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Love stinks
I have a notion to get off topic so I'm sorry.
Okay My name is Samantha a I like a guy named Eric he lives down the road from me and we ride 4wheelers together I am a tomboy but still a girly girly so I can be either....anyway about 2 weeks ago eric and I cuddled, ( we're not dating.) and as far as cuddling, layed beside each other held hands and fall asleep, and talk for hours. no kissy crap. I really really Love eric and he likes a girl named leah she is in Ld and ain't that smart but I'm not mean,,,,so that night about cuddling I left and went in my room and text msg, him and said Eric, i love you and I'm not regretting this I know it's strange. So time passed and he texted me back, and said I don't like you like that. Then we didn't talk for about a week and he finally texted me again. and at night we stayed up til 4 am on a school night just talking about anything. One time he said what do you like about me and I said when I'm in your arms I feel safe and when I'm not I feel like I'm falling. At school Eric won't talk to me but at home he is my best friend and sometimes i feel like he likes me alot and is afraid to loose me but wants to be the popular man...he's a 10th grader and I'm a 9th grader, and his friends are more in dating older girls probably for some booty.lol anyway eric will be so nice and flirty....and the night of the cuddling thing he says he regrets and didn't like it but if he didn't wouldn't he had told me?? I've been telling my friends what he says to me and they say he's just play'n me....and now for a week he's not talked to me. is he playing me?? Should I move on?? What should I do? some of my friend say never give up and use my favorite quote against me "don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game." I really do love eric and wanna spend the rest of my life with him and how often does a 15 year old know that?? Please tell me your advise.
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Hi. ...I can relate to what your saying. I'm 15 too and I think so many other girls our age can as well. ...From my experience with guys I have realized sometimes they are sooo freaken sweet and cute that they end up leading us on... and sometimes they don't mean to do it. They don't want to HURT us... they just naturally like flirting with pretty girls... even if they don't want to be 'romantically envolved' with them. And they can be pretty obvlivious and dumb to the fact that they are leading us on by being so flirty because it is those moments that we look foward to and we end up liking them a lot. Yet, once they KNOW we like them, even if they don't like us back, even if they didn't mean to lead us on, they use our liking them to flatter themselves and boast their confidence. t's really not a guy thing, but a human thing. As much as I hate to say it I've done it wiht guys who liked me but I only liked them as friends. When I felt down or bored or whatever, it was always nice to KNOW that somebody thought I was pretty. Soebody thought I was funny. Somebody liked me, really liked me. ...Now I can't completely blame guys for being that way. ...Maybe Eric doesn't mean to 'play' you... but in the end, in a way he is. But he DID tell you he likes Leah, which means no matter hor carried away he gets with flirting with you he has already made things clear with ehre he stands. He only likes yiu as a friend. Maybe that will change one day but I don't think you should spend so many tiem depending on it to change because it may not chnage. As a 15 year old girl (16 in two weeks) who has gone through what you're going through more than once, I suggest that you move on. As for you loving him and wanting to spend the rest of your life with him... you're wrong, a lot of 15 year old girls think they 'know' that... I think it's the hormones that make us think and talk this way and fall so deeply in infatuation (not love, but infatuation... lust). Moving on is hard, especially because of how strong your feelings for him are. That's why I think you should start avoiding him. Believe me, it works. I'm not saying stop talking to him, just avoid him. Don't spend so much time with him. DON'T talk to him until 4 a.m., ESPEICALLY on a school day. For one thing (and don't worry, I'm not going to say because you should be rested for school) you'll just get your hopes up over nothing. Also, he won't use you to make himself feel better about himself anymore. he'll see you have a life and your priorities. It's a self-respect and dignity thing. About your friends and you not wanting to 'give you'. You're not giving up... you tried. And it's good you tried. It's good you told him how you felt. It makes it eassier for the next one (there is a next one, there always will be... even when you think the world ran out of next ones). After you tried all you could it's the other person's choice. Once they have made their choice, if their choice is not to be with you, you make YOUR choice. Either to stay and loose time moving on and finding someone better and having your hopes up for something that you'll most likely never have, or going home and feeling sad about it until one day you don't feel sad about it and eventually foind somebody else that DOES return your feelings. ...You played the game already... and deep down you probably know that. It's time to go home, get rest, and start over and do it all again tomorrow (another metaphor, by this I mean make yourself get over him, go through the healing proccess, and then someday, maybe soon or maybe not so soon, fall in like with someone else).
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I don't think hes playing you. He has told you how he feels you just aren't hearing him. That is understandable since you like him so much.
I think he wants to be just friends. You may be making it hard for him to do that since he knows you feel more for him than he does for you. That would explain his staying away at times.
If he were playing you he would be wanting more than cuddling. Since he doesn't then I don't think he is.
I don't think you need to necessarily move on. You can remain friends. I do think you need to stop talking about how much you love him when you are around him though. You may just run him off. :)
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