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frequent mansturbation and daydreaming
i am a undergraduate student aged 20yr. since 16yr i have been manstrubating 2/3 times a day and was in daydreaming frequently. due to this , i ruined my most important educational career by misutilisation of time . now i want to stop this and want to make a brand new start. so, i need your advice that what should now ?
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Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
Let me start by saying masturbation is totally normal. Most teenagers masturbate, be they boys or girl, to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes brought on by puberty. A recent report relates that as many as 90% of the population masturbate.
The only time masturbation is wrong is when the urge to masturbate precludes doing everything else. Masturbating two to three times a day for someone 16 to 21 years of age is within the normal range as that is within the range of puberty.
Blaming the misutilization of time on masturbating may be placing the blame on the wrong subject. Masturbation requires privacy while daydreaming can be done anywhere. It is again normal for men to think about sex more than women do. It is just as normal for a young male to have many erections during the day. I read a study somewhere that said a male, I forget the exact number it was quite high, many erections during the day as he is constantly preoccupied with the thoughts of sex. While this is true it is also true that this preoccupation is mostly a subconscious one as conscious function allows him to concentrate in other areas giving him to wonder at times why he is erect.
I see your problem as one in need to learn how to prioritize and focusing not how to stop masturbating. To focus better you might want to try and remove stimulants from you view such as sexy pictures, sex magazines and such. Try locking out porn sites from your computer. If you cannot do that, work at the library and use their computers for school related work. I’m sure their computers have the porn sites locked out. The more stimulus you can remove from view the less you should be able day dream about.
There is one other thing you might want to try. As unbelievable as this may sound, you may need to relieve yourself more often than two or three times a day. Try masturbating before class, between classes when you have time to do so; before going to the library to do your school work and before going to sleep at night.
By removing as much visual stimulation and by reducing your body’s signals for relief your day dreaming should subside and your ability to focus increase. I do not suggest taking the medication to reduce your libido as they have long lasting side effects you won’t like. If you feel the need for medical intervention I would suggest you speak with a sex therapist.
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It seems as though you have a high libido (sex drive). This is due to higher levels of hormones. Talk to your physician, and explain to them your situation and they can prescribe you medications that will help lower or help regulate your hormones. There is a myth that when "in the mood" to take a cold shower, do not take a cold shower as this actually increases blood flow, take a warm-hot (NOT scolding hot, but that comfortable hot) shower. Or keep yourself busy to where you do not have any time to masturbate or get yourself to tired to even care about masturbation. I hope this helped
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