I've made my mistakes, I have my faults, I've done my sins. I've been heart broken and have broken hearts as well. There's a lot I've seen, a lot I've heard, and a lot I've been through. I don't know everything but I have my opinions and if you ask me for adivce I will always try to help.
p.s. LOVE IS VILE!!
E-mail: vilelove@hotmail.com
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Age: 15
Member Since: August 19, 2005
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Last Update: February 5, 2007
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Okay so i was wandering...
what do you think about extensions?
do extensions come in only one color, i mean do they have extensions for people with highlights? how much is it around?
can you really tell a person has them?
are there different kinds of extensions, if so what do you suggest??
Thanks!! =0) (link)
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Hi. OK, I have actually had extensions so I think I can answer some of your questions... I think extensions are pretty cool because they aren't permanent (they usaully last for about 2 or 3 months, depending on how good you take care of them) and you don't damage your hair. No, extensions come in many lenghts and colors. I got blue extensions but they had pink ones, blonde ones, brown ones, black ones, even gray ones and green ones and in many colors, fantasy colors and natural colors. I got 8 extensions and paid a total of $20. Most people knew they were extensions but some people thought it was my real hair. ...If you're thinking of getting extensions I would suggest... well depends your hair coor. if you have dark black hair, I would suggest red. If you have light or blonde hair then I would suggest a honey brown or something just slightly darker but I don't know your taste. Have fun with it becasue as long as you like them then it's cool.
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i tried out for a play for the first time. i was so suprised when i actually started reading the poem we were supposed to recite because i actually felt more comfortable with people watching me and i wasnt nervous at all and i think i did good... then the director said "thats exactly what i wanted" or something like that. then, the next person up he said "see how jackie did it? :)" in a good way. does that mean i'll get a part in the play?? or is he just being nice??? (link)
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lol Being nice would have been "that's good". Even "see how Jackie did it" might have been bieng nice. But he said it was exactly what he wanted which means you will most likely get the part. Usually they say "that was very good. We'll post the results tomorrow. Do you have any questions?" Also, you feel confident and usually when you don't feel so good about how you did it is because you didn't do so good. But you feel you did pretty good so I really think you got the part. Also, he thinks you're talented. Congratulations!
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i really love acting and drama but i'm definitely not a good singer. i actually want to have some career in theater. i just need to know: do ALL auditions require you to sing? or do some just have you act? dont say you should take singing lessons because i dont believe its possible for you to sing better if you naturally are bad. (link)
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hi. lol, no you don't have to sing to act. If you try out of something like Chicago or Grease then yeah, you have to sing. But don't worry, if you really love acting and the theater you can be a great actor/actress and never have to sing or do a play (or movie or commercial in the future) with singing in it. If you're great at acting then you're good to go.
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does anyone know how you can get like auditions for movies and things like that? i live in michigan so i dont know.. ?? i REALLY want to be an actress. only i have no clue of knowing like auditions and things.. so only answere if you ACTUALLY know.. not just guesses.. thank you.. ill rate 5's!! (link)
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Hi. Yeah, acting is pretty cool, but I live in Los Angeles, CA. Are you going to high school or college or any school? If you are then you should find out if they have a drama class and/or a drama club. Even if they don't or you aren't going to school, find out (Like at the library or at the coffee shops where they read poetry and sing and perform skits) or at an activity center about a drama club. In the drama club they usually have people in the movie business or in the theatrical business coming over and looking for new talent all the time. Also, in visual arts and acting academies. Also, are there any studios around where you live? You should research if they have auditions for commercials or TV shows or something. And of course, going to theaters (not movie) and auditioning there. Good luck.
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I have always thought it would be a cool idea to have a movie theater that ran only horror movies. It would play new ones, old ones, all the classics (such as Rocky Horror Picture Show). I am just wondering what other people thought of this. Would anyone out there be interested in going to a horror theme theater (link)
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Hi. COOL!!! That idea sounds pretty cool. ....And it could be an old fashioned move theater... the ones where you watch the movie from your car (okay, I may have gotten carried away) As bloody awesome as that would be, however, I think for a horror theater to stay in business it would either have to be open (at least as a horror-oblytheater) only a month or two or three a year (and not in a row) so that people don't get bored of it. OR it would have to be 'haunted' and the whole place with a horror theme (the decoration and everything) that way it attratced tourists and it would be a place peopel went with their family or frineds or boyfriend or girlfriend every once in a while, but a lot of people would go. A 'haunted house' sort of theme would be a good idea, to have the staff workers dressed up scaring the people at the entrance and exit and people taking pictures with them and stuff. Anyway, your idea is pretty cool. I like it.
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ok so i sound like an idiot but i really look up to my science teacher not in some perverted way but shes always there for anyone and shes a great teacher. ok so ive been having a lot of problems with some of my ex best friends and their friends with threats and stuff... ive also been getting blocked calls and texts threating to spread rumors and that stuff do you think its a good idea to ask her advice on this? my friends think its a really good idea and theyre worried about it, they said that if i dont do it then they will because its really scary. but i dont want to sound like a loser and i dont know how to ask. please help! (link)
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Hi. Well what you are going through is pretty scary. ...How to ask for help? Well one thing you could do is ask her what she would do if she were in that situation. Though it is very likely she may suggest getting your parents or principal involved or talking to the kids therself or getting your parents and their parents to talk. I'm not telling you to discourage you from telling her. I am sure she will give you good advice and undersatnds you perfer to handle the situation yourself. However, whatever she suggests, it seems you can rely on her judgement since as a teacher and having been a student herself, she will know what shoukd be done, and what is and is not necessary. Maybe she'll just suggest you to talk to your friends. Whatever she suggests you know she only wants what is best for you and besides, a suggestion can't hurt. It's good that you talk to someone that you can trust and understands you and will understand the situation. Oh, and you won't look like a loser. You will look like a real person that asks for help because in the real world people sometimes have problems and if they are mature enough they ask for help.
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i been with my gf for about 3 months, we talked for about 4 months befor getting together. we only have communication by phone every day since we don't see each other, we only see each other on week-ends. in the 2nd month of our relationship we had sex (she was a virgin). since than we mostly spend our week-ends having sex but week days talking serious of our daily lifes. she says she loves me but i think i been come an obsession for her. what can it be obsession or love? (link)
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Hi. ...Well does she call you all the time and leave you hundred of messages and gets angry when she doesn't reach you? Does she say she would die or kill herself if you ever leave her? Or kill the girl you would leave her for? Is she too jealous or controlling or posessive? If so, then maybe it is obsession. Another question that may be helpful is: was it her idea to have sex or yours? If it was hers and she was very insistant and she is very jeaous or controlling or calls you 20 times a day then it is obsession. Otherwise she loves you or really cares about you and likes youb a lot and thinks she loves you or loves you in someways but isn't in love with you. If you were her first then she will want to be close to you and talk to you and spend as much reasonable time with you as she can because she really cares about you, and that doesn't mean she is obsessed with you rather than she has become obsessed with you and doesn't love you.
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alright this question may sound a bit cliche,
but does anyone have any suggestions on ways to
keep your mind off of a breakup? or anyways
to try to make me feel better.
i just got over a 6month relationship.
and it's hard, i know it wasn't that long,
and we'll most likely never date again.
but ive been feeling horrible. and i cant live
my life all depressed and what not.
any suggestions?
cause im sure 578685797834 people have
gone through the same thing, thanks.=] (link)
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Hi. Yes, we have gone through it. People are supposed to go through it (generally speaking) usually more than once or twice in their whole life. ...6 months IS a long time. Sure, there have been longer but that doesn't matter. Your relationship lasted 6 months. You know what made me feel better when my 1st (so far only) love and I broke up? (sure, it was temporary but it heled a lot and it wasn't unhealthy) Shopping. The next day I went shopping with my cousins. I feel sad but not so alone and I did have fun. I thought about ME, what I wanted, whether it was a new skirt or happiness. So eat ice cream, shop, watch movies, watch funny shows (they help like aspirin. they work fast. i'm not saying the pain won't come back later but the goal is to get through it until one day you won't have to tell yourself it'll be okay... you really will be okay). If there are any unressolved issues I suggest you get closure. That best way is to talk to your ex, but the most important thing is just to have closure, whether it is by analyzing it (just don't over do it to the point you make yourself sad and do it when you are thnking logically and reaslistically) or getting a friend to talk to your ex. Another thing, while you feel crappy its best to keep a distance from your ex. You can be friends AFTER you're OVER it.
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Okay, so yesterday there was this dance thing at school. Me, my friends, and my [boyfriend that nobody knew was my boyfriend] were hanging out and stuff. So it was the last song of the dance, the slow dance. Everyone knew that joe (my boyfriend) liked me & stuff [but they didn't know we were going out]. So they were like "you get joe, I'll get alyssa(me)!" They forced his hand on my shoulders and stuff and I hugged him (we're shy.)
and then the next day, Elena (the one that pretty much made us hug) said that she's gonna tell everyone in the school what we did at the dance. I mean, we hugged? wow. Why did you think shes doing this? (link)
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l.o.l. You're right "wow". ...Hmm... did you do anything that upset her? I think she might just be ressentful that the boy you like likes you back and you are actually together. Unless she was just messing around, but if she sounded like she meant it then she might be ressentful and jealous because maybe the guy she likes doesn't like her back or hasn't asked her out or maybe she's having problems with her boyfriend (if she has one). And since you're shy she probably expected to have a boyfriend before you did, or to at least fix you up but you ended up with him on your own. Also, since you're shy and a private person, she thinks it will upset you and that will make her feel better since she as no one.
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Okay, So my mom is letting me re do my room. I have three colors i would rlea ylike to put into my room.. pink, gray, black. I can do anything tha ti want so thats not an issue. Its just coming up with designs. My momwanted to do circles and i wanted ot do stripes. Im a 14 year old girl. I'm sorda girly but a totaly pink room would get old to quick. Anyways, my mom already did my room onc ebefore when i first got the roo and she said that shes never redooing it again so i have to be able to live in thsi room while being 14 15 16 17 and maybe 18. So please, any ideas, pictures, url, would be helpful. Any ideas where i like them or not will get a 5. If you say somthing stupid like pant it pink then no. I want it diffrent. I dont wnat it just one simple color. My rooms fairly big so i can do anything to it. Pleaseeee help!!!
Much love
Meg. (link)
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I love poka dots. Polka dots... polkadots... however it is spelled. Anyway. You can paint the room either black, gray, or pink and add polka dots either black, gray, or pink. Or, for example, you can pain two walls facing eachother black with pink polka dots and the other two walls facing eachother pink with black polka dots. If there is a closet or the door frame or the door you can pain it gray. OR you can paint a wall with stripes, one with circles, one with spots (to make ti look artsy), and one with... shapes or one color or plaid or something.
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I have a notion to get off topic so I'm sorry.
Okay My name is Samantha a I like a guy named Eric he lives down the road from me and we ride 4wheelers together I am a tomboy but still a girly girly so I can be either....anyway about 2 weeks ago eric and I cuddled, ( we're not dating.) and as far as cuddling, layed beside each other held hands and fall asleep, and talk for hours. no kissy crap. I really really Love eric and he likes a girl named leah she is in Ld and ain't that smart but I'm not mean,,,,so that night about cuddling I left and went in my room and text msg, him and said Eric, i love you and I'm not regretting this I know it's strange. So time passed and he texted me back, and said I don't like you like that. Then we didn't talk for about a week and he finally texted me again. and at night we stayed up til 4 am on a school night just talking about anything. One time he said what do you like about me and I said when I'm in your arms I feel safe and when I'm not I feel like I'm falling. At school Eric won't talk to me but at home he is my best friend and sometimes i feel like he likes me alot and is afraid to loose me but wants to be the popular man...he's a 10th grader and I'm a 9th grader, and his friends are more in dating older girls probably for some booty.lol anyway eric will be so nice and flirty....and the night of the cuddling thing he says he regrets and didn't like it but if he didn't wouldn't he had told me?? I've been telling my friends what he says to me and they say he's just play'n me....and now for a week he's not talked to me. is he playing me?? Should I move on?? What should I do? some of my friend say never give up and use my favorite quote against me "don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game." I really do love eric and wanna spend the rest of my life with him and how often does a 15 year old know that?? Please tell me your advise. (link)
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Hi. ...I can relate to what your saying. I'm 15 too and I think so many other girls our age can as well. ...From my experience with guys I have realized sometimes they are sooo freaken sweet and cute that they end up leading us on... and sometimes they don't mean to do it. They don't want to HURT us... they just naturally like flirting with pretty girls... even if they don't want to be 'romantically envolved' with them. And they can be pretty obvlivious and dumb to the fact that they are leading us on by being so flirty because it is those moments that we look foward to and we end up liking them a lot. Yet, once they KNOW we like them, even if they don't like us back, even if they didn't mean to lead us on, they use our liking them to flatter themselves and boast their confidence. t's really not a guy thing, but a human thing. As much as I hate to say it I've done it wiht guys who liked me but I only liked them as friends. When I felt down or bored or whatever, it was always nice to KNOW that somebody thought I was pretty. Soebody thought I was funny. Somebody liked me, really liked me. ...Now I can't completely blame guys for being that way. ...Maybe Eric doesn't mean to 'play' you... but in the end, in a way he is. But he DID tell you he likes Leah, which means no matter hor carried away he gets with flirting with you he has already made things clear with ehre he stands. He only likes yiu as a friend. Maybe that will change one day but I don't think you should spend so many tiem depending on it to change because it may not chnage. As a 15 year old girl (16 in two weeks) who has gone through what you're going through more than once, I suggest that you move on. As for you loving him and wanting to spend the rest of your life with him... you're wrong, a lot of 15 year old girls think they 'know' that... I think it's the hormones that make us think and talk this way and fall so deeply in infatuation (not love, but infatuation... lust). Moving on is hard, especially because of how strong your feelings for him are. That's why I think you should start avoiding him. Believe me, it works. I'm not saying stop talking to him, just avoid him. Don't spend so much time with him. DON'T talk to him until 4 a.m., ESPEICALLY on a school day. For one thing (and don't worry, I'm not going to say because you should be rested for school) you'll just get your hopes up over nothing. Also, he won't use you to make himself feel better about himself anymore. he'll see you have a life and your priorities. It's a self-respect and dignity thing. About your friends and you not wanting to 'give you'. You're not giving up... you tried. And it's good you tried. It's good you told him how you felt. It makes it eassier for the next one (there is a next one, there always will be... even when you think the world ran out of next ones). After you tried all you could it's the other person's choice. Once they have made their choice, if their choice is not to be with you, you make YOUR choice. Either to stay and loose time moving on and finding someone better and having your hopes up for something that you'll most likely never have, or going home and feeling sad about it until one day you don't feel sad about it and eventually foind somebody else that DOES return your feelings. ...You played the game already... and deep down you probably know that. It's time to go home, get rest, and start over and do it all again tomorrow (another metaphor, by this I mean make yourself get over him, go through the healing proccess, and then someday, maybe soon or maybe not so soon, fall in like with someone else).
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16/F,This guy at my school told my best friend that he still likes me and he didn't know how he could tell me how he felt. He went to my french teacher's concert so he could see me there but I didn't show up and he was upset. So he sent me a message on myspace telling me how he felt. My best friend told me that he was keeping this to himself for three years. Today at the pep rally he wouldn't stop staring at me and his friend kept pointing at me. The thing is that I'm really confused and I feel the same way too. but I'm scared to face him. I seriously don't know why I'm afraid and how can I get over my fear? (link)
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Hi! ...Well, I think you're either nervous or you're afraid he may be a stalker (l.o.l.) Three years is a looong time... So you can be nervous because it's something scary. Someone likes you THAT MUCH and THAT LONG... it's like looking at something so beauitful but fragile (l.o.l. funny counry metaphor, i know) You want to grab down and take it... but what if it breaks? What I'm saying is that when my ex told me he wanted to get back with me I was scared. I loved him... and I didn't think he still loved me until he told me. But once he did I was scared that once I got with him something would happen and that would just go away. That can be why you're scared... But if that's not why then I ask this: Have you ever had a boyfriend? If you haven't then maybe that's why. ...Or maybe you've been hurt in the past. I don't know you so I'm afarid I can't just tell you "this is what you're afarid of..." so I hope you think about what I said. What you should do to over come your fear? (whatever it may be) Well its more than obvious that this boy really really likes you... If you feel the same way just think this: It's scaries to miss out on life than to take a risk. If you and him get in a relationship you will be risking things, becauise there is a possibility it doesn't go well. But he likes you and you KNOW he LIKES you (it's not just a rumor or you THINKING he likes you) and you like him back. If you let it go and he eventuaally moves on that will hurt much longer than if you were to go for it and it didn't work out. But he really REALLY likes you so I think it'll work out. ...Talk to him. Start saying hi. Asking how he is or how is day has been or what his weekend plans or or what his favorite band is. Whatever. It doesn't have to be flirty or anything. Just talk. Then let him do the asking out.
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well im now 17 and well its been at least two years since i moved in with my mum my parents divorce is still going on and well i think my childhood home is going to be sold and to be honest im really sad and i want to spend some time in it on my own my room is just as i left it with everything still in it my brother said its as though im still living there sometimes i get really down and i want to go home but i stay because i want to keep my mum happy although the other part of me says i want to go home and have my own room not sharing with my mum. But my dad ran off with a women from my primary school and he never contacted me since i left im not sure what to do? can someone please advice me i mean my mum means everything to me. Thank you (link)
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I am afraid you are going to have to let go. I'm sorry and please don't hate me for saying it but unfortunately life has taken you in a different direction and although it may make you unhappy and it will take time but you will have to make yourself less and less sad everyday and be stronger and stronger and look foward, not back. I understand it was the house where you spent your childhood in and I would want to spend time on it myself... but even if you did it wouldn't change your life. Your parents would still be divorced, the fact that your dad ran off wouldn't change, and you wouldn't get back your childhood. Just stay strong for yourself and your mom. For now you have to heal from these emotional wounds and work on having a better tomorrow. ...It's just a house. I understand it represents a part of your life but due to the circumstances I think it's best if you let it go. If it DOES getn sold then I would recommend forgetting about it for a long time and someday when you are older and feel better about your current situation find out what happened to the house. Whoever buys it will eventually move out from it. I;m not saying buy it when you're older, just go see it. Sure, your room won't be there with your things... but your childhood memories will still be. If you were to tell your mother you want to go spend time there on your own I think it would upset her, and its understandable. Your dad hasn't kept in touch and your mother is trying to move on with her life. It is hard to let go of the past but at this point it is best to try to be as strong as possible and move on with your life.
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i have to read a book for english and i cant decide on what to do.
the only main requirements are that it has to be atleast 200 pages (no more than 300 please) and at our reading leve (10th grade)
my favorite book is the giver but i cannot read that because it is too short and i like books along that line.
i like more true to life kind of books with relatable characters and i dislike things like harry potter and lord of the rings
any suggestions? please if you name a book give me a little background info on it! (link)
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"Homecoming" by Cynthia Void. I don't remember how many pages it has but I think it is a long book but it's worth it. It probably has between 200 and 300 though (maybe, just maybe even 320 or 350). It's really interesting and you won't be able to put it down. It's definitely at a high school level. It's a series but Homecoming is the first one and by itself its a really onteresting story. Its sooo interesting that it was made into a TV series (I never saw it but the books were awesome).
"Homecoming" is about four brothers and sisters (two boys and two girls) that are left abandoned in their car in a srange city by their mom who is mentally ill. The story is basically about their journey to their aunt's house (they dont want the police to find them and seperate them) and then to their grandmother's house on their own. But they have to walk and take boat rides and car rides across the country and it's not those boring journey geographic crap books. It's really interesting and I loved it! The four brothers and sisters are the mai characters but along the way they meet many characters and make realizations about their mom, why she abadnonded them, their estranged father, and themselves.
I HIGHLY recommend "Homecoming". You'll love it!
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does anyone here has some good tips how to get over a guy you really really love but just cant take this anymore???????? i really dont know what to do how can i get over him??? PLEASE HELP!!! i'll rate high for good advice (link)
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Aww, I've been there! Well if he was your first love then don't expect it to be easy. If you guys are friends (even if you're not) you may want to talk with him about it. That gives you closure, so you don't 'wonder' anything. When you're sad just let it out. But don't let yourself think of him too much. Thinking sad thoughts over and over will only bring you pain and will undo your recovery. When you find yourself drifting into thoughts of him (memories and stuff) just keep yourself busy and think of something else. It's best if you tried to keep a distance from him for now (and until you get over him). Seeing your ex around so much can be painful but if you don't see him as much you think less of him, don't have so many memories of seeing him around, get more distracted, and move on much faster. Just keep yourself busy and distratced with school (yes, studying and joining clubs and walking around campus to look for really cute guys), your friends (talk to them or the one or ones you really trust about how you feel, when you feel sad, when you feel angry, when you feel it's not fair. letting it out of your system and saying GRR! helps), and maybe even take up a hobbie like writing or painting so you can also let your feelings out in an artistic manner. Well my best wishes to you, from one sympathetic broken heart to the other... (that sounds depressing lol. but hearts DO heal. it's human nature. 'time heals everything'.)
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My boyfriend and I have been together for what seems like forever. We love each other very much. I was thinking about doing something very special for him. I just dont know what to do! Does anyone have any ideas? Gifts, outtings, surprises, etc.. I'm up for anything besides sex.
Thank you! (link)
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Hey. Firts of all, that's very cute. Congratulations to you two. Anyway. Well you can get him a chocolate bar every once in a while and write him love letters when he least expects it (the little things can be very special). I wrote a boyfriend I had poetry. You can do that. They usually write you back and it's cute, especially when they don't really know how to write poetry but they really like you that they try anyway, l.o.l. the little things with thought count most. Just be sweet and nice to him.
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In a few weeks, I will be autitioning for my school's talent show. I want to sing. I want a sing a song sung by a female. But here's the catch. I want it to be an oldie's song. Like a classic that everyone knows. Any advice on what song to sing? (link)
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Hi. You know what would be really cool? "Stop, In The Name of Love" by Diana Ross and the Supremes. They have lots of other great songs you could also do (like "Baby Love" and "Breath Taking Heartbreaking Kind of Guy" , etc.) but "Stop In The Name of Love" is pretty cool and I'm sure everyone's heard it once or twice.
You know what other song would be cool? "Girls Just Want to Have Fun" (i'm not sure who sings it though).
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I have this secret that I haven't told one of my really good friends yet (lets call her Ruby). It's about this boy I like I have told four other people, and three of them are my other really good freinds. Well I don't want to tell Ruby because she doesn't have much experience with boys AT ALL and she wouldn't get it like my other freinds would. Should I tell her? Because if she knew I told these other girls before her she would be mad. So bottom line, Should I tell her? Even though I don't want to? Would you personally be mad if you were Ruby? (link)
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Hey. Don't tell Ruby. You don't seem to want to tell her and hey, you don't OWE it to her to tell her. And since she doesn't have any experience with boys then she probably won't understand or might even say something that can upset you (it's happened to me when i talked about a guy with a friend that had never had a boyfriend). If she ever did find otus he can't be angry at you because like I said, you don't owe her to tell her. It's your life and what goes on and what you tell and who you tell it to is your business.
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okay stright to the point! im 14/f
my brother has done some pretty bad things to me! he hasnt all the way raped me! but done enough to bother me and it depress me! i also have a bad home life with like my dad.. i've talk to a close teacher about it. he got me to talk to the conslor..which made me talk to the school social worker! i hated tlaking to her! i told my teacher who i was close with that i didnt want to ever talk to her again! he promised me he wouldnt make me do anything i didnt want to! well the other day i was updating him because he told me to when ever i needed to! i told him i rather not have him tell the conslor so i wouldnt have to talk to the socail woker! he sad he wouldnt! but he ended up tellin anyways!.. so then i had to sit in a room with the social worker again!! after he told i made me feel so bad.. ike i dont want to hate him! he was the only one i could trust! so after school i went up to him and said why did you tell! he said he had to! so i looked at him and walked away1 he didnt bother to say anything else!
and now im confused. now i dont know if i can trust him or if he even cares about this! please someone what do i do now??? (link)
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Hi. I understand you probably feel betrayed by your teacher, especially since he was the only person who felt you could trust when you had absolutely no one. I know you don't like him telling your personal business to your counselor and you feel betrayed and you may even dislike him now. I'm not trying to tell you that you should like it or that you shouldn't be mad (anger is a human emotion and is okay as long as it stays a human emotion until your forget about it and not turn into an action of revenge or ressentment). However, even if you feel angry at your teacher right now, at least aknowledge that him telling your counselor that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or wants to hurt you. Quite the opposite, actually. He was worried about you. And also, I don't know what you told your teacher, but there is a sort of 'confidentiality policy' counselors and therapists have. They won't tell anyone what you tell them UNLESS it involves someone hurting you or you hurting or planning to hurt somebody else or yourself. Now teachers don't get that policy cause their job is different, so they are likelier to tell a counselor (actually it is their job to telll the school counselor) if there is ANY thing that can mean something isn't right, whether at home or school or where ever. I don't think your teacher planned on telling the counselor and he did want to keep his promise to you, however, what you told him probably made him worry and he felt that he should tell the counselor because he felt it would do you more good than bad.
Your teacher obviously cares about you very much and in a few years from now you'll see that clearer. I think you can trust him. He's worried about you and his intention is to help you and do what's best for you, even if you don't realize it's best for you yet. Well good luck. And sorry that your teacher told, ocne my friend told something to a school staff person who told the school counselor and... it wasn't pretty.
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Okay, so I broke up with a guy about three months ago. The breakup went prettu well, considering, and we talked a couple of days after it, but once, we ended up fighting and he really upset me. Some things he wrote in a journal, or said, or whatever, kinda scared me.
Everyone I talked to told me to give him three months or so away from me, not to contact him for awhile, but I see him on line every so often and I want to talk to him. I'm friends with all of my exes, and I want to keep that up. I liked him as a person, not just as a boyfriend.
The thing is, he was really kind of heartbroken. I don't want to hurt him again, but I want to talk to him. I want to see if he's okay, I guess. I don't even really have anything to say to him.
Also, like a week after we broke up, he asked me if I had a boyfriend (I didn't then, but now I do), and I have a feeling he'd ask again, and I don't want to tell him, but I don't want to lie either. That's not really my question, though.
I guess I want to know what do you think I should do.
Should I go with my impulses and talk to him even though I don't really have anything to say? Or should I wait 'til he contacts me? His aim is to forget "we" ever happened, so if I do that, he won't.
Proper spelling and grammar is appreciated, thanks. (link)
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Hey. It's cool that you want to be friends with all of your exes and like him as a person. However, you mentioned he was heartbroken. If you try to talk to him now he might get his hopes up and then have them shattered and then sort of 'hate' you and this cycle an go on and on (it's happened to me with this one guy who didn't seem to get over me). Either that or he won't want to talk to you at all or will ignore you or be kind of rude. You may have 'impulsives' to talk to him but I think you should give him his time and space. It's the best way for him to get through the break up and move on, and maybe then and only then can you guys be ver be actual friends. If he cares about you as a person when he's gotten over you 'romantically' (l.o.l.) he'll come to you to talk and hang out or whatever, but just as friends. If you see him it's okay to say hi and stuff (it'll show him that you're open to being friends with him) and if he approaches you and wants to talk, then go for it. But don't IM him (really, don't, it's very impersonal and if he wants to talk to you online he can send you a message). Well good luck and don't worry, he'll come around. Just be patient.
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