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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
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how do i become happy? it seems like everything sucks,my friends dont care (well...i never tell them stuff..but only because i dont want to feel like im complaining) and my family sucks,this town is horrible,and to top it all off im supposed to be going on a feild trip to new york tomarrow,they assigned groups and NONE of my friends are in the group,they're all jerks and annoying =//. i know i sound like i'm complaining,sorry. but how can i over come all this and look on the bright side? how can i become,well..happy?
Why not try and have a more positive attitude? Put yourself out there and meet new people. Join a sport or club you enjoy. Heck, get a job. You'll be introduced to a bunch of new people and you'll be bound to make new friends.
Instead of accusing your current friends of being "annoying," give them a chance. Ask to hang out with them a few times and tell yourself "This will be a lot of fun!" Hanging out with your friends would be a lot better than sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.
Before you go out and do something, think nothing but positive thoughts and you'll find that the experience is a lot better. If you go around thinking negatively and believing that everything is going to go wrong, then it will. If you think positive, things might be great.
Alright, every twice in a while i'll get little things, almost like little burns or rashes, its really red and a little puffy, like, right where panties sit, not quite your leg but yeah, there. and i know that the elastic on panties cause friction and irritates it, but i have no clue what CAUSES it.
has anybody ever had this?
know what it is?
help?!
signed,
clueless.
It's called a friction burn. You can get them if you don't wear cotton underwear. Any other type of underwear can cause irritation because the fabric doesn't allow air to get to that area. Next time it happens, wear cotton underwear and put a little baby powder to prevent getting burns.
like im a girl and on the skin on my right and left leg kinda like kinda before the vajayjay, i keep getting burns there! it happens when i wear jeans sometimes.. and it feels like my underwear is uncomfortable since it hurts.. i checked there once and there were like.. burn-type things.. how can i get rid of them? they're uncomfortable and usually go away the next day but i can still see where the burn was cause its kinda darker there.
They are most likely friction burns. You get them from your legs rubbing up against your underwear or jeans all day. Anytime you wear something that causes the burns, but a little baby powder on the area and you'll be fine.
Also, do you wear anything other than cotton underwear? Underwear that's made out of satin or polyester don't allow the area to get a lot of air, and that might cause the burns as well. Switch to cotton and it should help prevent the problem.
i have this problem.. it just kinda started i already went through puberty and all so i dont think its anything beacuse of that but anyways i noticed that ill just be sitting there doing nothitng and ill get sweat marks under my arms and im not even hot or doing anything type of movement.. does anyone have an explanation for this or something to prevent it beacuse it sucks a lot
This is completely normal. All you have to do is go to your local drugstore and get deodorant or some type of antiperspirent (I know I spelled that wrong).
I have regular fights with my best friend and she really annoys me most of the time. She's just not really me if you know what i men anyway she was typing some mean thing in an im box and she wasn't gonna send it but i sent it and now that guy got mad at her, and DUH she's mad at me. But secretly like I said I've been wanting to do something so bad to her alot worse than that and wat she was doing then was fine its just payback for every single time she hurt me or made me hate her. I really wish she just wouldn't be my friend.
But the problem is called spheres of influence. She's one of those really popular girls and I already have rumors (fake rumors) and fake gossip about me with her as an enemy she will spread more stuff and honestly i would have no friends. none. and although for me it's fine i don't like anyone thats in her group, but her group is basically the school. and it will be a problem when im back just walking from class to class no talking. Im sorry this is long my life is just messed up right now and I need to start making right decisions on stuff andif u read this hope fully you can help me.
If your friend spreads rumors about you, she probably does it to a lot of people. Meaning you aren't the only one that hates her. If she keeps acting the way she does, she'll be the one with no friends.
Forget her. Tell her your tired of fighting with her, she's a horrible friend, and she's driving you nuts. Don't be friends with her anymore.
I highly doubt she controls everyone in the school, honey. If you want to make friends, all you have to do is go around and meet new people. I'm sure there are SOME people in the school that don't believe the stupid rumors she spreads. Join a club or sport and I guarantee you'll be making tons of new friends.
If she wants to spread rumors, cause a bunch of drama, and act like an immature little baby, then there's no reason to call her your best friend. You're probably in middle school right? Just relax. You'll make tons of new friends without her. All you have to do is be nice to everyone around you, be active in school activities, and enjoy the things you love.
Hey, to anyone wanting to help.
So I've had my dog for about six or seven months, now. I'm pretty sure he's eight months old, and he's about 80 lbs. He's a pure bred German Shephard.
I love having a dog to death, but he can be one of the most vicious things you'll ever see. For example, when I sleep at my dad's house, I usually sleep on the couch. I'll usually last the night, or half, but my dog always ends up jumping on the couch and biting me until I wake up. Then, I basically have to fight him off, or get up and put him outside.
He also just randomly jumps at me, and I do fall over, he dosen't weigh much less than me, so then he's good to bite and scratch and everything. I'm pretty sure he's just playing, but I've tried to teach him to stop, with the squirter thing, and with the rolled up newspaper, but I think he just thinks I'm playing back.
I'm sick of going h ome with tons of scratches and cuts, and I want this to stop before he gets any bigger, too.
Please help. I don't want any advice to just get a cage or put him in another room, we can't do that, and he barks too much to leave him outside all night.
Thanks so much!
Every time he jumps on you, give him a HARD knee in the chest while firmly saying (not yelling) "NO." Don't hesitate at all. He's a big dog. It won't harm him. That will throw him off guard. He won't like when you do that, so every time you knee him in the chest, he'll learn that he shouldn't be jumping on people. Tell everyone who visits your home to do the same so he learns not to jump on ANYONE.
Anytime he bites you, clamp your hand around his nose, keeping his mouth shut, and put your face right in front of his and FIRMLY say "NO." Then you can release his nose. Make sure to look him right in the eye. Do this to him EVERY time he bites someone or something he shouldn't be biting.
Whenever he plays or chews on his toys, play with him, all the while telling him he's good for chewing on the toy and not people.
If you happen to walk in on him and he's chewing something he shouldn't be, get his attention with a loud clap or whistle. When he looks at you, firmly tell him "NO" and take whatever it was away from him.
See, German Shephards have A LOT of energy. Esp. puppies. You should start walking him AT LEAST twice a day for at least 15-20 minutes. This will help use up his energy. Do you guys have a big yard? Why not let him run around outside for a few hours a day and play fetch with him?
Just this year I gain alot of weight over the winter, and now I am starting to get my body back in shape. The only probably is the stretch marks on my boobs. I mean I don't go showing my boobs to people but I would like to feel comfortable in a swim suit. Now is there anyway to get my boobs back to normal faster? I lotion about once a day, and thats about it? Thanks!
Mederma. It's a great scar creme. It works. You can get it at any drug store for about $20.
Yeah so I put my goldfish in with my bigger fish and the bigger fish was chasing my goldfish. I figured it wouldnt hurt because he couldnt get him. But now my goldfish's tail is all torn up from the bigger fish biting it. Will the tail repair itself? Will it grow more cells so it wont be torn? Or will it be torn forever?
That's happened to me before.I had this big goldfish and a beta. The goldfish attacked the beta (weird I know) and his tail got ripped up. I put him in a seperate bowl and his tail is still torn, but he can swim just fine.
Your fish's tail will most likely be torn forever.
sorry if this isnt in the right category but..
i get acne often, not alot of it just maybe two big zits or something.
what really really works on acne?
and what makes acne clear up overnight? or as quick as possible?
please lemmi no? thanks a bunch =]
Since your acne is so minimal, I would suggest a simple spot treatment.
Crush an aspirin and then ad pure lemon juice to the aspirin until it makes a semi-thick paste. Dab the mixture on each individual pimple and leave it on for about 20 minutes. The acid will help heal the pimple and reduce their size. Rinse off with warm water and repeat the process twice, maybe three times, a day.
Your skin should clear up nicely within the next day.
The past 2 times me and my boyfriend have been having protected sex..(with condom)we have both been finish, he usually goes to the bathroom to clean himself up with absolutely no problems. But the past 2 times that he's done that and he's noticed that the sperm slided off alittle onto his testical area with the condom on (he got soft). we are both extremely worried that we got sperm on me. He says he KNOWS that it was around my vaginal area but didn't go inside. But we both washed off really well. Do you think I could be pregnant? (I can't get it off my head)
Yes, there is a chance you could be pregnant, but it's not likely. You probably aren't, but I highly recommend that you get a pregnancy test ASAP just to be sure. Don't assume that you aren't pregnant until you get tested. You don't want to just brush it off and find yourself growing a belly in a few months.
I'm glad you and your boyfriend use condoms, but you really should consider getting on birth control. That way, you won't have to have a nervous breakdown when things like this happen.
I hope everything works out.
Ok well one time when using a neutugena face scub, I got some in my eye and it stinged so bad!
the bottle said flush with water, whihc i didn't know how, so i kept try to get some water into my eye.
then when I wear my contacts on or cry a little, it stings so bad! like not the light sting when your cry but the burning stinging like someone threw salt water in your eyes!
help i don't know what to do!
Turn your water faucet on full blast and make sure it's really cold. Then stick your eye in the blast of water and keep it there for at least 15 minutes. It's not fun, but you need to do it. If you do it as soon as possible, there will be less of a chance of causing damage to your cornea.
Don't wear contacts for a few days after and you should be fine.
okay im going to highschool and im soososoososo scared.my sister is gonna be a senior and that sucks. and besides i dont even know my way around the school.what do i do?
how can i make friends?
It really helps if you join some kind of club or sport. I know my freshman year I joined marching band and I made A LOT of friends. I knew half the people in the school before I even started just by joining marching band.
When you go for freshman orientation, feel free to wander around the school and find where your classes are. Once you have a look around it won't be so scary.
Just relax and have fun. You'll meet new people anyway just by talking to them in your classes. The more activites you get involved in, the more people you'll meet.
I'm 20 years old and I have a bf who's 21. My bf and I live in different city. Just this week, he went in our house to have his vacation. He's very much welcome in our house because my mum is a cool mum and my sister is so nice that they became close immediately. The problem is with my aunt. I already introduced my bf to my relatives and everyone likes him because he's a nice guy, except to my aunt. She was so angry because she said that it's not nice that a guy would come to a girl's house and sleep there.(we sleep in different room) My bf stayed with us in our house for 2 weeks. My aunt told us things that made me cry. She said that she's pretty sure that my bf and I already had sex and that maybe i wouldn't graduate from college because i maybe become pregnant, and many more. The rest of the family really didn't believe in this opinion of my aunt because they trust me a lot, especially my mum. The problem is that i'm GUILTY.. My bf and I already had sex but i told them that i wouldn't do it before our marriage and i assure my mum that nothing happened yet and that i really won't do it. She believed in me and she really trusts me. I really feel guilty. I don't want to tell the truth because first of all it would break their heart and i feel shame if they'll know it.. Please help me.. and should i stop having sex with my bf to make sure that i wouldn't become pregnant? Thanks a lot..
You are 20 years old. You are not a little kid anymore. If you want to have sex with your boyfriend, it's YOUR business and ONLY your business. If you're worried about becoming pregnant, all you have to do is get on birth control. It's that simple. And, of course, use a condom, but I hope you already knew that. It IS possible to have sex without getting pregnant, so don't let that stop you from being intimate with your boyfriend. If being intimate that way is something you and your boyfriend want to do, then it's not up to your family to decide that for you. You do whatever makes you happy. Your family can keep their opinions on the subject to themselves.
As for your aunt, I understand she's your elder and all, but the next time she gets in your face, tell her she needs to grow up and mind her own business. Remind her that you are a big girl and you can do whatever you want. Whether or not you and your boyfriend are having sex is NONE of her business. I don't care if she's your aunt. She has NO RIGHT to talk down to you like that and make you feel upset over being with your boyfriend. Feel free to tell your aunt that nobody asked for her opinion and nobody cares what she thinks. She's obviously an old-fashioned nut that can't keep her big mouth closed.
When you do stand up to your aunt, make sure not to call her names or swear. Talk to her camly, but firmly. It will get your point across and you will be seen as more of an adult.
Good luck!
how do get letters to go arcoss your myspace page??
what you want it to say goes here
There ya go! Make sure to include all the brackets and slashes. They're important.
Alright, so i have problems opening up. I know my boyfriend gets frusterated sometimes because i'll be upset and not tell him whats wrong for a while. Its like i have a hard time saying whats on my mind while the time is right. I really do try and open up and communicate better but its something thats kind of hard for me, for some reason. Its like when I'm talking to him I dont tell him things that I should and then when I hang up I think of things I should have told him. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to work on communicating better? Thanks. (18/f)
I am EXACTLY like you. I don't tell my boyfriend a lot of things because I don't want him to worry about me.
Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes. If something was upsetting him, wouldn't you want to know what was on his mind? Start trusting your boyfriend more. He obviously cares for you and just wants to know what you're thinking.
If something is bothering you, and it has to do with him, he has a right to know so things can be fixed between you. If the problem has nothing to do with him, and you don't want to tell him about it, just tell him part of the information and say you don't want to talk about it. A simple, "I'm just stressed out because of my job. I don't really want to talk about it." is WAY better than telling him nothing at all. This will ease some of his frustration.
what songs relate to your life or others? i have this project and i have to pick a song.. it has to be something i can find at like walmart or easily download from the computer.. because my project is due tomorrow! i have no idea what to choose.. i mean i am only 13 and i havent experienced alot of the hard stuff that goes on in some songs, like break-ups, having a boyfriend, divorce, etc things like that. not saying my life is all easy.. i have a bad short term memory, i get bad and good grades, my room is messy half the time, my parents are kinda strict since they are from africa and things are diff there than in america, uh.. my fave color is green, im a preppy tomboy, and i like the sun and beach, etc. but i dont go to the beach all the time.. in my entire life i've only been there 3 times. so basically what song relates to your life or maybe mine that i can use? i like hiphop, R&B, umm.. i guess some pop, and some softrock.. i dont like like hard rock, techno, emo, or whateverz. THANKS FOR HELPING! its hella hard to think of songs!!
The Story - Brandi Carlile
100 Years - Five for Fighting
Life is a Highway - Rascal Flatts
Most of the music I listen to is the stuff you don't like, but you might like those songs. Good luck with your project!
I recently heard antiperspirants can cause cancer, is this true? I NEED to wear antiperspirant or I have really, really bad sweat stains under my arms, which also smells. I don't want cancer, but I don't want to stop using antiperspirant.
I don't think it's anything to be concerned about. The only cancer I've heard that antiperspirants can cause is breast cancer, but that's proved false on numerous web sites, such as:
http://www.imaginis.com/breasthealth/antiperspirants.asp
This web site also provides lots of information about why it doesn't cause cancer.
http://www.peoplespharmacy.com/archives/herb_home_remedy_qa/do_antiperspirants_cause_cancer_or_alzheimers.asp
So don't worry, you're fine!
any ways to get rid of a hickey...!!! that works!
its not like a really bad hickey..its not black..just dots
Take a comb and run the prongs from the center of the hickey outward. This will spread out the blood and make it lighter.
Cover-up always works wonders too.
Superman once wrote on the wall:"Batman is a stupid jerk."
The next day Batman wrote: "Superman is Clark Kent."
Well, since the people who know "Clark Kent" as just "Clark Kent" see him as a simple farm kid that grew up to be a reporter, perhaps Batman is suggesting that the man behind Superman is just a reporter. And, since reporters are usually jerks, saying "Superman is Clark Kent" is equivalent to calling him a jerk.
Batman really is a stupid jerk because he revealed Superman's secret identity. How rude!
:-D
I got this really really bad sunburn, and I cant even move. It is on my chest, its like the bathing suit line. It is red, as dark as a tomato. I am normally really pale, so its that much more obvious. It hurts really bad, so is there anything I can put on it so it will go away? Thanks
Get Aloe Vera and slather it all over the burns. It makes it feel a lot better and your skin will heal faster.
Banana Boat makes really good Aloe Vera skin products. The stuff you want looks like green gel.
I have skin just like yours. Whenever I get a really bad burn, I put the Aloe Vera on it a few times a day and it will become a tan withint one or two days. It may or may not do that for you, but it WILL stop the intense burning.