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Hey Y'all! I'm Jessica. I'm 16 and a Junior in high school. I found this site and thought that since I usually give pretty good advice, I figured I'd try to help other people. I hope I can help y'all.

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I am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 but we are madly in love ...so we had sex about a month ago and i havnt had my period....we were also protected with a comdom but you know they are only 85 % protective...so i have been looking online about signs of pregnacny and i seem to have none of the signs except of a late period...i told my boyfriend about it and he said to wait till the end of october and see if you get your period..so im gonna wait and then take a pregancy test....but theres a 50 50 chance i might be and if i am...im not shure wut to ..is there any way i can get by this with out my parents knowing ?? is there any way i can kill the baby before its nooticeable...?? ...can i i have an abortion with havniing my parents know and can i have it before it get noticeable? or is there any pill i can take that can kill ??...i know its wrong but i dont know wut to do so plz tell me...thanks!!
~*shadysladys001*~

Girl, if you were old enough to have sex...you are old enough to accept the responsibilities of what you did. Don't you think that it's wrong to MURDER some living creature that could be inside you? Just because you were irresponsible. You should think about the consequences of things before you do them.

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Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?

umkay...well, NEVER give your animals any kind of human medicine *unless* your vet prescribes it!

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im a 14f and ok there is this guy that i met over the summer, he was friends with my guy friends and i met him and i thought he was cute, i dont go for guys because of looks, i go by personalit, and lets say his name is joe.. well joe tells people he thinks im hot and then we talk a little bit and flirt and then like 2 days later my friend Marie calls me and is like hey joe wanted to know if he can call u ... and she mentioned he might ask me out, but i wasnt sure if i was ready to go out with him and i was like ill talk to him tomorrow at the park because everyone hangs out at the park so i decided yeah ill answer him tomorrow. the thing is that he only was gonna stay for like a month so pretty soon he'll be leaving so yeah next day he totally ignores me at the park and later on this girl Jessica is having a party which i didnt get invited to and i hear that everyone gets drunk and jessica gives joe a blow job ... then i talk to joe and hes like idk we were drunk and stuff and then me and him were back on the track until then another girl pops up and he ditches me again, then he tells all his friends, which are my friends too that he was talkin to me on the phone and he said how we were gonna hook up and he makes a bunch of bs up too them, so yeah then he leaves back to Michigan (where he is from) without even saying anything. i talk to some of my guy friends about him and they tell me how much of a player he is and stuff how he brags he likes to be a pimp and all this bullshit but yeah then i talk to him over the internet a lot and hes like so sweet and tells me all these nice things how he misses me and wishes we would of hooked up and how he shouldnt of been with jessica and stuff and he tells me hes gonna be coming in a month but he doesnt come and then next time im online he is like im coming in 10 days so then i get REALLLLY happy but he ends up not coming and now my friend was talking to one of her friends Mark, and finds out that MARk & joe are cousins. and mark is like i heard u hooked up wit my cousin, he says that to my cousin, and shes like ur cousin? hes like yeah joe, he told me u and some other girl and him went partying a lot ... and she finds out more stuff that he is going to come and visit soon and now i dont know what to do.. i've fallin for him and i dont wanna hear forget about him, i need actual advice, i mean i think about him 24/7 and its just getting me mad ... what do i do? thanks a lot! sorry that its long!

Don't waste your time on him. He sounds like a serious player and you are better than that. It'll be hard, because it does sound like you really care for him, but you need to move on. Find a new guy or hang with your friends, but don't get back with him. He's lied too many times.

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i have this dog who is two years old, and i love him sooo much. the problem is, he has gotten my other dog pregnant twice, and each tie we had a horrible time trying to give the puppies away. My parents are furious, and they want to castrate him. i just cant bear the though of him losing his gender! just in case any of you know, what happens when you castrate a dog? are there any side effects?

Sweetie, he's not losing his gender. Have you ever heard of gelding horses? They are still male horses, just without testicles. It is perfectly safe to castrate your dog. He won't feel a thing because he will be put under anesthesia.

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hey well i'm really nervous about the first time i have sex. im nervous about becoming pregnant, like if the condom breaks. so i was wondering if its wrong/weird for the guy to wear 2 condoms (one on top of the other)... is that really pathetic? i know im supposed to use lube but i'm still scared so could i make him wear 2 just in case?

No! Do NOT EVER make the guy wear two. Two isn't better...two is worse. It will make the condoms tear and will lead to a much bigger chance of the condom breaking. And, sweetie...if you are THAT nervous about having sex, maybe you shouldn't take that step yet.

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I was wondering if it was ok to go shopping with your mom every now and then. Cause i go up to Pennsylvania every summer and Christmas to see my mom and i am 14. We always go shopping together because i dont have friends up in Penn. cause im only staying there for just a few weeks, so i was wondering if its strange or immature or something just cause you go shoppin with your mom for clothes and coffee, please, i really want peoples opinions! thanks so much!

What exactly are you worried about? I've shopped with my mom forever and I still do. I've never had a problem with it? Are you afraid of what other people might say? It's definitely NOT immature or strange to go shopping with your mom! I think you should consider yourself *lucky* that you are able to shop with your mom.

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I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..

You are nuts. Have you even been around kids at all? I have two nieces that are under five that I have taken care of since they were born. Taking care of kids isn't an easy thing. How in the hell are you going to provide for this child? You needs thousands of dollars just to DELIVER a baby. Think about how much it's going to cost for all the pre-natal and neo-natal care, not to mention providing for this child for the rest of its life! And, kids aren't all fun and games. You have dirty diapers and being up all night with them and not having any freedom. You need a serious reality check. Oh yeah...GUYS LIE.

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HI!
15/f california :)

ok well see i want to get a job cuz i dont like how i have to get my shitttt aproved by my parents b4 i get it with their money. But most importantly cuz i got my cell phone taken away and it has been said that i wont get another one under their pocket.so i want to get a job but i am only 15 and my birthday isnt untill february 6th. does anyone know of places wheir they know 15yr old can work.
thank you.

Yup, you can work at practically ANY restaurant. Bad news is that the work you'll find won't be very...fun. Most likely the easiest job for you to find will be a busboy job cleaning tables + stuff like that.

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I'm 14, and I have yet to wear a tampon! All of my friends do it, so I just pretend I do!.. I mean I've stuck one in there before, and it worked and it sticked, but I'm afraid like its going to go further, or I'm gunna try and pull on the stringy thing and its gunna break lose. Do you think any of those things could happen? Pllease help!

The walls of your vagina hold the tampon in place, so it is VERY unlikely that it will slip further into you than is necessary. The string will not break loose...promise. I have always found tampons to be much more comfortable than pads...it just takes a little time to get used to it.

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Ok! Well I have to go to the doctor tuesday with my mom to get birth control. Im just really stressing out about the papsmear. I shave down there and Im not sure whether or not I want my mom in the room when they do that. They also have to ask you if your sexually active and I really dont want my mom knowing all that either! Any info, advice, etc.?

Your mom does NOT have to be in the room with you. You can ask her yourself not to be in the room or else get the nurse to. If you are worried about what she'll think, just explain to her that this appointment is embarrassing enough - you don't want her in there as well, adding to the embarrassment. I'm sure she'll understand.

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hey, im also 16, and also a junior in highschool, cuz im cooooool like that :-P, but yeah, i live in sherman, tx...about an hour north of dallas, what area do u live in??? :D
-Kyle

I live close to Houston, a few hours west of it.

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Hello,

I am 16 years old and a female. I am 5'2 1/2 and 93 lbs. I am very thin but not sick looking. I don't really eat like I'd call normal. I eat like once or twice a day normally but sometimes three. I am just never hungry most of the time and I am typically a light eater. The odd thing is last year I was like 115-120 lbs and then a few months ago I was 98 and now I'm 93 lbs. Is there something wrong?

Since you have been losing quite a bit of weight pretty fast, I'd say go and see a doctor. You might not be getting enough vitamins + minerals essential to your growth and development of your body. Go see a doctor to make sure everything is okay.

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please dont delete this question..id really like 2 kno. well im a freshman in high school and ive been having my period since the middle of my 7th grade year. my friend told me that she had discharge before her period but then it stopped. i still have discharge. is there something wrong?

A little discharge is okay. But, if it's *really* bad ((like it makes your undies soaked)) or you are just fed up with it, go to a gyno. I went for that + other things and she prescribed birth control. It helped both my cysts and the discharge.

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im 13 years old and i REALLY want a job. ive always wanted a part time job at a nursery home w/ the elderly to pay for college(even though its a long way off) but i think i have to be 14. I also would like a part time job at a camera store, but i dont think they even hire 14 year olds! can any1 give me suggestions for jobs or if they know if nursery hames would let 13 year olds work there???
i usually rate a 5!!! :)

Most jobs do require you to be at least fifteen or sixteen. You should try to get a job at a restaurant as a busboy. I know, it doesn't sound like fun, but you are young. I started out there when I was younger. + just so you know, it's a nursing home.

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Does anybody no a good hair straghtner?? i rate thanks

I definitely love CHI's...they have always worked the best for me. I tried a conair one and I totally wasn't satisfied.

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does anyone hae any information about Winston-Salem university in North Carolina?

Here is the website for Winston-Salem University in North Carolina - http://www.wssu.edu/

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If your a virgin (( girl )) then how can you get pregnant?

You can't. Unless the girl is The Virgin Mary...it isn't going to happen. I read through the other people's answers and saw that some people were talking about sperm coming in contact with your vagina. But, honestly, if you are a true virgin and you've never fooled around or been in that kind of a position with a guy, you can't get pregnant.

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okay i have a big problem! i was all excited because i just got my cartlidge done! but i came home and told my best friend! and she asked what ear i got done and i told her my right one! and she said that if a girl gets just her right cartlidge done...that means shes a lesbian?! omg i'm all upset now! is that realli what rumors say?! because i'm definitly NOT one!
i'll rate you a 5!

Sweetie, quit worrying about other people. If you like it...tell them to **** off. Ignorant people come up with stupid stuff like that out of boredom. Don't sweat it. Just be you.

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OK im the only gurl i swear in my 9th grade class that likes cars and i sumtimes get made fun of 4 it
should i find sumthin else to be interested in or dont kare wut they say?

Don't let other people influence you. If you like cars, go with it. Join Auto-Mechanics(or whatever it may be called at your school) and learn all you can about it. Even if you may be the only girl in your class that likes cars, you aren't the only one in the world. LOTS of girls like cars.

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Well there's this country song I've heard and I really really like it. But I need to know what it's called or who its by! It goes like this-
I'm not gonna sleep til I touch your face...
And that's like all I know haha so please help me out! Thanx!

"I Can't Sleep" by Clay Walker

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