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Hey my names kayla and im 14 years 0ld...i will answer any questi0n y0u ask me because chances are im g0ing/went thr0ugh s0mething similar. i have realized that i am best at giving advice t0 pe0ple 0n what t0 say t0 0thers 0n a given situati0n. If theres ever s0mething urgent y0u need t0 ask me feel free t0 im me 0n xoredskittleox...if y0u have any pr0blems regarding my advice...like s0mething i might have said that 0ffended y0u 0r anything like that.
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H3Y even though this question is long please don't pass it over I need help.


Im almost fourteen and my nine seventeen year old brother died about a week ago. I don't want to talk about it and my parents are trying to force me into it. I don't want to talk sometimes, I just want to forget. But theres something inside me that wont let me and thats when I get either angry or sad, but I never find myself in tears. I havn't cried since I found out he was dead. Those were tears of shock. If you were in the middle of an algerbra test and got pulled out just to be told your big brother was hit by a car you would probably cry too. I can't take this anymore. Sometimes I just want to turn him into some distant memory, and other times I want to remember him. People tell me to remember all the good times we had, but that just makes me even more sad to know that we won't ever have those times again. My parents arn't helping either. They're wanting to have another baby. They want to replace him. Plus they have allready started turning his old room into a study for my dad. MY twenty year old sister does nothing but cry and therefore gets all the sympathy. I dont ever cry so people think I dont care, but I probably care more than anybody. I know even though he's dead but not gone it still doesn't help me. I find myself always asking "What if." I can't stand "What ifs" But the one question that I have always promised I'd never ask myself is "Why me" Then I realized I shouldn't be asking why me. I wasnt the one that died. So now I am despising my sister for her constant mourning, because she's not crying for Bryson, she's crying for herself. All I need to know is that if I force myself into crying if it will make the pain go away. And if it won't how can I stop hating the world around me. Because now I'm starting to hate myself. I'm afraid to love or trust anybody again and I can't do it alone.

Hey,
You really shouldnt be trying to forget about him. i understand that you would have mixed emotions about his death. when a loved one dies it can be a hard thing to cope with.
by your question i understand that you do have alot of feelings tward his death. sadness is one of them obviously. hes your brother. You cant keep all of your emotions inside of you. let yourself cry. you will feel sooo much better believe me.
when someone you love dies you find your own way to deal with the death. crying seams to be your sisters way of coping with the loss of your brother. you need to accept that. you cannot get angry with her about something like that. its going to make her feel worse about it.
Dont hate yourself. it isnt your fault your brother is gone. death cant be blamed on anyone.
Your parents dont want to replace your brother. nobody can replace him.
I hope i helped even a little bit. i am so so sorry i hope your alright.

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I'm a bit overweight and so I've always been a little bit embarassed to exercise in front of people. It seems to just make things worse for me, because then I don't feel like I get enough exercise in the day, but I hate running because I'm slower and always afraid somebody will see me, and I don't even like doing stuff at home because my mom and dad might see me. Any good tips for conquering my fear or ways to exercise alone?

well if you want to excersise alone you can run on a tread mill in your basement (if you have one) or if you dont have a tread mill and cant afford one you can rent one just so you can get back into shape. It is kind of odd that you dont want your parents to see you. there is probably no way of ensuring that they dont see you at all. if they do sneak a peek of you exersising they arent going to make fun of you or anything. they are your parents! most likely they would be proud that you are dedicated to getting fit. and if they do see you its not like they are going to stare at you while your exersising. Its really hard to conquer a fear but think about it this way, if you run in public and stuff you will be conquering your fear and getting fit at the same time. dont worry about what other people think.

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my friend likes this guy and they both act like there going out. But they both wont admit that they like eachother. how can i find out if they like eachother or not?

you sound like you have your nose in their buisness a little too much.if they act like they are going out they obviously like eachother. its not a big deal. they want to go at their own pace. they will most likely admit to "liking" eachother when they are ready.

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im way confused right now. my 8th grade year is almost up and me and my frineds are driftin apart because of me. i really like this guy that my friend likes but we never had a problem with it. now all i do is talk to him because he likes to flrt with me a lot and so i kinda leave my friends so i can only talk to him. now there kinda driftin apert from me. i no its my falt and i feel really bad. i just really like this guy and i like the kinda attention he gives me. i dont want to not be friends with my other friends i just dont no wat to do because i cant stop flirtin with that one guy i cant do it i like the attention to much. what should i do.

their jealous. you arent making your friend feel any better by bragging about how the guy she likes flirts with you. your kinda rubbing it in her face. i wouldnt feel too good if i was her either. you need to talk to her about it. friendships are more important than relationships.

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me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt use rubber and im only 14 he got me pregnet what do i tell my parents?

well i dont know how your parents would respond to something like that. chances are you are going to be alot more comfortable talking to your mom about it. hopefully she will support you.

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my friends mom is lets say not the nicest person in the world. my friend comes into school with bruses (not big ones but they shoulden't be there in the first place) and fingernail marks on her. i ask her and she just says her mom and her got in an argument, and not to worry, but i do. i really want to help her but i don't know what to do. please help

Thats crazy. she shouldnt be treated like that. you need to tell someone before she gets seriously hurt.

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ok so i have this bf for about 3 months...he is being mean to me..in the halls he says break up with me jokingly n tells me he would rather hang with his frinds to go airsofting than hang with me...i really like him still n all but he doesnt care about me like i think a boyfriend should...should i talk to him maybe he will change or should i dumb him...my guy friend has said to me that my bf doesnt care about me n that he is being an ***hole towards me.im confused b\c i still really like him n if i break up with him i might regret it...im confused on what to do..

hey
it seems like this guy is a real jerk. theres plenty of other guys out there that will treat you right. it seems like your current boyfriend is just putting you down. so he has control over something. this control would be your feelings. im sure you will have some regrets about dumping him. but nothing is going to change if you cling onto a guy like that.

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how do i change my password on AIM

at the top of your buddy list there is a button that says "my aim" click it. then theres a scroll down of buttons click edit options and then it will say "change password"

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I am a 13 year old girl and in 7th grade. I would describe my clothes style as preppy. However, the music I normally listen to is (in my opinion, I really don't know) far from preppy. I listen to bands like Green Day, The Killers, Linkin Park, and Evanesence (I don't think I spelled that right). I was just wondering if anyone thought this was weird. I can listen to some "preppy" music (a.k.a- stuff you would find on TRL) but most of it really bugs me, because it doesn't soud like they are the people singing. Again, does anyone think that this is odd? Sorry for the length, but I was just wondering! Thanks in advance to all that reply!

well i hate to say this but "preppy" is not a type of music. trl doesnt play "preppy" music it has some of the bands you said you liked on the countdown all the time. Prep is a label not music. please dont confuse the two. and no it is not odd you can listen to whatever music you want.

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my ex is being such an ass. i try to be nice to him so he would leave me alone, but every time i think thing are ok i hear that he is saying nasty things about me. i beleaved him the first 2 times he said he did not say anything but not it turning into "the little boy who cried wolf". and now he wants to get with my best friend! i just wish he would fall off the face of the earth!
i have been trying not so talk to or about him and it just makes it worse! what should i do??????

it sounds like if you dont do something about this guy the situation is going to get worse than it already is. you should have a SERIOUS talk with him and tell him that you dont want to be mean or anything but he is really invading your life style.

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first of all, i apologize for the misspelling of 'skating', and the general idiotic appearance of the title. but it worked, didn't it? you came in here to correct me! :P

i am a 16 year-old rookie skater (female) who can't ollie yet.

i was at the skateboard-city.com forums, and this guy posts a rather mean post about how most of the girls that skate are posers, who skate to try to get with 'skater boys', or to get the whole 'skater punk rock' look.

whe someone calls you a poser, the first reaction is to deny it. so of course all of the female skaters on that site protested, but it made ME wonder...

am i a poser? i wish i could say no, but i honestly don't know. there are various reasons why i started to skate (about six mo. ago).

i can definitely say that i didn't start skateboarding because i thought the 'skater style' was hot or anything. i am a "girly-girl" however, i'm not so sure about the skater boy factor. what if i unconsciously DID start to skate because i wanted to meet skater boys? i know it's definitely true that i wanted to make some friends (regardless of gender) through skateboarding.

also the fact that skateboarding - just skateboarding around your town and on the streets itself looked "cool" was a part of the reason why i started. but is this necessarily bad? don't guys get inspired, after seeing a skating video, to do better because of how 'cool' it looks?

and, is it possible to start off as a poser (start skating to look cool or meet guys or whatever) but to change along the way?

sorry about the length. however, i'd really appreciate it if someone (hopefully a skater themselves) replied. thanks in advance. i rate.

hey
first off i wanna say that it is great that you are committed to skateboarding. i started one summer and i got pretty good but it slipped away.
about the whole poser or not poser situation. you are going to have to go through that kind of stuff if you are really into skating. you are a beginner and your obviously not going to be that good yet. i used to go to the skate park and i would ask people to help me learn to ollie and drop in on the half pipe and stuff like that. people where always willing to help me and if anyone called me a poser i would brush it off. you have to accept that you dont get good over night.
People start skating for all kinds of reasons, either they want something to do in their spare time, their friends do it, or they like want to impress someone. its alright. i mean if you liek to skate you like to skate.
I personally hate the whole poser barrier. instead of helping newbs learn to skate the good skaters laugh in their faces and call them posers.
And about that guy in the chat. he most likely said the whole poser thing because there arent many girl skaters out there. i guess they think its a guy sport and girls are intruding. dont listen to people like that. im trying to skate again and im sure people are gonna say things but im just going to have to deal with it if i wanna get good at it again.

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um hi, ok rite to the point. well im not a fat person but i have this bulge in my stomach and its just in that one area. its like fat but thats the only place you see it. im petite. ive tried everything situps pushups running dieting but nothing seema to work.
CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!!!

i have no idea what kind of "buldge" you are talking about. but what im getting from this is that what ever it is it has nothing to do with dieting or excersise. maybe it has something to do with your health. i would see a doctor about it.

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i just started straightening my hair and when i straighten it its always frizzy and doesnt stay straight..i always see ppl with perfect straight silky hair and i wanna know how to get mine like that. please help!

you need to get the right products. use frizzys. its a great thumbs up product to get your hair "silky smooth" hah i sound like a comercial.

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I dont have normal nightmares like most people. My worst nightmares are falling down the stairs. Lame huh? So i'd just be stepping down these wooden stairs, and i'd hesitate on the last step, and fall. I always wake up with a fast heart beat. What does this mean???

hey
i can definitly relate to you. so it must be sort of normal to have recurring dreams. every night. no lie EVERY NIGHT i have a nightmare about waves. sometimes they are tall sometimes they are average. but i dont go one night without having a dream about a wave. i started having them a week before the tsunami occured and that really freaked me out. anyways thanks to your question i looked up some information about dreams that might help you out check out some of these websites:
http://www.lifetreks.com/lifetreks2/recurring.asp
http://www.som.org/1dreams/reruns.htm
They where acctually some form of help for me. i really hope you got all the information you need.

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sorry i didn't know where to put this so i just put it here .. well a few weeks ago i found out that i was pregnant. i decided that im going to have the baby but the problem is that i have an eating disorder. i know it's probably bad for the baby but i've been doing it for so long that i can't stop. Does anyone know how badly it can hurt the baby or what it can do to it?
14/f

o boy...well thats pretty bad. seeing how no nutrients or food gets to the baby it is likely that it could die. you should try and make an extra effort to eat because this baby's life is at stake.

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do you know where i can download full length female squirting movie?

for one you damn well better be joking around cuz thats GROSS ugh...what would make you think that i would know where a full length "squirting" movie is. i dont have a dick so i have no desire for those movies...perv

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Ok well im bi and my friend is freeking out about it and he is going to tell my parents and if they find out they will freek out and i dont know what to do cause he is really serious about this and i need help

tell him he doesnt need to get them involved. if he is a good friend he should listen to you instead of going off on his own and ruining your life.

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My friend's b-day party is on Saturday. I also have a very important softball practice that same day. They are both at the same time. I

well you can go to a little bit of softball practice and then go to her party.

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If u are trying to hint to your bf that u want him to kiss u, what are some good types of flirting to use to get the message across. I've tried things but they don't seem to work. Once I was heart broken becuz he pulled away when I was flirty. I'm so lost.

make up storys. say " o one time this boy kissed me in his clothset it was soo cute" or some lame story and then he will hopefully be motivated to find a cute approach to kissing you. or you can talk to him about. no stories or anything. tell him you dont see any romance in the relationship and you think the flame is dying (not in an i want to break up with you kind of way).

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I have a bad attitude about school and i cant change it. I have alot of missing math assingmets, i don want to do them: they are super hard. I hate school, I would rather laze around all day...

well you are admiting it to urself atleast you arent one of the people who doesnt recognise it. just get motivated. grades really matter.

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