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15/F [SORRY IF IT'S LONG]
Last year in the beginning of the year, I met this guy. Let's name is Bob. Well, I'm pretty shy. But Bob would talk to me. And I started to like him. Towards the middle of the year, we stopped talking. But I still liked him. I found out he was doing drugs. So, I started liking someone else. And during the summer he was all I can think about. And now this year, I don't have any clases with him [we had one together last year] And I really don't see him around campus. But when I do see him, memories come back. And I admit, I still like him. How can I stop liking him? I don't want to like him. He's really not a good person. And we really don't talk anymore. I like other guys. Like this year, I like this guy. Let him be Oswald. I don't talk to him. But he's really nice. And I want to talk to him. What can I do? But even if I do like Oswald, I prefer Bob. But I don't want to prefer Bob. I want to prefer Bob. Help me, please!
Thanks in advance. (link)
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What is happening is that you are torturing your mind thinking of this bad guy Bob you have to put your greatest effort in preferring someone else than this boy who will only bring sadness,misery into your life if he does drugs then he could be a drug dealer or other horrible things you have to say to yourself"any other guy is better than him because they don't do stuff like that he isn't worth it I'm too good for him".
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19/f
This guy that I worked with for years and am still friends just started dating this new girl not to long ago. During the time we worked together and for a while afterwards I was head over heels in love with him. During my last year of working with him I finally got up the courage to tell him how I felt. He was very curtious and kindly said that he had a girlfriend but that I shouldn't feel awkward around him.
After 2 weeks of crying and feeling bad for myself I decided that I would be okay, that I could finally move on because I had been honest about my feelings and recieved my answer. So I tried, eventually I met a new guy and had thought that I was totally over the first, that I had only friendship feelings for him. He was dating the new girl I mentioned and was happy and I was happy for him. It wasn't until I saw pictures of him with her, kissing, cuddling, etc. that everything came back. It's as though I'm that 14 year old girl again, hopelessly in love, no one else seems right or feels good enough.
What can I do to finally put this all to rest and get some closure? (link)
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Well what you need is to give it some time for you not to see this guy at least for a while so you will feel much better to give you that space you need,to meet others so the feelings could go away,keep your mind on someone else you're interested so you can finally go on without that pain.
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i went on my friends facebook because i don't have one and shes friends with the guy that i like.. and he used to like me but now anymore.. and it said he changed it IS status or whatever to lonely. and so i wanted to know why and i texted him.. but now i regret it cause he stopped liking me cause he thought i was obsessed with him.. when im not i was just trying to be nice now so i don't know. I haven't seen him in a while but i still want to be friends with him.. so what should i do?? (link)
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What you should do is let him know straight up that you are only looking to be his friend only but,you also have to be able to handle it since you like him,he's not interested,perhaps if you get to be very good friends perhaps he will feel the same way again for you.
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okay, me and my boyfriend nick have been together roughly about 3 months. recently, we hadn't been spending much time together and have been fighting because he's doing football. well football here is a big deal, and he plays on JV and V. so he practices everyday, and then has 2 games a week. as you can tell, it's put alot of stress on our relationship. so we both agreed to have sort of a "break" until football is over, which is in like a month and a half, JV is done oct. 15th. well lastnight my bestfriend's boyfriend told my bestfriend who told me nick had been all over some girl at school. my bestfriend and her boyfriend both hate nick, so its hard. i try not to mention him around her. well i tried calling nick about it and he didnt answer my phone call, but he answered my bestfriends. so of course she wasn't very nice about it at all, so he got mad and hung up. so she called back and left an ugly voicemail, and then i called him and he answered. well he was very mad and starting calling her a bitch and stuff and she got mad and stole my phone and bitched at him, again. so needless to say it was terrible. i talked to him a little, and he still says we'll be together, but its making it hard with my bestfriend too. so i texted him and i told him that if he wanted us to go anywhere, he would call me back. well he called me back and when i picked it up he didnt say anything so i hung up. i dont really know what to do, i love this boy. he's amazing and yeah 3 months isn't very long, but we've gone through alot and my family loves him to death and his mom and step-dad love me. he says he loves me too but sometimes i doubt it? please help and let me know what i should do!!! (link)
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You have to find out if it's true what they are telling you about what Nick is doing,because your best friend could be lying because you said how she,her boyfriend hate him,ask Nick if it's true,take the reaction he gets in notice because that could help you see whether he's lying about it or not.
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Well you see me and my cousin are pretty close. and I love being around him, he makes me laugh and we goof around all the time. It's non stop fun with him and I cant get enough. This past year I have been trying to fight off the fact that I might even have a crush on him. I know that it's wrong but I just can't resist. I would really appriciate it if you would give me your advice on what is going on. Thank you. (link)
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See the thing it looks to me like you actually connect with him as a friend because that's what friends do make each other laugh,have a lot of fun I'd say you're better off like that so you won't have any problems with your family.
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but the thing is that tomarrow i am going to ask him if he likes me wish me luck, but what dod i do if he says no (link)
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If he saids no then you act like it doesn't affect you,say "I don't care there are lots of guys who would love to go out with me it's your lost buddy".That will hurt him a lot believe that he'll feel like he got rejected. And I wish you the best of luck that he saids yes because you're worth it!
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okay this is like somethingg i really need advice on and the more the better..
story:
okay so my grandmas neighbors who my whole family is really close with and have been my whole life. okay well the sonn has been getting in alot of trouble recentaly. for DWI, overdosing on pills and the whole nine. well today when i was over my grandma's the police brought him home bc he has aniexty pills and had taken an entire bottle in one day adn left the house to go to a friends house, and his mom called the cops to find him and stuff. bc they were worryed bc he has been threating sucide and everything. like today when he got home his mom was telling him that hes gonna die if he keeps doing this and he goes death is what im hoping for he alway had taken 120 pills in a matter of 5 dayss. its badd.
now a little background on the kid
he was adoptedd. bc his parents didnt think they'd be able to have kids. but a few years later they did they had 2 girls. his dads a police officer so he was rarely ever home. and being that the 2 girls were her actual kids his mom paid a little more attention to her daughters then to him. but he never new he was adopted adn to this day im not 100% sure if he nos for sure. bc his parents never told him. when he was younger he had a hell of alot going for him he was a crazy good runner he could of went to any college he wanted, but he ended up getting mixed in with some bad ppl andd all that went down the drain. his mom also is having an affair. nobodyyy really noes about it but my grandma and like my family. but i think he might have found out about it. but idk
now what i need advice on..
okay soo i think all he really needs is someone to talk to bc one when you wanna comit sucide you dont keep saying your gonna do it you just do it. and his whole life hes never really had some there to talk to. like he just doesnt need someone theree saying DONT DO IT DONT DO IT. he just needs someone to sit there and listen to what he has to say, not a physcitrist or anything like that. like a real normal kid. and like honestly i would and i want to bc thats what he needs but the issue is hes 22. im 15. butt mature for my age the problem is im never aroudn him just me and him its always with his family and mine. and like id never have opprountiy to. so does any one have any idea on how i can go about thiss.
thankk you soo much in advance and for readingg all thiss. (link)
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You have to tell an adult in your family to become a friend to him,tell him that his life is precious,to tell him that he/she cares for him,there are others there who he can count on,that suiciding himself is not the key in solving all his problems,that he should live for his family,to see his future,be with a partner,that killing yourself is a selfish act because you're not thinking about others but in yourself,and that there are many great things waiting for him but, he doesn't see it because he's in a lot of pain right now.
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ok well i used to have this boyfriend.. we broke up last december.. and we were friends since we broke up and we were fine in the summer.. now since schools started, hes been really mean to me and i have no clue why.. i didnt do anything that would make him feel so angrey at me.. the only thing that i can think of is the way i dress now?? i mean i dress kind of punk//rock now,, but i dont know.. not being some ones friend just because of the way they dress?? thats pathetic..
i appreciate any answers thankss =] (link)
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Either because he changed because of the people he associates with or it could be because the way you dress,I know you're right it shouldn't be because the way you dress,but I'm telling you there are people like that believe it or not,you have to try to talk to him,ask him why is he acting like a jerk to you this is just weird.
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i go to a boarding school and my roommate is from korea.
ALL of her friends are from korea and they're my friends too- but the problem is- i never understand what the hell they're saying because they ALWAYS SPEAK KOREAN. and it offends me because it makes me feel excluded. she always brings them into our room too!
i want to kill myself it's that bad.
so what should i do? i can't just ask her to stop speaking her native language! (link)
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That's bad if you want to kill yourself that is not the solution,don't even think about it.You have to let this friend of yours know that you would appreciate it if she wouldn't speak her language when you're around because you don't understand it,it makes you feel bad not knowing what they are talking about because you can't engage in the conversation with them.I'm sure she'll understand.
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Okay Im a 16 year old male and I'm in high school junior year. I do cross country for my school. I love it, and love everything about it. The only thing i hate is the "insulting people" they make fun of the way i do the stretches and says i do them wrong. And last practice by an accident i put my stuff in his car without him asking and he threw my stuff. Im sensitve to this kind of thing and im not used to being insulted; any tips? I want to stay in cross country but i want to feel comfortable going to practices. I have a hard time making new friends. I need some help and tips with dealing with critisms.
So Thanks,
NY152 (link)
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Don't pay any mind to people like that you act like if it doesn't hurt you,they want to see you react or,provoke you to fight them you see those type of people got nothing better off then to criticize people but,if they keep on bothering you tell them that they shouldn't talk because they act like there perfect but there not,they wouldn't like it if someone makes fun of them,puts them down,to get a life instead of bothering others,they end badly eventually,that will hurt them if you tell them the truth,also if you ignore them everytime they have some foolish commment to make.Like I said if they don't stop,consistently,and continue there bad behavior then you backfire so they know not to mess with you.
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Okay, there's this guy I like. He's one of those guys that everybody is in love with. All of the girls who like him only like him because they think he's hot (which he is, he's GORGEOUS) but I like him because he's sweet, friendly, funny, smart and kind. No one else likes him for his personality, but I know him really well so I do? How do I get him to understand that I'm the only one that likes him for him?
Thanks for any answers or help! (link)
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Those qualities are excellent to find in a guy,you need to tell him you're the only one that likes him for what he is,not just for his looks like all the other girls,that personality is a very important thing a guy must have then comes his looks so he realizes you're the one for him.
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I always seem to like someone, and I hate it. I also seem to hate it when guysu like me too. Don't know what is wrong with me. Help?
I just don't like commitment. (link)
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Then you're the type that wants to be free without having to have a relatioship with someone I get you you're not the only one there are other girls who are afraid of commitment it's alright.
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Well today he was not looking at me and when he did he just looked and smiled! and to tell you the truth i like bad boys not like criminal but to tell you the truth boys that aren't afraid to curse and what not. well at school i was with his
best friend that is my best friend and they called me a Bitch, and i said oh thank you i am a bitch, and he just looked at ,me as if he were in love. but to tell you the truth i love him soooooooooo much!!! (link)
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Ok so you like bad boys well everyone has something different that they like in a guy,that's good you did not take that word as an insult but a joke I guess,I'm happy for you that you found the person you love,ask this guy what things he enjoys doing for fun,you let him know what you love doing to keep up the conversation.
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me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 7 months, we've never really "gone at it" like fought fought, with screaming and yelling.
well im 15, turn 16 in march and theres kid that i DO NOT like who's 16 and drives. he drives her everywhere with her friends, and only once has he drivin her anywhere alone (which was from her practice to her house, and she called me once she got home).
he doesn't like me either, long story there but its irrelevant. so me going with her anywhere in that same car is out of the question.
i'm not going to lie i'm extremely jealous, and i feel like...worthless? because if she gets stuck anywhere, she has to call him to pick her up. and he's not a good driver, infact, i've heard of several "just missed" happenings with him. and my girlfriend was in the car.
His cars an old beat up ford contour, and i have a nice 98 camaro. minor relief there.
but once again, who's 16 and has a license.
is it ok to be pissed?
how should i explain how this makes me feel to my girlfriend? I've tried before and failed miserably.
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Hell yeah it's okay to be pissed I don't blame you for being mad.The things you should tell your girl is that you don't like the fact that she is driving with a guy that doesn't drive good but badly,you're worry for her safety,that it puts you down when everytime she would go in his car,it makes you feel really bad,that it should be you,that if she should put herself in your shoes,that you are telling her this for good reasons such like that you care about her a lot,she means the world to you,that you are only trying to be honest,and that if something was bothering her that you would like her to let you know,and that you would try to understand her just as you want her to with how you're feeling about all this.
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So we have this science project in Chemistry. The type of projects that go to like the little science fairs and stuff. We can do it with a partner if we want but we don't have to. But the only partner work is the actual experiment. We have to write the papers separately.
Well, I'm always at the school an hour and a half before school starts so I can do the experiment I plan to do at school in the mornings since I have absolutely no time after school. And I'm the kind of person that has to measure out everything and stuff to make sure everything is precise. (Slightly OCD there).
Now that I've said those couple of things:
I asked Bailey if she wanted to do the project with me on Friday without really thinking. She's a smart girl, but very pyro and lazy in her own ways. And she doesn't really have any ideas to input into the experiment other than something relating to fire...and using something including a fire for an experiment isn't a good idea with her. She'll burn something down I swear.
Right now I'm contemplating over whether I do or don't want a partner for the project. Should I work with a partner or not? If I should, should I suck it up and work with Bailey or find someone that I'll be more compatible working together with? If not, how should I tell her NICELY that I want to work alone (i.e. excuses that can get me out of it).
Thanks! 15/f (link)
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From what you said it would be a very good idea to work with a partner that is more compatible,I mean because this girl could ruin your experiment,and good luck with the project!
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Hi, im dating my ex again. We dated for about 7 months last time. And well, towards the end of our last relationship it was almost like we werent compatiable, fighting about stuff that was just dumb. And this time, its basically the same stuff. I wanted to be with him so much, but i think the dream of it is better than reality. He gets mad if i hang out with other guys, and most of my friends are guys. And i just dont know what to do, i tried to get it through his head that this is going to ruin us, but he just doesnt know what to do, and im the same way.
Help?
THanks (link)
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You crossed the line you don't like my advice well it's just too bad,you don't want him to see others but you're the same you're a psycho who gets you the one that is going to ruin the relationship is you little dumb girl.Go to hell!
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17/female
thing is..... I Like this guy and I know he likes me aswell but we are just 2 totally differnt people!
for a start I really hate people smoking around me and he smokes. but he said he would stop for me!
Another thing is... he drinks alcohol every weekend and am not really like that!
I wont bore you with all the details but these kind of things are putting me off him, should I forget it and go for it?
please answer my question :) (link)
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I think you should not forget about it because he may not be a good guy for starters he smokes,drinks that is a bad sign he could get abusive when he starts drinking,you can't believe the guy if he simply tells you he will change for you,tell him you would believe it if you see the change first then you'll talk about having a relationship with him.
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My parents.. well i donut even know what to say about them! My mom's awesome. She works hard and brings home the money. In fact she OWNS the salon she works at. My dad on th e other hand works at a golf company with metal and stuff. Because we're Asians who came to America without an education. so basically i have a lot of weight on my shoulder as the oldest child and the only one who may even graduate from MIDDLE SCHOOL. Anyways moving on. My dad's cheating on my mom STRAIGHT OUT no lie. And well i know.. because he droped so many hints its like he thinks im STUPID. he had a secret cell just for him and her and he had the bills mailed to his MOM'S house. my grandmother. and i don't know how he got her to agree into letting him guess he brain washed her. anyways. he talks on the phone in the backyard a lot because he knows we're all too old to go out and play there now. and my mom knows too. but she doesn't want to break the family apart. and just starting in august i told my mom what I've been seeing everything. and she tells me she knows! and they start fighting a lot now. they fight all the time in his room. for fact they're even fighting NOW. i don't know what to do. i have a baby sister thats too and a 9 year old little brother. and i myself am ONLY in EIGHTH grade. i have so much responsibilities at home like laundry and cleaning and my mom cooks. she barely has time to sleep. she goes to work from 10 to 7 at night and her shop is in San Diego which is a 45 min drive away. im doing my best but I'm also letting my grades slip. i want to do well in school but i want to help my parents too. HELP?
and then my dad what can i do? my mom actually wants to leave but my dad wont PAY for child's support. and the money he earns motherly is all for the casinos around here. I'm scared. what if our lives all start failing? and whats the point?? his money isn't do any good for us now WHY DO WE NEED IT? i'm so scared. i cry all the time sometimes i cant stop crying at night and watch tv until my face dries up. my sister is 2 she has asma when she was a newborn we had to watch her so carefully or shed stop breathing. we have medication and stuff for her. and i dont know. what to do because im scared for her. i bet some conseloour people online who helps me but i dont think its working. my parents have no idea what im feeling right now. and my teachers dont either. when i go to school im this cheerful little asian girl whos always lauging and smiling because i do im so cheerfull but when i go hme i feel like soemone slaped me in the face with all their might. the only person whos seen this happen is my best friend C. who lives up the street from me. and when i go to my friends houses im so jealous of them too. my dad used to be so nice and now this other person changed him. and we even think they have kids together. i dont know waht to dooO!!!!! (link)
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This is so awful but, you can't let your grades go down your mom needs you to do good in school so you could have a good career,don't think that your lives will fail you think this now because of all the stuff you're going through,things will get better you're mom will be able to move on without your father,I understand how it feels to go to school,act like everything is alright I've been there,it's really hard,I can see you're a strong person,as far as your little sister goes you will need an assistant to help you take care of her,your mom, dad should know how you're feeling because this is affecting you majorly,it's okay to feel envy of others I mean were all human,those who seem that are having a good life but,then again you may never know what type of things they could be going through because remember no one is perfect.
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ok.. so my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 months.. and whenever he gets texts or calls.. he wont let me see his phone bc he said that its the only think that he can keep "private." once he even deleted a text that he got before i could see his phone and said that it was one of his friends. is it just me or is he doing somethin behind my back? and everytime i wana go out with my friends i tell him im goin to say jennifers house and hes like bull fucking shit about anywhere i wana go. does that mean that he really does that stuff ? what do you guys think? (link)
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He could be doing stuff behind your back what you could do is either confront him about it or you should sneak,see his text messages,the calls he received to see whether he has been a faithful boyfriend or not.
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soo theres this boy who i have been talking and well last june we started talking like everyday and got really close like bestest freinds coz he told me evrything and me to him like literalyy everything! until november when my best freind went out with him and then i started feelin bit jelsous! but he kinda gave me the impression b4 hand that he likd me coz he would say all this sweet stuff and say like bf and gf things to me! anyway, he stopped talkin to me in december for some reason - when everyone asks him hes like i dnt like 2 talk bout the past anymore!
soo.. recently he started talkin to me sayin that he dont want 2 keep a grudge with anyone..he used to go to my school but left because he failed and had to go some place else..every time i talk to him i get a rush of feelings..but i dont think about him that much at all! and recently he kissed my best friend and didnt even call her back!
ive been trying to move on but i just cant and i dont know what to do at all!
so can somebody tell me how to handle the problem? if i like him or if were just friends?
and what to dooo?.. and recently again hes bein really rude to me and cuttin the calls when he sees my number or if i all hed hear my voice and cut the phone? lately i have been thinkin bout him
im soo confused thanks in advance and fast please thanks honeys x (link)
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The answer is yes you like the boy.You have to put an end with his boy because he's not being a nice guy,instead of being a man,telling you face to face why is he acting the way he is he's cutting you off like that.Don't call him no more,try not to even think of him think of all the bad stuff he did to you to make you not like him no more.
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