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How Do i Deal This Ex Druggie
Alright. I have a huge situation, I have this ex boyfriend named nate. and he does alot of hard core drugs since we broke up. and i cant help but try too talk too him and help him. but i mean he wont stop! hes soo additiced he cant control it. He also drinks alot too. and i need help too comfort him!!!
♥Haley
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If you want to save his life, there is only one way to do it: blow the whistle on him.
You won't be able to help on your own. Drug addiction is not something that people can be talked out of, or convinced to give up. It is a disease - a self-inflicted disease, but a disease nonetheless. If he can be helped at all, it will be through the concentrated efforts of friends, family, and doctors, NOT by you alone.
You must inform his parents. Today. Right now, if possible. It may help if you have your parents with you, just in case they choose not to believe you; you might need supportive adults on your side.
Maybe he'll hate you for it, at first. But he'll have a chance to stay alive, and that's worth it. In time, if he is successful at beating this thing, he'll come to realize that your actions were necessary to save his life.
And he may not beat it; he may die. If that happens, you don't want to live with the fact that you knew what he was into and told no one about it.
Bottom line: Don't try to do this alone. You will fail.
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Im so sorry to hear that. I know getting off addiction is hard. It takes a lot of effort to stop something that you're addicted to, but I'm sorry to say that you probably can't change him. You can try to comfort him and try to make him stop, but it will be really hard. You should tell him that you care for him, and you will be really sad if he dies of overdose of drugs. I think that all the advice I can give at the moment. I'm truly sorry.
I hope this helped.
//Smallazn4lyfe
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Haley,
it is very noble of you to want to help nate, but he can only help himself. I am sure that he has his reasons for abusing drugs and alcohol, and I am sure that it has something to do with his family. Something that started years and years ago, and you don't have the knowledge, or the patience or the strenght to help him. He needs professional help. But any therapist will tell you, you can't help anyone until they are ready to be helped. Sure you can continue to be his friend and be there for him,but you must be careful to avoid the same trouble yourself. While I think you are smart enough to avoid taking drugs and drinking. Just being with nate when he is actively seeking out drugs, dealing or using, can get you in trouble with the police. Nate is just one of many many kids who have these problems. It if were easy to help them there would be a lot LESS young girls like you with broken hearts and broken dreams. YOu can't change him honey. I hope you just pray for him and keep yourself safe.
Michele
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Maybe you should talk to a professional about it and stage an intervention and try to get him into rehab because he won't stop on his own.
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