...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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ok i like dont like my friend any more because she is becoming some ones that she is not so what should i do cause i still want to be friends with her but not if she acts like someone shes not it just not right i dont know what to do
HELP PLZ (link)
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Try to bring back the old friend she used to be. By telling old jokes or something. Ask her "Why are you acting like that" "Why do you do that" etc. Eventually she will come around its hard to be someone your not. Her innerself will jump out.
-shay :-)
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Why do cows have spots? (link)
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NOW THIS IS MY KIND OF QUESTION! Lets see the magic fairy came down from earth laying each and every spot on a cow so we would know the difference from cows and bulls! No j/k. Truley I know this! A cows spots are like peoples fingerprints. No spot is the same! Come to me if you have more of those kind of questions!
-shay :-)
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This isn't really a question, but...
Are you psychic? It turned out you were right all along on the fainting question.
Congrats on being right!
(you can reject this rather than answering it, unless you want the world to know your secret powers...)
Cheers
ehortop (link)
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Haha!lol! Thanks I love it when I get complipents! And yes I am phycic I see everything! No not really. I just knew cause the same thing happened to me like 3 times and water made it better. THANK YOU WATER!!!lol!Oh and your welcome!
-shay :-)
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Is it possible to become pregnant through oral sex (female giving to male) ? I was wondering since if you ingest semen isn't it possible for it to work through your body?
Also, is it possible to become pregnant if a couple is merely kissing or say fooling around and the male ejaculates into the vaginal area? They are not naked, boxers and shorts on the male and underwear on the female.
This may seem silly but I really need to know since I am having a difficult time finding alternatives to sex since I feel I am not ready for that yet. Advice would be great! (link)
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You cannot get pregnat by fooling around, but I dont suggest it. Havent you learned about reproduction? And you cannot get pregnat oraly. No worrys!
-shay :-)
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OK SEE I HAVE ONLY HAD LIKE 3 BOYFRIENDS BUT I TELL MY FRIENDS THAT I HAVE HAD A TON AND I HAVENT EVEM KISSED A GUY BUT MY FRIENDS THINK I HAVE MADE OUT WIT LIKE EVERY GUY I DATED WHATS WRONG WITH ME AM I LIKE A LIE AHOLIC? (link)
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Okay you are only a lier if you actually told your friends that you made out with a bunch of guys. If they just assume that you do you are not a lier. Though I dont think you should leed them to believe that you have.
-shay :-)
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Okay, I'm going on eight years of playing the clarinet, and I still have the same clarinet. I've heard that Buffet clarinets are really good, and I haven't really heard much of any other brands. Does anyone know a really good brand that's fairly inexpensive, as I'm on a limited budget? I don't want to ask the people at work (I work in a music store) because they're most likely to want a profit from it, and will tell me that anything is good. I thoroughly despise ANYTHING Yamaha, as they mass produce everything that they make and don't take as much time and care with any of it, as far as I can tell. Any suggestions?
Slan go foill,
Clarinetist (link)
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Okay in the 5th grade I played the clarinet aswell. I believe mine was a "vito". It was a great clarinet and my older sister used it too. They may not be selling those though. So I would suggest going to your nearest music store, "music time". And ask for their best brand name.
-shay :-)
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One of my so-called friends decided that she wanted to make stuff up about me, I guess to start a fight, but it's pretty sad that she has to make something up instead of saying osmething true that's bad, and it's pretty sad that she had that much trouble finding something bad that she made something up. Question is, do I confront her about it or not, because I heard it on the grapevine. I don't know if I should tell her to her face how pathetic it is that she has to make up something because she can't find anything, or if I should just leave her to think that she has gotten away with it completely. Can anyone help? (link)
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Explane to her that none of the things she said were true and that you feel sorry for her that she had to make bad stuff up about you to make a rumor. So definetley confont her, but remember fighting is not the answer!
-shay :-)
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Look I have this boyfriend his name is Buddah and he has a drinking and drug habit and wont stop until he get's probation.Also there's this perfect boy in school name Maurice and he want's to go with me,So should I break up with Buddah and go with Maurice or stay with Buddah??????? (link)
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Break up with Buddah. Tell him unless he stops his dangerous habbits you will not go out with him anymore. If he fails witch he most likley will go out with Maurice youve got nothing to lose exept a druggie boy/f.
-shay :-)
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i need a guy friend? anyone available? (link)
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lol! Sorry Im not a guy, but Im answering your question anyway! Well I wish you luck because earning a guy over the internet is very unlikley. Try guys at school. Realationships like that are much better.
-shay :-)
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Hi!I am a complete dog Freak and i have a chance 2 earn one.one problem i have 2 keep my room clean 4 a whole year.and i am the messiest person ever.HELP! (link)
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All I can say is to hang your clothes up after they're washed and make your bed in the morning. It really is not a hard task to keep up. I used to be the most messiest person, but then when I got my own room and it was real easy to keep up. So if you REALLY want that dog work for it!
-shay :-)
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IT WA SONLY BECAUSE IW AS CLOSE TO DEHYDRATING! OK STOP ANSWERING THTA QUESTION, IM BETTER NOW AND I AM DRINKIGN ALOT OF LFUIDS OK!! STOP WORRYING THE DOCTOR HELPED ME ITS NOT MY RASH. . !!!!!!! (link)
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I know that. I had expierienced the same thing. See I told you. No j/k!lol!
-shay :-)
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What do I do to stay focused and quit procrastinating? (link)
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You should definetley stay focused! Stop procrastinating! And I know just the way to keep yourself on task.
1.Write down the most important tasks to be performed throughout your day.
2.Number each one in order of impotance.
3.Begin working on number 1 in the morning.
4.Keep working on each number after one and so on.
5.Each evening make a new list to be used the next day.
EX.
1.Get ready
2.homework
3.study for final
4.play guitar
5.relax
-shay :-)
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OK so here's what happened this weekend...
Friday; after work Jon came up to me and told me (with beautiful eloquence) that he fancied me.
Saturday; I went to meet him after work to talk to him.I was sufficiently confused that he guilt-tripped me into saying that I liked him back and getting his mobile no. etc.
Sunday; he asked me to meet him and we spent a couple of hours in town talking.
Monday;he asked me to meet him (again) and I said I had to much work to do.
Today; I will be seeing him and would like YOUR advice as to how to let him down.
He is a very sweet person but I don't like him enough to want to go out with him especially with the complication of working together.
HELP!
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Well first of all dont be a bicth to him. Just let him know your feelings. Tell him you'd rather be friends and that its hard with a work together relationship. That is if he asks you out. Dont go hard to get either guys like that.
-shay :-)
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my church, but he HATES my guts. I actually think I love him, but I dont know why. What should I do?
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Okay first you have to make him not hate you. You had to of done something for him to hate you. So stop doing that and become his friend.
Friends first!
-shay :-)
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Hey, I fainted twice tody and went to the doctors twice, all in one day. . I want to know whats wrong with me! I have a rash,a dn my mom put stuff on it then all of a sudden i get dizzy and everything would be so blurry and then it would get dark, and the next thing you know i wa sin my moms arms. . Then I fainted again just abotu a half hour after I visited the doctors. . But my mom had put on this ointment iwas sappose to have for my rash. . then all of a sudden I got dizzy, and I saw blurrieness and darkness came and I was on the floor. .My momw as really scared. . is this my rash's fault?? I went to the doctor, they say Im fine and everything but thye want me to go gethtis thing done where u put those thigns on u, they stick em pon you I dont know wut its called exactllly. . But please tell me if u know what is causing this?!?!!?!? (link)
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Ahh. You need water. You are dehidrated. When I was in 5th grade we were dancing for a concert on the green (practice). It was really hot! I began seeing black and white with dots apearing in my face. My face was completley pale and I was sooo dizzy. So drink some water. Though Im not sure about the rash.
-shay :-)
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I wanna be what i feel like being! But if people start rejecting me, my life will be horrible I wanna be a punk is that a bad choice? I already aske dmy mom she seems fine with it. .and well I want that change! but should I not do it, 4 my friends? (link)
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It is sad that we live in a judgemantal world, but Im sure nobody will reject you. It just that us humans are so afraid of what other people think. Like today a friend of mine had to wear her running shoes all day because her other ones were dirty. She was afraid someone would make fun of her, but nobody did because nobody cared. She was the only one that did. So what my point is you shouldnt care what they think even though they may not even think about it. So go for it!
-shay :-)
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I listen to Simple Plan everynight, Im obsessed iwth them! GOSH! PIERRE IS SOOO HOTTT! but Shawn is hotter, 4 a younger eprson lol. .but honsetly Am I going crazy. . is my whole liek all about Sp!!!!!!!!!??????!!!!!!!!! I luv them, my desktop is sp, I used ot have an aim exspression of sp! my icon was sp, I listen to them i love their hwole cd, and I wanna be just like david, I wanna play a bass!!! lol I DONT KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont know but just tell me if im crazy. . . Dont asnwer this if u dont like sp. . just dont cuz u will say i am crazy!
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Dear Brittany,
You are totally normal...in a weird and crazy way. Though if you were hooked on a guy at school like that I would tell you to get a life, but your not so I confes I feel the same way about Pierre.
-shay :-)
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For the ones who have read the Ex-boyfriend Gone Mad and Dreams Column, I need your advice again. OK, so some of you said that I might have feelings for him. And some of you said that I might miss him. I can't like him!!! Number 1: My parents WONT allow it. Number 2: My parents wont let me see him anymore. Number 3: I have a boyfriend that is true to me and is everything I wanted out of a guy. But the love that my boyfriend and I share...it so different. And I don't want to like my EX because I don't want to be a "slut". Plus I don't want to like my EX because I will just end up getting hurt again. But then, WHY am I having dreams about him EVERY night? And today, I did the "ABCDEFG" thing with the soda can and it landed on "J" which is the beginging letter of my EX boyfriends name. I talked to a physic and she said that I am gonna be with this boy for the rest of my life. What do you think she ment by that? Like, am I gonna be with him as a married couple? Or just friends? Or am I just gonna know him for the rest of my life? What are all of the signs about? Why am I getting them anyways? I need your advice ASAP!
P.S. I will be seeing my EX at a play that he is in because my friend is in the same play that my EX is in. Should I talk to him or not? If so, what should I say? Or do??
Sincerely,
CONFUSED! (link)
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Dear confused,
I think what the phycic ment was that you will be having dreams of this guy forever. But dont be discouraged you most likley wont. Dont talk to him at the play try to ignore him. Pretend youve never seen him in your life. Your dreams will eventually go away just as long as you stop thinking of him!
-shay :-)
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i need a little more help on my problem...
i'm an 1st honor student and i'm afraid of anyone (even my aunts or uncles)who smoke...
i know my crush isn't on drugs... for a fact... and i don't talk to him when he's near these people... i'm just confused~ (link)
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Dear im just confused,
That is some what good to be afraid of people like that. So you will stay away from it even if it looks good. Though your aunts and uncles shouldnt be the case unless they go crazy. Try to stay away from this guy.KKKK
-shay :-)
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Hi, I'm a 20-year-old female, I have never had a boyfriend and I have never dated before. Is there anything I can do to meet guys to date? Just for fun I mean, I know guys my age rarely want anything serious. And I know my happiness doesn't depend on a guy, I'm very happy by myself, thank you; but I really want to know what is like to have someone pick you up and share dinner and a movie with you. Any ideas?
Thank you.
Tallulah (link)
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e-harmony.com not im j/k . Hmmm when its the right time the right person will come. I know your worrying alot about this, but you should otherwise try meeting new guys and hope for the best!
-shay :-)
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