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How to get my mom to say yes?
So I'm going into the woods with a couple friends, my mom has been letting me go there for about 2 years now. I lost my glasses about a month ago there, and now she won't let me go. I've already tried telling her I'd leave my glasses at home, but she still says no. I've decided to just go wirhout telling her, I'm going to do that if I can't convince her. So, if none of your answers work, that's what I'm doing. So, any ideas on how to convince her to let me go?
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You cannot convince anyone of anything no matter the situation. The person will always make up their own mind persuasion or not. You can however, lay your case and hope she sees it your way. You can also ask for an explanation of their stance.
Whatever choice she has made you must accept it. If you went there after being told not to do so not only will you face anger later but they won't trust you ever after and question your story ever after. Even if you didn't get to go this time out there are countless other opportunities to hang out with these people again.
You do have a right to know if this is a one time grounding and has to do with the glasses or if she is against you being there for other reasons not discussed considering she let you go for 2 years.
Perhaps she is concerned especially if you are female of you being in a remote place in darkness and getting too and from with people who may not be responsible, may be concerned about poor decisions, drugs, sex whatever and being taken advantage of for example in addition to losing glasses again. She's likely concerned more about them and where you will be than you not being responsible.
You see you view this from your position and not from her side as a parent as well. You need to be mature abut this discuss without anger and accept her choice as in the end she's protecting you whether you can grasp that now than anything else.
The other thing about wooded areas and teens getting together is that police look for this and activity and can bust up a party and charge people if drugs, alcohol are present as people should not be in these places at night. That can be another reason why over 2 years she's concluded no longer right for you.
I think you pretty much made up your mind that no matter what advice you received that you are going no matter what. That is your choice and nobody can put the brakes on it but you. I do implore you to do the right thing here and consider where she comes from and why and reconsider your stance. Like I said you want her to trust you long time and not break that. She will find out. They always do. Plenty of safe opportunities to hang out with these people so if you miss this something better may happen soon.
The only other thing I suggest is that she speaks to your friend's parents about this and get to know them and your friends to see that everyone knows about this get-together and that the other kids are trustworthy. That may increase chances she may see it your way. Honesty is the best place to start and remain.
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Before i give you my answer i would recommend not lying to your mom. I know its tempting, im 16 so i know. But youll break your moms trust and she most likely will find out some way or another. Also if something happens to you, your mom wont know where you are.
Now here are some ways :
1) explain to your mom who all will be there and what friends of yours are responsible. If theres a friend your mom knows and trusts tell her theyre going.
2) obviously leave your glasses at home and explain how it wouldnt happen again and you wont take anything valuble.
3) tell her youll keep your phone on so if she needs to get hold of you she can - and then do it so she doesnt stress.
4) before talking to her again do something she will appreciate ( clean the house, make her tea etc)
5) if she still says no be nice about it. Dont be rude, this way she will still maybe consider it.
6) be mature through the whole conversation
7) explain if something gets lost youll pay for it
Goodluck!
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I would not recommend going against your mother's wishes. As a parent and someone probably old enough to be your grandfather I can tell you that you have more to lose than just your glasses.
Parents have ways of finding these things out. IF you lie to her you better write that lie down because lies are something you never remember while the truth is always remembered. When you get caught in a lie what happens is you lose the trust of your parents. Trust is the easiest thing to lose. Once lost it is the hardest thing to regain.
I know from your past questions you are a young lady probably about 14 to 16 years of age. You may be dating or will want to date soon. Without your parents trust dating is going to be a problem for it requires a great deal of trust in you by us as parents to allow you as a girl to date. It's easier for a parents of a boy as he is not the one who gets pregnant. Sorry but that is just the facts of like when it comes to trust and dating.
So just how important is it that you must lie to mom and go into the woods with your friends? Mom will find out I guarantee it. The consequences of your lie can have a long lasting effect because you will lose what ever trust mom has in you.
Think about the last time you tried to fool the wool over your parents eyes. Did you get away with it or did sometime in the future did you pay the price for you lie?
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