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Flashbacks
So im in 14 now and when i was 11 and when i was 6 i was rapped, by the same guy. I used to be really paranoid when i was with guys. Now i have a boyfriend and whenever we are doing anything, like kissing ill get really paranoid and flip out because i get flashbacks from when i was 11 and 6. He was only in jail for 2 years because the judge only knew about it when i was 6. I'm really nervous because i think my boyfriend thinks that i think hes like, disgusting or somthing. I dont know if i want to tell him about what happened to me..so what should i do(about the flashbacks && my boyfriend)?
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Perhaps with your past trauma history, it is best if you hold off from dating. Until you feel you can be comfortable being around a male companion. There are no ways to be able to truly get over such a horrific experience. Though there are ways of I suppose.. "dealing" with it. Try speaking with a psychologist and explain to her your situation. (The reason I say her is because I'm sure you'd feel more comfortable with a female psychiatrist)
I do understand how you feel about this, as I have also gone through the same dilemma. The flashbacks are difficult and can also be terrifying. The best thing to do, is take everything slowly and do not rush yourself. Get the help you need to get your life in order. Leaving such trauma untreated can cause much more difficulties in the future. No only in your love life, but in everyday life as well. It can lead to panic, depression, mental breaking leading to psych ward hospitalization, as well as(I hate saying this word but it's true) suicide. If you do not wish to leave your boyfriend, you do not have to, but explain to him that it's not him, and that you are not yet comfortable talking about why you act the way you do towards him, though once you feel as though you can, let him know. But do try to get the psychiatric help you need, so this way you do not harm yourself, or others. I truly hope I could help you. Be strong, and keep looking forward towards the future.
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