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Okay my friend and i (he's a guy) are not really talking! Because I have been ignoring him, and supposedly he isn't mad at me! I found out he is sick today and lives right up the street from me! I was wondering should i go up the street to give him some chickensoup or pasta? Or should I even go up there to see him?! Would it be too random?!
No, I don't think it would be too random. Friends go through rough times--by coming over, you're showing him you care about him. Sort of like an apology. Good luck =)
okay i cant handle this anymore. how do you deal with parents that are ALWAYS fighting? i mean they wont separate they talked about it but they wont and it's beginning to tick me off because they will be good one day and then the next you know it they are fighting and it sickens me! i cant handle it anymore i feel like punching them out. please help. THANKS!
I know how you feel. Unfortunately, there isn't really a lot you can do about it, other than simply talking to your parents. Maybe, if you express how you feel to them, they'll make efforts not to fight around you. Sorry if I wasn't much help, but good luck.
do u finger a girl for?
until she has an orgasm...that, or tells you to stop, lol.
I have a pretty big emergancy...
My boyfriend gave me a hicky like 30 minutes ago and I was wondering if theres ANYWAY to help speed the process of it disapearing?
please help if my parents see this then i'll get killed!
This really isn't what you want to hear, but I don't think there's any effective way to get rid of them other than just giving it time to go away. You CAN cover them up though, as to hide it from your parents lol. foundation, concealer, powder...it'll do the trick. Just blend it so it isn't obvious. Er, good luck! =/
(...& sorry, but that ice thing doesn't work really..)
theres this guy, grant. ive known him for 5 or 6 years. and ive like him for a long time...over a year. and according to his best friend, he likes me too. but the problem is we live about an hour or so away, and we only see each other a few timesa month. should i just forget about him and move on, or...i dont know.
Well, there are a bunch of factors that come into play with this. First of all, how possible is it to see him (more than you already do)? I mean, if neither of you can drive and your parents aren't willing, it might be a little difficult. But I'd say the major thing you need to consider is simple..is he worth it to you? If you want to be with this guy, then talk to him. You might be able to work something out =)Some long distance relationships CAN work. Good luck!
should i do something special for him (my crush) for christmas? He's the heavy metal type who likes metillica, atreyu and stuff! will it show i'm desperate?
If you're friends, then yeah, get him something! It doesn't come off as desperate. However, if you don't really know him, then it might be sort of weird to just randomly give him a gift. Just do something little. Cookies, maybe?
Today at lunch my boyfriend of three and a half months broke up with me. I was very upset and cried for the rest of lunch, when I came home I sat around crying. Then, my friends came round and we all went to my other friend's house. I soon cheered up and realised that I was better off without him. Later on, most people left and we went to my house. After everyone had gone home, it was just me and one of my best friends (male.) He said he had to go home so we hugged and then he asked if I was okay. I told him I was and then he said: "Anything I do in the next minute is a mistake and doesn't mean I fancy you." Then we started making out. I don't understand, I know it was a total mistake but things are going to be really strange now. I have no idea whatsoever why I did it. What should I do? He's my best friend.
Aw, I'm sorry about your boyfriend. Just remember that feeling of how you were better off without him...Anyway, I think your question was more about what to do about your friend. If he doesn't feel anything, and you know it was a mistake, then just let it pass. You did it because you were feeling emotionally distressed, and we all make mistakes when we're in that state. Talk to your friend--it sounds like he feels the same way you do about not wanting it to develop into anything more. It'll be awkward for awhile, but it should probably blow over.
My friend gave him (my crush) my cell number and he hasn't called yet! he has a friend who lives close to me and said that he wants to hang out sometime! what does this mean?
Guys don't analyze things like girls do...it probably doesn't mean ANYTHING that he hasn't called you yet, other than just the plain and simple he hasn't gotten around to it! Don't worry yourself about it. If his friend says he wants to hang out, take him up on the offer! Good luck.
what should i do to get this boy to like me? i am 13 and a female.
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he looks at me constantly and is always talking to me. he likes me as a friend and always notices if i'm not there.."
That being the case, are you sure he doesn't like you ask more than a friend? It's worth talking to him about. As far as your initial question goes, I'm going to have to go with nothing. If he doesn't like you for who you are, then it isn't worth it. NEVER change who you are for a guy. You'll only regret it later. This guy obviously likes you the way you are (whether it be as a girlfriend or a friend), so just give it time for the relationship to grow and strengthen. Good luck =)
ok so im going to see my bf in like a week and i want to look good but my skin tone is all messed up and i want to use sunless tanning stuff does it actually work if so which one works the best? another thing what if i dont like how it looks am i just stuck with it?
I've only ever used it once (after that I was too lazy to reapply it when it went away, heh), but I know several people who use that stuff. It works, IF you do it right. Follow the directions exactly. Exfoliate before you do it, too--that's supposed to help. And yes, you're stuck with it for awhile, but it fades after awhile (it isn't permanent, in other words). Good luck.
ok this guy at my skool has a gurlfriend..hes beeen with her for 9months...but he TOTALLY flirts me with me...i flirt back because i really like him...we sat next to eachother in english and we recently moved seats...he sits like 2 rows away from me and when he walks in he always comes over to my desk and plays with my hand or something...he always gives me candy and stuff and he just does little stuff like that and today i gave him a hug after class bc i wont se him for 2 weeks and he like kept his hand on my waist for soo long....he tells me im pretty and stuff to....he does more stuff but yea...what do i do about it??
If I were you, I would just leave this one alone. Sorry, but he obviously has something with this girl if they've been dating for 9 months. If you interfere, even thought it may work at first, you never know what will happen later on (like him getting back with his ex). It may be one of those things where he doesn't realize what he has until he loses it (in reference to his current girlfriend). If you're still in doubt, talk to him! Let him know how you're feeling and ask to know what the deal is.
Me and my boyfriend have 1 class together and thats lunch, and i barely see him in between classes b/c he always goes to his locker and we only have 4 mins so it takes up like 2-3.and in lunch i sat with him and i'd sit on the end and never talk because he would barely talk to me and hes like oh god whats wrong? and i tell him nothing just being ignored like usual and he just says okay and goes back to talking with his friends..he wont let me sit inbetween him and his other friends justin cuz he says im takin him away from his friends? i wanna know why he doesn tlike me haning out with him when hes with his friends. actually why he wont even let me hang out with them? please help me i wanna know why he acts like this?
Guys can be weird around their friends sometimes. You're probably putting too much thought into this. Just talk to him about it! Let him know that it hurts your feelings when he blows you off, but that you respect his want to have time with his friends. Also, I find that guys suck at picking up on siganls. When you told him nothing was wrong, he probably just assumed nothing was wrong, lol. Good luck =)
hello. i am a girl and 14 years old. i have a boyfriend. he is the sweetest most wonderful person you can ever meet. there is this other boy in school and he told me he liked me. yesterday, i was in school and i said "im bored, i want to makeout" my cousin went over to the boy and told him to go to the restroom when i went. i went to the restroom and he was there. i like him too. so then we kissed. i feel bad about this. i kissed another boy when im going out with another one. i feel so guilty and i dont think it meant anything to him. But i feel like i did something really really bad. i dont know what do to. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend in any way. what should i do?
I know it's not what you want to hear, but you have to tell your boyfriend. I can almost guarentee you the guy will tell people, and it will find some way to get to your boyfriend (and when it does, you'll be even MORE screwed than if you'd have told him yourself). There's no guarentee to how your boyfriend will react, but honesty is the best policy. If you value your relationship...or your boyfriend's feelings...you'll talk to him. And, since you DID make out with this other guy, maybe it's time to reevaluate your relationship with your boyfriend? Good luck =/
today i woke up with a sore throat, runny nose, watery eyes, and just A BADDDD COLD! its the begining of winter break and im tryin soo hard to get better by atleast monday....is there anything i can do/take to get better? im taking halls cough drops and dimetap so far....is there anything better?
LOTS AND LOTS OF SLEEP. I find that no amount of medicine can replace rest. Give your body time, and you will get better. To relieve some of the symptoms until them, there are obviously several cold medicines out there. I usually take Dayquil (or Nightquil). Hope you feel better =)
13/M and i don't get what girls mean when they say he's guy friend material? Does this mean that girls won't like to go out with them? I have a lot of girls friends and some of them even consider me their best friend but no gf for awhile does this mean im a "guy friend" not a boyfriend?
Yeah, girls classify some guys as "boyfriend" material and others as "friend" material. I don't think I need to explain the difference, lol. Usually when you're friend material, the girl is happy just being friends. HOWEVER, you can be moved up. If you have feelings for one of your girl friends, might I recommend talking to her? You never know...
Hey does anyone know that link for that quiz where like you send it off to all your friends and then they answer the most like craziest questions like how many times do you jack off a week..how many times do you think of sex..who was your ex..what is the farthest you've gone with them..and then like the quiz gets sent to me instead of giving them their results? IM LOOKIN 4 IT..please help
Lmao, love it--completely hilarious. That'd be crush007.com.
yea im happy now that im not hurting anymore but like how do i quit showing him i still care about him , cas all he does is still hurt me even worse now that we're broken up and its ticking me off to where i dont wanna see him sometimes but im still worried bout him,how do i move on, cas im finding cofort from someone else's arms, how long should i wait?
I'm not sure I understand the question (feel free to post any other ?s or clarifications in my inbox!), but it's normal to still care for someone even after you've broken up. If it's too hard for you to deal with, then just avoid him for awhile. Realize that what he does is no longer yours to worry about. It's one of those things that just comes with time. You WILL start to feel better about it though!! Til then, just hang in there.
ok so i am 13 years old and i have been since november 16. I am really self concious about my breasts because like all my friends are a size A and i dont even think if i am a size AA (i've never tried one though) I mean when you read this you might think that i actually have breasts but they are small. But i acutally really dont. I have only 2 small like bumps when i look at myself in the mirror. and when i look at myself from the side in a mirror it is literally flat. nothing sticking out. And i have had my period since July. please help!
Don't be too concerned, a lot of girls don't develop until they're a little older. Since you've already gotten your period, that will all probably change soon, lol. Just be patient! I know that isn't what you want to hear, but all girls go through that "awkward" stage. It won't last much longer =)
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Me and my boyfriend always end up in these steamy makeout sessions with either him on top of me or me on top of him... which ever way we end up we're usually rubbing our bodies together and i think you get the point... what would this be considered as? please tell me... and do you guys consider this bad? we're both virgins and we both believe in abstinence... we never "touched" eachother in inappropriate ways either.. except for maybe on the butt a few times.... but that's it!
It's good you both believe in abstinence, and as long as you both have set boundries it should be fine. I believe the term you're looking for is dry sex?