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i have an alarm system, and every door and window in my house has it installed in it. if you open any of them and the alarm is on, it will go off or if it's not on it will just beep. i jus got my basement done and i don't feel like explaining the whole thing but i'm having some friends sleepover and we need to sneak out. the only thing is that there is an alarm on the basement door. there are 3 little windows in the basement with no alarm, but they won't open up far enough for people to fit through. if anyone knows how to make the alarm not work on the door without my parents knowing, could you help me? like maybe cut a wire or something, or maybe if theres even a way i could turn it off on one door. becasue i am home alone a lot and they probably wouldn't notice for a while and then tehy wouldn't know itw as me. please don't answer saying i shouldn't be sneaking out or i shouldn't be trying to break something in my house because i don't care, i'm in highschool and this is what i do. so if anyone knows how to make the alarm not work on just one door, please help me. thanks! (link)
lol why dont you sleep over their place? oooor say something like the basement is too stuffy you want to open the window.. otherwise i think that ur stuck =[ good luck though haha let me know how it turns out :D sounds exciting


whats the funnest thing you ever did with friends in the house 14/f I want to do something entertaining creative and fun with friends (link)
most fun thing? depends on what the friend is into.. all my friends have diff personalities buuuuuut baking is always fun :D coz you get to pig out on it later.. so is prank calling lol (immature i know).. and lastly.. Getting dolled up and cam"whoring" ;]


i can't find one!!! i have brown hiar to like 3/4 down my boob and blue eyes with freackles. can you help me find a dress!! it can't be to formal and i can go casual all the way to a sundress. but i can't find anything. i'm not spending that much on a dress unless its like something i can wear to school and over the summer too. please help. directlinks would be appresheated! (link)
THE ADVICE WAS TO GO TO NY&CO. Obviously you did not comprehend this.


i'm currently a us citizen and i am thinking of attending college in greece at the american university of athens. would i have to become a greek citizen to stay there? what about taxes and stuff lke that? and what about my driver's license? and if you can think of any other related questions it would really help a lot! :] (link)
I knew a girl from Japan who came to the US to study .. I believe she had a visa. There are also many dancers who travel on performance visas. As far as costs go, I think it depends on the school :P


hi, im 16 and i want to be a photogerpher. i want to own my own studio. what classes do i need and how long do i need to go to collage? how old do you have to be to start your own buisness? please help me as much as possible!
thaks,


heather (link)
it depends on the college.. you can start a business at any age as long as you have the finances to back it up (and in your case your parents would probably have to be involved) courses also depend on the college look into it and ask their advisors they can tell you everything you want to know =)


How can I lose five to seven pounds in two weeks to a month? Will slimfast and a lot of exercise help a lot? Thankss!
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eat whole grain foods lots of veggies drink lots of water. eat 6 small portions throughout the day instead of 3 larger ones. do a lot of cardio. aaaand i think thats all i can think of.. good luck!


I run track & I have no idea what to do with my hair.

Its CURLY & BIG & LONG (I'm african american with multiracial hair). I also have bangs, but are pretty long.

I've tried it down, but it got in my face. I've tried it half up, but it still gets in my face. I've tried a ponytail, but its too long so it gets in my face, so I do the UGLY bun thingy where its in a ponytail and I jus tuck it under the band. But the bad thing is, I'm always in the newspaper & last week I was on the news & I see it looks hideous!

I've tried looking at other girls' hair, but theirs is either fake, short or not my textured hair & they run long distance.

Thanks in advance. (link)
I have thick curly frizzy hair so I do a ballet bun (ponytail-twist hair and wrap around then secure with another elastic) but with a little hair spray at the end to lock in any strands =) Hope I helped


ok when i pee at the end it hurts really bad and it bleeds im a female and i dont know what it is it cant be my period because i know when its my period there is no continues blood just a little and stopps im not a virgen and i dont know what can it be can somebody help pleasE? (link)
I'm thinking the same as the person below. Definately go to your doctor just in case!


My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times...he says that the reason for what he has done is because of me...keep in mind i never have cheated on him..
HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME HE SAYS IS BECAUSE OF THE THINGS I DO TO HIM..WHICH IS WHEN WE ARGUE AND HE DOESINT LET ME TALK AT ALL I HANG UP ON HIM AND WHEN HE CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME I HANG UP ON HIM AND DONT ANSWER HIS CALLS..ALSO WHEN I GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS OR ANYTHING HE IS SO INSECURE THAT HE CALLS ME EVERY TIME I GO OUT AND STAYS ON THE PHONE WITH ME...WHILE HES STAYING ON THE PHONE WITH ME HE STRARTS QUESTIONING ME AND STARTS ACTING VERY INSECURE HE STARTS NAGGING ME NAGGING ME OVER THE PHONE...WHILE IM WITH MY FRIENDS...HE SAYS THINGS LIKE YEA LET ME CALL YOU LATER GO BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR WHAT YOU DOING WHO WAS THAT IN THE BACKGROUND. I GET MAD WHEN HE DOES THOSE THINGS SO WE START TO ARGUE AND HE ENDS UP GETTIN ME SO FRUSTERATED THAT I HANG UP AND DONT ASNWER HIS CALLS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY...THEN WHEN I CALL HIM HE GETS MAD AT ME FOR IGNORING HIS CALLS. THEN I GET BLAMMED FOR CHAETING ON HIM AND GETTING THOUGHT OF AS A CHEATER...HE IS THE ONE THAT MAKES ME NOT WANNA TALK TO HIM WHEN I GO OUT AND HAVE A INNOCENT TIME WITH MY FRIENS BECAUSE ALL HE DOES IS BE MEAN AND START ARGUEMENTS WITH ME FOR NO REASON..SO OVERALL HE SAYS THAT HES CHEATED ON ME BECAUSE OF ME NOT ANSERING HIS CALLS WHEN I GO OUT...BUT I HAVE MY REASONS ITS NOT BECAUSE IM CHEATING ON HIM OR IM HIDING SOME GUY FROM HIM ITS BECAUSE I CANT EVEN HAVE A GUD TIME WITHOUT HIM NAGGING ME AND BIENG INSECURE,,,,SO I WANTED TO KNOW IS HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME A GUD ENOUGH REASON FOR SLEEPING AND DOING THINGS WITH OTHER GIRLS?? ALL HE DOES IS BALME ME FOR HIS WRONG DOINGS...I FEEL LIKE HE DID WHAT HE DID BECAUSE HE WANTED TO,,,,I LOVE HIM A LOT AND I STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM BUT HE DOESINT SEE THAT....IM CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... (link)
dump him. If he has enough reason to cheat then maybe he should've just done the mature thing and broken up with you. His reason is lame though, he is not letting you have any space. Don't let him flip the script on you and make you think it might be you, it's definately not.


Strange Dreams have haunted my life as of late, and they are really ruining the way I look at my boyfriend. Anyway, a little about myself, I'm 16, had one boyfriend before this, nieve, clueless, and totally insecure, etc etc. ANYway, he is totally awesome, cute, and his totally weird personality fits almost perfectly with mine, which is also weird. He is the first boy I really kissed (yes I never kissed my ex...twas lame)All of it is so new to me and I'm scared, hence the unsettling dreams. The first dream I had is really embarrasing to tell...But here it is. I was at his house, we were older, he was a millionaire, and his house was stuffy and felt weird. I told him I wanted to take a shower, he was kind and got it ready for me then left. I got all undressed, then he stormed in running at me with a scary, determined look. I woke up with my heart pounding. Then...I was like what the heck was that? It wasn't him at all, it was scary, it was just messed up! He is the sweetest harmless guy ever...but I dream that? Then last night I dreamed that me and my best friend were sitting in his room, (again he was extremely rich) and we started looking through his stuff, he had tons of stuff from exgirlfriends, drawings that looked like mine, pictures of them, notes. All of them had a spereate drawer, Then...There was mine completely empty. I felt all jealous, then I woke up. Everything was going great before this, what it my problem?! I'm ruining it with my own dreams. What is wrong with me, and what do they mean?

help,
very confused Rach (link)
I think when we have dreams that cause us to genuinely feel unsettled it must be saying something about us. Perhaps, for your new boyfriend, you see him as perfect right now. Your dream was set in the future so maybe theres something saying that youre afraid he might change in the future. As far as your best friend, us girls tend to be territorial about our best friends. Maybe you're kind of upset that he's getting so much attention but you haven't any. Maybe you're feeling left out of something in real life?.. anyway I hope I helped ;] and mayb you could interpret my dream too!


HEY! I need to write funny, one-sentence descriptions about everyone in my family, and I don't know how to do it, I know you can't do it for me - but could you give me some inspirational examples? Like I guess it should be: "James Eriksson - a loveable soccerplayer, who's always doing one million things at once!" .. except, you know, funny. Can anyone help? THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME!! (link)
My 5 year old cousin John likes to pick fights with me aaaaand the inside of his nose :D


i started my birth control pill a week ago. i had sex after i'd been on it for a week. it was the first time, so it was slow and short. he wore a condom and he didn't even cum at all.

is there anything i should be worried about? we were protected, i'm just worried incase i was still ovulating due to the fact the birth control hadn't totally kicked in yet.

help!

is this going to affect the birth control at all? and i'm supposed to have my period(according to the pills) in about two weeks-and sometimes i won't even have it at all(says the doctor) so i dont want to stress myself thinking "omg i didnt have a big period"

help help help! (link)
dont worry you used protection jus remember not to do it without protection til you've been on the pill at least a month :P


Okay first of all im 17/f.

Can I get pregnant from getting fingered?

As in he could've precummed or whatever and he touched it by accident and then fingered.

Some people told me that sperm dies within few seconds of ejeculation and some say they dont.

I am just confused and I am really worried.

I missed my period, i am extremely moody, craving has gone up, i have really sensitive boobs now (as in they kind of hurt if they come in contact), random headaches, fatigue, and i dont know about excessive urination because I pee a lot regardless.

My boyfriend swears that nothing is wrong and I trust him with my life and he said only reason my body's showing the symptoms of pregnancy because I am worried too much about it. As in i think I am preg. therefore my body shows those symptoms. And I cant buy test because EVERYONE will know because I live in a very small town. I will go to the drugstore in town and i see people i know EVERYTIME and in fact they work there. So yes, no privacy. Someone please answer. (link)
You're not pregnant. Your boobs hurt cause you're going to get your period soon. The rest is caused by you thinking you might be pregnant. Just relax, you're young and your period is probably not regulated yet. Worst case scenario have an adult that you trust buy the test for you.

good luck!


im 17
preparing for these exams in 2 and a half weeks that I need to do really well in and i dont think I know the cirriculum very well wats the best way of learning stuff while not "cramming" at this late stage i have been studying and all i just dont think i know the stuff well
and wats good ways of getting rid of exam pressure?
thanks (link)
best way to get rid of exam pressure is to feel secure in your knowledge and i find the best way to learn quickly without cramming is by focusing on the most important stuff first.. some people try to learn every detail of everything and the truth is that half the time half the material isn't even touched on. also if you can take practice exams that helps A LOT. hope i've helped


I want to lose fat in my thighs stomach and arms. What are some things I can do to lose weight at home besides running outside, sit ups and push ups? And what can I buy (that's not expensive) to help? (link)
thighs stomach and arms? DANCE like a full body workout. If you're into active sports (soccer, handball, tennis) those are good for those spots too! :]


So my mom's on this diet her nutritionist recommended, and so was I, until someone told her that our diets shouldn't be the same since I'm younger and need to eat more calories. She's lost 4 pounds in only a week and a half. I'm 15, female, 148 pounds, and I cannot stop eating!! I know I would need to exercise along with a diet, but I'm the laziest thing. I just don't know what to do, what to eat, how much to eat, how many calories to intake, or how to exercise it all off. I do know, however, that the most important thing is to vary your food, which is exactly what my mom does. Any suggestions are welcome, and thanks in advance. (link)
first get that thought out of your head. maybe you're lazy now but to be honest you're not going to lose weight by letting yourself have excuses. i recommend joining a gym with a dedicated friend. it will motivate you to exercise and once you start exercising you'll feel better about yourself and since you're working so hard you'll probably want to start eating healthier! =) hope i've helped!


When I start to like a guy, I fall really fast and becoming to obsessive in my own mind. I constantly think about whoever it is at the time and I'll start to want to talk to him 24/7. Of course then I get bored quickly and move on to being obsessed with another guy.

How do I stop this annoying cycle so I can just be more chill with guys? (link)
you're probably young and MOST young ladies go through this stage of life =) don't sweat it! I'm currently addicted to Ryan Reynolds and James Marsden haha and I'm engaged soooo :D Enjoy it! as long as you're not doing anything stupid with all your crushes then it's okay. You'll never know what kind of person is right for you unless you date around ;]


Girls, how do you properly shave your vagina?

... awkward question, but i need to know :D haa. (link)
make sure you're lathered properly. lay down, bring a mirror, have a well lit area, maybe some scissors.

basically, take your time and be careful! everything else is up to you =) Remember that bald isn't necessarily better


I am dealing with a huge weigh on my shoulders. Last year I went through the hardest time of my life. I had been with my ex-boyfriend on and off for almost a year and a half. He moved away for school but we hook up when he would come home. I ended up pregnant and he made me feel like there was no way to keep the baby. I was in a horrible state with my hormones running wild and all the added stress of school. I was 2 months away from receiving degree. But I knew it was going against everything I believe in.

I feel totally depressed. Its been a year and I still have the pregnancy weight, I feel totally guilty for what I did. It kills me inside to think about what I did. I have no one to talk to because its such a sensitive issue. My friends haven't been through this and I dont want to dwell my issues on them. I lost all my confidence i feel fat and ugly because of what I did. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel totally alone :*( (link)
You must be hurting so much. Well, I don't know much of what to say but you're not alone sweetheart, there are so many people who have experienced this situation. Maybe you should look into meeting up with a support group, they can help you cope and maybe one day you can help someone in your position cope as well. Take this experience as something to learn from in your life.

As for your confidence, don't let the guilt of what happened prevent you from continuing your life. Let yourself be beautiful and feel good. Everything happens for a reason. I hope you feel better love.


one of my close friends (lets call her friend A) has been hanging around with this other friend (lets call her friend B) whos...i feel bad saying this about her cause i'm friends with her too but...easy. shes never like had sex (i dont think) but she always gets drunk and makes out or gives handjobs to any guy thats there at the moment. and it pisses me of that so many guys call her the "perfect party whore" and i don't like them saying that because she's my friend although its true. now friend A has gotten closer to her and now friend A is starting to go out with friend B most weekends and they invite guys over and get drunk and who knows what they're doing. basically friend A is turning friend B into a slut. i feel so bad saying this but its the truth. my friends are all turning this way and i don't know what to do because i don't want guys taking advantage of them and stuff. what do i do? (link)
I understand your concern =[ It sucks but the truth is that people choose their own paths. Definately bring it up to them how you feel. Luckily they aren't having sex so that's a start. Otherwise, maybe you can go to the party with them and keep them in check (i used to have this friend who would hook up with guys even though she was taken I pretty much played babysitter).. it's annoying but if you love em enough you probably wouldnt mind




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