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He loves me but doesn't want to get into relationship
20/f
Finally, I dare to make a move by giving hints to the guy whom I love few months back. And when he realised it, he asked me whether is it true that I actually love him. Obviously, I said "yes" to him and in another way round I wanted to know his answer too whether he loves me anot by being so caring towards me. The thing is he loves me but he told me that he will not be a good boyfriend for me. He told me that I can find a better guy than him to be my boyfriend. I felt so sad and hurt at the moment he said that even though he loves me. What does he meant by he loves me but he will not be a good boyfriend for me? Is he rejecting my love towards him? Few days later, he started to avoid me as though I am invisible in front of him. What should I do now? Does he have a very low confidence about himself?
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Just ask him to meet up with you like a cafe or somewhere and talk about it and it may end up that you can straighten this situation out and you may get into a realationship
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he's probably been in some relationships and he's really messed up. some guys really love people but they always cheat on them. belive me there are lots of guys out there that can say you're their everything and turn around and cheat on you on a weekly bases. anyway, whatever the case is he probably thinks you're to good for him and he doesn't deserve you.
you should thalk to him and tell him that you're gonna thin he's a great boyfriend... untill he proves you wrong, and askk him if he wants to go out with you.
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I'm not sure, but it could either mean two things:
He's not interested in you. I'm sorry, but that's just it. The only reason he probably said he'll make a bad boyfriend is to have a reason to not go out with you without being hurtful. Remember though, he's the one who's going to bhe missing out on something good! There are a lot more single guys out there, go for them!
The second thing is, maybe he's actually telling the truth. What does he mean? This guy probably had a bad past with other girls, and probably hurt some of them real bad. You know, he knows himself better than you know him, so he's probably a bad boyfriend. So I suggest you tell him it's alright that he's a bad boyfriend, we could still be friends, it doesn't matter.
Though... love is pretty hard top rid of... if you are really crazy over him (which is not a bad thing) then I guess you have to talk to him. Ask him why he is avoiding you. Tell him that you want the truth: is it rejection, or is it true low self-esteem?? And, depending on the answer, take him or leave him. If it's low self-esteem, tell him here's your chance to be a good boyfriend. If it's rejection... well, I'm sorry. Take a few days to heal. Back off from him a little. Maybe then he'll realize what a loss you are, and actually get interests for you. But he might not, so just get over it slowly. It's hard, I know, but it's possible.
Hopefully you'll have a happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
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