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Hi, I am JenniferI am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥
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13/f
Okay, so... I love those really cute uniforms that the anime girls wear. I asked my teachers if it would be possible to get these. They said yes. Well, me and my friends are getting together so we can do this... One problem: We have to convince the whole school. Unfortunately, I have a couple of friends who hates skirts. Yes, I hate skirts too, but I think the outfits are cute! Sure, I might look fat in them, but still! Haha! I just need help on how to convince my principle first! I have to get him to say yes first! Oh... Note:I live in Michigan, which people say is a very poor state or whatever, so... I hope this works! PLEASE HELP!!!! ^-^
Get like a petition and get people to sign it. Ask all the right people to sign it. You need to get people on your side, so get a picture of the uniform (which isn't hard). Make sure to make the skirt a little more appropriate length, though, or the principal won't agree. What are the good things about it?
1) It's very business-like
2) the dress code is always broken without uniforms. Uniforms=no sluts!
3) Plus even though the uniform is appropriate, it's still cute and makes you look sexy, so it'll appeal to both the board of education and students.
4) everyone knows the Japanese people are smart and they wear uniforms like the anime girls do! So maybe if we wear uniforms it'll have the same effect! Hehe~~!!
5) Plus it's sophisticated. It'll give the school a better reputation. Michigan will look less "poor".
6) It could be easy raising money for it. Sell chocolates, do car washes, rake leaves, do more school musicals, it's not that hard.
So do petitions, and get people to support you. And I agree with you- anime uniforms are wayyy too cute~~!
What is that feeling called when you see the person you like and you get that feeling like rushes of energy shooting through your chest? my friend was curious and now I am too
Love, my love
Im a columnist on this website and i just dont understand how the world got this bad thet everyone in it needs advice, i mean, i know people need help sometimes but has it got this bad. My life is going down the shitter and im 17, why do i feel terrible about everything and have a constant depression in my life? Is this normal, am i supposed to feel like the nothing? Ive had a girlfriend and i broke up with her because i wasnt happy with her, i just dont understand why life sucks so much!
I know it might sound totally bitchy or rude or whatever, but life does NOT suck, okay? Seriously. You have to try and look through the bad stuff. The world is bad, but my motto is: who cares? let's party. I'm like that. Like, I know it's important and everything but no one is Superman, we can't do anything about it so why sit and worry? I'd rather forget it and have fun than just worry and worry and not be able to do anything. =D c'mon!! get over it, you can't just kill yourself!!
i don't think you'll be upset forever. you're only 17, i'm only 15, but still. it's still young.
-Jenni C ♥
People say that I'm a little "slow on the uptake", and I was wondering, is that a bad thing, or is it not that big of a deal?
hmm? it depends on the person.
personally, i don't think it's a bad thing. i think it's really cute && funny, especially on a girl. but guys like it on a girl too, it makes them appear like a sort of damsel-in-distress thing because you don't know much. but like, other people might find it very annoying. i think it's cool. my best friend is a total blonde and i think it's SO funny. some people even try to pretend they're slow so people can think they're funny && cute. so i don't think it's a bad thing, but some people might really not like it, but i've never met anyone who hates the slow type.
-Jenni C ♥
So last year when i was an 8th grader i went to a new school.there was this guy there named kenny and I never really didnt noticed him beside the point that i used to like one of his friends... anyway I started to talk to another one of kenny's friends named charles well charles isnt my type so when he told me that he like me I ignored it. as for as I can tell charles lies alot so I figured that charles was telling his friends( including kenny) lies about me out of jealousy! I ignored it well at the end of the school year i was on the phone with one of my friends while he was at the movies he said that he saw kenny so I asked him if I could talk to him- so i told kenny that I liked him and he said I like you too then I said i think he's hot and he said I think your hot too. Then the whole summer went buy and then I saw him at open house and feel in love with him (since i started to like him during summer)I told my best friend that i was going to get with kenny no matter what well me and kenny were cool and we talked then oneday I let it be known to everyone that I like kenny this went on for like 2 months then charles wanted us to get together but kenny didnt want to ask me he wanted me to ask him well anyways charles yelled out if kenny wanted to get with me and he said yes then we were together...the same day we got together he went home cause he wasnt feeling well then the next day he came to school but we werent talking much I know that he was trying to be a good boyfrind it just wasnt there so i asked him that day after school if he even wanted to be with me and he said that he likes me but that it just wansnt there(we broke up)...we still hugged in the hall constantly and talked very few...he ended up getting into a fight with his friends and no longers hangs out with them he more of a loner now and not so socialble...for a while I would call his name and he would ignore me and most other people... now I feel like he is ignoring me only and dosent like me anymore-he told my friend that he does still a little- but everytime I come around he leaves-from the clues whats going on with kenny help help help(ps he dosent leave when my friend lisa comes around just other people..could he like her and how do i start talking to him again)????
OMG you are wayy too sweet! && that's a good thing!
you care even after he's a loner & everything! most girls would drop guys with low stats!
get a friend to ask him what's up between you two, it seems like he's ignoring you?
you know maybe he's just not interested, he has a whole new life and he's not comfortable with his old life, so he's just pushing everyone away. if he likes lisa, he likes lisa. ask if you can still be his friend and work your way up from there, i think it's so cute of you to want to get back with him, but if he likes someone else you shouldn't get all desperate and try to yank him back.
but he might like you again. you can get a friend to tell him you want to still be friends with im but you seem to be ignoring him and you want to know what's going on? or just go after him, don't let him avoid you, and face him and ask him directly, "did i do something wrong? i want for us to be friends, i think you're really cool," or something. don't let it show you still like him that way, and little by little (and im not talking day by day, maybe a week by week?) flirt a little, or whatever you did to get him to go out with you, whatever you want to do.
If he never asks you out, there's still charles, other guys out there for you.
13/f
Well, I'm one of those stupid nerdy kids who are obsessed with Japan and anime stuff, so call me anything you like, but I am stuck. Just this year is when my interest began. Well, my best friend hates me now that I like this stuff. She sent me angry emails telling me I am foolish and have no idea what I am speaking of... She hates that I am interested in anime, Japan, making more friends, like perverted things, lemons and other things as such. I don't understand. Why would she be angry at me for this? Well, I asked her and she told me I used to be happy, which I couldn't help but laugh at. Yes, I did get passing grades in 6th grade, but I was depressed. VERY. I tried to shove everyone out of my life. She must think this is happiness because that is what she said. Well, now. I'm actually happy! I run around shouting like a stupid nerd. I act like I'm 7-years-old. I am happy, but she hates this. Why does she hate that I am happy? I tried to ask her, but she shoves me away by deleting my emails and telling me to shut up and ignoring me. Why does she hate me because I am different? It makes me a little angry that she hates my interests. She wants me to be like her. She wants me to be depressed. And, if she happens to be reading this. I want to tell her I'm sorry I'm not her... Please help somebody. Give me advice, but please do not make me change myself. I like being happy...! Thank you.
that is messed up! puh-lease! you know how hot japan is right now? tokyo is japan's nyc, man, everyone wants to go there it's like paris, london, and barcelona! && hello? some anime is rated r (& not porn!), last i checked that's for adults!
if she hates that you're being happy, what is her problem? this has nothing to do with you being "nerdy" and everything to do with what a bitch she is! she just wants to be popular, you don't know how many girls deal with bitches like her, youre not the only one! when i was 13, we used to have our own "clique" sort of, right? and then this new girl who was left back came in the picture, and decided i was cool enough. everyone ignored me? guess what: i made new friends and they all came running back to me.
you don't need this stupid friend to drag you down. you are wayyy better than her because you can be yourself and you aren't looking for popularity. she needs to get a reality check, she's the loser! ditch her and see how she feels about that!
if she goes up to you && asks, "are you mad at me?" or "why are you ignoring me?" go, "i thought you were too cool for me. i like anime and everything, remember, im that 'foolish, immature' girl? you don't like me, i don't like you. i think i deserve an apology." don't back down. she's not worth it.
if she ignores you rite back, then fine! she's not rite for you! totally! you can do so much better. seriously i'd be your friend! && you're happy now, stay happy, don't let her take u back to your depressed 6th grade state, are you serious? she's a bitch!
you'll make new friends, it's not as hard as it seems. don't let this bitch do anything to you.
if she apologizes and you guys make up just don\'t talk about the stuff she doesn't like with her but talk about it with others who share your interest. seriously, you aren't the only 1 in love with anime!
xoxox
-jenni c ♥
okay,
i really like this guy and i think he likes me back. but he is really "sexual". he hugs me alot and holds my hands and we just met each other at the begining of this school year. my friend who is friends with him says that she went to his house and he was all over her and she isnt the only one. i really like this guy and i want to date him but im not really ready for all of that stuff. What do i do???
This is going to sound so cliche but: if he really loved you for real, he wouldn't care whether you're ready or not. If you aren't confident about whether he'll understand or not he's not the right guy. Seriously.
I think it's sweet you want to stick with him. Maybe if you're not ready, you should try it out though, you know? Like if you're not ready but you never try it, you'll never be ready. You have to start somewhere. No one stays a virgin forever (I know we weren't speaking of actual sex, but you know what I mean).
Just start with holding hands. If he tries something you really aren't ready for, sort of pull away. I'm sure hugging and holding hands isn't that bad for you.
-Jenni C ♥
i have really big nipples! all of my friends call my pepperoni nipples. is it normal for a 15 year old to have that big of nipples?
It's not like you have STDs or something, chill! It's completely normal!!
-Jenni C ♥
hi 14/f
ok i have been on and off with this guy and im over him well thats what i thought...he isnt over me he takes my pic that is on my best friends binder ok and he stole all of them and i was like freak and hes like why are you mad at me and he over reacts ok me and him have never kissed ok!and well he said he wanted to go to the movies with me and my best friend and her bf but her and her bf broke up!ok so he said well thats ok they didn't need to come i mean me and you would just makein out and what not so i laughed i thought he was joking so he asked if i wanted to go this Friday... but i have a date!kinda im meeting this guy i met on myspace!(don't say that i should meet this guy bc im not asking you that ok!!)well i told him i couldnt but what if hes at the movies when i go to meet this guy!i will feel really bad bc hes my best friend and i dont see him as a boy friend any more bc hes a player!like hes a realy big player!so im not in to him at all and i just can't say taht to him bc it will crush him ahh hes my bestie and i feelso bad about it!
Whoa, stalker much!
If you guys run into each other at the movies, who cares? Just smile sweetly and walk the other way. Or warn the guy from MySpace about the awkward situation that might happen. If he follows you, tell him that you and your boyfriend want privacy and maybe you could hang out some other time.
Maybe the next time your friend asks you out just tell him you already have a boyfriend, maybe. (True or not, this is the easiest way out.) If you want to tell him the truth about not liking him in that way anymore, I guess that's okay, but I think it'll get a little too awkward.
=) Good luck!
-Jenni Choi ♥
Well i am going to a semi formal dinner for supporting breast cancer and I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR! I want to wear these super cute black patent peek toe shoes I bought with white/silver stitching but I don't know what color shirt to wear. DO i HAVE TO match the shoes or can i wear a different color. basically what are my other combinations instead of a white or silver shirt. I will also be wearing black pants and those GORGEOUS SHOES! Please help!
If you are supporting breast cancer, the main color for supporting that is pink. I did like a walk-a-thon sort of thing for breast cancer at my school, and everyone had to wear pink. So maybe something like:
http://debby.justmoreshops.de/catalog/images/rosa.gif
or maybe
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/graphics/2005/10/04/pink/hpink04dress.jpg
or
http://www.bellaireint.com/images/pinkdress250.jpg
or
it might look like they look bad with black but if you add like a black belt or a scarf or something, it'll work!
Have fun!
-Jenni C ♥
Are there any dances like the Soulja Boy dance or the Cupid Shuffle? They have to be appropriate for kids cause im doing this kids night out things and its really just baby sitting a bunch of 10 year olds and we need some fun dances to rap songs. Thanks to anyone who answers.
What about the Cha Cha Slides by DJ Casper? That's not exactly a rap song, but it's close.
I think Kiss Kiss, Wall to Wall, Run It by Chris Brown are really nice dance songs, I love them, plus Party Like a Rock Star by the Shop Boys and Calabria too. Low by Flo-Rida and Cyclone by Baby Bash is awesome! Try them out!
-Jenni C ♥
Okay well my ex boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago but lately we have been flirting alot and I have told him I like him but he keeps telling me that he wants to be my..."best friend" (men) anyways so at a party he asked me to dance but I said no because he likes my best friend Taylor and I know she kind of likes him but she is in LOVE with another guy. So anyways I told him that I was over him and that I wanted to be his BFF, well lately we have been flirting even more but so are me and his best friend who is also hot. But I kinda like another guy. Well today he totally put his arm around me and I really liked it so I didn't tell him to stop but I don't know whether to take that as hey best bud or I want you back? Plus there's the problem with his best friend whi I am totally flirting with all the time, and the other other guy who is super hot, tall, but he is sum times really boring to talk to. So anyone who understood a word of that please help because I'm sooooo tired of getting hurt by boys.
I think you should flirt with his best friend. If your ex shows any sign of jealousy, maybe he does want you back. But he's a guy, putting an arm around you is maybe just a friendly gesture. Also, if he liked you that way, wouldn't he have asked you out already? Get a friend to ask him or something.
Meanwhile, just hang out with his friend, I think you have a better chance with him than anyone else, and plus, it also might make your ex jealous and ask you out. You can have two guys hungry for you! Joking, don't be like that!
Anyway, do whatever you want with the other guy. I don't see how he's part of the picture!
-Jenni C ♥
ok so my friend is like 17 and she has this cousin who's 30 and he keeps tapping her on the butt and hip and kissing her on the cheek every so often and saying he loves her. Problem is, she feels the same way. Now he's never done anything more than that and they've always been close but my friend is confused. She doesn't love him like family but like, well, u know, she's in love with him. She told me about it a few weeks ago and she doesn't know what to do. problem is, neither do I. Any answer would b helpful. She knows loving her cousin that way is wrong but isn't sure what 2 do.
That's really wrong, but emotions never discriminate. I think the best thing to do is just not do anything. She's young, it's not going to last, tell her that. Also tell her, it's not a big deal to fall in love with a cousin, I know someone who loved their married uncle and one time, their own dad! But maybe it's because she is just a little desperate? Maybe it's because this cousin is one of the only guys who touched her that way, so she's confused. I don't think it's a big problem. She should take it easy and don't do anything to complicate things.
-Jenni Choi ♥
My 10 year old sister has a 13 year old friend and that friend is a complete girly girl and she constantly talks about her crushes (she can have 16 crushes at one time) her make up her clothes her nail polish blah blah blah now my sister is a tomboy and im not girly but im not tomboy and my sister kinda thinks its weird that her friend likes all that kind of stuff but her friend is always saying when your 13 you will feel this way and blah blah blah blah blah blah and my sister really will not feel that way ever thats not the way she is she start throwing a fit whenever mom wants her to go to the mall with us and she plays football and goes to school in those basketball shorts and long t-shirts and baseball caps she isnt going to change much in 3 years and she really wants her friend to stop saying all that stuff because its not true and you know that teenager feel like they know best and stuff but she is acting really stupid my sister just wants her to stop what should my sister do thanks to whoever answers this
I TOTALLY understand you. I have a sister, Sarah, and I was like, laughing when I read this because your sister is EXACTLY like mine. Seriously. But my sister also has friends (not older ones, but still) who are totally girly, right?
But I don't think there's really a problem here. Just tell her to stop. Tell her, "Okay, whatever you say. Just watch, in three years I'm going to be the same exact person and I bet you're going to say, 'When you're sixteen you'll feel this way'. And you know what? I'll just laugh." Or something like that. She knows herself best right? Just roll her eyes.
Still, if she never stops, I don't think you should make a big deal out of it. Their friends, but friends can't be perfect and if a friend is so sure that her friend is going to change even if she isn't going to isn't that much of a bad thing.
Okay. I really like this guy I'm going out with. I've gone out with him twice Friday and today(being Sunday). I really want to kiss him and today we were at his house and he asked me if his dad was upstairs and he was. It was obvious that he wanted to kiss me. He had eye contact with me and everything and he looked like he was going to go for it and I looked away. I dont understand why. Its not like it would be my first kiss it would be my second but still. I'm so nervous but I dont understand why. I've known him since 5th grade. So why can't I do it?
Aww! It's okay. Just because you already got a first doesn't mean you'll be totally confident after. You don't have to kiss him, he won't force you. Maybe just try again. Make eye contact and just lean a little closer. If you're going out with him and you want to get over this fear of kissing, I think you should pop more than one. But don't go crazy doing it or you'll look horny. Just practice on him, sort of, and get over it little by little. I think it's really sweet!
I've been having dreams, and they both have the same pattern I wake up in the middle of it to fall back asleep. But it doesnt continue with that dream, the first dream I had was about my teacher telling the whole class 140-- a main road through my town was closed down due to moose. I dont remember having a dream that said that all I remember really is she did warn me and everyone. Well I woke up to my Mom telling me something like the house was trashed and I went back to bed, only this time I was riding down 140 and I saw a moose and I didn't think much of it, well continuing down the road I saw another Moose but was so close it attacked me and I woke up for the day.
Well last night I had a dream that me and Kayliegh [[a friend I had before staying back]] were walking down a set of stairs and before we started walking down them there was a sign really dented and rusty so I didnt bother read it. And these stairs were on the street up against a wall kinda. I woke up again... fell back asleep and for some reason i dont know my mom was really angry at me and Natasha [[brothers girlfriend]] recomened I take some pills... I dont even know if It was Natasha i ust have a feeling it was her. I dont know what kind they were and I dont do drugs or anything so while taking them the police came and I ran downstairs and pit them out and it was like 10.. the polic found it and my Mom I guess kicked me out. Then again it showed me walking down the same set of stairs with Kayliegh and the same sign... and the only thing at the moment thats really making me mad is I didnt bother reading the sign I was in such a rush to get down the stairs.
Any idea of why Im dreaming things like this.. 2 nights in a row?
I don't think you should really go crazy over dreams. Just saying, dreams NEVER predict the future, dreams center around your feelings and thoughts. But sometimes they're completely random. Like one time I had a dream that I was a guy showering with a girl, and in the dream I was enjoying it. When I woke up I screamed. But I never turned bisexual or lesbian or had a sex change. Don't get too deep or philosophical on dreams. My friend went psycho just because three of us had a dream she's going to die. And guess what? She didn't die. She didn't even get hurt. In fact she got asked out by a hot guy the next day. It doesn't mean anything.
Ok My name is Meghan and in 14 years old and i like this boy that goes to my school and his name is Sean and we were like bff's and then i started to like him and he started to like me but we did'nt go out because he had a gf.Well then after we told each other that we liked each other we stopped talking and now him and his gf broke up and were talking again but i don't know if he still has feelings and im afraid to tell him how i feel.
Think about it in his point-of-view:
What if he is thinking the exact same thing you are? What if he's wondering, "Does Meghan still like me?"? Maybe he's too afraid to tell you his own feelings about you.
Maybe he started not talking to you after you admited your feelings to each other because the guy felt guilty to have a girlfriend and have feelings for another girl, so he put distance between you and him. Now that they broke up, he came back to you.
Of course, it would all be totally screwed up if you admited you feelings and... it turned out he doen't like you anymore. So this is what you do then: flirt! Give him hints (small but slightly noticeable) that tell him, "I'm still crazy over you." Like give him the head-to-toe look. Stare at him until he catches you, then quickly look down. If he responds to them positively, like he makes a move on you, then he still has the hots for you!! If he responds negatively, like he gives you a confused look, then befriend him, but try to get over him. If you dwell too long on it, it'll be hard to let go, so you have to move on! =)
xoxo
Have a belated Valentine's Day!
-Jenny C &Hearts;
There's this girl Stacey. I went to elementary school with her and in like 4th grade we were friends and talked on AIM. not really good friends cause she always seemed kind of cold. So now we are in 7th grade and we never talk, and I have never done ANYTHING mean to her. I don't even talk with her. Wait, actually, in like 3rd or fourth grade maybe we got into some stupid little kid fight. well she isn't on my softball team but one day she came to help. Well I was at softball practice. I'm standing there, just watching the other girls cause we had a break and stacey was with us, stacey whispers to her friends., but she does a really bad job of it because I hear hear "See that girl, I HATE that girl alyssa." Oh my god, I just wanted to scream "can you TELL ME WHY YOU HATE ME?" (oh btw I kNOW SHE WAS talkING ABout ME cause I was the only other one in the dugout besides her 2 friends!!!) And her two friends nod like all knowingly, and i'm like wtf first of all, one friend hardly knows me, and her second friend is usually nice to me! Well stacey is overall a bitch and is usually only nice to girls in her "group", but she isn't MEAN LIKE THAT for no reason!! Does anyone know why she would say this?
Wow. What a bitch. You have to deal with at least ten hundreds of those in your life.
First of all, don't ask us why she'd say it. Ask her. You have to confront her. Tell her, "I heard you talking about me and I don't want to start anything, but I'd like you to say it to my face. I'll return you the favor. Why do you hate me? If you don't have a reason, I suggest you back off and keep your mouth shut about me." Usually, those kind of girls don't have guts. If her group starts defending her, tell them, "I was talking to Stacey. I could care less about what you guys have to say. Are you her bodyguards or something? Doesn't she have any guts of her own?"
You can take it and make it a little sweeter, if you thought my words were going to ask for TOO MUCH trouble. It's fine.
If you don't want to confront her, I suggest you just ignore her. She wants you to think she's all high and mighty. Porbably having a grudge about something stupid. Just being a drama queen. You could care less about her, so act like it. Don't worry about it.
Have a happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
OK, so i have known this girl since 5th grade (im in 9th by the way) and we became best friends in the past two years. lateley shes been getting on my LAST nerve. Usually we help eachother out with problems, or just talk like best friends do, but lateley all she wants to talk about is herself. shes obsessing over guys and everytime i see her she alwasys talks to me about that and only that. when i ask her to help me out with something she says *ANYWAY* and goes on talking about her boy problems. ussually she likes a new one evry week. i tried helping her through them, at first i thought it was a phase but its been 4 months. geez i feel that one day im going to explode and just say SHUT UP ALREADY> its not that i dont wanna help her its just that her boy problems are so immature! something like OMG HE LOOKED AT ME< WHAT DOES THAT MEAN> HE LIKES ME RIGHT> HE LOOKED AT ME SO HE HAS TO LIKE ME!!! its sooo annoying, help me, i really want her to go back to her old self when the talking was 50-50. i just cant talk to her about this because she is uber sensitive about boys so i cant say SHUT UP IT DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING> i try to be there for her, but ugh...idk i cant take it anymore.
Wow. She's sensitive? And selfish? Impossible combo. If she was sensitive she would've helped you out.
I've dealt with A LOT of people like this. Be truthful is what you have to do. She doesn't seem like a good friend... so don't be one to her. I know the whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing, but seriously, what else do you do?
The next time she's blabbering about a guy, go "Umm... no offense, but he doesn't look like he cares. Really. Actually, it's kind of obvious. And, I have something else to tell you, you've been a total conceited person the past 4 monhths., I've tried to put up with you, but all you do is talk about YOURSELF. And you don't care that I don't care," and explain the problem. If she breaks down crying, ask out loud, "Hmm, my best friend is crying. Should I help her out like she'd never do anymore? Or should I just blabber about myself?" ...Or comfort her. Up to you. But while you do, you have to go sonmething, "I didn't mean to make you cry, but you really are self-centered."
If she gets mad, then leave her. She's the one who needs someone to talk to. Go, "Bye! Hope you have a friend that'll listen to your endless guy problems with! Okay?" Act like you don't care. Or just stay silent and ignore her for the rest of the day. Do NOT go after her and go, "Wait. I'm sorry. I didn't mean it." because then she'll think that she's worth all the trouble. And she's not. You deserve better.
Have a Happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C
20/f
Finally, I dare to make a move by giving hints to the guy whom I love few months back. And when he realised it, he asked me whether is it true that I actually love him. Obviously, I said "yes" to him and in another way round I wanted to know his answer too whether he loves me anot by being so caring towards me. The thing is he loves me but he told me that he will not be a good boyfriend for me. He told me that I can find a better guy than him to be my boyfriend. I felt so sad and hurt at the moment he said that even though he loves me. What does he meant by he loves me but he will not be a good boyfriend for me? Is he rejecting my love towards him? Few days later, he started to avoid me as though I am invisible in front of him. What should I do now? Does he have a very low confidence about himself?
I'm not sure, but it could either mean two things:
He's not interested in you. I'm sorry, but that's just it. The only reason he probably said he'll make a bad boyfriend is to have a reason to not go out with you without being hurtful. Remember though, he's the one who's going to bhe missing out on something good! There are a lot more single guys out there, go for them!
The second thing is, maybe he's actually telling the truth. What does he mean? This guy probably had a bad past with other girls, and probably hurt some of them real bad. You know, he knows himself better than you know him, so he's probably a bad boyfriend. So I suggest you tell him it's alright that he's a bad boyfriend, we could still be friends, it doesn't matter.
Though... love is pretty hard top rid of... if you are really crazy over him (which is not a bad thing) then I guess you have to talk to him. Ask him why he is avoiding you. Tell him that you want the truth: is it rejection, or is it true low self-esteem?? And, depending on the answer, take him or leave him. If it's low self-esteem, tell him here's your chance to be a good boyfriend. If it's rejection... well, I'm sorry. Take a few days to heal. Back off from him a little. Maybe then he'll realize what a loss you are, and actually get interests for you. But he might not, so just get over it slowly. It's hard, I know, but it's possible.
Hopefully you'll have a happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥