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Hi.. 17 F..
I have dark brown long'ish hair, blue eyes and I wear glasses. I'm a bit overweight. I can't seem to find love?.. personally I don't think I'm that ugly but I don't think I'm gorgeous either. I can't flirt and is a bit shy. I have straight white teeth and a full mouth. I am really depressed because I feel loanly. Please help me? I like this boy at our church but he doesn't even look at me.. he is also a bit shy.. what should I do? (link)
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You need to stop seeing yourself through a fun house mirror or better put through a mirror with a ton of mud on it. You have to cut through the negative and erroneous thoughts about yourself with laser like precision and counter with all the good qualities you possess including inner and outer beauty.
A teacher once taught me to have an index card or a piece of paper folded up in wallet, purse, whatever where it could constantly be accessed. On it right down all the positive qualities you possess and consider it your ID card. Even if dropped in a puddle what's on that paper is always true. You have to claim it as yours daily.
Everyone and I do men everyone is worthy of being loved or having a relationship with someone. The fact you have yet to find that person is okay. It will happen but it's hard for guys to notice you or approach because you are introverted and they can sense not at all confident.
A potential suitor will like you for you not for your stature, won't give a shit about glasses or superficial things. I highly doubt you are ugly and a few extra pounds does not make you undesirable either. It's your personality that people will gravitate to if you allow them. Drop the guard you have up.
If you like the boy from church introduce yourself and tell him you noticed he was your age and that it's difficult to meet people who would make good friends to hang out with. Ask if he would be willing to be yours and hang out sometime or if he's in to hanging out with you and friends. That will help you at least get a friend that could over time develop. The fact he also is shy and awkward is a good thing as he may be relieved you reached out.
I think the other thing you need is a therapist to help you with your false view of self and having self esteem. They can pinpoint why you are so introverted and intimidated by others and can address depression once a psychiatrist diagnoses it. You definitely should see a doctor about it for it could make you feel a ton better than you do now.
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How do smartphones work? Is there any chance how they will advance in technology in the future? How is one simple device used as a computer? I need advice! (link)
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http://electronics.howstuffworks.com/smartphone.htm
The technology for Smart Phones is forever revolving. It seems every 6 months manufacturers like Apple or Samsung have a new phone with completely different features than the previous phone and those before it.
How is a smartphone used as a computer? You can read messages on it but e-mail and text, listen to music, draft notes, network socially, do calculations, use the internet, store things, take pictures, record audio/video on a phone and likewise a computer.
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Hello, I'm currently living in an on off-campus college owned apartment (basically I live in campus housing, but off campus). I currently have one other roommate who has her own room and I get along with great. Now technically, I'm supposed to have a second roommate as I have an extra bed in my room that can be filled at any moment by campus housing.
I've gotten lucky because it hasn't happened yet as the girl who was supposed to room with me dropped out.
I have a heart condition and my doctor thinks that having a support animal would help me with the stress of dealing with that on top of the stress of being a full time college student, working, and also being in a sorority.
Here's where things get a little tricky. My roommate has a dog, but she's a very good dog. She keeps her in a cage all day and takes her in her room at night. If I got a kitten I would probably keep her in my room anyways, BUT if I wind up with another roommate next semester (January) then idk how well having a kitten would work out. My school said that they would do their best to match me with somebody who was okay with me having an animal, but what if somebody moves in who doesn't like the cat and it causes problems?
Another thing is, I'm already fairly busy and during vacations I'm not sure where I would put the cat. I don't know if I'm staying here over the summer yet, but if I can't then I can't exactly take it home with me because my mom is allergic to cats and her landlord doesn't allow animals.
I could possibly have my brother take care of it because he already has three cats, but that's three months where the animal is just going to be plopped elsewhere. Of course, I strive to stay here over the summer so it could wind up being a non-issue anyway. Summer vacation isn't until May so I would have plenty of time to figure it out.
I do want a cat because I feel like it could relieve a lot of stress for me and keep me from feeling sad about my condition. I also would really love to save one from being put down and to have that companionship. In the past I had two cats when I had my own apartment (before I moved off to college) so I know how much care they need so that's a non issue. I'm just worried about the other factors that come with residing at college.
What do you think? Am I worrying too much? I know they're a 20 year commitment so it's not a decision I can just make on a whim.
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Keeping a dog in a crate all day until someone comes home is not good for the dog for it is isolated and cannot do anything other than sleep. It's not the healthiest environment for the animal.
I don't doubt she loves the dog but am illustrating it would be even worse for a kitten in a tiny room without anyone around needing to exercise, leap on things and constantly active with a lot of stimulation. The roommate issue and a person potentially hating the cat is real.
Hopefully, if the school told people why you need the animal they would find the suitable person. I have to be honest you really cannot count on that though with tons of students to place in residency it may not be a priority or promise they can fulfill.
When it comes time to go home for summer or perhaps not leave town being busy and unavailable to an animal that has imprinted on you isn't great. Why would the cat be plopped elsewhere and not near you if back home?
You would have to discuss things with your brother but three cats let alone a fourth is a lot of cats to have around. If he can do it and is willing than maybe that would work. I'm sure your mother likes the idea of such an animal but I have seen people with cat allergies even on medication be completely able to breathe. It's pure hell.
As far as the landlord goes most of them are concerned about smell as well as carpets and other property damage in a until and an animal being well-trained. Also, if other people in the building have leases saying no pets and they suddenly let you have one...
There is a way around that which could work if you produce a letter about a medical condition and needing a service animal from therapist and then offer to pay monthly deposit on top of rent for any damages that could change things. They could also take damages from you if things aren't good with the unit when you move out. A realtor could advise.
Have you considered working with horses or working with a vet where you are constantly with animals or a program your therapist finds where you can X amount of hours a week having one on one time with them? Your therapist probably will have ideas on being around animals all the time to deal with your illness that may not even involve owning any.
They would know what to tell you and probably realize for all the reasons you listed that not everyone can go out and get a dog or cat easily especially with your living condition. They may know of programs and people you can work with or find time with a therapy dog or cat you can interact regularly with but not at home. Just ask! You may be surprised to find way more options than thought.
If the living conditions, timing etc. were better I would say go ahead. You are responsible and that's not an issue. I just think for fairness for the cat and yourself that maybe checking in with therapist first and others second may yield a great solution where everything comes into play.
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I do like him...well ....
he looks to be about 36, im 32 female but I look young.....anyway he stares at me and smiles with all 32 teeth showin, (he is fluffy, im normally not into teddy bear type men, but this guy seems diff, compared to the other men ive crushed on and asked out.....and he has nice teeth and boy is he sexxi), everytime he sees me....as if he is extra happy to see me, i only see him maybe once or twice a week.....then he speaks in a shy low toned voice when im leaving and he'll tell me to have a nice a day , he's been doing this for months now...... I want to approach him, but I do NOT wanna get my feelings hurt again...(yeah ive asked men out in the past and that did not turn out as planned)..what should I do? he does this everytime he sees me....one time he made slight convo by asking me do I like the new bus route, well I let him know I didn't....and I made him laugh and he just stared at me in shock but he was just smiling....
there are cameras around that can hear and see everything, ....plus there are passengers on the bus...I don't want him to get into any trouble nor do I want to get embarrassed...ive noticed he sighs a lot around me. or he will stare at me smiling...and I laugh on the inside...but I never said anything. (link)
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This is actually the first time I have ever heard someone was attracted to someone because of great looking teeth. Are you a dental student? I'm teasing you but quite glad you asked this question.
Here's why. You mentioned that he was "fluffy" or looked like a "teddy bear" that isn't your type. A young woman set me right one night. She asked "what do you like about so-and-so is it her physical appearance?" She had told me that people you see as "plain", ordinary or don't notice or think they don't fit a certain idea you have may in fact be "the one" an the so-called "desired" person may be disaster. Always look past type and get to know what's under the brown paper packaging.
You do see him as cute and have noticed that he has been pleasant with you and smiles which is good. However, I'm not sure if you know his name or much else beyond that or any other details like his personal life and whether there could be a wife or girlfriend. However, if he's chatting to you about something so random as a bus route he's trying to get a conversation going for whatever reason and like most guys probably doesn't give a damn about public transit changes.
I know you don't want to get hurt or look foolish and I don't blame you but I think you should try and gauge his interest without risking much in doing so. How? Next time you see him say "I'm so-and-so. It's really rude that I never introduced myself considering we're almost always on this bus at the same time." Do that when you're getting off and then say "Perhaps we can do coffee sometime."
Hand him a post-it note with your number. If he calls he is interested and if not at least you know without really putting yourself out there.
The thing is he may like you and is an equally shy person unable to talk to you or maybe girls for that matter so perhaps you'll find a friendship or whatever else if you start talking.
You could explain if he calls you that you were not sure he would. If he seems extra happy to see you than odds are he would be receptive to finding out more about you.
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Hey. Most of you probably don't know what dream lenses are, but they are the lenses which you wear at night and in the morning your vision is good.
I'm 14 and I've had these lenses for almost 3 years. For the first two years, they were great and I could see very well. But in the last few weeks, I've noticed that when I wear the lenses, I can see, but when I take them off in the morning like I usually do, my vision is quite blurry. My friend has had this problem before and she got new ones. I don't know what to think of this situation.
Thanks to all of the patient people who read up to here. Please give advice as I'm a bit desperate. (link)
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I would stop using them. They are 3 years old and from what I can see you need an eye-exam and new prescription. Have the same doctor from before give you an eye-exam and explain the blurred vision and lenses not feeling right. They will know based on the exam what to do.
That's the other problem these lenses don't suit you anymore. 3 years between prescriptions and exams is quite long for anyone. Your eyesight is something that constantly changes and well deteriorates hence the need for yearly eye-exams. Most likely what you need is new lenses with a sharper prescription that fixes your vision. Discontinue using the lenses you have now and check into the blurred vision as soon as you can.
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Hi. I am in middle school, and throughout the years people have always been describing me as smart and I do like to study. However lately I am finding it harder and harder to concentrate. Like, I only use the iPad to play music sometimes. But I mainly get distracted by a book, or my phone occasionally.
I know I can't keep on going on like this. Please, advice is appreciated. (link)
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Make a study schedule and stick to it each night. Spend X amount of time on homework, studying and try to fit in certain subjects for each night and at least 2-3 hours or until complete and balance it all out. Reward with book or music immediately afterward.
What you need to is move the distraction completely from the room you are doing studying in or homework. Give the IPAD to parents, the phone too or have it locked away until you are legitimately done each night.
You also need to know that the world is not going to end if you miss a text, e-mail or whatever on your phone or IPOD or cannot listen to music for awhile. It will be there for later and you'll find yourself able to study. Right now it's hurting everything.
There's no way even if sometimes that you can truly study and do well with those gadgets going off and music on for it takes your focus away easily.
As far as I can tell your inability to focus suddenly isn't medical or a learning issue unless you didn't disclose something inadvertently. Try ridding yourself of any distractions around you and see if you can study and work easier with focus on one not many things at once. I think that's the issue. Lock 'em up and see if any difference.
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I talked to a manger about a job and was told to call back later this week . How many days should i wait before calling back ? (link)
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When was the interview? It's crucial info you left out that will drastically affect the kind of response you get. Let's say the interview was Monday. I would not call before Friday or Monday. That allows for almost a whole business week. Wait to see if he calls you. If they wan't you usually they call.
It's unusual he wants you to call as generally if people call an employer after an interview it's frowned on and you don't get the gig. However, he asked you to so wait to Monday. If your interview just happened count to 5 business days to give it a real business week.
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I really liked this guy and then we hooked up yesterday but it was my first kiss and i didn like it. I feel as if it put me off of him and ive felt weird the whole time after. Could it be that im lesbian or something and just dont know because ive never experienced it before? (link)
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If you are only attracted to males and not females sexually you are straight. A bad kiss will not make you a lesbian. It just means you didn't click with this guy or rather weren't experienced for the kiss and it was awkward.
By weird I take it that you mean awkward and didn't know what to feel or think because it was so different from what you expected or wanted.
If so it's normal to have these feelings. It can't affect your sexuality. Like I said, above it was just one bad experience and in the future you will have better kissing experiences than this. That's all it is.
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My relationship with my grandmother is very bad. She is not a good lady. I try to talk to her nicely but she taunts me everytime. She makes fun of people. She does comparisons among her children and she humiliates my mother in front of other people. I am now afraid of her taunts. I want to teach her right things but being younger I can't do that . I want to know how to handle her. She is very selfish also. She always gossips about others with her daughter . (link)
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Your mother may know something you don't about her behavior. How long has it been going on? If this is recent or within last year window of time the behavior may be health related even Alzheimer's. Sudden irritability, agitation, outbursts are among symptoms as can be humiliation and lashing out without reason. She may not be a horrible person but rather someone in a state of trouble. Extreme selfishness also slots in there.
What do you do? Try to make yourself scarce and be around only when you know she's in an upbeat mood. Treat her like you would want to be treated and with the same level of respect she may not be giving you and take the high road. Tell your mother how you feel as she should be if anyone the only person to address your feelings with grandma. Let any criticism fall off you like water on a duck.
You can ask your mother why grandma acts the way she does and get an honest answer from her and what she thinks is best to handle the situation.
The only other thing I can think of if it's not health related is see if you may be taking ribbing and teasing that is normal too seriously or being really sensitive when she didn't mean for it to hurt you. A lot of grownups especially of her generation can do that and not know it hit hard.
You should speak to mom first about all of this and consider having your mom be with you as you ask to talk to grandma about the relationship and what is bothering you. Do it maturely and without yelling.
I know it's difficult but the majority of the time when people are being so unlovable it means they need love the most. Bless her in thought and action and don't apply anger you will see positive results if you do this and go about business as usual. Things will improve.
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So I'm going into the woods with a couple friends, my mom has been letting me go there for about 2 years now. I lost my glasses about a month ago there, and now she won't let me go. I've already tried telling her I'd leave my glasses at home, but she still says no. I've decided to just go wirhout telling her, I'm going to do that if I can't convince her. So, if none of your answers work, that's what I'm doing. So, any ideas on how to convince her to let me go? (link)
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You cannot convince anyone of anything no matter the situation. The person will always make up their own mind persuasion or not. You can however, lay your case and hope she sees it your way. You can also ask for an explanation of their stance.
Whatever choice she has made you must accept it. If you went there after being told not to do so not only will you face anger later but they won't trust you ever after and question your story ever after. Even if you didn't get to go this time out there are countless other opportunities to hang out with these people again.
You do have a right to know if this is a one time grounding and has to do with the glasses or if she is against you being there for other reasons not discussed considering she let you go for 2 years.
Perhaps she is concerned especially if you are female of you being in a remote place in darkness and getting too and from with people who may not be responsible, may be concerned about poor decisions, drugs, sex whatever and being taken advantage of for example in addition to losing glasses again. She's likely concerned more about them and where you will be than you not being responsible.
You see you view this from your position and not from her side as a parent as well. You need to be mature abut this discuss without anger and accept her choice as in the end she's protecting you whether you can grasp that now than anything else.
The other thing about wooded areas and teens getting together is that police look for this and activity and can bust up a party and charge people if drugs, alcohol are present as people should not be in these places at night. That can be another reason why over 2 years she's concluded no longer right for you.
I think you pretty much made up your mind that no matter what advice you received that you are going no matter what. That is your choice and nobody can put the brakes on it but you. I do implore you to do the right thing here and consider where she comes from and why and reconsider your stance. Like I said you want her to trust you long time and not break that. She will find out. They always do. Plenty of safe opportunities to hang out with these people so if you miss this something better may happen soon.
The only other thing I suggest is that she speaks to your friend's parents about this and get to know them and your friends to see that everyone knows about this get-together and that the other kids are trustworthy. That may increase chances she may see it your way. Honesty is the best place to start and remain.
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For the last 5 months ive either been constipated for about 2 weeks, then ill take medication for it then ill have diareah for a day or 2 and then im back to being constipated. Or ill have 2 weeks constipation then a week diareah. Ive probably only been normal about once during these 5 months. It feels awful because my stomach is bloated and it hurts and right now i feel extremely nauseas. Please help on what could be wrong with me. (link)
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I am not a doctor but would bet the first thing they would want to look at is your diet and changes you made to it recently. It's possible what you are eating is causing all of this physically.
The second thing they tend to want to rule out (having been here) is Irritable Bowel Syndrome. This disease comes complete with runs, awful cramps, constipation and does so frequently but also at random. According to dictionary def. stress, depression, anxiety or undiagnosed intestine infection can bring the symptoms on.
If that doesn't generate the answer doctor may test you for Celiac Disease which is an illness that makes it impossible without treatment to digest gluton properly without symptoms mentioned.
I'm not a doctor but had this experience. Blood work was fine but for years I threw up, had cramps, pain randomly without notice 2-3 times a month. We ruled out food but found that it was gallstones which can only be seen and diagnosed with an ultra-sound. They surgically removed my gallbladder for this reason. No more problems.
I would see your doctor and have them figure out why this is happening with a great deal of frequency over a 5 month period. They can handle this for you.
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Hi I'm a 18 year old female
I always swore I was a straight girl and that I would never do anything with a girl. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. We have great sex.
One day looking through his phone I saw that he was searching for transsexuals near him. I confronted him and he denied it , he even got very mad about it , I then saw it again about 2 to 3 times , his excuse has always been that the guys he works with like to mess around and look at "nasty things like that" he erases the history I've noticed so I don't see . I started doing research and reading articles , ever since Iv Ben fantasizing about being with woman. I've been getting turned on to seeing lesbian porn. I've even touched myself now and got orgasms over watching 2 girls. I really want too experiment with being with a girl now. It's driving me insane it has become like my main thing now . The reason I spoke about my boyfriend is because ever since I've seen those things it's been happening. Maybe it opened up my mind in some sort of way? Help? Opinions? (link)
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This has nothing to do with what your boyfriend was searching for at all. That is a separate issue
It's troubling that he lied about it and tried to hide it. His excuse that everyone at work looks at it doesn't hold water.
I would be concerned about whether he has acted on this with anyone online and any risk it may pose to you. The fact is you can be straight in your case and still be interested or curious about lesbians and that kind of pornography or turned n by the imagery. If you have no interest in females sexually and only males you aren't gay. You shouldn't let it drive you insane. Even if you were it's fine and up to you to figure out whether to act on any of the feelings or curiosity. There's nothing wrong with you.
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Apologies for posting it on this advice site, but I didn't feel the need to create an account on some religious forum if there's the chance I'm only going to give up on God.
I have involuntarily endured death-filled mental illnesses since before I was a teenager. I can remember being eleven and asking my parents what death was like because I wanted to leave this cruel, cruel world so badly. Ever since then, every single day I have created these disgusting, bloody suicide scenarios in my head and no matter how hard I try, I can't stop. It's like an addiction.
I'm a moron, I'm beyond the definition of stupid. I can't understand anything, but maybe it's my depression and poor gamma waves?
I'm not passionate about anything, which depresses me even more.
I constantly have these unbearably painful anxiety attacks and at the time wouldn't mind stabbing myself with a knife.
I DO take my meds daily. I have been on SO many different meds, on SO many different dosages. None of it works. I HAVE seen multiple psychiatrists and therapists and in-home counselors. None of them helped. I have been to the mental hospital over six times. Nothing helps me. :'(
I've tried talking to God countless times. but he doesn't seem to listen at all. I love him with all my heart, I really do. I have always seen him as my best friend and I couldn't live without him. But I feel like he has given up on me all this time, because I'm only getting worse, I feel. I even scream at him and tell him exactly how I feel. I tell him I hate him because I don't understand how he could make me suffer like this if he loved me like everyone tells me he does.
Please don't tell me he's making me go through this to make me stronger. It's been so long and I've been strong for far too long. I can't take it anymore. I just want him to listen to me. Why won't he listen to me?! I just want him to fucking listen and help me for once. (link)
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The first thing that leaps out at me is how much of what you just wrote us does your psychiatrist know? Have you been this brutally candid with the people who have treated you thus far. They need to know how constant these thoughts are in your head and visions of death and suicide.
You need to keep a ledger and tell them that you take medication daily but none of this ever goes away. These suicidal thoughts and visions need to be told to a doctor immediately. I would phone yours in the morning and request assistance. You aren't well and they need to know it and start looking at the fact treatments to date have not put a stop to actual illness.
I understand how frustrating this must be as getting meds and an illness to become stable is often brutal and uncomfortable but you need to stick in there and be loud and vocal about what isn't right so that it can be fixed and will be over time. Don't give up.
As far as God goes I can understand faith being heavily shook. I've felt that myself. However, and not to be religious but think about a shepard and his flock. He always knows where they are and is protecting them at every moment even if it seems otherwise. You cannot be separate and reflect him. Hold to that. It's my personal belief that God isn't the source of your illness either.
The illness and what it's saying or passing itself off as like it does with bipolar and other severe ones is really presenting the sufferer with a counterfeit view of themselves, reality and seeing the world and life through a distorted lens. As far as listening goes listen back even harder. As you recognize what the illness is doing and can be brutal with doctors it will get sorted out.
It may be a good idea to find another doctor for a second opinion on everything who hasn't treated your illness before. You might find you have better treatment options, a clear cut diagnosis and that your medication is right or wrong.
It's clear that the same person has tried 6 times in hospital setting but is not getting to the root of your problem if you still present as quite ill.
The suicidal thoughts concern me and it's something you need to tell people about as it is a warning sign and a pretty big one that something is clearly wrong and could become a crisis easily.
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So I have an issue with myself. I have endured a major depression far too long to count on my fingers. Thinking for a while, I feel as if being abundantly passionate about someone or something will help reduce my depression. And the one being I love more than anyone or anything is Jesus. He's the first to come into mind when I asked myself, "What am I most passionate about?" I became passionate about Him when I had a vision of Him in a tan and red robe holding His hand out to me. He looked rather serious, but I feel it's because I was very suicidal at the time and He takes that seriously.
I was wondering if there's any super religious people here who could tell me how I could increase my passion. Like what all should I learn? What can I do to show Him more passion and love? (link)
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It really is not about surface appearances or being or acting more religious than others or passionate or out in the open about it. It's about a personal one on one relationship and working 24/7 with those teachings and lessons to not only help others around you.
There's a lot of people who are about acting the part or looking religious but when it boils down to it aren't and are judgmental and not truly living or working with lessons laid out in Christ's teachings the rest of their week. It also isn't about being holier than someone else or having the right set of beliefs. I know you don't think that way.
It's about listening to God in my view and reflecting him and living your life with influence from Christ's teaching. As the poster below touched on the most important part is establishing a permanent relationship with God through these teachings or any others for that matter and never feeling separated or completely alone or hopeless ever again.
The best thing you can do is really understand Jesus's teaching and examples and how to apply lessons from them to your entire life. I am grateful you are still here and experienced something so strong that it acted in a healing way to change your life.
The other thing you could do is read about different interpretations of Jesus's teachings and religions and the history but what it all comes down to is commitment and living right. That right there should be your passion and for life too.
Incidentally, I'm not so sure Jesus would want us to be passionate about him or worship him for he gave credit to God and said "who callest me God?" It's not to nitpick but in the Bible itself he wanted others to see the works he did not as miracles but something we could do if we believed in them.
You may also want to read different books on spirituality and healing as you may find them helpful. When it comes to depression stay on top of it and be 100% forthcoming with doctor treating you and follow treatment and medication as that too will continue to improve your life minute by minute. You're in a good place now.
If you continue to express gratitude for where you are and what you overcame that's responding in a positive and passionate way. Take the new lease on life and do something amazing with it. That shows passion and gratitude for receiving help that transformed your life.
I am not part of any denomination or organized religion or promoting one but one book that may prove helpful and is all about healing to read is Science & Health. There are chapters in it from people whose lives transformed just from reading it. Anyways, getting your hands on any books or anything that enhances your life right now is a good thing.
Doing things for others too that uplifts their lives from random acts to whatever else is also a way to show gratitude every day for the transformation in your life and is showing passion. Live each day to spread love and you'll get it back like a boomerang.
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See, I'm really desperate to find the perfect career for me. I LOVE helping people, but I don't want to do college courses for over four years. A year or two years is fine, but I can't do over four years. And I can't go on campus, because my social anxiety is inane. So I need a career I can do online courses for.
I also love animals, spirituality, cooking, nature, etcetera. And I love making people feel good about themselves. I love listening to people. Like I could listen to someone talk for hours and wouldn't get tired.
So if you could give me a list of what you think is a good match for me, I'd REALLY appreciate it.
Thank you for your time!!! (link)
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It is not an anxiety disorder that you are prisoner too but the belief that you cannot do or achieve certain things because of the diagnosis. With proper treatment from psychiatrist and techniques and instruction you can do it all.
Program coordinators for colleges and universities are becoming more and more aware of what it is like for students who suffer from mental health and or anxiety problems that appear to cripple or limit them. They know the classroom, campus or other things can cause intense fear and episodes.
If you really wanted to do a four year program, 3 year or 2 year I would talk to the program coordinator first about your anxiety issue and that you didn't want to even apply although you wanted to go because of it. See what they can do to specifically deal with social anxiety so you can attend.
A lot of schools these days have therapists you can see (without charge) centers for disabilities etc and can find a way to make you secure. This can be dealt with.
The other thing that would be to your absolute benefit is taking a drama or improv class which is perfect for people with anxiety that forces you to work with others and overcome crippling fear. Check what is out there because there are courses designed for people with anxiety disorders these days in mind. It may empower you.
Career wise no matter what you can become who you really want to be. Anxiety is no obstacle to your success and potential. Never believe otherwise. You could go into nutrition, be a vet, work in pet store, get into the mental health or counselling field, nursing etc or become a Child & Youth Worker or social worker dealing with kids and teens at risk or with families.
There's a lot you could do when you realize that anxiety isn't an obstacle to any of it. It may be difficult at times. The best thing you can do is keep a journal about your anxiety and share it with your doctor, make sure your treatment and meds are right and that they help you see that your disorder cannot kill your chances or prevent you from being where you want to be and entering any field of study. They can help you achieve it if you do the work.
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My really close friend is on the other side of the country. So we kinda talk at night time according to my time zone. But know he is hanging out with his dad for a few days and I'm very glad for him. I hope he has a lot if fun with his dad.
But I'm starting to feel pretty lonely. Yeah, I have 2 sisters, 19 and 5 years old, and my mom, aunt and grandma is here. But they are very lame to be honest most of the time. So what am I supposed to do with him not here?
Thxs ♥︎ (link)
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You didn't say how long the person would be gone visiting his father for. Either way there is a lot you can do about boredom.
Reading is great. If you like movies and have $50 to $100 you can get in to up to 10 movies or get concessions at movie theater and fill time that way. I'm not sure what your interests are but often you can find free programs or classes that don't cost much at parks and rec. You could play basketball, tennis, use the pool or even try improv or drama out.
You could also look into community or youth theater groups and learn on-stage and backstage skills if there's any productions going on. Also, check to see if there's a live theater in your area and see who, what etc they are putting on and see a show. It's the same with concerts downtown.
You could visit all kinds of downtown attractions and places you haven't been before for fun or go to big time concerts if you have money or someone pays for you to go.
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Your right. The baby is going to be a girl. What would be a good gift for my daughter's friends? (link)
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Your daughter should see if she is registered first anywhere such as Babies R Us. You don't want to buy the same exact gift as someone else. If not registered I would have your daughter ask for a list of items that she needs and then consult other friends to make sure they haven't bought the item. A gift-card for baby items ad clothes also should be fine.
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I have intense feelings of hopelessness, headaches, trouble sleeping, fatigue, etcetera.
Does anyone know any prescription drugs that I can ask my psychiatrist about (to help with the depressed feelings and mood swings)?
Would eating healthier help? Meditation? Yoga? Exercising?
Please help, because I just keep contemplating suicide because of how crazy terrifying this is. (link)
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If you are having thoughts of death and contemplating suicide that's a huge alarm that something is very wrong. You need to tell your psychiatrist or ER what is happening and get help immediately.
You have to tell them about this and all the symptoms above and not fear getting help. It may not seem it right now but believe me you're important and have a life to lead that will be bigger and better than where you are at right now.
As far as medication goes it's up to the psychiatrist to prescribe what they feel meets your condition but you absolutely should point out that what you are taking now is doing nothing. If you say nothing than they don't have a place they can start from and can miss something vital.
You should not be afraid of this but if a person with a mental health disorder is in a position where they could come in contact with harm or harm themselves they often take you into the hospital and over 72 hours try to figure out what's going on and the treatment for it. They can hold you longer under the law.
It's actually to your benefit if they do this as you will be in a safe place, have medication and disorder figured out, support groups an a chance to rest for a wile and tune out anything unimportant and stressful. You can have visitors but they will really work at making you well and whole again. That's why you need to speak up pronto about this as its a warning you need to get life in balance. You have a purpose. Everyone does.
When it comes to mood swings if they keep rapid cycling from one extreme to another and are never solid one or the other it could be indication of bipolar disorder.
It's a symptom as is grandiose ideas, omnipotence, delusion and thoughts that come racing non-stop through your head with the ferocity of a freight-train.
In stable people hey aim for being one side consistently or mood in the center through a variety of anti-psychotic drugs including Seroquel.
Anyways--that's my experience. Please do reach out to your doctor for help and take it. It's the first step back to wellness and right now you aren't but are in a good place in the sense that you know this and want medication and treatment.
As far as eating well, meditation, yoga, exercising it will help you physically but you need to see to everything I mentioned above. If your doctor has you on something now that doesn't help you speak up as your dosages, meds or treatment may need to change. I would like you to see someone asap about the suicidal thoughts as that is definitely a medical emergency.
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Well I like a boy but he does not really know me and he is super cute and he makes me feel weird inside. How can I get him to like me. We kinda go to the same school. I go to his school to do band and science and he is in my science class. But I think has a girl already. So how can I at least make hi me a freind. (link)
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You cannot make anyone like you. They either will or they won't and it's up to them. What you can do is influence their choice and perception of you. That's pretty easy.
It's a cliche but anyone who told you "be yourself" is right. You have to be who you are when you interact with him and show him that you are an interesting person. Just talk to this guy like you would your girlfriends about any subjects you think he has a mutual interest in.
He need to know who you are and you have to have the ability to have normal conversations with him or he isn't likely to know you or how you feel. You need to flirt too and see where it leads as people who are in to one another give off signals and those who aren't rebuff them subtly. You just have to treat him like anyone else and get to know him.
One of the things you can do is invite him to a party or anything with friends be it bowling or movies etc and see if he accepts and go from there. If he says no and the excuse doesn't seem legit than that's a way of knowing he's not interested without you taking risks like asking him out.
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My daughter is 15 and she has a friend that is 16 and pregnant and is having a baby shower. I am not sure if I should let her go what do you all think (link)
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It's not your business. Whether you have a morality conflict or not with it this girl isn't a bad person, needs support and friendship and not scorn and judgment from people. Your daughter is her good friend and should make her own choice to attend and bring a gift.
She should make an appearance as that's what good people do. They stand by people no matter what they face. You can't resent her baby either who needs and will benefit.
Insisting she not go and making her stay home is a form of shunning this person which is on the same level as bullying over a mistake that led to pregnancy. If it were your daughter and you herself how would you feel if people refused to go to her shower objecting to her pregnancy? Not very good.
You have some seriously work to do on yourself on your own time. Love this girl as you would your own and respect your daughter's friendship, butt out and decision to go. It's between them but says a lot about you and your daughter if it gets around the reason why you didn't want her to go.
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