such as skin tone, hair, nails, and teeth - as the body struggles to find the nutrients it needs. The major nutrient problem is the loss of Potassium (K). Potassium (among other things) helps to regulate the heart and in chronic cases, the bulimic must be hospitalized as her body is so low in Potassium that some functions begin to suffer.
There is not much of a future for the bulimic. Why it initially seems that they have got control of their weight, the addiction slowly gains control of their life, affecting their health and their relationships with others.
The periods of starvation are hard enough on the body to begin with, but coupled with the fact that the person is vomiting their food up again it creates more wear and tear on the body. When a person (anybody) vomits they bring up hydrochloric acid from their stomach when this is done habitually and with regularity (for weeks or more), the lining of the esophagus begins to tear and will eventually cause internal bleeding. If a person is binging by way of laxatives then they might go overboard and end up dehydrating themselves to the point where they need medical attention due to other things in the body going wrong from lack of the proper fluids. People who have eating disorders will try and keep it discrete for as long as possible so they would not go to the doctor unless they had an extraordinary excuse (to cover what is really going on) or unless they suddenly had a change of heart and decided to save their life.
Also, as wear and tear occur in time it corrodes your esophagus and in the future has a possibility of a nasty gruesome death. Meaning, in time your esophagus tears and you pretty much puke yourself to death, puking everything in your stomach (including stomach acids) as well as vomiting blood.
I do wish you scare you with the true facts. As I have lost a friend due to this illness. But I figure, if you want to die a disgusting filthy mess go for it. You're already to skinny as is. I hope you change your mind.
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There only but so much a child can do but i know i have messed up in a pass , but how can i change the past to make the future better ! i miss my mommy and i want her back please help! (link)
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If you could explain this in more detail, as of what you mean as in getting your mother back, as well as what may have caused her distance or possibly her leaving.
Also, sadly, the past cannot be changed, but there can be ways to make up for your mistakes. Apologizing is a way, and being sure to not upset her again. Don't do what you did to upset her again, and be sure not to do anything else that you know will upset her.
I hope I was of some assistance.
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i am a 32 year old women and i feel very ill i have headaces, feel sick and have also wet myself a few times? (link)
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If you have male partner and have been having unprotected, even protected intercourse, there is a possibility that this could be pregnancy, as pregnancy as many different forms of symptoms, such as headaches, nausea, frequent urination (sometimes even resulting in wetting yourself), weight gain possibly even loss, change in mood, cravings for foods. If you have taken pregnancy tests and the results have turned to be negative, then I would suggest talking to your physician, as this could be a sign of something more serious.
I hope I was of some assistance.
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okay, this is long but i really need help.
about 5 months ago, i started getting over friendly with a boy i was friends with. when we were together all we did was flirt and joke and i loved it. we started texting and i told him i liked him. things were good and he said he liked me back. we got together one night and it was amazing. i forgot about everyone around us and we spent the whole night together just kissing and cuddling. he told me he loved me after that but i thought he was just being silly. things after got bad as we could never meet and he always seemed so needy. i ended it a few times but we always got back. then i ended it for good 2 months ago. i thought i wasnt ready for anything he wanted. he took it hard and begged me to come back but i thought i was over him. then valentines we were at a disco. i was talking to him and just wanted to kiss him. I told him and he ignored me. at the end of the night i seen him kiss another girl, and it felt like a kick in the stomach. i was completely gutted. i told him i still liked him and he told me he didnt like me anymore. i was shocked it had come to that. i then started to constantly think about him, i realised i was madly in love with him and i started to fall out with him over nothing all the time. i felt bad and i knew he tried to be friends. he told me one night he always loved me and then told me he had a new girlfriend. i burst into tears and was very upset. things went down hill from there, he is a flirt and flirts with all my friends + me even though he has a girlfriend. he seems to not care anymore and doesnt really make an effort with me, but its breaking my heart and i dunno what to do. i just want to be with him and no one else :| (link)
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I know this may seem a bit mean, but you may not get another chance with him. I'm really truly sorry to say, but you blew your chance with him. Please forgive my rudeness, but this is how it is. Perhaps, after you leaving him so often, he just completely gave up on caring about being with you. I understand the feeling of wanting to be with that one person, but you also need to realize he was hurt several times due to you breaking up with him.
There is a possibility that in the future he may want to be with you again, but I wouldn't hold onto that as it could lead to unwanted results. Just be happy he's still your friend, and hope for his happiness. Move on, and try dating other people. Who knows. Maybe you'll find someone you enjoy having around more than you did with him. It hurts losing your first love, but remember, it's not the end.
I hope that I was of some assistance.
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All right, so far I've been up and down all the time. Not quite bi-polar, but sometimes I just get really sad, as though there's no point in life. So I've been contemplating suicide. What should I do? (link)
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Coping with depression can be very difficult, especially if you have no one to help/support you or talk to. I suggest focus on what might be causing you to feel this way, and how you would like to change it, or what about your life that brings you down, and focus on how to make it better. I know it always seems hopeless at first, and that you may not feel motivated enough to do it, but in the end, you truly do feel better. Also, think about getting psychiatric help. If you can't afford it, speak with the psychiatrist and explain your financial situations, as most psychiatric help facilities have "sliding" fees. Meaning you only pay a tiny amount while donations pay for the rest.
Like I tell anyone else who struggle with suicide thoughts, life is beautiful, you don't get to live the same life twice, why waste it?
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ok i really hate the way i look and i wanna make myself pretty and actually believe in myself. i have wavy dirty blonde hair a little under my shoulders,blue eyes, freckles that i hate they make me really ugly, and like i have no curves, and i keep getting zits, i just want to be able to look at myself and think im pretty. please help me! i rate high! (link)
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You do not have to rate high on my reply, as I don't care about ratings, I just care about helping people.
I have no idea about your curves part, as I don't know your height and weight. As your hair and eyes, they regardless sound beautiful :)
If you want to get rid of your freckles, you need to understand what they are first: small, flat, tan, brown, or black spots on the skin caused by increased production and localized build-up of melanin in skin cells. Melanin is produced naturally as a skin pigment and protection against sunlight -- that's why prolonged sun exposure can produce or darken freckles, especially in people with fair skin.
Bleaching agents and creams are a common way to get rid of freckles. Bleaching agents usually contain hydroquinone, a chemical that fades skin color, and are available over-the-counter or in stronger prescription form. A bleaching skin cream, applied directly to freckles, can get rid of freckles by slowing the production of melanin and fading their color to that of the rest of your skin. Be careful, though: over-application or misuse of bleaching agents can cause serious skin irritation and damage.
Liquid nitrogen treatment (cryotherapy) is often used to get rid of freckles. Also known as “freezing” (because it’s so cold—duh hehe), liquid nitrogen is also a common treatment for warts. When applied directly to a freckle, the liquid nitrogen forms a blister that effectively lifts the freckle out of the skin then causes it to fall off. Cryotherapy can be painful and should not be used on the same area skin more than once a week.
Basic skin care is always an integral part of the best treatment for pimples and it goes a long way when it comes to pimple control. Taking the proper approach to washing your skin can prevent new pimples from ever forming and it can even remove pimples on the face fast.
Initially, be sure you gently apply your cleanser to your skin with clean fingertips. Don't rub a bar of soap across your face with a washcloth as that will only serve to irritate your skin and make your acne worse.
hen, make sure you rinse your skin with lukewarm water. Don’t use hot, and don’t use cold. Hot water causes flaky skin, and chilly water shocks your pores. Dry by patting your pores and skin, NOT rubbing it with a clean towel.
Be sure to avoid any kind of abrasive cleaning soap like Lava. Ordinary Ivory (for oily skin) and Dove (for dry skin) are often adequate. Aveeno, Neutragena, Johnson & Johnson, Aveeno, and Neutragena offer affordable cleansers.
I hope I was able to be of some assistance. If you could let me know your body weight as well as height, or even better your body measurements, I could be of more assistance with your curves issue.
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i need a sucide online chat thing please (link)
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There are a lot of support groups out there. I have found a few that may be what you are looking for.
http://www.depressionhaven.org/phpBB2/index.php
www.depressionconnect.com
http://www.depressiontribe.com/
I hope you change your mind about suicide, as life is beautiful, and you don't get to live the same life twice. Cherish this life that you were given, even if it seems no one else does. What matters most is what you think of yourself, and not what others think.
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i am a undergraduate student aged 20yr. since 16yr i have been manstrubating 2/3 times a day and was in daydreaming frequently. due to this , i ruined my most important educational career by misutilisation of time . now i want to stop this and want to make a brand new start. so, i need your advice that what should now ? (link)
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It seems as though you have a high libido (sex drive). This is due to higher levels of hormones. Talk to your physician, and explain to them your situation and they can prescribe you medications that will help lower or help regulate your hormones. There is a myth that when "in the mood" to take a cold shower, do not take a cold shower as this actually increases blood flow, take a warm-hot (NOT scolding hot, but that comfortable hot) shower. Or keep yourself busy to where you do not have any time to masturbate or get yourself to tired to even care about masturbation. I hope this helped
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how many advil do you have to take to die ? (link)
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Advil won't kill you. If anything it will just put you into excruciating pain due to liver damage. If you feel the urge to die, try seeking psychiatric help. Life is far to beautiful to want to end it so soon. I struggled with depression for a long time, attempted suicide many times, and got help. Find an outlet for your sadness. You don't get to live the same life twice, so don't waste this one you have.
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ok i have this weird fetish with pulling peoples hair...wheb i waas little i would always get in trouble. but really io couldnt help it...even now it still sticks with me i dont have many freinds because i guess im ''weird'' but im really not i just like pulling peoples hair.....is that a crime (link)
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It's not so much because you're weird or anything. But not everyone likes having their hair pulled as it hurts. I would suggest that you keep yourself from pulling peoples hair unless it is something they enjoy. Everyone has a fetish of sorts. Some are more extreme, as some are very subtle. Perhaps you could find yourself a companion/mate who enjoys having their hair pulled and let it out on that person.
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why is bulimia so bad i wanna be bulimic but i also wanna no wat im gettin into...if bulimia is as bad as they say i wont do it but i just wanna no, and how can i make myself spew? (link)
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Bulimia is not a healthy way to lose weight (if that's what you're worrying about) As bulimia can lead to a very gruesome and painful death. Stomach acids come up corroding your esophagus and ruining your teeth.
1- Corrosion of esophagus later can result in a bad tearing resulting in you pretty much "spewing" to death. Not only your stomach acids, but as well as a lot of blood.
2- The stomach acids eat away at your teeth enamel, making them lest protected and resulting it rotting teeth.
The reason I know about this, is because a few years back, my best friend passed away... Not due to the starvation of bulimia, but to the gruesome form of it. She was found in a pool of her own stomach fluids as well as her blood due to bulimia. Please do reconsider bulimia, whether its for weight loss, or other reasons.
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I think that I might be becoming dyslexic. I'm not sure if that can happen so I'm debating on whether to tell my parents.
I've recently (starting about a year ago) started having trouble with reading and with reading numbers.
Say I try to give a number out and it's something like, 764-383-9827. If I try to read it off of something that it was written on it would probably come out something like, 764-833-9728. It's really agrivating because it doesn't matter how long I look at the number; whenever it comes out of my mouth, they are always flip flopped.
It also happen with words and reading; it was just easier to explain with numbers. Sometimes I even read things that aren't even on the paper I'm reading off of. Like, if the word was "with" I might read it as "when" or "what". Should I tell my parents about it?
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I've heard of dyslexia being diagnosed or recognized later in life, but I've never heard of anyone *developing* it after learning to read normally.
Do you have any old assignments that you could look over? If your old stuff has the same kinds of errors as your new stuff, maybe you're just more aware of a problem you've always had.
But, if your recent work has more mistakes, I would definitely want to see an M.D. to rule out physical causes. It could also be possible that stress or too little sleep could cause these kinds of mistakes.
Best wishes.
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ok, im 13 and i weigh about 103 pds and im 5'5 ish. i think im erelaly fat. yeh typical but its taking its toll on me. becuase i do lots of sports and their not helping, and i havent weighed this much in my life, ive always weighed around 95. ive though about becoming anorexic , but my sister is (was) and if i did my mom would totally go CRAZY because she cant take another kid doing that. anyway does anybody have any ideas of ab crunches because its only my stomach thats "fat" THAnKS SO MUCH (link)
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You're still a growing sweety. You're at a normal weight for you age. When I was your age, I was 5'7 and 130. In time you grow into that weight. Being underweight is not healthy. Anorexia also leads to health complications. I do not wish to scare you, but a girl I use to baby sit thought the same way you do. She went anorexic, and sadly, not long she passed away. It puts a large strain on your body, and eventually your body gives in. Also, do not think about bulimia, because the death from that can be much more worse than starving to death. Binging and purging results in tearing of your esophagus and pretty much you purge to death. But, if you like, I can give you a healthy diet plan that keeps you at the weight you should be at as well as exercises that help tighten your tummy.
1- Instead of eating 3 large meals a day, eat 6 small nutritious meals a day. (pretty much, healthy snacking through the day)
2- drink plenty of water (but don't over do it, drinking to much water can kill a person)
3- If you want to work on your tummy muscles, lay on your back, keeping your legs together, lift your legs straight up and put them back down. Also, while doing this, hold onto the legs of your bed, and you will also work on your breast area (keeping them from sagging in the future)
There is another variation of this stomach exercise, instead of lifting them straight up, lift your legs about 6 inches to a foot off the ground (meaning your feet be this high up) and hold them there for 5-10 seconds each time.
The weight you are at is.. Too low for your height, you should be at least 115-120.
Don't try to live up to todays expectations of beauty, because being too skinny, is not always beautiful, or sexy.
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So im in 14 now and when i was 11 and when i was 6 i was rapped, by the same guy. I used to be really paranoid when i was with guys. Now i have a boyfriend and whenever we are doing anything, like kissing ill get really paranoid and flip out because i get flashbacks from when i was 11 and 6. He was only in jail for 2 years because the judge only knew about it when i was 6. I'm really nervous because i think my boyfriend thinks that i think hes like, disgusting or somthing. I dont know if i want to tell him about what happened to me..so what should i do(about the flashbacks && my boyfriend)?
ill rate 5s for anything! (link)
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You do not have to rate me a five, because honestly I don't care about my rating.
Perhaps with your past trauma history, it is best if you hold off from dating. Until you feel you can be comfortable being around a male companion. There are no ways to be able to truly get over such a horrific experience. Though there are ways of I suppose.. "dealing" with it. Try speaking with a psychologist and explain to her your situation. (The reason I say her is because I'm sure you'd feel more comfortable with a female psychiatrist)
I do understand how you feel about this, as I have also gone through the same dilemma. The flashbacks are difficult and can also be terrifying. The best thing to do, is take everything slowly and do not rush yourself. Get the help you need to get your life in order. Leaving such trauma untreated can cause much more difficulties in the future. No only in your love life, but in everyday life as well. It can lead to panic, depression, mental breaking leading to psych ward hospitalization, as well as(I hate saying this word but it's true) suicide. If you do not wish to leave your boyfriend, you do not have to, but explain to him that it's not him, and that you are not yet comfortable talking about why you act the way you do towards him, though once you feel as though you can, let him know. But do try to get the psychiatric help you need, so this way you do not harm yourself, or others. I truly hope I could help you. Be strong, and keep looking forward towards the future.
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omg, i just got kicked off of the chat room on this site, but wat is lame is that i got kicked off because i had been shortening words!
Who thinks that people should be kicked off for that!
Please Help!
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Every chat room has their own rules. Some chat rooms you are not allowed to swear, as some you can only speak in english. Perhaps the reason you were kicked was because it was a chat room where you have to use proper spelling? Why not look for another chat room? Be sure to read the rules and requirements for said chat rooms so that you aren't kicked again. I hope this helped in some way :)
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Dear advicentator,
I have recently become violent towards all types of furry cats, and fear that they are out to get me. For example, when a kitten meows, I take it as a threat. I think they are from an evil alien planet, and their mission is to deceive humans into believing that they are innocent, but really they are corrupting our minds with lies with their sixth sense. Although, most people laugh at me, (or are just bloody scared at my awkward belief), and think that i am filled with rubbish; but i truly see cuddly cats as a threat to humanity. Recently, I killed a cat that was rubbing its fur on a little boy's leg to mark him as its prey. And do you know how I did it? I skinned that cat, and made the little boy cry. He didn't think I was saving his life. But I did. What should I do to protect our species from cats? And how can I remain respected while doing so? I'd strongly appreciate it if you'd reply. Thanks a lot.
Edgar, U.K.
(sorry if its a bit long). (link)
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Everyone has their fears. I don't wish to sound mean or anything and I don't want you to think I'm against how you feel, but have you considered talking to a psychiatrist? Let them know how you feel and perhaps they can help you.
Plus, sadly, I fear there may be no actual way to rid the world of the feline specie. They multiply to quickly to be able to fully eradicate them. Yet, a good way to keep cats away from you would be to get a dog. Instead of attacking the cats and what not, keep your distance from them, so no one will think ill of you due to your reactions towards them. Many people out there like felines, as well as many who do not.
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i am a decent looking girl, but i have never been great around boys. i am not shy, but i am just not good at flirting. whenever i find a boy DOES like me, it always seems like they are the ones i don't like! i always find something wrong with them. this is going to sound stupid, but there's a boy in my grade who i don't know well but i have always had a feeling he likes me (he compliments me, trys to startup convos, etc.) i don't have anything against him, and i think he's nice...but sort of awkward). he is also sort of emo punish...not usually my type (like he likes screamo music, etc.) it's just not really my thing. i don't know what to do...whenever i am at home i think "oh well maybe i'll give him a chance", but as soon as i see him i change my mind & feel all awkward. what should i do?!?! (link)
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There's no reason to feel awkward. If he isn't your type, you shouldn't push yourself to like him in that way. If you think you'd like to give him a chance, instead of just saying to yourself "I'll just go out with him blah blah" why not just hang out with him as just friends first? Get to know him better and what not. If he asks you out while your hanging out as friends, and you don't feel that you're ready, or you don't feel that you know enough about him to know your answer yet, just say "I want to get to know you better before I make any decisions about us being an item"
I hope I was able to be of use in some way.
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Hey, I'm not allowed to download photoshop and I recently found out that you can turn a photo into a pencil drawing using that program, so I was wondering if I could send a picture to someone who could just use that function and send the drawing back?
(its under love life because I'm making a scrapbook for my boyfriend, but we have no pictures together so i figured I could have both the picture and the drawing next to eachother to fill out the pages, you know?) THANK YOU! (link)
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I would be happy to be of help to you (I have photoshop) mostly because I think it's a cute and sweet thing of what you're doing for your boyfriend :) Here is my email address if you would like to send it to me. and I will send it back asap ^_^
redxrosexstitcher@yahoo.com
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