hello! ive lived a lot of life in the small amount of years ive been around. I mean it when I say ive been through it all, so feel free to shoot me a question or even just to spill your guts. my ears are wide open :)
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I know that this is going to lead to responces like "use a condom" and all that but let's give it a shot...
Basically, I spent the weekend with my boyfriend, this is the second time we have had proper sex, and yes I did ask him to wear a condom and he does but we spend a bit of time without it so he can enjoy it more. This weekend we did it a lot, and there was a gap between each time where he cleaned up and we cuddled and went out for a walk or whatever, but I'm suddenly aware that pre-cum can make you pregnant?!
I just want to know how likely this is? given that he didn't actually cum inside me on any occasion and there was a gap between each time we did it and on a few occasions he didn't finish. I also have no birth control as I was a virgin until this point really and I don't have a clue how to start or where to get them... please don't say I'm stupid or whatever.
I just would like to know how likely it is to be pregnant in this situation and if anyone has any advice on how to get contraception pills without letting my mother know would also be appreciated (link)
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Well, thats how I got pregnant, so its very possible. I honestly think it doesnt has to do with more of a chance or less of a chance. Its the fact that it happens, so you really need to protect yourselves. Use condoms and BC! Planned Parenthoof is totally confidential, so search online for one near you. Good luck.
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What the hell is going on with this world ending on Saturday crap? My vacation starts Saturday and I'm really not trying to head to hell instead of the beach. Any info would be great. (link)
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Christians believe in the rapture, which means that god will come and take all his believers up to heaven with him. Some believe that for the 7 years after that will be plagued with war, natural disasters...etc, and some believe itll happen before. But in the bible it states that no one, not even jesus or the angels, will no when it happens, yet people think they can predict it. There have been many days people thought it would happen and it didnt.
So basically, youre fine. Have a nice vacation!
x sweeethoney
(the hell instead of the beach thing made me crack up ;))
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there\'s this guy who asked me to do something for him for work. we talked for like 2 hours the first night the next day he texted saying he wanted something fixed so i went back and we talked again for another hour. that was almost 2 weeks ago now that we did that. he texted me like 3 other times he didn\'t say much but were in the same math class so he texted one day saying ur not in class today..working from home :p so i texted back and was like yeah and we texted for like 10mins or so. after that he didn\'t text for like 3 or 4 days then in class when i was there he was like your here today and sat beside me..maybe because his friends were close by? :s but a day later today he texted and was like u still at the mall? and wanted a ride home so i did then we talked a little about star wars of allthings! so does he like me ? i thought so but i dont know.. how should i talk to him i wanna be atleast friends :) (link)
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honestly, it almost seems like hes using you. From this question, he talks to you mostly when he wants something. I could be wrong but just keep an eye out for that.
nothing is really screaming to me that he likes you from what you posted. If im wrong about him using you, it seems like he is just being friendly. just keep it cool, be his friend. Dont text him first, I know its tempting. But if he keeps texting you then thats a good sign. Sorry thats really all I can give you
My inbox is always open.
x sweeethoney
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so like, im a guy and all right, and im really young, im about to turn 20. not that it matters with this question
but for some reason, often, whatever i eat turns up in my shit, and its nasty.
like a month ago, i ate cotton candy icecream at Cold Stone and my shit was neon blue. And yesterday i had Chipotle and this morning when i went to shit there was corn in the shit and some bits of salsa. n kits kinda nasty i mean, you know. And it wasnt even digested corn or chewed corn... it was like fresh from the fridge corn. Like it was perfect. And last week my roomate cooked brocolli and carrots and when i shitted there were litttle sprouts in the shit. I mean, i dont have diarrhea or anything, my shit is fresh, but for some reason, whatever i eat turns up in my shit. I didnt wanna look at it to see what was wrong, so i took my digital camera and me and my roomate took a pic of it with our eyes closed. So i uploaded it on my computer and zoomed in on the delicious stuff in the shit to see exactly what it was. And me and my roomate were like thats gross dude.
Is tehre something wrong with me or my diet, or is it like some kind of disease. Because im not fat or anything, i work out alot with my roomate and all the girls check us out... so i dont think its my health, but im not sure........ (link)
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I think maybe you just don't chew your food up well enough which might be causing your shit to come out looking like how it went in haha. Or maybe youre having trouble digesting things and could have something wrong. But I'm no doctor, and if it worries you id say you should see a pro. Good luck :) my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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What does it mean when girls "pop their cherry" ??? (link)
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They're wrong. Your 'cherry' is your hymen, a little part way up there, and usually the first time you have sex its broken or 'popped' which may cause a little bleeding.
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im 18/f and hes 19/m :)
ok so long story short, i really like my bestfriend. I've never met anyone more like me in my life and we both thinks its the most amazing thing. Im so lucky to have found him and im really falling for him. Anyway, two weeks ago i was nervous and hopeless about a future together with him, thinking that he couldnt possibly have the same feelings for me as i did him. Anyway, i got an unexpected phone call from a mutual friend of ours telling me that i dont need to worry and to stop stressing. i asked her why and she told me not to say anything, but that my best friend likes me alot and thinks im insanely beautiful. Hes came out of a horrible break up after 5 years 6 months ago, and says he wants to be a single for a little bit longer. But he does like me alot and wants to be with me when hes not so terrified of relationships. he also told her that if i ended up dating anyone else that he would be extremely upset and know that it 'wasnt meant to be'. but to be honest i dont want anyone else but him, and im willing to wait till hes ready. Again i have to pretend i dont know any of this, as he told her that he wants to tell me personally, but she knew how upset i was going and had to.
so anyway that was a couple of weeks ago that i found out about that, and since then we havent been able to see each other due to his band being on tour. It wasnt till yesterday i started doubting his feelings for me again, as he didnt really text me or anything much, but when he did he would say some really sweet things. anyway yesterday he texted me (coming as a complete surprise cause he barely texts me ahhah) and told me "listen to invincible by tonight alive. then text me back, i will say no more"
so i listened to the song and immeadiatly began to cry.
the lyrics are as follows:
i love you in the light, i love you in the dark
and my mind has been made up
because you threw the spark, that set my heart on fire
now the stars are falling from the sky,
there on fire and falling
straight into your eyes, your eyes.
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do.
missing you everyday- its not enough for me.
we make it so hard for ourselves so easily
and its funny the one same thing that makes me crazy
is the same thing that keeps me sane
my minds a million miles away
but nothing ever changes, no never change.
cause i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am in invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
your arms are my home,
and ive been homesick for oh so long
so bring me back home
back where i, back where i belong
cause i am invincible,
i am invincible
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
i am invincible
i am invincible as long as im in love
im in love with you
I then texted him back saying how i thought the song was amazing! and i was speechless. he then responded with "i thought you'd like it :) it came on in the car just then and im chillin in the back seat and thought of you :)"
do you think the song meant anything in regards to his feelings for me? is he trying to tell me something? etc etc
any advice appreciated :)
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He's totally diggin you. There's no way he would tell you to listen to that song and him not mean anything by it. But until he completely comes out and clearly tells you how he feels, i'd just play it cool. When he gets home definitely make plans to chill and see where it goes from there. Good luck :) my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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Today I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone while I was doing homework. I was actually making progress on it (more than I would have otherwise) because I was doing something I enjoy at the same time. My dad yelled at me to hang up the phone and get off of the computer so that my brother could play his computer games. I tried to explain the situation but he wouldn't listen. He said I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone in order to avoid homework. He didn't understand that it was actually helping me. I am afraid to tell him that multitasking is actually a better way for me to study. As I said my goodbyes to my girlfriend he continued to yell at me. I tried talking to him in a calm voice which just made him mad. He grabbed my arm and pushed me against the radiator (my back really hurts) and told me that I was giving him bullshit. My own father won't listen to me and I don't know how to get the message to him that I need him to let me take care of my own academics. I feel like I will go more insane than I already am if this doesn't end. (link)
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Maybe instead of talking to your girlfriend on the phone while doing your homework, you can help over to her house and do it there. Then when you come home, you can present your Dad with the finished product and he will know that you work better that way.
Or, maybe your can ask him to calmly sit down with him and discuss how he should trust you with your academics. Tell him that you're a better multi tasker and that you want to get your homework some just as bad as he wants you to. Then, you can maybe tell him that if your grades start to slip then you'll stop.
The physical abuse is not okay. If this happens again you really need to tell someone like a teacher, a friends parents, someone you trust.
Good luck, my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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ok so think i might be bi (i dont know for sure yet though) and i want 2 know your story of being with another girl. you can say whatever you like. you can tell your sex stories or just tell how it feels and if you are made fun of a lot and if u were afraid 2 come out of the closet and how it feels 2 touch and kiss another girl. whatever you wanna share. . . (link)
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many many girls go through this stage with questioning their sexuality, so first off dont feel weird about it at all.
Ive experimented a few years back with my best friend, & it made things a little awkward after we decided it wasnt going to work between us. Ive had crushes on girls & have 'talked' to girls after that, but nothing really came of it. I still am attracted to girls sometimes, but my preference is guys.
Touching/kissing another woman is interesting, because since youre a girl yourself, you know what feels good to them. Women are naturally more attractive then men too: pretty hair, curves, soft skin,etc.. So you might find things more enjoyable because of that. With experimenting, you may be totally loving the touch of a woman, or find out you dont at all!
I was not made fun of at all for being with girls, its very accepted is highschools now where its totally normal. I havent told my parents about any of this & I really dont plan on it.
Lastly, dont worry about putting a label on things. Just find out what you like. I dont call myself bisexual just because I would rather not put a cookie cutter label on my sexuality. Love has no age, gender, size or color, & if I fall in love with a girl, I wouldnt ignore it just because of her gender.
Good luck, my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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I'm kind of young. But today, my grandma and I went to Walgreens for a little shopping spree.
I was walking and I noticed this guy watching me, and every time I'd turn to meet his gaze, he'd grin and turn away. I thought it was cute how he was so shy. I'd catch him looking at me, and he kept telling me which magazines were the best to read. He worked at the photoshop place and refilled the milk in the fridge/freezer section when I commented to myself that there was no milk left. And yes, I do know it's his job to be a good worker to the customer, but I had this feeling. Usually I get all fuzzy and warm inside when I have the "crush" feeling.
When I went in line, there was a short line, with only one person. And just as the register was about to serve me, the guy at the photoshop counter announced on the intercom that his register was open. I smiled because I knew he'd felt accomplished by getting me closer to him. He told me how pretty I was and scanned my items. We talked about the beach for a good five minutes and he wished me a good night.
Now, sure, I usually have quick crushes that come and go, but this is a new thing. I feel like I should've given him my number or something....but I have no idea how old he is... ugh.
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I say go back in on the same day the following week & slip him your number. Obviously he thinks your cute, & if you just give it to on a piece of paper, the worst he could do is not call. Then you can find out how old he is & whatever else youd like to know. Take a chance!
x sweeethoney
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So its been almost 2 years since I've dated I've had a total of two boyfriends. And two more almost. The first lasting 5 months the last I don't know it felt like forever but it was less then 5 months. Both fell in love with me they say and the 2 nd one is still to this day in love with me also they were both ended by me.
People tell me all the time I'm gorgeous. People I know and random people like the other day a teacher I don't know looked at me and was like "wow your pretty have you ever thought about modeling I don't know your hair your eyes... you just have it."
I'm not tiny but I'm not big either just average.
When it comes to my personality absolutely everyone says that I'm a very sweet girl and that I'm extremely mature for my age. Often adult find themselves catching theirselves for talking to me like an adult. I honestly don't think I'm unapproachable. I smile all the time. I try to put out the vibe that anyone can talk to me though I am sometimes on the quiter side. More like Id rather keep to myself. But don't get me wrong I'm not shy. I speak my mind whether the person like it or not.
Also I don't need a boyfriend and I understand that I still have a lot of life ahead of me but it is nice to have someone like that sometimes.
Why would guys not be into me? I just don't understand. Please any advice on this would be helpful.
Thank you.
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I dont mean for this answer to sound cocky, but ive been through the same thing. I know Im pretty, I know Im nice & outgoing, & I know Im mature, so what the hell is wrong with me? You know what I discovered? No matter how approachable you are, guys will be intimidated ( besides the self righteous jerks, but who wants to date them?) Men are a lot less confident then we think. A lot of guys may think theyre not good enough & dont want to face rejection. So my advice is to become FRIENDS with the guys youre interested in so that they are comfortable with you, that way if they want more itd be easier for them to approach the situation. Looks & personality can be a blessing or a curse, use them well ;)
x sweeethoney
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If you could recommend any book in the world to someone, fiction or non-fiction, what would it be and why? I don't mean just a girly piece of chick lit that had an exciting plot line but a book which inspired you, made you think, changed your outlook etc.
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Anthem by Ayn Rand
Perks of Being Wallflower
Unwind by Neal Shusterman
Everlost by Neal Shusterman ( its a trilogy series but I havent read the next two)
Go Ask Alice
Tweak by Nic Sheff
Truancy by Isamu Fukui
Thr3e by Ted Dekker (theres a movie of it now)
House by Ted Dekker
Red, White & Black by Ted Dekker (its a trilogy, these books are AMAZING)
all these books are either inspired me, moved me, or were just purely awesome. have fun!
x sweeethoney
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I try to connect to the playstation network and I get "network error 80710A06" but I don't know why. Any ideas why this is happening or how I can fix it?
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the system went down last night, I had friends complaining about it haha. It should be back up soon :)
x sweeethoney
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okay, tomorrow im going to black light party at a bar and i have white shorts that i wanna wear. the shorts are cloth like cheerleadin shorts kinda but thicker, but im trying to figure out what color underwear to wear with them lol. i dont want anything too dark that'll show up under normal light, but cant have anything that'll glow through the shorts in a black light. i dont have white or nude underwear. i only have nright yellow, pink, red, teal, or lavender. i'm leaning towards the lavender but i feel like thats gonna glow really bright under the black light. do you think it'd be bright enough to glow through the shorts? i just dont want to look like an idiot hah (link)
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Just like the advisor said, definitely buy a nude colored THONG. Black lights are really unforgiving & woulf probably expose the underwear line as well. The colors you have would definitel you show through.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a month. I just found out yesterday he might go to Arizona this summer to visit his dad and move in with him. He told me he doesn't want me to get too attached, and he said he doesn't want to do certain things so I won't get as attached. I feel upset. I really like him and I don't want our relationship to be focused on what might happen. I want to take everyday at a time and enjoy it while we can. I let him know this, but now I am fearing he won't act the same because of the fact he might leave. Any advice? (link)
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Explain that youre willing to take the chance that you might grow to attatched & that you want to make what might be your last month together count. Why throw something away for a move that might not happen? Its easy to see where hes coming from, but if you really like him & he really likes you then go with it! See where it takes you. So what if he moves in a month? Something could happen tomorrow! Thats what really matters.
Try to explain it to him that way, & thatd it hurt if he shielded himself from you because of the move.
good luck, my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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Are there any clinics that I can free tests and gyno check ups my parnets knowing? I'm 16/f and sexually active, and I do not want to go with my parents knowing until I have final information about myself, such as pregnancy. (link)
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Planned Parenthood is totally confidential, free, & you dont need a guardian to take you. Go on a searcn engine & find one in an area, & you can have a friend or boyfriend take you :) Just call & make an appointment, & make sure that you give them your cellphone number so they dont call your house phone!
good luck,
x sweeethoney
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I don't smoke, I just want to know.
I hear all sorts of rumors, such as:
- It makes you stupid
- It damages brain cells
- It contains the same carcinogens as cigarettes
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I will give you a perspective from a once HEAVY pot smoker, myself! I smoked everyday all day for 2-3 years.
I did horribly in school during the years I smoked, whether I was stoned or not. I couldnt focus, I always fell asleep, even if I wrote down my homework I could never remember to do it, I overslept alll the time. I wouldnt say it made me 'stupid'. But I do know people who seem almost retarded after being a stoner for a while.
I dont know for sure, but im almost positive that yes it does kill braincells. Youre inhaling smoke with chemicals in it.
No it does not contain carcinogens.
I have not smoked in almost two years, & my memory is still shit. I mean reaaally bad. I'm a little what you could say 'burnt out.' My speech is slower, I'm still a little lazier than I once was, I zone out a lot (i did twice while typing this,haha).
Thats all I got, hope I helped :)
x sweeethoney
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i'm 17, 5'4" about 116 pounds.
i'm trying to tone up, but not get too muscly, i dont wanna gain muscle at all, just get the ones i already have toned. i've only been doing these exercises from Seventeen for about 2 days, and i've cut out greasy foods and soda. instead of my tummy getting flat( that's the area i'm targeting the most) i'ts getting kinda bloated. i am about to start my period, but i'm more bloated than normal. is this normal? shouldnt i be getting skinnier rather than getting bloated? will this go away? (link)
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any time you change your diet, your body will react. Everyones body will react differently. Once your body gets used to new food (or lack of its normal food) you'll be back to normal. Just keep doing what youre doing, because cutting out soda & junk food is great for you whether youre tryna change your body or not, as well as excersizing.
good luck:) my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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Everything is just going so well for me. Is that bad I don't want to date? I feel it would be a distraction... I'm doing very well in all my classes right now and don't feel I have the time... The main reason I ask this is my friends keep trying to set me up because my ex of 3 years dumped me a few months ago and they think I need to get out there and date... I keep telling them I don't want to but they don't understand. I know they mean well and just want to see me happy but I am...I just don't know what to say to them anymore. I tried explaining that if I wanted a bf I could find my own, and that I don't want to get serious until after college.... Please help meh!
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there is absolutely no problem with you not wanting a boyfriend! I dont want one either haha. Everything that us late teens/early 20s girls go through is already stressful enough, who wants to add a relationship on top of that? Plus, this is the time for us to find
out who we are as women, & thats YOUR journey, not you & your boyfriends journey.
Also, after being in a relationship for so long you deserve some time to be single & enjoy yourself. Your friends need to support you in this. Theyll eventually understand, they just have different points of view.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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20/female Ben 19
So me and Ben have been friends for about 5 years now. We have always had an attraction to each other BUT neither of us act on it. We've never kissed or anything ...we used to cuddle a lot and he's touched me all over but nothing more and that was about 2 years ago when things were really hot and heavy. Now it seems as though things settled down and we haven't cuddled or anything for a while but still flirt ALOT.
Obviously we're still attracted to each other but it's kind of like ...neither of us wants to make a move because we're not FOR SURE that the other one wouldn't be like "why did you do that, that was awkward, you got me totally wrong" To be honest, every time I see him I just want to start making out with him haha it's pretty bad but I hold myself back.
I usually put myself out there more by flirting hard core and he definitely responds. For example, one time we were outside our friends house in the driveway and he was leaning up against a car and I was standing right next to him and put my arm around him and then he put his arm around my waist basically holding me. Or one time we were standing in the kitchen and I had these short shorts on and he came up from behind and gave me a hug and then tapped my butt, it was kind of cute haha.
Also, one time we were in my cousins garage and he had his shirt off and he came and hugged me and then he was like let's go inside in my room and I didn't know if he was joking and I was like yeah lets go kind of joking around back but nothing happened and my cousin was like oh god you guys!!
Just little things like that. Also one time I was leaving and he was outside and I got in my car and he walked in the street and I rolled down my window and he said something I can't remember, but he got really close to me like he was gonna kiss me and I freaked out! But didn't show it ...but once again nothing happened.
I'm almost 95% sure that if I made a move and kissed him he wouldn't care. But I wouldn't want it to be awkward afterward like "okay ....well bye"
I don't know what to do! Do I just keep flirting with him and if nothing happens, nothing happens? It's still fun flirting but I'm too scared to make a move!! And I feel like he is too. Any suggestions!? Do you think he could be into me or at least into hooking up? i KNOW that people say don't just hook up with you guy friends but please don't say that, I just need advice on if you think he is interested in me or if i'm doing something wrong?? (link)
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He's definitely into you, no doubt about it. Now, its up to one of you to take it to the next level. Maybe next time you guys are really flirtin & no ones really paying attention, & say your faces are close together, just your index finger to tell him to kiss you if you know what I mean. Bite your lip, bat your eyes, make good eye contact, when he taps your butt say something like 'ooh dont tease me ;)',. Basically let him know how much you like what hes doing alottttt. Or maybe just kiss him out of the blue! He'd totally be down. Obviously you guys are very comfortable together so just push the boundaries a little. It'll happen at the rate youre going,
its inevitable.
Anymore questions? Feel free to ask
x sweeethoney
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im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)
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By the way you stated it, im not sure if you like him as more than friends or not. I will still give you advice on how to go about this, but I would think that if it was a guy you truly had feelings for it would make your first date so much more special, so maybe you should wait.
I say the first way you should go about is, next time yall chill, to say something like 'aw, ive neverrrr been on a date before'. But try to work it into a conversation, or if yall see a couple walk by. That way he may get the hint & ask you himself.
If this doesnt work, THEN ask him yourself. Ask him if he wants to catch a movie sometime then get some icecream or something after. Offer to go dutch, which means splitting the cost (but hopefully he'll man up & pay for you).
I hope I helped, my inbox is open!
x sweeethoney
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