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ok so my friend is like 17 and she has this cousin who's 30 and he keeps tapping her on the butt and hip and kissing her on the cheek every so often and saying he loves her. Problem is, she feels the same way. Now he's never done anything more than that and they've always been close but my friend is confused. She doesn't love him like family but like, well, u know, she's in love with him. She told me about it a few weeks ago and she doesn't know what to do. problem is, neither do I. Any answer would b helpful. She knows loving her cousin that way is wrong but isn't sure what 2 do.
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love is love
everyone deserves to find love and happiness.
if they just like the idea of someone loving them, then later on they will probably go there seperate ways.
but if they can't control their feelings, then we'll see what happens.
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That's really wrong, but emotions never discriminate. I think the best thing to do is just not do anything. She's young, it's not going to last, tell her that. Also tell her, it's not a big deal to fall in love with a cousin, I know someone who loved their married uncle and one time, their own dad! But maybe it's because she is just a little desperate? Maybe it's because this cousin is one of the only guys who touched her that way, so she's confused. I don't think it's a big problem. She should take it easy and don't do anything to complicate things.
-Jenni Choi ♥
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The unfortunate answer to this is that she needs to grow up and divert her affections and attention to someone a) not a family member, and b) her own age. These two factors are probably playing in. It is flattering when someone older than us thinks we're special and gives us attention and that's just what they're going for. Men LOVE the attention of women half their age so that's probably why he's doing it.
Please keep in mind: saying that you love someone doesn't mean that you're IN love with them. If she really wants to know she can sit him down and ask why all of this is going on and see what he has to say. If he suggests an inappropriate relationship she needs to run and quickly.
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