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I need help...
My parents.. well i donut even know what to say about them! My mom's awesome. She works hard and brings home the money. In fact she OWNS the salon she works at. My dad on th e other hand works at a golf company with metal and stuff. Because we're Asians who came to America without an education. so basically i have a lot of weight on my shoulder as the oldest child and the only one who may even graduate from MIDDLE SCHOOL. Anyways moving on. My dad's cheating on my mom STRAIGHT OUT no lie. And well i know.. because he droped so many hints its like he thinks im STUPID. he had a secret cell just for him and her and he had the bills mailed to his MOM'S house. my grandmother. and i don't know how he got her to agree into letting him guess he brain washed her. anyways. he talks on the phone in the backyard a lot because he knows we're all too old to go out and play there now. and my mom knows too. but she doesn't want to break the family apart. and just starting in august i told my mom what I've been seeing everything. and she tells me she knows! and they start fighting a lot now. they fight all the time in his room. for fact they're even fighting NOW. i don't know what to do. i have a baby sister thats too and a 9 year old little brother. and i myself am ONLY in EIGHTH grade. i have so much responsibilities at home like laundry and cleaning and my mom cooks. she barely has time to sleep. she goes to work from 10 to 7 at night and her shop is in San Diego which is a 45 min drive away. im doing my best but I'm also letting my grades slip. i want to do well in school but i want to help my parents too. HELP?
and then my dad what can i do? my mom actually wants to leave but my dad wont PAY for child's support. and the money he earns motherly is all for the casinos around here. I'm scared. what if our lives all start failing? and whats the point?? his money isn't do any good for us now WHY DO WE NEED IT? i'm so scared. i cry all the time sometimes i cant stop crying at night and watch tv until my face dries up. my sister is 2 she has asma when she was a newborn we had to watch her so carefully or shed stop breathing. we have medication and stuff for her. and i dont know. what to do because im scared for her. i bet some conseloour people online who helps me but i dont think its working. my parents have no idea what im feeling right now. and my teachers dont either. when i go to school im this cheerful little asian girl whos always lauging and smiling because i do im so cheerfull but when i go hme i feel like soemone slaped me in the face with all their might. the only person whos seen this happen is my best friend C. who lives up the street from me. and when i go to my friends houses im so jealous of them too. my dad used to be so nice and now this other person changed him. and we even think they have kids together. i dont know waht to dooO!!!!!
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If you were able to tell your mom about finding out that your dad is cheating, I assume you have a pretty close relationship with her. I understand completely how you feel you have so much responsibility, I really do because I've been through this and current still every now and then. Talk to your mom about how you feel... and offer to try to help her out where you grades will not be slipping and you still have time for youself. If you mom wants to leave your dad then I personally think that is the best way to do and the sooner the better. Child support isn't if he wants to pay for it or not. If you go to court, it will be under the law that he has to pay for child support because he's being unfaithful to his current relationship with your mom therefore the judge should side with your mom. However, just so you know, I am not positive if that is how it really works... but it makes sense. Hun, try to hang in there the best as you can. If you don't want to confront your mom first, talk to a trusted teacher about your situation and letting a few of your teachers know that you're having family trouble will also let them know why you may feel not so yourself one day. And I agree to what you said... if your dad's money isn't doing the family any good now, why do you need it? You have hands and feet and can work for anything you wish. I hope I helped. Let me know the follow ups, please? If you need anything else, let me know. Take care. =]
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This is so awful but, you can't let your grades go down your mom needs you to do good in school so you could have a good career,don't think that your lives will fail you think this now because of all the stuff you're going through,things will get better you're mom will be able to move on without your father,I understand how it feels to go to school,act like everything is alright I've been there,it's really hard,I can see you're a strong person,as far as your little sister goes you will need an assistant to help you take care of her,your mom, dad should know how you're feeling because this is affecting you majorly,it's okay to feel envy of others I mean were all human,those who seem that are having a good life but,then again you may never know what type of things they could be going through because remember no one is perfect.
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Wow. Usually in some sort of way I can relate to alot of things on here but with this I can't say I know where you're coming from because I've definitely never been put in that situation but I can imagine how hard it is on you. The best advice I can give you is at school goto a counselor. They could possibly help you or get you and your faimily professional help. Family couseling sounds like that's exactly what your family needs. It's important you talk to both your mom and your dad and let them know how you feel because without you saying anything they don't know. Tell your mom you can't stand seeing your family fall apart like this and how much pressure it's putting on you when you're only in 8th grade. Something needs to be done about that. She is the victim but she has children to worry about so she can't just let it go. Tell your dad what he's doing is wrong and if he doesn't realize how what he's doing is hurting everyone and going to affect everyone, let him know. I know it's your dad and I don't want to talk down on someone in your family but he doesn't sound like a good man. Your mother really needs to leave him. I know you say that he wouldn't pay child support but it sounds like your mother is the only one supporting this family anyhow. Also, if you take him to court about it he's going to have to pay child support or he could get his licence taken away, or goto prision. It's not going to be easy if your dad leaves, but at the same time it'd be a relife. But as I said before, when you're in school goto your counselor and see what you can do. I wish you the best.
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it sounds like i'm a boy but i'm a girl. and just remember i really will talk to you about it. Alright?? Hope i helped!
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