Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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I just saw this movie now. The original one, from 1970 something. I know this isn't asking for "advice", but I really want to know..
What happened at the very end after the priests died? Were the mom & daughter moving out because of the weird stuff? or were they going to live with the father in Europe?
Anyone's opinions are appreciated. :]
& thank you in advance. (link)
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Great Movie. Well, your supposed to get the idea that the exorcism worked. The demon's spirit entered into the the priest, and the priest threw himself out the window down the stairs, so that he and the demon's spirit would die together. The girl is now "cured" or at least rid of the demons that possesed her, and she and the mom move out. Because they want to get as far away from the memories of what happened. And yes, away from the house and the possibility of being possessed again. The movie does not want you to belive, one way or the other, whether or not they went to live with the dad in Europe.
There is a sequel to Exorcist. I think it must be Exorcist II.
Michele
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My friend was studying to go to culinary school maybe 1-2 years ago? That was when he was in high school. The upcoming year, he's going to be going to college and he said that he's going to study towards being a nutritionist and a chef...and I was thinking that those two were pretty different things. Aren't they? Wouldn't it be like a double major or do they kind of "flow" with each other? I'm just confused. Thanks =) (link)
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OMG, no a nutritionist learns so mucn more about food, like calorie content, and how calories are burned, and the nutritional content of food, how much fat, sodium, sugar carbs, etc. etc. They also learn about dietary restrictions, like what foods a diabetic can eat or should avoid. Nutritionists often get jobs at hospitals and nursing homes. A chef learns about how to cut, cook, spice and store different foods. And chefs can even specialize in sauces, desserts, meats or fish. Sushi is another one. Chefs can work on presentation also. Chefs learn how to cook for crowds and also about kitchen management. The two diciplines are very complimentary, and he will be very employable when he is done.
Hope this explains things. There really is so much more information avialable about each one
Michele
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Alright. I have a huge situation, I have this ex boyfriend named nate. and he does alot of hard core drugs since we broke up. and i cant help but try too talk too him and help him. but i mean he wont stop! hes soo additiced he cant control it. He also drinks alot too. and i need help too comfort him!!!
♥Haley (link)
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Haley,
it is very noble of you to want to help nate, but he can only help himself. I am sure that he has his reasons for abusing drugs and alcohol, and I am sure that it has something to do with his family. Something that started years and years ago, and you don't have the knowledge, or the patience or the strenght to help him. He needs professional help. But any therapist will tell you, you can't help anyone until they are ready to be helped. Sure you can continue to be his friend and be there for him,but you must be careful to avoid the same trouble yourself. While I think you are smart enough to avoid taking drugs and drinking. Just being with nate when he is actively seeking out drugs, dealing or using, can get you in trouble with the police. Nate is just one of many many kids who have these problems. It if were easy to help them there would be a lot LESS young girls like you with broken hearts and broken dreams. YOu can't change him honey. I hope you just pray for him and keep yourself safe.
Michele
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m/13 so my friend and me discovered this new way to inhale aerosols, through toilet paper to get high. i heard people do something like this as well. he said its the ethanol that gets you high. ive tried smoking and this thats all, but i like inhaling much better. he said that it doesnt do anything to you and its not dangerous, so is it? we were inhaling deodrant. it feels like your dizzy and light. i get a kinda head ache after it aswell.... (link)
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I am sorry to say, but glad to intervene, and tell you that your friend is wrong. inhaling aerosols can be addictive and can end up in yoru death. Read the following article I found on-line
------He was 17.
A Bellmawr resident who had attended Triton Regional High School, Rob died after inhaling, or "huffing," a common household air-freshening product. Addicted to huffing since age 15, he'd been in and out of counseling, and his parents, Ed and Debbie Devine, had done everything they could think of to persuade the youngest of their four kids to get off the poisonous stuff.
But like hundreds of thousands of American kids who seek a cheap and dangerous high by inhaling aerosols, solvents, petroleum products and gases, Rob was hooked.
That he took up the habit again just days after leaving rehab is no knock on treatment - but it does attest to the sometimes lethal power of what is a psychological and in some cases physiological addiction. It claims between 100 and 125 lives a year, according to the National Inhalant Prevention Coalition; an autopsy showed Rob's death was due to cardiac dysrhythmia due to inhalant use, also known as Sudden Sniffing Death.-------------
check out this link. It lists all the other things that can happen besides dieing....
http://www.falconsafety.com/default.aspx?pageid=48
I hope you will take my advice and stop this immediately so that you don't become a statistic.
Google, Sudden Sniffing Death , you'll see that you will get over 300,000 hits. I am glad that you came to this website to ask for adivce, We really hope and pray that you will take it.
Michele
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hi, does anyone have any experience with using witch hazel to clear up acne? if so i have a few questions..:
-how much is it?
-do you just put it on your face and leave it or do you put it on your face and rinse it off?
-does it help oily skin be less oily?
-does it dry out your skin?
-has it worked for a long time?
any answers to these questions and anything you can tell me about witch hazel would be a great help! i've tried everything to clear up my acne and nothing has worked. so thank you so much!! (link)
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HI, I am esthetican, (trained in skin care) witch hazel, made from a plant by the same name, is not good at clearing up acne. Too bad, because it is not expensive. It is simply a toner, that can restore your skins normal ph balance. It can be refreshing, and when applied with a cotton ball, can have an exfoliating affect. I would not recommend it for acne. What does work on acne are a few differnt products. Benzoil peroxide, salicylic acid...both in over the counter products. Birth control pills can work well on acne, as well as accutane, which also needs to be prescribed by a physician. Some people have luck using Tea Tree Oil, which is contained in Origins acne products. Full strenght, it smells very strong, but it works. And it cost less than buying Origins products. you can get tea tree oil at any health food or vitamin store.
There are different kinds of acne, so a dermatologist or esthetician could recommend a product for your acne.
Hope this helps
Michele
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so i'm pretty much in LOVE with CocoRosie and i was wondering what other bands that are out there that sound similar to CocoRosie (link)
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Go to this website
http://www.pandora.com/
or www.pandora.com
and you can listen to coco rosie and they will find songs for you that feature artists that sound like or play music like coco rosie.
But hurry, the record labels are trying to take this sight down.
Pandora is a music genome project. It is like a radio station, type in the name of your favorite artists and you can listen all day to songs by them, and artists who play similar music. It is great.
Michele
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My boyfriend is turning 22 and he is totally against drinking. I am 18 and going to college, while he doesnt go to college.... he works. I know he would be really mad if I was drinking in college but I kind of want to try it out for myself. I dont know how I feel about it. But I really dont want to lose him. What do I do? (link)
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The only person that someone who is TOTALLY against drinking, can be in a relationship with, is with another person who is TOTALLY against drinking. Because they have no tolerance for people who do drink, even occasionally.
YOu must know all of the reasons why he is against drinking, and they were also your reasons at one time. But now, because you see so much of it in college, you are tempted to try. While those feelings are normal, you said it all when you said, that he would be really mad.
And you WILL lose him. Don't doubt that for a minute. So if you don't want to loose him, then don't let yourself be tempted. Look really close at some of those drunk kids. Do you want to look like that? The final decision is yours. Hey there is this book out, written by a girl who was a college student. I think it is called SMASHED. why not read that book before you try drinking. In the end, if you do decide to drink or not, do it for yourself, not for your boyfriend.
Michele
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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly.. (link)
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No I don't think it is wise. I think he is trying to "nicely" tell you that he is not interested. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings and that is a good thing. Sort of, because it is not what you were hoping for. And that is how it goes sometimes. You were both hopeful for a different outcome. But as it turned out, he found that he was not as attracted to you as you are to him.
Believe me, if he were, he would be moving heaven and earth to spend time with you, not making excuses and being polite. Don't worry, you'll get another chance with someone else.
It know it's hard to be patient
Michele
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Its been almost one year since this all began. It all started early September and when Josh broke up with me September 21st 2006 I went into a huge depression. I cut my wrists, stopped talking for a little, and completley lost myself. Since he broke up with me hes only gone out with one other girl, my best friend, but hes gone out with her 5 times off and on. But he has gone out with me about 5 times off and on too. So theres this tension between me and my bff now. But also since he broke up with my I kept trying to replace him with someone else. On my second try (Steven) is when things went out of control because when he broke up with me the entire depression thing got worse and I don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be. Now I'm doubting whether or not I love my current bf. Am I just trying to replace Steven? Or am I still trying to replace Josh? For a while I had no problem saying I love you. But my sister said "Ever since Josh you haven't been the same" and Im shocked at how right she is. How do I find myself again, but now that I think about it I don't even know if I want my old self back because I always hated the way I was. And now im just so confused. I don't really have a specific question but what's your opinion on this whole thing? Please anyone help me. (link)
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Hi honey, I am sorry for your pain, and I hope that I can help. I think your young age is part of the reason why you are so upset. You are not looking at the whole picture or to the future. I know this sounds corny, but you have your whole life ahead of you. YOu will fall in love and break up many many times before you find the man that you are going to marry and spend the rest of your life with. (If you choose well) Next time you might be the one who breaks someone else's heart. And even though this experience with Josh, lets you know how that feels, there is nothing that the person YOU stopped loving can do that will make you love him again. You can't fake an emotion like that.
You are prolonging the ordeal by seeing Josh again. He is the one with the problem, going back and forth between you and your bff. This is not very nice. Also, this is not unusual among your age group because when things go wrong between you and your bf and/or your bff, you're stuck with seeing each other every day because you go to the same school, or live in the same neighborhood. As adults, when we don't want to see someone anymore, it is much easier to avoid them. So you are faced with seeing the person who hurt your feelings almost every day which makes it harder to move on.
Something you said in your question, about not wanting your old self back because you didn't like that person. That gives me a clue as to why this relationship is taking such a tole on you. When we don't "love" ourselves and think we need someone else to love us to make our lives matter, then we have a VERY hard time when things go wrong in a relationship. Look around you at the adults in your life. Not all of them are in mutually loving and beneficial relationships. How do they manage? How do they get by? What about when we lose a loved one to death. How do we get by? Well many of us do get by. Because we have self love. We love ourselves enough to know that the future is still worth living for. Something wonderful will happen to you if you let it. If you love yourself, and believe you deserve to be treated well. Then you will only allow yourself to have relationships with girls and guys who treat you with respect and wouldn't hurt you. And that is why us old people tell young people to 'take your time when you start a relationship'. Become friends first. Because if you don't like the person as a friend, why would you care for them as a lover? How do you treat your friends and boyfriend(s), would you deliberately hurt one of them? If not, then why be friends with or love someone who is not ready to treat you as well as you treat them?
I know it seems hard to believe now, but I KNOW that if you go on, you will have another chance at happiness in your life.....if you let it in.
Good luck to you dear
Michele
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So , how do I hit the g-spot ? How do I find it ? How does it feel when you hit it ???? sorry for soo many questions but I'm really curious :$ oh if it helps ??? 13/female =] thanks for all the advice already (link)
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Nevermind your G spot, I've never found mine and I'm over 50. The 'spot' you want to stimulate is your clitoris. It is not IN your vagina, it is just above it, if you were laying on your back that is. Lubricate the outside of your vagina, between the labia, and slide your finger(s) between the labia, and you'll feel it.'
Michele
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I am an African American teen! My mom is black and so is my father. I look like I am half black half white, half Mexican, Mexican, Puerto Rican?! I have long curly hair, too. A lot of people ask what my ethnicity is and I tell them what I am. They often reply, "FULL?!" "No you're not!" "What else!" "Well, you don't look like it!" "You're lying!" "well, why is your hair like that?!" "No, because look at your hair!" "your parents must not be dark!?" My mom does have light skin, but that doesn't make her any less black than a darker person! I get so mad when people tell me I am not black or I am half! I believe there is nothing wrong with being multi racial or biracial, but that's NOT me! I KNOW what I am. What's the best way to tell people to not tell me what I am or tell me I am less black because of what I look like? (link)
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Wow, so curly hair mean you come from a certain ethnic background? I never knew that! Maybe you could say. "Hey so if you're white and have curly hair, does that mean that you must have a parent who is African-American?" That should shut them up. Or something like that? You probably have beautiful hair, and they are just jealous. Americans are notorious worldwide for asking inappropriate and stupid questions.
You could also just give them your most dazzaling smile and say, "I know, I'm just special."
Michele
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I play volleyball and I'm starting High school in the fall. ;D
I REALLY want to make a good team but the thing is that I have a HUGE rival who was on my team for the past years and she is soooo stuck up and snotty to me!!
I try to be friends with her and be polite but she is just waay to mean to me and always makes me feel bad.
Like one time when we just finished a hard drill, I gave everyone a high five and saying "good job" and when i got to her, she faked it and smoothed her hair and said "I know..."
GOD!!!! I just wanna kill her now!
So my question is how can I be sure to make a good team this fall and beat her??
I really want to prove to her that i'm better... but how??
how can i beat her???????????
oh and what are some ways that I can clear the whole 'rival competition' thing and get her to stop being so snotty? (link)
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Hey, first lesson, and the sooner you learn it the better. You can't change people. Period. No way no how. Don't waste a lot of energy trying.
BUt here is a hint, you said "rival competition" thing. Well it takes two, just don't participate and there is no competition. Look, you are already a better person than she is. It is obvious that you are a team player and she's just conceited. Your coach will be able to figure that out. Your team members will appreciate you more for your team work. Just don't forget who you are. You're better. Just relax and you will show her up. No problem. Next great lesson to learn, is be patient. Your time will come. Stay true to yourself and your team, and don't let people like that get to you. (hey there's another lesson in there somewhere.)
Good luck to you.
Michele
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What is 10 key typing/kph, and is there a website I can test it online? (link)
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Well I never heard of it, but I found a website, here is the link.
http://www.learn2type.com/TenKeyTest
it looks like typing using only the number pad.
0 thru 9 and enter key.
Good luck
Michele
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okk. so like on facebook there is the application honesty box & i have it. well people [girls] have been writing like mean stuff in it. like constructive criticism. but like idk my feelingss are kindaa hurtt. like people called me moody, annoying & fake. i want to know what people think of me, but how do i handle the comments more maturely without getting all pissed off? should i delete my honesty boxx? but then i'll never know what people think of me. (link)
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Well I do not have a page on face book, but I think I understand your dilema. You put up the honesty box, because you want to know what people really think of you. Actually that is quite brave. Here are two points....
One, think carefully about the comments that were left in your honesty box. Do they have any merit. Can they in any way be true....a little, or a lot. Then think about the fact that people get the "impression" that anything they do over the internet is anonymous. They will say and do things that they would not normally do. So maybe some of your friends are using the opportunity to be mean, just because they can. So maybe the whole matter is a little of both. Maybe some of the statements could be true, and maybe some of your friends are just mean.
Lets take each issue by itself. I mean what young girl isn't moody. It has everything to do with hormones, not being in charge of your life yet, and the fact that life for young teens is mostly boring. That would make anyone moody.
Annoying....all people are annoying. And you know who is most annoying....people who don't agree with us. What nerve! (Hey, I'm just kidding, we can't expect people to agree with us all of the time, and those who get annoyed with that, need to wake up.) Fake.....well, in my opinion, it takes one to know one. Here is a clue, most people judge others by their own standards. Fake people think everyone is fake because they have no idea what it is like to be real. They don't know what if feels like. My advice, Kill them with kindness. Don't ever let anyone know that their words hurt you, especially when they are trying to be mean on purpose. And the nicer you are, the more it drives them crazy, because they didn's succeed in ruining your day.
GOod luck to you
Michele
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im 13 a girl ive been through some deaths a few even this month and whole lot my whole life. and my mom has some tumors they just found out but they wont tell her how many they just say its really bad and there is a few. we fight alot but i still love her. and my dad is always out of state or just never home and when he is home we do not get along at all. he loves my brother he will do anything for him or make me do anything for him. and he would tell me no if i asked for something. but i need my mom id kill myself if i lost her and would be just my dad and brother. what can i do to get over it. its so bad they wont even tell her HOW MANY tumors she has. what will i do? (link)
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YOu need to be strong for your mom right now honey. If you want her to get better, how she feels inside is also important. If she is worried about you, then she won't be doing the hard work she needs to do to fight this. Of course it is OK to tell her that she needs to fight this, and that you are there for her, and you will help her.
If you father and brother are being selfish and self-centered, tell them, and tell them they both need to behave for mom. You all need her. But looks like you dad is hiding in his job, and your brother won't be much help. It is up to you to be her "rock" for now. No matter what happens, helping your mom through this difficult time and being strong for her is going to make you strong, then you will be able to deal with whatever happens.
Good luck to all of you.
Michele
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if youre getting a professional wax..down there, would that be embarrasing? who does it for you? and when you do what should i wax- hair everywhere except for the front, right (link)
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Most likely it will be a woman who does the waxing, and she will ask you what you want waxed. A total wax of the whole area from front to anus, and yes some people can have hair around that, is called a brazilian. YOu may find it embarassing if it is your first time, but I can assure you that the beautician has done it plenty of times, so you can be sure that nothing will suprise her.
I guess you already know that it is going to hurt, right?
Michele
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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly. (link)
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Hi, I am sorry for your pain. I wish that it had never happened. My heart goes out to you, honey.
I want to give you some advice, because I can't give you a hug, and I would if you were here. I think the reason you are having such a hard time with it now, is that you see your friends becoming sexually active, thinking and talking about sex. Some of them may not be virgins any more. They like the closeness and intimacy they feel with their boyfriends. While you are just scared. You don't see yourself as ever having a normal sexual relationship. And I can understand why. But I can tell you that many adult women who were molested as children DO have normal sexual relationships today.
Many of them because they TOLD someone. Now you have to be careful. I am sure you want to talk to someone about this because you left the question here on Adviceinators. But you must not know anyone in your personal life that you feel you can talk to or trust. You may think that they will judge you. Some people may, and that is what scares you. SO you need to find someone who won't. There is a reason why you have not told your parent(s). And only you know what that reason is. I would guess that the telling would disrupt yours and your families life, and they would point the finger at you as being the person who made a mess of everything. Honey if that happens it very well could get worse for you and you will feel even worse. So no don't tell your parent(s) if you don't think they will believe you and stand by you and help you prosecute the person who did this to you. Because that is like living through it twice. I hurts even worse. Now you may only think that somehow it is your fault. If your parent(s) don't back you up, you'll feel even worse.
Now, should you tell a therpist. I don't know. In my state, therapist are REQUIRED by law to report sexual abuse of children. SO once you tell, the police will have to get involved. And you say you don't want that. MY opinion, like most of the othe advice givers, is yes you should tell soemone and the person who hurt you should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. But I cannot guarantee you that it won't backfire. It has happened before. DO you have a friends mother you could talk to. Here is the other thing. Once you are older, you know an adult at 18,you could go see a therapist and talk about it, and since you are an adult, no one can make you press charges against anyone if you don't want to. But at least you can talk about it.
Because that is key, just like the other advice givers said. You have to tell someone, you need to hear the words, that there is nothing wrong with you. You did not do anything wrong. You are not bad. And you do need help in CHANGING how this is currently defining your life. You are too young to deal with it all by yourself. You can't see that in the future, it doesn't have to be like this. Because you have internalized everything. It will ruin your life if you let it, but it doesn't have to. You'd be surprised to find out how many women have been molested when they were young. Probably more than 50%. Don't let it ruin your life. Please, don't let the person who hurt you win.
Also, what would you do if you KNEW that that person was hurting someone else. These people don't stop you know. They will hurt someone else some day, if they haven't already.
Many women have found that dealing with the issue head-on, and filing charges and going through with the prosecution was the ONLY way that they could eventually put it behind them.
and maybe you are too young for that now, especially if you don't have the support of a strong and loving family.
YOu need to find a life-line. A person you can trust. Maybe not this week, maybe next month, but that is what you need to do. You can heal. Don't let this person continue to hurt you. YOu know, they are thinking that you are fine, it couldn't have been that bad. Your alive and breathing, and you didn't tell, and that gives the person what they need to do it again. BEcause they are never confronted with the pain that they cause. The violation of your body is short lived, but the violation to your soul goes on and on. Don't think ou can do this alone. YOu tried that, and see where you are now. Find someone. Perhaps not someone your age.
Many years from now, when you are a mom, and you have a little girl, you must pay attention to her, you must try to read the signs. If her personallity changes, and she is not the happy go lucky girl that you knew, you have to question, investigate and get to the bottom of it. Trust NO ONE with your children. I know the difference in children who grow up who have been molested, and those who have never been molested. It is sad. But you can still accomplish great things in your life. Don't let this become your legacy. So many people will wish that you had confided in them, if you decide to do something drastic to hurt yourself. Find that person. I will pray for you.
Michele
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my mom says if i dont part my hair the other way ill enlarge it? i have a bald spot on top of my head??? i thought everyone had that little spot (link)
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Well it is a good idea to always change your part, and for that reason, but you are years and years away from loosing any hair. Yes some women loose their hair too, like men do, but usually it is because they eat a poor diet, or have other health problems. If you take good care of your hair, and don't bleach it, and color it and perm it to death, then you should be OK. BEsided, I am sure that you are going to change your hair style at some point in your life. So I wouldn't worry about parting your hair on one side for now. Hope this helps.
Michele
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Michele,
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=502257
That was my old question. Well, I went downstairs just about ten minutes ago and tried to tell her the stuff you told me, about famous hard-working people not being so obsessed with appearance.. andd she didn't listen. She just kept pointing out my flaws and wouldn't.. understand. Do you possibly have any more advice about what I should do? Should I just stop talking to her about it and go along the way I am?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you in advancee. :] (link)
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You should definitly go the way you are going, and if she won't listen to what is most important to you, then no don't talk to her about it. My guess is that your grandmother never accomplished much and needed a man to define her. To make her life important. You are destined for so much more than that. She just wants to be sure that some man is going to want to marry you some day.
Well I am glad that you are going off to college and that your life will improve greatly. And with a college education, YOU will be in control of your life and won't matter what other people think. Good luck to you girl, and hang in there
Michele
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well ive been diagnosed with EDP (erythema dyschromicum perstans) its a really bad skin pigmentation and ive been to the derm and they said that they cant do anything about it.. and i feel like they just gave up on me and im strong i wont give up my horrible skin like this.. iofanyone copuld help me with the treatment or how to cure it or what can help me with it it would be great.. please help me people ive had this for a year and a half and io cant wait for it to be gone. please help. im begging you (link)
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Wow, I don't blame you for being upset, and I believe the doctor just doesn't know what to do for you, and since it is not life threating, he is just going to let it go. Buy it can be very traumatic for a young girl to have to go through something like this.
This is what I found out my doing some research on the internet. (I am an esthetician by the way, and I have taken classes in skin care.)
This is the diagnosis:
=== Erythema dyschromicum perstans, commonly known as ashy dermatosis, was first described by Ramirez in 1957. This uncommon disorder occurs predominately in dark-skinned Latin Americans, particularly women in the first through third decades of life. Ashy dermatosis is a chronic condition characterized by asymptomatic, slate-gray or violaceous hyperpigmented macules distributed most commonly over the trunk and proximal extremities, and less frequently over the face and neck. Lesions, which occur in otherwise healthy persons, may initially present as erythematous macules that slowly progress to a blue-gray hue. The macules of erythema dyschromicum perstans vary in size and may occasionally demonstrate an erythematous raised border===
Further research tells me that this can sometimes be caused by the ingestion of plant fertilizers. Do you by any chance work a lot in a garden? Do you eat a lot of fruit and vegetables that could have been treated or grown using chemical fertilizers? It can also be caused by a compromised immune system. Meaning that your immune system is not as healthy as it should be. That is why it is affecting you, and not affecting other people. To strenghten your immune system you need vitamins and supplements like Vit. C, and even more. Here is what I suggest. I buy vitamins and supplements from a web company called "www.invitehealth.com" YOu can go to that website, and select the "contact us" button. The doctors and pharmacists who run that company Invite Health, are good people who want to help. Send them an email and in the email, tell them about your diagnosis, and ask them what they recommened. Then you can decide if you want to buy stuff from their website or not. I hope this helps, and if you get the answers you need, I hope your parents will help you in trying to find a cure. I know that it is out there. Just don't leave any stone unturned. good luck to you
Michele
HONEY, YOU DIDN'T SAY IN YOUR FEEDBACK, HOW I SHOULD CONTACT YOU. I DO HAVE SOME ADDITIONAL INFORMATION, CAN YOU LEAVE ME A QUESTION IN MY PERSONAL IN BOX OR EMAIL ME AT COBWEB2@COMCAST.NET
USE "SKIN PROBLEM" AS SUBJECT LINE.
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