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Q: What are some factors that lead to having smelly number 2? Anything I should change in my diet or excerise to stop it?

It is pretty much going to smell regardless.
Its waste expelled from your body so After food and anything else you just happen to swallow goes threw all the acids in your body thats breaking it down, Whats left isnt very nice.

Q: Okay, today me and my boyfriend were hanging out, just a regular day. We rotated his car tires outside and then went inside his house just to relax. (His house was empty). So he goes on his computer and checks this car website while I sit on a chair, I even grab a granola bar to munch on. So afterwards he approaches me and starts to kiss me intently. Obviously, he was looking for a hookup. Then, I push him back lightly because when ever we go to his house and it's empty, we ALWAYS have to hookup! I don't think that it's always necessary to hookup on these occasions but we always do. I mean he's not a hormonal-hookup-monster but I mean what kind of guy doesn't like them? Anyway, I told him no, and I also said, why is it that whenever we go to his house we always have to hookup. Can't we just talk, relax and maybe even watch some t.v for the period that were alone. I told him I don't want our relationship to be predictable and boring. Like for instance, whenever I go to his empty house I don't want us to have the mentality that we are going to hookup. I'm a kind of person that says, "If it happens, it happens". I don't want it to be predictable, you know? Anyway, we had a huge fight because he says I always do this but i don't, I did it once before and it was for the same reason. We resolved it before, but now it seems we are not getting anywhere on this matter. Anyway my question is how do I approach the matter to him and how do we come to an understanding on the matter that can make us both happy.

P.S: It's not that I don't want to hookup, I would have if I could. But I just don't think it will help our relationship. I don't want to get bored with him. I like him way to much to let our relationship to turn predictable and boring.

Sorry, it's kind of long. I have a lot to say.

Where else do you and him have sex?
He is looking at it like this, There probably isnt anywhere that you could just hook up like yall can at his house. So he is taking it for granted. If you know he is going to be home alone, try avoiding the visit so he will know your serious.

Q: my mom's extremely strict and stubborn. i can't hang out with guys, can't date them, and i can't do a bunch of other stuff that every other 13 year old girl CAN. i can't have sleepovers with friends. and it drives me NUTS. i've had one in my life with a friend because my parents had a wedding, and thats IT. my friend jenna and me are staying home all summer and we wanna hang out..a lot. (were best friends) and she was like "lets have a sleepover on friday with ana" (ana is my other friend) and im scared my mom wont let me. im not sure if shes okay with it or not, because its summer and she knows i have nothing to do. im just so scared. i know jenna is going to have SO many sleepovers like she always does. and i always feel like im a weirdo and im always outside of my circle of friends. they have millions of sleepovers with each other, and i havent had any. i just really need some VERY convincing reasons why i should be able to have sleepovers over the summer. please, i dont want to be left out all summer to..:-\

Talk to your mom about it. Face your fears. She will never know if you dont say anything. Discuss it with both of your parents (step parents etc...) And maybe one parent could convince the other.

Q: me 16/f
him 16/f
ok so i have a guy friend and we're not best friends but i think he likes me.these are the things he does.
-hugs me randomly
-challenges me at sports
-pulled me onto his lap in a hot tub
-compliments me
-teases me a little
and when i flirt he flirts back but when we were talking in a small group of our friends he says he's enjoying the freedom of not being in a relationship. he's been in an on again off again relationship for a year.

so does he like me or am i just a summer flirt buddy?

He likes you and he wants you around but he just probably want to get to know you really well before he jump in a relationship with you. Don't rush it. Especially if your the only girl he treats this way.

Q: Hi,im a 15 year old girl that thought she never wanted a serious relationship but is now kind of wanting one at the same time >.< Anyway, theres this guy i met through myspace.i played it safe of course,talked to him on aim and the phone and such then i met up with him (with a few of my friends,again playing it safe)and it turns out im starting to get really interested.The only problem is that he works 5 days a week(hes 17 by the way) and can hardly ever hang out and stuff.We still talk alot on aim but id rather be able to get to know him in person.He says he likes me but doesnt really act like it and im so confused i dont know what to do or think especially since i have really low sef esteem so im constantly in doubt ... =/

You shouldnt really doubt yourself. I bet your beautiful, and sweet. You should tell him you want to get to kno him in person. I know that might be hard for you, but it would be the best thing to do. If he takes his time that he has off, and spends it getting to know you, then you will know that he really likes you.

Q: ok so me and my ex broke up. (obviously haha) but yea, so sometimes i talk to him on aim. and he says that his life is messed up and stuff and he says he misses me. but he never calls me or writes to me on aim its always me first. i cant call him because i dont have his new number and i wont ask for it. but anyway yea so he always says that his life is messed up and he sounds depressed. what should i tell him? what should i do? i miss him so much.

His life probably is messed up but he also wants you to feel bad too.
He is your EX for a reason.
If he doesnt show you the attention that your showing him (I.E. you initiating everything first..) then He is full of crap.
If he really missed you why doesnt he give you his new number so you and him can talk?
Thought so.

Q: okay so im 15 and a girl

usually im pretty good with these things but there is this kid steve. and it was basically an immediate attravtion. we would talk for hours and he basically knows me better than anyone else. well we never made it "official" and its been off and on alot and i broke up with my boyfriend for him. but like two days later he said we were better off friends. now you might consider him an ass hole for this but truly.. he's basically the sweetest, and most caring person i know. if i explained it to you fully, it would be pages. i think that i really love this guy. and now he started talking to me again.

You dont love this guy your lusting for him. Hes forbidden fruit. you want him but you cant have him. If he is tellin you, that your better off being friends, take that and run with it. Because he isnt feeling you like your feeling him. And Ima tell you like this, when he realizes that he passed up something great then he will be the one with the jumbled emotions.

Q:
In an interview situation when is it appropriate to ask questions about benefits and salary?

Normally at the end of an interveiw, Or anytime in between when the interviewer pauses and ask you do you have any questions.

I would choose the end of the interview. The reason why is because they've said all they've had to say. They could bring it up while giving the interview and it would be rude to beat them to the punch. But if they dont, thats when you bring it up at the end.

Q: its almost impossible for me to be open, so its hard to post this. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for about five years id say. i NEED help. i dont know what to say to my mom, who has blown me off in the past, about this. i have a sever anxiety disorder and need treatment. i dont know how to go about getting this.

17/f

please help. thanks

Try looking for a clinic in your area. Also google the type and see what causes you disoder and some sites might have treatments you can do by yourself.

Q: Ok, So I became friends with this girl "Sara" recently, and I'd say we're pretty much best friends now. I've really, really liked this guy "Joe" for over two years. Anyways, Sara always hangs out with him. She'll call him and ask for rides to parties (which, I'm not really a Partier). And in gym class[I'm in the 11th grade btw, and he just graduated] she would always do stuff to get him to react to her with some comment. I don't think he likes her though. Many others agree that she flirts with him..A LOT. We even went to the movies with Joe and his friend, hoping I'd get a chance to hang out with him [so she said], and she sat by him AND talked to him the whole time. She claims she doesn't like him and that she's "IN LOVE" with my long time[like whole life] friend "Chad" [he just "does stuff" with her/uses her], but sometimes I doubt her truth about Joe. She's VERY flirty and loves attention from boys (not to be mean, but it's true.)So can someone PLEASE give me there's opinion and advice!?. Sorry again it's so long.

You should call her out in front of him. I know this sounds kind of mean but that may be the only way.
Be like "aww joe!! I think Sara may like you"

Then see how they both react to the situation.
But if you really like Joe, you need to step up and let him know! (if he doesnt already) Let him know your serious before he uses sara too.

Q: What are all the possible plans for texting for Verizon?
I looked on the website... but couldn't find it.
Thanks!

America's Choice® Select
With the Select Calling Plans, you get Unlimited Messaging with anyone in the U.S. On any network. At any time.

Monthly access starting at $59.99

It doesnt exactly tell you how much just text messaging is, but this is a basic plan with text messaging.... and here is one without....

America's Choice® Basic
With the America's Choice Basic Plans, you can call across the nation from within the America's Choice Coverage Area.

Monthly access starting at $39.99

Sooo im guessing its like 20 bucks. thats alot for texing.

Q: f/16- I'm really into a bohemian- autumn-winter look.. But I'm not sure how to put clothes together.. to achieve that look.

Here's a picture of me.
[http://i16.tinypic.com/67xowmb.jpg]
I was told to find what my "season" was so I could figure out what colors look best on me.

I don't know how to describe my skin tone. It's not pale nor tan. I have dark brown eyes. Dark brown hair.

I'm so confused. Help? I would also like links [clothing websites] or pictures to help. I was thinking of getting pictures of an outfit and going out to search for similar items.. Does that sound weird?

I really want to have a style instead of looking like a little girl. I'm going to be a junior, yet people assume I'm still in middle school or whatever.

You are Beautiful!!
You have dark hair so bold colors would look good on you. I dont have any sites off hand lets see...
-stay away from browns. They arent for you. No tans either.

http://www.abercrombie.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/category1_10051_10901_12270_-1_12203

The second shirt. The burgondy color would look so good on you. The yellow too. And it's more "grown up".

I think maybe even a green dark green, not too dark would look nice on you too.

http://www.abercrombie.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/category1_10051_10901_12253_-1_12203

Like the first shirt on that ^ page....

These bottoms.... The last ones... and the second ones...

http://www.abercrombie.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/category1_10051_10901_12250_-1_12203

ok ok I think you get the picture. Nothing too light or too dark, just something thats bold. If you go for a brown dont let it be a dark brown. Or too close to tan. lol

AND dont get too many things that look alike leave your friends guessing.

Q: Hey! Well I'm looking for new sneakers, and they have to be flyyy lol. So I was looking at these:

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/shopping/product/detailmain.jsp?itemID=29874&itemType=PRODUCT&iMainCat=121&iSubCat=557&iProductID=29874

^^what do you think?

Additional suggestions would be greatly appreciated :]].

Those are nice...But they are the wrong color. The black and pink ones on the lower right look better. If they were light purple with grey, instead of the other way then they would be nice too. You should get a color thats versitile. You can wear it with almost anything. You dont want to get some shoes and you can ojnlt wear themm with certain outfits do you?

Q: i was wonder if anyone knew the number that blocks all 1800 numbers from calling your house.? thankss

www.donotcall.gov

I think you go there and register your number and it blocks telemarketers.

Q: i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?

Im going to have to say i am look that. Not the capitalization, but the writing in general. The sentences need to make sense. There needs to be spacing after periods. Words need to be spelled correctly... I could go on and on.
I will comment when Im giving advice on a person's question if I had to struggle for it to mke sense.

Q: This may sound SOO televisioness but it's my life and its full of drama Im in florida right now with my family and my grandparents. I came to Florida to get away from all the drama where im from. Well on the way there I have Eric calling me saying he wants me to come back so i was like you have someone. You dont need me. He said he broke up with my best friend, D. Well i hung up on him and called her and she was crying saying its not far how i have 2 boys Josh and Eric that both like me and not one likes her. I said i had no idea he was dumping her and that i never liked Eric and never will. She accepted my apoligy and we came up with an idea to get him back. I apoligied for hanging up on him and he told me he was already in Florida! He told me his grandparents are friends with mine and that he's staying in there cabin thats across the street from mine gradparents. Well when I got there me and him are sharing a room, and im on a lap top right now. Our plan is that im saposed to pretend to like him and have him fall deeply in love with me and then when i get back from summer break kiss Josh (which he will definetly not mind :) and break hi heart like he broke D's. Well so far today rocked! it was the first day that me and eric have been away from my parents and grandparents and we got icecream and built a huge sand castle and i loved it... Eric still has no idea im using him right now but I wanna tell him without losing my friendship with my BFF its so confusing i know but I think i like him.. Ive been here a week with him and im already breaking my best friends heart if she found out that tonight, I wanna sneak out of his grandparents cabin ( that were in alone.) and go swimming with him at like 3 in the morning.. yeahh i already have it all planned :)
my question is how do i kep the guy and teh best friend because i dont want D mad and i couldnt live without Eric.
Help me!!

Well your gonna have to live without him.
What is more important to you, your friendship or a boy?
Boys come and go but friends are forever.
What if he end up ;eaving you like he left her? Then your going to fell like an ass for sacrificing your friendship for this boy.

Its an unwritten rule it goes like this:
Friends/family dont date friends/family exes.
Its just stupid and wrong.

AND by the way your plan, yea its backfiring. And before you even said you liked him I knew it was going to come down to that.

Q: Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for just over two years.

Lately I have been pretty depressed about a few things that has happened.. Normally my boyfriend would be the most loving and caring person in the world but when i've tried talking to him he's just shut everything out that i've said and moved on with the conversation.

Like this morning I sent him a message saying i'm sorry for pushing you away these last few days i've been really upset and i'm sorry, I said to him that sometimes people push away the people that mean the most to them.

When he replied all he said was that he wanted this new phone. I asked him if he got my other messages he said yeah i did and nothing is going to push me away.

He means the absolute world to me, he's my Mr Perfect guys, what do I do..? What can I do to make everythiing better.. What can I do?

I feel like we have been disconnected in some way and were just not reconnecting. I don't know if this has anything to do with the fact that I feel depressed at the moment or if he doesn't love me anymore. He always tells me he loves me an he hasn't stopped telling me he loves me these last few weeks.

Is he sick of trying to make me feel better or what...?!

I don't know whats going on in his head which is strange for us.. we have always been open and honest with each other.. whats changed??

I love him and I don't want to loose him.. I need to know what to do!!

He doesnt know what to say about your situation. Basically yes he is tired of trying to make you feel better so he is trying to let you get better on your own. If you continue to be in this mood when hes around he is going to get tired of it and leave. You being depressed all the time is bringing him down too.
You need to find something to fix your mood and quick!

Q: okay- lets start with Jason. Jason and I met about 3 weeks ago- and yeah, that's not long go figure- but we've been talking/dating. things are pretty good with us, i like him alot. well these past couple of days haven't been so good. the other night i was hanging out with some guys me and my friend met the ngiht before, and jason got realllllly mad and jealous. me and jason have both been single for a while, which is why we're not jumping into a relationship. which is also why we've been fighting cause i'm not used to one guy at a time, especially a jealous one. well there's one guy from that group of guys, kip. jasons been noticing that i've been talking about him alot, and gets mad. me and kip text all day and he calls at night and we talk for a couple of hours. looks aren't everything to me, believe me, but jason is way cuter than kip. and jason does treat me right, but when he calls the convos have never been longer than 45 minutes. and it bothers me. i understand he has to work and 6 in the mroning but still. it's like kip fills in spaces jason doesnt. i know i can't have both. jason also knows about kip calling and texting me, and is realllly mad about it. but kip doesn't know about jason. i'm so confused and i don't know what to do! jason is a great guy and we're heading towards something great but kip tells me stuff i need to hear and makes me feel different then jason does! i don't know who to pick. PLEASE HELP ME!!

Jason really likes you. thats why he is jealous. Your killing him!! No guy wants to hear about another guy that likes the girl he likes. he doenst talk to you as much because your pushing him away. You said kip is telling you what you WANT to hear so you need to figure out who is there for you. And not just trying to get with you. Go with your gut. Sit dont and have a serious conversation about relationships with these guys. And which ever conversation you feel better about, thats the guy to go with.

Q: what is a good teqnique u should use when a guy is fingering a girl or what are some things a guy could do to a girl to please her besides sex

Playing with the clitoris. gently not hard and rough. And yes massages!!
And there are some xxx things that dont involve intercourse but you can still call it sex sooo yea.

Q: my chest bone sticks out right in the middle of my chest between and below my nipples. is this normal? i was wondering what are some ways maybe some workouts i could do to make it kind of be hidden under some muscle or just some ways to get rid of it

Gain sum weight. lol That souns mean as hell but thats all I can say. Boobs are fat. I cant tell you if this is normal or not but if you think something is wrong go to a doctor.
AND if you do have a little weight on you I apologize!!

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.